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A Gentleman.... in this day and age
June 01 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
damned if you don't.It's up to the guy to have eyes ears and perception on to NOTICE what the lady likes. Was that a scowl of condescension or a smile of appreciation ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
When a man does something courteous and gentlemanly. It may be the 2000' s but that is no reason why men still can't show some chivalry, manners courtesy or whatever. Same goes for the way women treat men, if a Man is good to me I will go out of my way to please him. If he treats me without courtesy and thoughtfulness I am gone quicker than the wind.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Allows a lady to always cum first!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
...is someone who gets out of the bath to take a piss. Hp xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree dacougarbitch. Awesome I was reading an article only yesterday which stated that Australian men have lost their charm. Unfortunately, 'wanna root' is just not charming or debonair. The last charming man is George Clooney so the article said. Well, I would never say no to Georgie... he is gorgeous. So what makes a gentleman? I think firstly, it is a man that has a genuine respect and appreciation of women. That without making it obvious is always aware of you and is looking out for your welfare and well being.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It doesn't matter if the thing the man is doing has high value to me, I love that he's making an effort. My office building has thousands of people in it and a lot of elevators. Without fail, every day, almost every time I get in the lift, men stand back and let women go first. It's not necessary and it probably slows the flow of foot traffic a little. Some of the men do it with ease and others almost forget, then catch themselves, and step back to allow women in first. I notice it and I'm grateful for it every time. I say thanks and smile because, while I don't need a man to let me get in the lift first, I prefer to live in a society where people are thoughtful and generous towards each other. I like to validate the men who do this, let them know their effort is appreciated, make sure they get the chance to feel good about themselves and their chivalry. There's nothing in it for them other than that, they're not going to get laid etc, so it's just genuine thanks. On a date, if a man makes an effort even if it's a bit awkward, I'm going to smile and sincerely thank him for it. After all, that's how we get better at things, isn't it? We try something out, get good feedback, and have more confidence to do it again. Eventually it becomes natural and not awkward at all.
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Listening to what she has to say and picking up on her likes and dislikes . Putting her needs and wants at the top of the list Basic manners and common sense- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
as always hits the nail on the head :)A gentleman should always have respect and appreciation of women. Consideration, thoughtfulness, manners at all times and or course politeness.The Australian 'wanna root?' could be replaced by a more English 'Fair buxom maiden, may I please have the pleasure of escorting you to my bedroom and shagging you silly?' :)and finally...The woman always comes first :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's just common courtesy :DI way I see it, everyday women tend to coup a fair amount of undue abuse for being a woman. As in guys not knowing what is appropriate and when it is appropriate, image pressures from societies etc.So I feel that doing these things such as opening doors, or letting a mum jump ahead of me in the que - is really just a token way of trying to balance things out.Although I'll be honest my motives aren't always entirely altruistic.Please have my seat.(That way when I'm standing I can see what you're presenting in that low cut cut a whole lot better)
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RHP User
12 years ago
You know that we only let you into the lift first so that we can be first out... ? Hp xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is not sending a message with "Spit" as the subject, and "roast?" as the message content (no other words, just that). Yes, this is a message I received yesterday. I wanted to write back and tell him what I thought of that effort, as I have done before when I've received those sorts of crude contacts, but in the end I knew it would just be a waste of my time. Guys like that just don't have a clue and never will. Like Meeka said, showing that they genuinely respect women is an essential part of it and by sending messages like that they are showing the exact opposite, plus a lack of basic manners and courtesy. Like you Awesome71, I'm not into having guys open doors for me etc., I think those things are outdated and not necessary.
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RHP User
12 years ago
if he remembers my name
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sweetgem
12 years ago
A gentleman is someone who is genuine and respectful of women, courteous, caring and generous. I am not into having a man opens car door for me, but if we are to enter a premises (i.e, restaurant, house, etc.) and he walks in before me and let the door swings back into my face, then he is not my preferred gentleman regardless he's genuine or not.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority'You know that we only let you into the lift first so that we can be first out... ? Hp xo But the whole thing is still such a nice charade, right? It's like how we women only let you ... so we can ... oh, nevermind ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are ingrained in me, it's the way I was dragged up. I may not open and shut your car door but I'll let you through a doorway first. I don't stand up when you need to leave the table to 'powder your nose' but I will stand up and offer my chair if there aren't enough. I enjoy doing to little thing to help a lady enjoy herself in my company. And, yes, it is a natural reaction for me but if you want to pay my thoughtfulness back, I have a few ideas......
