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A moment to reflect

March 18 2013

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Hey...I've just been reading some posts about shallow couples and ugly men and people generally wasting other peoples time.. Maybe I have just been very very lucky but my experiences have been a little different.Let me start by saying that I am 27 years old and a 'newbie' at least compared to quite a lot of you out there.. I came to Australia a year ago and felt that while i was OZ I would take advantage of my anonymity and explore the side of life that many taboo because its just a little too much for them.. what a shame!Now, I've never found it hard to meet people, to talk or to get dates with girls. I look after myself and I know that I am physically and mentally in pretty good shape.. but I also realised that for what I wanted, I wasn't going to find on a random weekend with a stranger.. That's not how I do things.. I have to say that even as a successful single male, I do not always enjoy being the 'single male'. I agree with some of the posts, there are couples and many single girls (though few there are of them) who may at times be a little shallow or even just rude however, my own real experiences have been unforgettable and some of the friends I have made will remain friends for a very, very long time. When I joined RHP, I was already sexually confident, capable and experienced... to a point. I never had an ffm, an orgy, 2 couples and my boundary level was rather open, or at least I thought..When I started exploring this scene I thought that I was just looking for sex and that worried me because that is not what I was after.. sex was something I was not in short supply of. However, as I met one couple after the next and formed friendships and began to share in moments of ultimate, intimate, sexual satisfaction I soon realised that it wasn't so much the sex itself than the dynamics of the experience and the people involved.. the physical, emotional and mental pleasures.. learning to look into the eyes of all the players, male and female, to stir the chemistry... letting go of inhibitions and really learning how to connect intimately with whomever was in reach :-)It wasn't until my last week in Sydney, almost a year later, that I first went to a swingers club, that I first experienced a 4way and an orgy.. and I was so lucky to have been able to do them with partners that I met and that really meant something to me.. a form of love built out of friendship, understanding and respect, that mirrored emotional love and that made the experience I had all the more enjoyable, memorable and truly unforgettable.Let me say to the guys who are angry at the lack of interest, my advice is to go away and figure out what it is you are actually looking for, then come back and find it. The people you want to meet aren't looking for cheap, easy sex.. they're looking for a real connection with some one or a number of people.. That's the attraction and that where the turn ons are. To the single girls who are too cool for school, this really is a couples game and not a playground to push guys around in.. I've seen it done and its not pretty.To all the genuine, honest fellow explorers.. most of whom I have not yet met.. it has been amazing.. I feel as though I've woken up to a new level of my own self and I'm looking forward to falling into bed with you again soon :-)O.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    It sounds like you've had a blast! Good for you. Thanks for sharing what you've learnt. I agree with what you have to say, the intimacy and connections are the important thing. X

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    is how it's done.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ...make it this one. Bravo, sir. You've done more than most to advance the cause of men here. 'Cept for that terrible fake six pack :P - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Well said Orlando ! Your words reinforce my belief that some Australian men have a lot to learn from their overseas counterparts about how women like to be treated . Happy for you that you've had such a memorable time in oz !

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I think I would have been a bit more moved if that came from somebody who looked like John Goodman.But I'm glad you enjoyed your time here, both site and country. Good luck with your future adventures - be sure to spread the word back in Europe that Australians make fantastic lovers.

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  • JessicaRabbit

    JessicaRabbit

    12 years ago

    Take note fellas. Of course, I daresay that being 'really really ridiculously good looking' as Zoolander would say also works in your favour Orlando... DidaXx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Very well said indeed. I fear that there are men that do not actually understand what you are saying and that is a shame. By the way, what are you doing on Saturday night? There is a Sydney meet & greet followed by lots of naughty stuff if people are interested and hit it off. Just email paintme above ^^ and she will tell you all about it. :)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You are naked! ~gasp~

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  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    If only men as young as you and even the older ones took a leaf out of your book! Well said! xFunlovingx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'xFunlovingx' xFunlovingx *sigh* Not the first time, either.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I cannot leave you alone for a minute, can I? X Ms Shout- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Such insight and maturity for one so young, ( forgive me but compared to me you are). I hope all the blokes on here read your post and take it on board, then us females might stop complaining about them so much.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'neptune_drift' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' xFunlovingx *sigh* Not the first time, either.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    should be sent this post... however it is a fact a large percentage are so thick they can't understand or don't want to.Well done OP!!I received a few messages from men this week & upon checking their profile, it said they were attractive & athletic, but in fact it clearly was the opposite... I don't understand what people are thinking when they put that bull shit in...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Oh, you kids are so adorable.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'neptune_drift' *sigh* Not the first time, either. Now please excuse me while I have me a mouthful of err... Drift.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Now you have all met my twin brother Orlando, now stop it it's not like Arnold Schwarzenegger and Danny De vito at all!!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    What a brilliant post, I recognise so much in it! Promise to look me up, next time you're here?

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  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'neptune_drift' *sigh* Not the first time, either. Now please excuse me while I have me a mouthful of err... Drift.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ... very well said mate. We're both really glad we got the chance to meet you, and it's a shame it was only in your last week. Make sure you look us up when you're back in town, if we don't see you over there first! :)

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  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'OneEmerald'should be sent this post... however it is a fact a large percentage are so thick they can't understand or don't want to.Well done OP!!I received a few messages from men this week & upon checking their profile, it said they were attractive & athletic, but in fact it clearly was the opposite... I don't understand what people are thinking when they put that bull shit in... I too have looked at profiles that say the same but show the opposite! But, can we really say anything to them? Maybe they are that confident in themselves that they think they are all that and have a banging body? Maybe beauty is in the eye of the beholder? What may be bullshit to people who don't agree with them...might be the truth to them? xFunlovingx

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  • beginnings22

    beginnings22

    12 years ago

    wonderful wise words & someone who really gets the experience of what this is all about.. A real genuine guy.. Was great meeting you O & look forward to seeing you again.. wish their were more like you... Latinolovers xxxxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I see............. Well I hope you guys used the cork wisely.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ....don't forget, ladies, the OP was a wonderful display of positivity, humble gratitude and delight in his experiences and journey. Let's not be dragging it down with all the men-are-lying-toad-fat-sacks-of-shit talk, just this once... mmm'ok? :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    what a beautiful, open and well written post.Would it be inappropriate if I asked you to marry me?

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  • virgogirl1968

    virgogirl1968

    12 years ago

    Orlando, for one with only 27 years under his belt you surely have a great amount of understanding about what 'it' is all about. Love yr open mindedness...don't ever lose that!- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    A tremendously well expressed post - articulate and defining; and a lesson for us all in humility, One E might just have a point from the way some of the forum items have expressed their views...   Sounds like you had a fabulous time here, and we all wish you well.   regards   C

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Confirms why i love the cubs.....well done OP a great read, an intelligent piece thoughtfully written :)

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  • jensta

    jensta

    12 years ago

    I wish more people were like you Love your Outlook ... And you Smoking Hot xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    and what a great wonderful looking man you are.So now my words to all of us out there. My question Why are so many disappointed?Isn't it so we get what we put in? The more precisse I am in what I want, and again I need to be specific on what I want, the easier it is to get what I want. And this has nothing to do whether a male looks like Orlando or not. Orlando is now an exceptional beautiful male and not only outside what I can read inside too. Most males and females don't get what they want because they don't know what it is they are wanting so no wonder they get disappointed. I try not to complain about people on here.I find I get what I want........I ask it and the males on this site who cant see my point or I am theirs are not the type I am going for. I am rather waiting a long time to find out about a man before I make the decision and more the not I get a beautiful caring lover.Now why are so many disappointed?Ohh I don't knowI am just saying Orlando what a beautiful letter. Take care and don't change.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'I see............. Well I hope you guys used the cork wisely. Who needs the cork when you can use the whole bottle?   x Ms Shout

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You sound like the type of man I could take home to mama.   You'd better put a shirt on though, she is married after all.   x Ms Shout

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I really didn't expect any response and reading your replies it's even more clear to me that we are all looking for very similar experiences... I really appreciate you all postingI am very happy you enjoyed my blog.. maybe I should express my views more often :-)Now I do hope that I get back to Sydney sooner rather then later but if any of you wonderful folks are heading to Europe then look me up :-)Beter still.. if you know any fun spots then do tell xxxx

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  • Boy22

    Boy22

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'neptune_drift' I think I would have been a bit more moved if that came from somebody who looked like John Goodman. mmmmmmm....I wonder?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    whats the point in not telling the truth about, firstly, your physical appearance, and 2nd what you are looking for ?*if* you meet with anyone it will very soon be obvious that you are either truthful or not.

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