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3 way relationship
July 12 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do, but for different reasons.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Depends where your loyalty ends up... Having 3sums and other casual lovers is one thing.. But having a full on relationship with one other man whist socialising with your husband, you might end up drawn to the new guy more and your husbands perception my be your loyalty is with him. I'm guessing it worked in the past because you always came back to your husband, this opens the door for you falling back into the arms of your new lover and your hubby may start felling his lost you, and then get extremely jealous and feel like his left out. You will have a honeymoon period, but as time goes on and you feel your connection grow stronger with your new lover, it opens up the door for it going pear shaped. Discuss the boundaries, discuss where your ultimate target is, and communicate the possiblities of what can go wrong and how you will combat those. If you felt your heart going to the other man, and your husband wanted to end things, would you.. Would you out a stop to everything at his say so? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is one couple I know of on RHP that have this arrangement, although they haven't been on the forum in a long while but they may comment on your question. She is married to an older guy but has a younger boyfriend, and they all live together in the same house. As far as I know they have had this arrangement for quite a number of years now. I would find the dynamics of all that very interesting myself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
coops14 very wise lady - Posted from rhpmobile
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totallygenuine
10 years ago
Hey guys, Well I'm actually that 3rd guy (I'm straight) in a relationship with the wife of a married couple (hubby is all for it and knows deep feelings are involved) now. With the 3 of us everything's out the open so basically we have a relationship just like a normal couple (wife n I). We tend to catch up at least once a week (with or without hubby). Known these guys for about 2.5 years now but things got serious since last year. Previous to that I was catching up with my reg couples (as well with 1 on 1 meets with the wife or gf of the couples most times) for the last 4 years. So to answer this topic it does work and from my experience trust respect and communication is the key. You definitely need that combination. TG :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can love more than one person at a time. Why can't she love her boyfriend and her husband? One of the issues that I can see, is that you are after a monogamous relationship with the boyfriend which to me means you are after a guy who wants a relationship.......... so, what happens when he falls in love with you? What if he wants more than just seeing you every other day? You know it isn't easy being the third person and I think you need to give more consideration to that. Why does he have to be monogamous to you?? This sort of polyamourous situation can't really be contrived and I bet it is pretty hard to find. But I don't know, maybe Queens and Cucks look at the dynamics of this three way differently to me?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nobody would be able to comprehend it working unless they were in this situation personally I dont think its something that could be planned to happen or evolve into.but it does with certain dynamics and has been known to work, sometimes long term, sometimes a few months.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It works well. That is, if your expectations are realistic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Write up a risk assessment together and identify the hazards and controls to put in place to reduce risk. Discuss and agree to boundaries, for all three.of you. Then sit down with the third wheel and go through rules, he may have some of his own. If all are understood and agreed then you have the beginnings of a relationship direction and boundaries with lower risk of failure.. The relationship between the husband and wife must be rock solid before any attempt to expand on it. With that said whatever transpires, any event, or action that is perceived to effect the integrity of the husband and wife's relationship, should be resolved to the satisfaction of either or both of you. If either of you feel the expanded version is detrimental to themselves their partner or there relationship then dissolution of the expansion n must be accepted by all
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RHP User
10 years ago
She can love two people at once, but that doesn't mean the his husband will feel the love once he starts to feel the loyalty is not with him anymore . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes that is true. But that is my point in around about way. The third person has to understand that they come second to the primary relationship and they also have to respect that relationship. Just as wifey must always put the husband first most of the time and ensure that things are good and hubby is happy. That is why I think it's better that you don't insist that the third person be monogamous to you... it doesn't seem fair some how. It certainly isn't for everyone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My husband and I have been married 24 years, for the last 6 months I have had a Dom, there is a lot of trust that is in place with a Dom/Sub relationship and thankfully, my husband and Dom communicate with each other as do my husband and myself........ My husband is ALWAYS first and foremost and my Dom agrees, this is the way it aught to be........... I also have an amazing lover/friend/fwb, who goes on social outings with myself and my children, who I have amazing experiences with and who goes to breakfast with hubby and talks shop....... The reason it works is because we are ALWAYS honest with each other and my FWB has stated that if he felt he was coming in between hubby and I, he would disappear........ HONESTY, is the only way all of this will survive......
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totallygenuine
10 years ago
Hey guys, Well I'm actually that 3rd guy (I'm straight) in a relationship with the wife of a married couple (hubby is all for it and knows deep feelings are involved) now. With the 3 of us everything's out the open so basically we have a relationship just like a normal couple (wife n I). We tend to catch up at least once a week (with or without hubby). Known these guys for about 2.5 years now but things got serious earlier this year. Previous to that I was catching up with my reg couples (as well with 1 on 1 meets with the wife or gf of the couples most times) for the last 4 years. So to answer this topic it does work and from my experience trust respect and communication is the key. You definitely need that combination. TG :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
To me, a threesome is the best of all............no one pairing off...........the interaction, in front and with partners is amazing.I love the multiple pleasure. If one is attached, i think all pleasure should be enjoyed together. shared. I way more fun!
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Naughtydouble
10 years ago
Like all play on here it can be dangerous with feelings but it is possible when u find the right mix to enjoy the pros and cons 2 years now still going strong ; )
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