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10 Commandments for writing a couples profile

November 24 2015

I met a wonderful new couple last night, who asked for some profile suggestions. I've written similar threads about male profiles and messages before, and some things may look familiar as I copied and pasted a few bits. These commandments are as always my personal suggestions only, so take with a spoonful of sugar and a few grains of salt. Here goes: 1. Do think about want you want your username to say. Make your profile name one that stands out and is memorable for the right reasons. Choose a name that's interesting and original. (Don't add "69" or something similar. There are so many people who do, you all look the same after a while). Maybe consider a handle that has nothing to do with sex but says something about you as a couple. Personally those really do it for me. 2. Do have multiple pictures of both of you. Don’t leave your main pic blank. You grey ghosts all look alike, and at my age I can't keep up trying to guess who is who. To be honest, I'll probably think you're a fake profile. Do have pics of both of you in your (private if needed) galleries, and preferable at least one of the two of you together. Pics of only the Mrs are a major pet peeve of many forumites, and it's an issue that comes up regularly. And do put up more than one photo. Only having one pic can be a red flag, as again it may suggest you're the notorious "Single male couple". Some people love action shots and some really don't, so it might be best to keep these private and only show them when you know the people you're communicating with are interested in seeing them. Oh, and do make sure your pics are actually of you. Here’s a secret: We’re all teaching each other how to use Reverse Image Search behind the scenes. Saying "they're photos of our friends who look like us, we need to be discreet" does not fly. 3. Do get verified. Probably the best way to show others your profile is legit is by getting verified by RHP (here: redhotpie.com.au/MemberVerification/ProfileVerification.aspx). You could also get yourselves validated by other members who can confirm you are the real deal. NB only paid members can validate others, to discourage people making a fake profile to validate themselves. 4. Do get rid of all those pesky “Ask me”s. Many won't bother contacting you to ask questions, they'll just move on to the next profile. If you must leave an option blank because none of the answers RHP provides match your situation, explain why in your profile. If it looks like you're not being upfront about something, others reading your profile will wonder what you're hiding. 5. Do replace the template sentences. Saying you "are an attractive couple who takes pride in appearance" and you "enjoy going out dancing and having a few drinks at a cool club or bar" are templates used by so many, the rest of us can pretty much recite them by heart. Creativity is attractive. 6. Do talk about yourself. We don't need your life story, but do like to get an idea of who you are and if we'll get on. What do you do for fun, both in bed and when you're not having sex? Don’t say you’re fun-loving and easy going, give examples. I personally like getting a feel for couples' personalities and what they're into, both together and separately. Remember that single bi girls looking for couples (the so-called Unicorns) are in high demand and can have the pick of the crop. Why should they choose you? Be enticing and don't make her feel she is only a prop to fulfil your fantasies or some toy to play with (the worst: a "gift" from one partner to another. Ugh!) If you don't know what to say, have a look at profiles of other couples to get some inspiration. Remember they are your competition. 7. Do be clear about what you’re looking for. Be specific! Describe the things that turn you on and other preferences you have. Saying you’re looking for fun people who seek the same doesn’t say anything. Don't be afraid to set boundaries and say what you’re not looking for. Are you a non-swapping couple? Do mention it in your profile, to avoid disappointment. Don't be demanding though. Playing with others is not all about you and surely you don't want to sound like a smug couple? Talk about what you have to offer as much as your own wants and needs. And always be pleasant, even when mentioning your deal-breakers. Things like "no fatties or disgusting smokers" and the ever popular "NO SINGLE GUYS, YOU WILL BE BLOCKED!!!" are an instant no for me. I find negativity and yelling huge turn-offs, even when not directed at me. 8. Do seriously consider becoming a paid member. That little word in the corner of a profile that turns many away: Guest. Remember that many others (especially women) here are guests too, so sending flirts to them won’t get you anywhere. Also, you can only show your private galleries when sending messages and let's not forget you're missing out on seeing all the X-rated pics! 9. Do consider your friends list. People may judge you by the company you keep and your friends may tell others something about you. Do you add anyone and everyone? You may come across as rather undiscerning. Only having young guys and girls with six-packs may have others think you're only interested in super fit people. (If you are: then go for it of course.) 10. Do keep your profile recent. Update your profile as you go. No longer newbies or no longer playing separately? Make sure your profile reflects where you are in your journey. It's important that things in your written profile match your stats, like your ages, if you want to be taken seriously. Make sure any travel plans are up-to-date and also keep and eye on the accuracy of your physical, intimate and lifestyle details. Did you start smoking again? Did the Mr stop waxing? Is the Mrs not as straight as she thought? Update as needed. Phew! Thoughts and opinions? p.s. If you're a couple posting on these forums, for god's sake always add to your comments "Mr" or "Mrs/Ms/Miss" unless you're typing together. It drives me bonkers not knowing which half of the couple I'm talking to!

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RHP User

9 years ago

Perfect, if everyone did this, oh how pleasant and easy our sex lives could be. Interesting the friends list. It only occured to me recently how put off i am by others on the friends list, and how many are on there can be an issue, saw one with 800 odd friends? Wtf haha sloppy seconds, thirds well i won't go on, would be here all day. I've sometimes started communicating, then looked closer at the friends list and backed away, in reverse, if i'm either about to hook up or have done and would like them on my friends list, i always check with them first, they don't all end up on my list, obviously, my list is small, for various reasons, but i might not fit what they generally look for. For example, if they are usually looking for women in a younger age bracket, they might not want an old duck like me changing the dynamic or perceived view of what they're up for. So well done, agree 100% with everything you've said. I'm speaking in a general sense because i'm not part of a couple but would have hooked up with couples along the way if they fitted what i was looking for and believed they were in fact a real couple - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Treeman will sometimes contribute his opinion, but always via me ..... Thanks for the profile advice , I like to think we covered most of your suggestions, and feel we are travelling at a sexy pace that suits us.... May not be the most prompt in replying but we like to put thought Into our responses and not lead anyone up the garden path.... Unless of course they'd like to be.... I think you have covered the basics, totally agree with the pictures of both , all women are built beautifully but please give your sexy man some time in the spotlight ... It's not always about you ... 😱 We also visited the site as guests, that's ok if you see this as a picture book... Pg one at that, becoming a member for us was when the real fun began, it allows you to seek out exactly it is or who that you're after :)

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RHP User

9 years ago

I think we've ticked most of those boxes...pity my head keeps the flocks away. And I understand your reasoning on the friends list, but our friends list is exactly that....friends. It doesn't mean we've slept with everyone on there. We HAVE met the vast majoirty of them with a couple of exceptions we know interstate but have conversed regularly with in the chatroom. We aren't really selling ourselves to unicorns, more the couples. Gave up that hunt long ago, and while it is fun we've found the more the merrier lol. Pity our name doesn't reflect that but we've been here a while now and the name has stuck so not much use changing now and having to start all over again.

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RHP User

9 years ago

and sorry...that's Mr typing ;)

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sweetgem

9 years ago

About what you have written above are: 1) You have a heart of gold! To be bothered to go out of your way to write down such detailed commandments for the benefit of other members, it is an act of kindness, if not an act of Angel! 2) I'm taking my hat off to you and salute! 3) We may not catch up much in real life, but you will always have my respect! 4) Thanks for your post, I am now even more pleased that I have almost met all 10 commandments when I first created my profile 😛 Except for the "Friends list" part as I have none (by choice) and I intend to stay that way 😛 Because I don't see the need of having one as I am: - a paid and verified member; - do not need to have "friends" to attract other members' attention; - mainly here for the Forums; and - what I seek is almost impossible to find and obtain on this site. Therefore, I am happy to be "friendless" while enjoying my quiet journey on RHP 😝😝 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'sweetgem'To be bothered to go out of your way to write down such detailed commandments for the benefit of other members, it is an act of kindness, if not an act of Angel! Either that, or there was nothing on TV. Thanks for all the lovely responses so far, folks x

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RHP User

9 years ago

Wow!! Thank you what a great post. Hopefully we have most of it right but I think I will have to go back & edit a few replys on forums (with mrs typing). I hadn't even thought of it that way!! Usually when replying to messages though I will say something like "it's ........ typing but speaking on both our behalf". Thanks again Mrs Fitfunhappy:) - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Thanks for sharing

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