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RHP User
12 years ago
and one that is difficult to answer for all. For some girls I've known, having a guy take the lead is their preference, opening car and restaurant doors is seen as courtesy; for others, it's an affront to their femininity. There is no easy way... although (as I did recently) perhaps the answer is to open the restaurant door for them and allow them out first, then hoist them over your shoulder, carry them back to my apartment and ....... a great night was had by both...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love it when a man opens a door for me...or pulls the chair out for me to sit.Chivalry is lovely.....It doesn't make me feel like a second class citizen by a man doing things like this. It shows thoughtfulness and careI also hold open doors for 'people' and try to be kind where possible...good deeds etcIt just good to take care of your fellow human..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Careful mr Consistency12, you could hurt yourself with such impulsive chivalry! Your osteo would not be amused. :-p
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' So what makes a gentleman? I think firstly, it is a man that has a genuine respect and appreciation of women. That without making it obvious is always aware of you and is looking out for your welfare and well being. But isn't this the first thing a gentleman should be? I'm going to put it out there...I don't think chivalry is dead, but it is being forgotten. I like to think that I show at least some of the chilvarous aspects that I have been taught...Opening a door for a lady, or giving my seat up on a bus for someone older than me. Saying please and thank you, or excuse me if I need to get past someone, rather than just pushing past like a lot of people do. I have yet to place my coat over a puddle for a lady to walk across, but I have given a lady my coat to stay warm and dry on more than one occasion.I think Meeks is right in her comment that being a gentleman is foremost about respect and appreciation....having said that, Awesome, If I do get to meet you, I'm still opening the door for you, it may be a little direspectful considering you opening post, but to me it's good manners.Any
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RHP User
12 years ago
:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Gentlemanly behaviour goes largely unappreciated these days, its either taken as an affront to someone's ability or taken as a sexist manoeuvre to belittle, some don't even understand what it is.. like someone said above you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Its not respected any more by and large. I used to offer gentlemanly kindness to dates and women in general, but I was abused and yelled at and generally told I was wasting my time, so stopped. I'll give respect to those who offer it and earn it these days..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Brisguy... It's that awful 'who deserves respect' thing. I don't wait for people to earn my respect, I give it to absolutely everyone I meet from the petrol station attendant right through to the CEO. One's humanity deserves respect IMO. ... Any, I'll gracefully accept any thoughtful gesture anyone offers though I too like to show my regard for those around me. Hope you too would feel privilidged to have me open a door for you. ...Kizza, is it possible that you are my soul mate? I know I shouldn't joke about such things but omg, that's a big thing. You really are a modern day gentleman. Xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
And a woman shuns or belittles you, don't change you, ditch her! There's no excuse for rudeness. Awesome71, truly fabulous post x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Everything in my opinion goes two ways.I like when men are gentlemen I would never see it as a pick up line "only"However it is nice to see a man smile after you thanked him for his effort.This again gives me a wonderful feeling of achievement.Ohh the world around me is so pink and blue when people are polite towards each other.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Three_wise-words and awesome71I have always been brought up to be a gentleman and treat everyone with respect, especially women. It is a pleasure to be courteous and polite and it is also free! Manners maketh the man. I have this fantastic victorian book on 'how to be a perfect gentleman', it is great with chapters on courting, dancing, and 'entrance into society' :)I have met girls who didnt care or respect that I respected them, or objected to courtesy ('no I can open my own bloody door thanks').Perhaps the only time you can be less of a gentleman is in the bedroom, but I have already started a topic on that (just fucking fuck me already) :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
*sigh ... the lost art of courtship :( I'm sure there's a modern day equivalent with just the right amount of respect, pursuit, lust, seduction ... and subtlety! It's just terribly hard to find. The bluntness and self-serving nature of today's 'game of the sexes' just doesn't work for me. Or I don't work for it, perhaps.
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subgal_gc
12 years ago
You sound like my kind of guy, unfortunately you live a little too far away (just my luck). Hopefully you are able to find a lady that can appreciate your gentlemanly behaviour
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RHP User
12 years ago
After a long tiring day, I got off a crowded bus to a tall, dark, handsome stranger with long hair holding open the door for me to step out. (A vision from a romance novel did come to mind!) I smiled at him and thanked him. With a nod, he replied, "A pleasure, Ma'am", and we both went our separate ways - me, with an idiot grin on my face the rest of that evening. A stranger had made my day!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Three_Wise_Words' It doesn't matter if the thing the man is doing has high value to me, I love that he's making an effort. My office building has thousands of people in it and a lot of elevators. Without fail, every day, almost every time I get in the lift, men stand back and let women go first. It's not necessary and it probably slows the flow of foot traffic a little. Some of the men do it with ease and others almost forget, then catch themselves, and step back to allow women in first. I notice it and I'm grateful for it every time. I say thanks and smile because, while I don't need a man to let me get in the lift first, I prefer to live in a society where people are thoughtful and generous towards each other. I like to validate the men who do this, let them know their effort is appreciated, make sure they get the chance to feel good about themselves and their chivalry. There's nothing in it for them other than that, they're not going to get laid etc, so it's just genuine thanks. On a date, if a man makes an effort even if it's a bit awkward, I'm going to smile and sincerely thank him for it. After all, that's how we get better at things, isn't it? We try something out, get good feedback, and have more confidence to do it again. Eventually it becomes natural and not awkward at all. it could not have been put any better...
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anet2001
12 years ago
I once heard someone say "a gentleman is someone who cares about your feelings...." - Which is pretty much what meeka100 said...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ma'am. After a period in the airforce cadets, calling civillion women ma'am - and the men sir -while we were in uniform was an expected behaviour. Part of SKB(service knowledge basic). Must admit....it's taking some effort to break that habit.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
As someone who until recently had long hair, you were supposed to drag him home by it :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Despite women stating that they abhor the age old traditions (Opening the car door, the restaurant door, laying my coat across the puddle etc....oh, also includes asking a woman's permission before kissing her (mouth or pussy) ) they all actually seem to be appreciated.....and by the most staunch of feminists too..... It is the manner in which they are performed.........makes a great deal of difference...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I agree dacougarbitch. Awesome I was reading an article only yesterday which stated that Australian men have lost their charm. Unfortunately, 'wanna root' is just not charming or debonair. The last charming man is George Clooney so the article said. Well, I would never say no to Georgie... he is gorgeous. So what makes a gentleman? I think firstly, it is a man that has a genuine respect and appreciati of women. That without making it obvious is always aware of you and is looking out for your welfare and well being. you already have one of those. 'very considerate and kept an eye out to make sure all of us were ok on the night. he is george with a nice twist
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