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525,600 Minutes

July 29 2016

525,600 minutes A little over a year ago, my life was at a turning point, and I was making some major decisions about where I was headed. After an extended absence from RHP, I rejoined - not to look for anything other than myself, and to reconnect with some old friends. I saw some posts from a member I didn't recognise from my last RHP venture, and they made me smile. I continued to see him post, and checked out his profile, and the smile turned into laughter - smart, funny, and really cute. But still, I wasn't looking for anything, and didn't think anything more of it. And then one day, a year ago today to be exact, I sent him a flirt. A genuine "I just wanted to say I loved your profile" - because I did. I still do. It still makes me smile. And he sent me a reply by message, saying hi, and thanking me for the flirt. That was the first day we spoke. And, if I'm not mistaken, we've exchanged messages, or texts, or emails, or spoken on the phone every single day since. After we'd been messaging backwards and forwards for about a week or so, he sent me a text saying he'd been cyber stalking me to try and find a video with me in it, so he could hear my voice. I suggested that there was this marvellous technology he was holding in his sexy little hand, that he could use to ring me and hear my voice, relieving himself of the pressure of some fairly fruitless espionage work. When I finally got to meet him in person a couple of months later, it was like coming home to a place I've always belonged, but had just never had the chance to visit before. I read something recently about how your first love is important, but that your second love is moreso. Because your second love reminds you that you can recover from heartbreak, and teaches you what hope is. He's my second love, my ever love, and even though I told him early on I wasn't looking for a relationship of any kind, that's what I found in him - a relationship of the best kind. He's the one who reminds me why it never worked with anyone else. His broken pieces fit perfectly with mine, and somehow we are more whole with each other than we are apart. He's the love of my life, and I'm so grateful for this weird little sex site that brought him into it, even as I protested that I didn't want anything, it wasn't the right time for me to be getting involved, and certainly not with someone who lived so far away. Despite all that, I found him. I'm his, and he's mine. And I'm happy in ways I never thought possible. I love you, Ty. Happy meetiversary. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Lovely story, thanks for sharing it.

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RHP User

8 years ago

I love warm stories like this. Happy to hear you're in such a better place now. Thank you for sharing

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RHP User

8 years ago

Awesome 😀🐞q

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AnnieWhichway

8 years ago

You put a smile on my dial. It's more than a sex site. Just saying..... to all you sex focused foxy fuckers

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PatchworkGirl

8 years ago

Annie, I meant to put quotation marks around "sex site", as it is certainly much more than that for me. As my original post would indicate . ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Patchwork. Thankyou for sharing such a great end of week story. I love your phrase of your "broken pieces, fitting in neatly together and the wholeness of it all". Just perfect I connected with one from here but, ( yes there is always a but,) fate has intervened, gods have rolled the dice etc and it appears this is not meant to be. In a world of 7 billion people if you can find that true one, hang on tight, as I'm now of the belief, there is every chance , there won't be another. Wishing you both, all happiness always - Posted from rhpmobile

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tylannister

8 years ago

A little more than a year ago, my life was coming back together again, but there were still pieces missing. I was more than a year and a half out from separating from my ex-wife. While I had been dating for a while and reclaiming important parts of my identity that I had set aside during my marriage (I could never fully let my Geek flag fly with my ex), I had a few setbacks that really cut away at my returning confidence and self-worth. I came here to RHP and began developing some fantastic friendships and meeting some pretty amazing people (this is a thank you to you as well for all you’ve given me). I found a place that I could be myself, that I could express myself, and feel like part of a community. I was healing. I was believing in myself and learning a great deal about who I had become as I came out of the other side of this tumultuous period of my life. But pain had made me sceptical – I didn’t think that I believed in love anymore. I didn’t really have hopes. Didn’t really have dreams. And among the personalities in the forums, a Patchwork Princess appeared. She had a sharp wit but a warm and caring heart. Her posts made me laugh, made me smile, and man did she have fantastic curves. And <wah-wahhh>, she lived on the other side of the country. She sent me a flirt and it put a huge smile on my face. I messaged her back. She messaged me and the messages multiplied. I wasn’t looking for anything – I had spent time chatting and flirting with other women from the other side of the country and didn’t have any expectation of anything happening with them – I didn’t expect anything else with Patchwork Princess. But something did happen. Something I couldn’t control. We chatted more. And we chatted more. And the more we chatted, the more I kept wanting to chat more! We chatted on RHP. And we chatted by email. And we texted. And we phoned. I couldn’t get enough. I found that it became a struggle for me to NOT tell her that I loved her. Here we were – refugees in this lovely, bizarro, often passive-aggressive, occasionally aggressive-aggressive, community full of wonderful people who were incredibly open about their sexuality and their passion – and who would believe that I would rediscover, here of all places, love? I remember at the time reading threads, in frustration, about how people here would never be able to find someone they could love here. And I couldn’t say anything, because I hadn’t even admitted to PatchworkGirl that I loved her. I was afraid that she might be like the others here who didn’t believe that someone they could love could be here. I finally gave in to the struggle and told her that I loved her. And I was incredibly relieved to find she felt the same. I would say that my life hasn’t been the same since – but truly my life hasn’t been the same since that first message. And I’m not going to lie and say it has all been easy – what transcontinental romance is? We’ve had our ups and we’ve had our downs. Being on the other side of the country isn’t just hard, it requires hard work, patience, and a willingness to believe in a future together even when we don't necessarily know what that looks like. But being together with PatchworkGirl reminds me why it is worth it. I may not know at this point how and when we can arrange our lives together - but my future is with her. Because of PatchworkGirl, I love again and I believe in the strength and power of love. I’ve learned to hope again. And I’ve remembered what it’s like to dream. She loves me for who I am and celebrates me for who I am. I do my best to do the same for her – to remind her just how incredible she is. She’s my favourite super-heroine. She’s the love of my life and I can’t wait for the day that we will wake up next to each other and know that neither of us have to be apart again. Happy meetiversary, PG. I love you.

