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A perfect life
July 23 2018
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RHP User
6 years ago
For me I think it would be possible to achieve the perfect life. I want for very little in the way of material possessions, not particularly influenced by societal values and am very happy in simplicity. Simplicity is the key for me. I am not a goal setter or have need to challenge myself, my animals keep me extremely amused, happy and relaxed. A select few friends and close family. One could say I am very content to some extent. The perfect sex life. Can't answer that one but it is a very pleasant thought. Pure connection of mind, body and soul.
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Hottie1
6 years ago
As Meander has said, it’s all about expectations and whether they are met. I believe people put an enormous amount of pressure on themselves to ‘keep up with the Joneses’ and for acceptance. If I was to go with the expectations of my heritage I’d be living in a huge house (I did once and we sold it by choice) I’d have bilingual children, I’d have a spotless home (hence my OCD) and I’d be obeying my husband and living in a lot of cases, with a domineering man who wouldn’t give a crap about my needs. To be very honest I didn’t have expectations about any aspect of my life, I obviously put in targets for myself like, finish university, find employment etc but I have never aspired to ‘that exclusive suburb, or job, or house etc’. So I’ve been a waitress, I’ve worked on farms picking produce, I’ve worked at Ford Motor Company etc. I’ve had diversity because I haven’t limited myself to ‘what should be’ but I make the most of every opportunity and ‘what is’ essentially :) I take each opportunity as it comes, no expectations, be open minded and enjoy and learn from it as much as possible. In relation to sex, I did grow up in a sheltered environment where there was really no discussion about it. I overheard various conversations from older ladies and so in my mind sex was crap at best and fucking awful at worst! I went into it with ‘whatever will be will be ...’ So imagine my surprise when I did have sex the very first time ... it was amazingly incredible (I so love my hubby) and has been ever since .... I don’t have a sexual bucket list (expectations) and I try to take it as it comes. Swinging, open relationship, poly relationship was never part of any plan but we have evolved and grown into it. Yes I’ve had some ordinary experiences since joining the scene and they’ve been around feeling used or being taken advantage of but even still, I keep an open mind and try to learn from those. If you have expectations around perfection (sex or otherwise) I believe you’ll constantly be in a state of unrest and perfection will be a ‘fluid’ concept where you’ll constantly be adjusting expectations or goals, moving the goal post making it more and more pressure filled and unattainable. So.... I live and learn .... every moment or opportunity is about learning ....I keep an open mind ...of myself, I be the best person I can be. I work hard and love my life ... as it is. Mary xx PS: now I need a stiff drink or another coffee.... it’s 6.30 am and I’ve had to think too hard. Geez woman, I found this really challenging to respond to BUT I absolute love the tpoc.😘❤️ Love you and miss you xx
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The_Antichrist
6 years ago
Perfection can only be seen through the eyes of the content... Restless eyes will always see more flaws than beauty... - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
A perfect life, has perfect imperfections. Ms Foxy
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
are close enough to perfect as we want with all life’s speed bumps ,i call it character building , it’s just the outside influences that need pushing in front of buses if that was doable ,utopia would be achieved ,as for sex life and being here ,that’s what makes it perfect ,how many can be seen to be having cake and eating it also ,many could only dream of such perfectness, mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Meander reminded me of something. I have not traveled much to Russia only and the people there were amazing an acceptance of their lot and a profound happiness at that, well those I spoke with and met. I have watched many doco's and interviews with those less privileged from all walks of life and countries. The one that sticks in my mind most is a doco with North Korean defectors, it was interesting to hear what they said. They had witnessed many horrors and had lives that were somewhat controlled by their leaders but spoke of true happiness. They then went on to say they understood after a while why they found in our western world so much sadness and frustration in people. They said we had waaaaay too many choices that allowed that unhappiness to sink in. If one wants and can't have a realistic thought is needed, for too many years people have chased material wealth and societal approval which generally only leads to greed and not enough. One only has to know the difference between want and need. Ahh reminds me of the song 'Society by Eddie Vedder and the verse "When you want more than you have, you think you need. And when you think more than you want, your thoughts begin to bleed"
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OkeyDoke45
6 years ago
There has been much discussion about this in recent years, ''the expectation of happiness'' - we are taught by various influential figures ranging from our parents to schoolteachers that happiness is a right, that all you have to do is believe and your wishes will come true, happiness - total happiness - is just waiting in the wings. I believe that the current ''epidemic'' of mental health problems in Australia (and other parts of the developed world) arises in part because of this expectation. People are reared with unrealistic expectations, then they leave home and discover that most of us are just ordinary and will achieve ordinary things in life. This perplexes and frustrates people; "I was told that all I had to do was just shoot for the stars'' and there they are, no better off than they were ten years ago. They feel as if they have been dealt a dud hand, they grow miserable - when in actuality they have more than enough in most cases. They start investing their time in quaint, fashionable religions - looking at you, Western Buddhists - thinking that chanting over incense and stringing prayer flags up on their balconies will clear away their frustrations. They try retail therapy, which I have been guilty of myself from time to time, only to find that the sense of gratification at having something new and shiny is fleeting and buyers remorse follows hard on the heels. They are trying to catch smoke with a net. I'm not going to sit here and say that money doesn't buy you happiness, I have been poor at times in my life and it is absolute shit. I think that children should be taught that the pursuit of money and comfort is a good thing - but mindless pursuit of money and comfort is not. Money allows you to live more comfortably, but having a 120inch 4K ultra-HD LED panel will not cure loneliness or a troubled mind. My current state of affairs is that I am sharing a rented house - I am a man in my late forties doing this, which sometimes makes me feel ashamed. I have outfitted my private corner of this particular world with basic comforts that are not excessive (I simply don't have the room anyway). It is a frugal way of living however, and allows me to go on regular overseas holidays - which is immensely rewarding to me. My mind expands with each country I visit, which makes me a better person (I think). Now I sound all Eat Pray Love god help me, so I am going to stop now.
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nightingale8
6 years ago
Perfection can only ever be an abstract idea, the world we live in will always be imperfect and changing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Our_Secret
6 years ago
I believe that the reality of perfection is that which is perfect for you. This, of course, is a constantly evolving nirvana. Life, love, finance, family, career all are factors that will skew the reality so that at different times, your vision of perfection will change, or at the very least get a little blurry !If you can accept that not every time will be mind blowing, porn star sex. That the person you wake up next to, or spend some special time with, is like you, flawed, occasionally frustrated and sometimes just having a really fucking crap day, you are much more likely to feel the REAL version of that perfect existence, as opposed to something promulgated by women's magazines, or retail catalogs Just saying.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think we live it like a tide. Comes in and out. Then it gets taken away for whatever reason. It was perfect but only for a short time til it comes around again. - Posted from rhpmobile
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curiousgirl35
6 years ago
If you can be truly happy with all the little things in your life and understand nobody is perfect ,your life is perfect. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Rlee552
6 years ago
To achieve a state of perfection means you have come from a place of imperfection. It is tiring and challenging. It also changes because life and expectations change. And then once you achieve perfection it is then a challenge to hold that state because what is perfect today may not be perfect tomorrow. So rather than focus on perfection, accept the imperfections, don’t let the things outside of your control diminish you. It is not about being happy or content about perfection, but rather accepting, happy and content about the imperfect aspects.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Yes we can achieve a contented life. "Perfect" is another setting on the washing machine, around a bit to the left from the "Normal" setting. But you need to purposely lower expectations which is a constant battle against the constant marketing hype in our lives. Perfect sex? Is achievable for a period of time. But as it is normally accepted to involve another person/s, the human factor will generally fuck that up sooner or later. I think it's called "Spin "settings on that dial mentioned earlier. The old saying, nothing good lasts forever....... And then.......click. Cycle end.
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Just some moments of perfection amongst the imperfection. There are too many variables for perfection to constantly exist, especially in the mind. In my world anyway. Perfect sex life for me is those times when you are totally in synch with your partner. Almost like you are two people becoming one because you are so closely aligned at that particular time. Again I think its moments, not a permanent state of being.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Does such a thing exist? Or is it just a ridiculous concept dreamed up by marketers to make us desire more crap in the vain hope the purchases will get us to that state of idealistic bliss? You haven't lived without Mr Sheen polishing your house to keep it sparkling clean. