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A beautiful mind...

February 03 2017

I often wonder if I'll ever be able to or entitled to have access to that white picket fence lifestyle. I've already been married once and that ended rather nastily after my wife discovered me living out my life in other avenues than her.. That's not to say I didn't try and communicate my fantasies and wants and needs with her, I did... However I was always written off as a disgusting creature with probably a twisted mind (I'm still learning what I like and don't like but I've always enjoyed being a Dom/Mentor, curious about bdsm including rope, spank, choke and hair pull etc) nothing out there and over the top, just my own distractions and things that made me happy. What I did discover is that she didn't have the right to make me feel ashamed for what made me happy and hopefully what will make my chosen play partner/s happy in the future. I've learned a few things from my experience over the last few years... Namely 'never settle'.. never settle for someone that doesn't make you happy, never settle for activities that don't make you happy. You only have one life and you should be able to live the life you want to live with the people that make you happy.. I'm a relatively new entrant into fetish life and I can honestly tell you i'm more than happy.. I will have the white picket fence one day, but it will be 'my' version of the white picket fence with an open partner that I adore and who will be at her happiest on her knees with my hand around her throat and her hair being pulled in some sort of bondage... She'll be adored and nurtured and trusted and I'll be able to trust her with whatever random ramblings my grey matter comes up with and she will hear me openly... At least that's what I'm hoping for....

Comments

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    8 years ago

    Enjoy your journey in the world of kink. It's a fascinating place with amazing people. I think one of the biggest things to learn is what makes you happy and then to reach out and take that from life takes some balls. So many don't. Our stories sound similar from what you've written in that I always knew there was something missing in my sex life and I wasn't truly happy. The day I discovered kink felt like I had finally come home it was a place I could be me and not feel so judged. The more I experience and explore this area and lifestyle the more I find out about myself. My version of the white picket fence wil include a big monster four poster bed with all kinds of restraints and anchor points, a large play room with device bondage, a pool and a landscaped private garden. Oh and I guess I need a guy to go with that 😁 Good to see you in the forums oceandreaming. 👍

  • KinkyLegs

    KinkyLegs

    8 years ago

    Hi oceandreaming. Stay positive, you will eventually meet someone who shares your enjoyment in the kink scene. And when that happens it will blow your mind. I completely understand your kink desires. My hubby and I recently started exploring the scene and it has opened up a whole new world - It has taken our relationship to a new level. It is such a great scene. xo

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Welcome to the neighbourhood. Happy to hear you've found your journey, now the magic really begins... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    OP, I agree with your sentiments and it was well written. One of my exes affected my life so much, it took a huge turn for the better. He challenged the traditional ways bashed into me when I was younger. Although I think I needed that. (I've always been horny and curious since I was a kid, throwing a tantrum if my parents wouldn't let me watch Twin Peaks.) until I met him, I thought it was bad that I cheated on my first boyfriend of four years and never told him. I couldn't live with the guilt and couldn't see my future with him as I wanted to be free of arguing on a daily basis, being "too tired" for sex (having told him that I didn't like his touch... it was always so abrupt and forceful, not sensual). There's gotta be more to life than this. So I broke out of my close knit mutual circle... it didn't matter if people thought I was a bad girlfriend/daughter and why I was changing. I was being slowly strangled and heart being crushed, dreams shattering. But as soon as I decided to break up, I didn't look back... I still chat to my second ex from a decade ago - good-looking and ripped back then, much more romantic. On our first date he pulled my hair hard which I said to him later that it was weird. Over the next few months, as I fell in deeper in love and lust with him, he told me his kinks and fantasies... some just messed with my head, but luckily I focussed on my behaviour and he would explain the shame he felt or explain things so that I wouldn't get the wrong idea about him. I learnt to let him enjoy me and asked him to pull my hair and spank me, quite mild kinks now from what I've seen in the world of kink. I still don't like getting messed up in bed. I still like to look and feel pretty, sexy and sweaty. I have never found someone to match it, but I've found many new different delightful experiences that may or may not involve kink. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    What can I say just like everything about this. It opens your mind to be free experiences that you thought where not possible and the best thing always something new to discover and enjoy. It's a natural high having somebody enjoying this with you trust and commication a must and the growth in exploring a new adventure is priceless. So enjoy and don't be afraid what you like it will grab you and you'll both grow knowing you never looked back.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...from the dark basement. - Posted from rhpmobile