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3some Newbies
December 09 2017
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bonefide
7 years ago
Annie don't have advice, but I have that gut feeling that u will take the correct path for all involved. Now need to take my harden up pills with the average dose of 2 Lts of "shut the he'll up" and get back to doing daily task.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
just be yourself and do what you do ,and i’m sure they will have a wow of a time , mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Perfect!!! The stake should be about 2’ diameter, rope that’s stronger than that of pirates of the Caribbean use, cod everyone gets out of that ... And just tie her up lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hot stuff 😉 Your place IMO is absolutely the best choice. A home environment is so much nicer than a hotel. Up to them of course but my feeling is she would feel a lot more relaxed in that environment, particularly given your experience and good reputation. I agree with above, just let it happen. For me personally though, I would be pissed if I had 2 guys not paying me any attention right from the get go, the chick should always come first, with the guys slowly moving to each other in the process, sneaking the odd kiss mmm yum 😍 But that's just me, and I'm not shy, so may not be right in this situation. Have to say, I'm a bit jealous, and if anyone has the experience to make it relaxed fun for all, you do. Enjoy 👍
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Livingandloving2
7 years ago
Would be right for me. Home would be way too daunting You can still make a hotel room a lovely environment..... take I a fragrance diffuser, battery operated " candles" etc I guess that's where communication comes in- ask the couple which would make them more comfortable, as it sounds like that is what you are trying to accomplish. Quite honestly- they don't know you ... a hotel with 24 hour security would be my go to..... we have never had a problem furnishing a hotel room to match the play theme of the night :) Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
I will ask, let them make the choice.
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Livingandloving2
7 years ago
Yep sounds like a winning idea 🤣 It's fantastic to see that you are so considerate of making this a great first step for them into swinging :) To be honest..... being the over thinker that I am, the first thought I have when someone suggests their place without really knowing them is..... are there hidden cameras planted 😳 * this is coming from someone still too nervous to take the leap* So my opinion is most likely worth squat anyway! Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
Thats a tricky one Annie. I would suggest that the f is the one who needs to be put at ease the most. Considering her level of shyness, and her inexperience, maybe start with something she is comfortable with.....as in ask her. Let her know she can set the pace and have control over what happens.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Done that this arvo. She loved it.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
OK. Hubby had been messaging solo from an unknown Kik account. Unknown to her from my probing. However he fested up to her and now all on the same page. I've set a couple of play dates for Friday OR Saturday night. She seems keen. I'll ask her tomorrow, hotel or the Annie pad...
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MrPlayful
7 years ago
I agree with MsJonesy in that the f should be the one who will need your focus to feel comfortable, though that assumes a certain level of experience by the m and knowing he will enjoy setting the sails with you. I mention this as it took me a little time to work out who I was attracted to, whilst I explored uncharted waters so to speak. Actually this would be my largest concern and would suggest meeting him for a drink separately, prior to the meet. If it turns out he is an experienced navigator then all should be good. If he enjoys breaking the ice with you then she will pick up on his level of comfort and confidence which will hopefully convey to her it’s ok to pursue their nautical adventure. I’d agree with you to make sure she understands before you meet that she will be the captain, he will remain her first mate and that you will just be the deckhand. I think if she knows that beforehand, and that you are likely to handle the mast to get the boat rocking, then you will find her opening the crows nest to yourself and her first mate, as well as many more sailers in the future. Annie, you know you will read the signals and give them the best opportunity possible for a successful voyage. You don’t need our advice, just keep following the moon and stars that have guided you home to port many times before. You’re tacking well in my opinion. Keep steering the ship in the direction you currently are and hope it holds together. But at the end of the day, you’re only the deckhand not the engineer, so if she sinks don’t hold yourself accountable. And perhaps in that light, a hotel may offer a better life jacket?
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Livingandloving2
7 years ago
Nice writing style! Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
That way you can exit stage left, if the shit hits the fan and she freaks out.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' That way you can exit stage left, if the shit hits the fan and she freaks out. I'd second this - or till you know them better and whether you want them to know where you live. have fun, play safe
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Nice analogy. But deck hand? Maybe if we were having a gang bang I'd be a deck hand with lots of seamen. But think I'm more the old navigator with her case of papyrus charts. Entrusted to steer the ship through the heads into the Bay of Plenty. In her early 20s, it's her first ship to captain, the ships engineer in his early 30s. Yes, a motley crew for sure.
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
Is mulling this over a little more. I'm pretty relieved you are in contact with both of them, otherwise my level of disquiet would have peaked with the age mix. I'm a '3 strikes and you're out' chick...first strike would have been his suggestion of a surprise play, second strike would have been his separate & private kik account. Third would be the age gap combining with her shyness and lack of experience in play. I trust my gut. I trust the years of chatting, discussion, and meeting I have done, I trust me more than I trust others, and for good reason. I trust you too Annie, and know you will be dissecting this and making sure it works for everyone - hence you putting up the thread to get some more ideas from the brains trust. 😆 But as we know, on the night it can all go to shite in 10 seconds, so don't make it your place, go to a neutral place. And follow her lead, not his.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Hearing you. Current status of the operation is they will get a hotel room. I will meet them for dinner. I've said if we are all comfortable we can then go back to their room. Least she will be semi relaxed in their own rented space. Yes age difference was a big question for me but l highlighted that in the response to their initial contact. They chose me. I'm flattered but also accept I need to do it right for them.
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RHP User
7 years ago
met a 19 yr old once, picked me up, we got busy in his car. He was like a deer in the headlights, very quiet, was a bit concerned about the lasting impression I left. 2 years later, he came back wanting more. Took him 2 years to recover 😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
😉
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PushingBeyond
7 years ago
Take a bag full of goodies and use what you need from it. Stuff like lightning/candles, oil burner and a relaxing oil (ask her if she likes them and if she has a favour oil), massage oil, strawberries, portable music player with appropriate tracks, a sexy silk or satin dressing gown for her, a bottle of sparkling and glasses, a hair brush (brushing her hair is an amazing bonding experience, as well as calming) and so on. Don’t forget condoms and lube. Reassurance and her confidence are key. Make sure she knows she can back out at any stage (even if sex has already started). Everybody is on the same page about what’s off boundaries and what is okay. Create a stop word together, explain what it is, let them both know that anyone can also use it to slow the tempo down if things are moving too fast or if they need a time out to compose themselves. Let her know feelings of anxiety are normal. Give her confidence in the situation by giving her the correct rules and framework to make her feel safe. For example, if there is a camera involved, let her know at the end of the evening she can go through it and delete EVERY SINGLE photo she wants to and nor does she have to explain her decisions to anyone, she wants to delete an image for some reason of her own, that should be enough for both of you. Then let him delete any he wants, then finally you can. Maybe start with them together, you take a backseat for the first couple minutes. He gives her gentle kisses, fingers through her hair, soft breaths on her neck. And once she is comfortable, he gives a sign, you come over to her other side and he asks her if she would like to kiss you now. She sets the initial tempo, stays clothed and is the main decision maker. After the three of you have been kissing for a while and you feel it’s time, he gets up and takes his top off. You ask her if she would like to remove a piece of your clothing. Then ask if she wants him to take his pants off, and then if you should remove some more. With some luck, you two are standing there in not much more than your underwear and she is still sitting there full clothed, in armour, and controlling things. Ask her if she would like to have a feel/touch of what’s under the underwear or if you should both take them off or if she would like you both to take some of her clothes off. And so on, until you are both naked (Before her! Not at the same time! Let her see you both naked and at your weakest while she still has some/most of her clothes/armour on. Just before you two finally go to take her underwear off, ask her if she’s comfortable and wants to continue, and if she remembers the stop word. All going well, you are all naked and happy to continue. At this stage my friend and I will normally take a hand of her each and lead her towards the bathroom, for a group shower. I find it’s a good fun way to start the evening. Water is fun, glistening bodies are sexy, running your hands over another persons wet skin is electric, you can touch, kiss and try some shower oral. Super sexy, without involving penetration. Bonus is everyone is confident everyone else is clean! That’s typically what I use when introducing a girl to her first mmf. Good luck! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
There isn't very much of that, that would appeal to me. Granted we're all different but it all sounds over the top and try hard. One would assume she actually WANTS to have sex. All this trouble just for a little ol' root 😂 Any wonder so many young guys cheat on their partners if they have to go to that much trouble to get into their pants. It puts me to sleep just reading it lol Also forgive me but if you're taking pictures? So you have a delicate flower who is scared of her own naked reflection, and you're going to rock up with your camera? Nice of you to suggest handing her the phone/camera to delete any pictures she doesn't like but you are aware (or hopefully you would make her aware) pictures can be taken, immediately sent via text or other form to yourself and/or others, without her/their knowledge, to be viewed later. Kind of negates the gesture when the control is with you, not her. But all the scented oil and the two men getting naked first lol I think I would have got up and left by the time the second guy was naked, sorry 😀
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RHP User
7 years ago
and the asking, no you never ask during sex. Cringeworthy, the only words that should be coming out of your mouth are telling her how fuckin sexy she is. Flattery gets you everywhere, but if you mean it, even better lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
forgot to add, and this is just a general comment to all and sundry, give me the smell of sex any day over scented candles etc. The natural smell of our juices/ejaculate/bodies will do for me. Perfumed smells at that level, would make me feel sick
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
don’t over think it ,just be you and what come naturally to you ,we have had dinners and seen you out and about , one thing you do that is your special gift is make people feel special and at ease very quickly mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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PushingBeyond
7 years ago
It was a generalised post with a bunch of ideas (I did say use what is required from the bag of goodies, not everything, just trying to cover all the bases) typed from my mobile. You might not like oils, but you have no idea about her. Our olfactory senses are the most powerful in conjuring up internalised/mental images, please don’t disregard scents offhand. If you don’t like oils, perhaps grab a couple of lilies for the dresser...use your imagination ppl. Neglected to mention that my little act was for the worst case scenario, where she has to be led/coaxed the whole way. But if she’s up for it from minute one then sure, just go for it. And the camera thing was the first example that popped into my head... explaining how to be polite to the couple that gave trusted and invited you into their life. Anyway, maybe I’m taking it a bit too much to heart, on some powerful medicine this week, not feeling the best. Thanks for the feedback and good luck to the op. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
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RHP User
7 years ago
No I wasn't trolling, just giving my honest thoughts. I was just putting it out there that scented stuff, even floral/flowers, are not something all women automatically like. My son and I walked into this coffee shop one day, not realising it was full of bloody flowers, kind of like a florist as well. We both made a run for the door at the same time to get out 😂😂 I do like some old fashioned roses like my Mum has in her garden though 👍 I understand more now you were throwing ideas out there, and that we are indeed all different. The one thing or word that I find a bit concerning though is 'coax'. Maybe just a poor choice of words (innocent mistake, please don't think I'm attacking you) but no-one should be coaxed into having sex. Sure that won't be the case though and I'm sure we'll never know because Annie doesn't kiss n tell 😉
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Seachange
7 years ago
You seem to have a good handle on the situation. If it works out well it could be a start to a beautiful threesome. they could not have picked a better person to show them the wonders of threesomes. Wish all parties have a great memorable time. (give us an update! 😎) 😘
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Will update. Xmas has descended so currently we will get together in January. Thanks for your vote of confidence.xx
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'BackOnTheHorse' It was a generalised post with a bunch of ideas (I did say use what is required from the bag of goodies, not everything, just trying to cover all the bases) typed from my mobile. You might not like oils, but you have no idea about her. Our olfactory senses are the most powerful in conjuring up internalised/mental images, please don’t disregard scents offhand. If you don’t like oils, perhaps grab a couple of lilies for the dresser...use your imagination ppl. Neglected to mention that my little act was for the worst case scenario, where she has to be led/coaxed the whole way. But if she’s up for it from minute one then sure, just go for it. And the camera thing was the first example that popped into my head... explaining how to be polite to the couple that gave trusted and invited you into their life. Anyway, maybe I’m taking it a bit too much to heart, on some powerful medicine this week, not feeling the best. Thanks for the feedback and good luck to the op. - Posted from rhpmobile There were plenty of nice ideas within your post. Thankyou. Of course different things will appeal to different peeps. I'm sure many will take on board different things.Bit like perfume. Hard to cater for new playmates. Some will love, some like, some get hayfever. Please some of them at least.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
For their input and ideas.You never stop learning and there is always room for new approaches.It all about an open mind in many things. I feel more confident in the mix now. Will update with whatever happens Annie
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gazpacho
7 years ago
I think his approach is to be respected. Let them start off and you, aka “the fuck” should wait to be invited... by her. Otherwise there is the likelihood that she will feel like she is being challenged. I say “the fuck” because your role is not romantic. Your job is to give pleasure then fuck off. Hugs G - Posted from rhpmobile
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