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tylannister

8 years ago

What RHP does to formatting when you copy and paste from Word. Dammit.

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LittleGiant

8 years ago

I love reading things like this, gives me the warm fuzzies! I was very much in the same situation as you - I met Mr through RHP and we saw each other casually for a year before he decided he couldn't do just casual anymore. I didn't want a relationship so we broke it off and I was a miserable bitch for a month before I finally sucked it up and admitted I had messed up. I sent him a message after an RHP girlfriend encouraged me just to do it and see what happened...we've been together ever since We just had our 'official' first anniversary earlier this month - our two year meetiversary! Congratulations to you both, here's hoping you have many more wonderful meetiversarys. Miss Little xx

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Missb4u

8 years ago

That was lovely to read post form you both. So happy you found each other. It gives me hope.

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Missb4u

8 years ago

That was lovely to read post form you both. So happy you found each other. It gives me hope.

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RHP User

8 years ago

Thanks for sharing. Brought tears to my eyes and a huge lump to my throat. I'm feeling like you both were 12 months ago. I have just come out of a long and unhappy marriage and love (and commitment) is the furthest thing from my mind. Hope you find a way to be together.

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AnnieWhichway

8 years ago

You're making us all get the tissues. And for a change it not for a bit of self love. Well done to you's

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Seachange

8 years ago

Such lovely posts and wonderful partnering. I wish you the best and may you have many more memories to share together. Great stuff. Xxx

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RHP User

8 years ago

...distance really is such a small obstacle to happiness. Or so I believe, anyway. Thanks for reaffirming that..

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PatchworkGirl

8 years ago

I feel incredibly lucky, today and every day, to have found someone who sees all of me and loves me because of that, and not in spite of it. He's a keeper. :-)

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MsSuperFoxy

8 years ago

BOOM! I think you two have just proven, long distance does work!! Inspiring. Thank you for sharing. I wish you both a great future and all the best. Ms Foxy

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tylannister

8 years ago

PG is an incredible woman and I'm honoured to be a part of her life. I've never been with someone who loves me so completely for me as I am. Thanks to all of your for your friendship and support.

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MsSuperFoxy

8 years ago

*ENJOY* Sometimes it’s easy to settle and forget the kind of love that you deserve. You deserve more than someone, who shifts to the other side of the bed, leaving you dreading the thought of morning, a reminder that intoxicated desire looks different the morning after. You deserve someone who will want to wake up to touch where the sun seeps through the blinds and lands on your cheek. Someone who tells you how beautiful you are while you’re sleeping, when you’re mad, when you cry during your favorite movie even though you’ve seen it a thousand times. You deserve someone who appreciates you for all that you are. Someone who asks to keep lights on so that they can admire you in your purest state. You deserve someone who doesn’t agree with you all the time, but when you argue, it feels as if you’re pushing each other to be your best selves. Someone who wants to sit down and talk with you until dusk turns to dawn about new beginnings, desires, the unknown, the indescribable feeling of ecstasy when you’re immersed in the warm ocean. Someone who knows that the touch of warm skin sometimes says more than a thousand conversations could. You deserve someone just as independent and driven as you are, if not more. Someone who will inspire you. Someone who will trust you enough to give you space to grow. Someone who pushes you to travel down a path of understanding, to be unashamed and to fill yourself with courage. You deserve what is best for you and that will look different than what anyone else has. Although you’ll have to jump some hurdles to get there, fight tears, and endure nights alone … when you stumble upon what you deserve, from there, the rest won’t matter. Have faith that it will come when the time is right. You both, deserve it. Love, Someone who cares, Ms Foxy

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MsSuperFoxy

8 years ago

Ms Foxy

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PurePeony

8 years ago

It's so lovely to know that true love is still very much alive in this jaded, cynical world. I feel so happy for both of you! It truly feels wonderful when we meet someone who shares our hopes and dreams and with whom we can relate to on a deep level. And it's so awesome when that someone totally reciprocates our love! Congratulations to the two of you! And now, I'm rolling up my sleeves and I'm off to find that Cupid guy to see if he actually requires new prescription glasses from SpecsSavers or am I just too fast a moving target for him. Hehehe!

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RHP User

8 years ago

"So happy for you both" You never know where your life path will take you....always expect the unexpected.... "Wishing you both many more wonderful memories and times together" Cheers Rubi xx

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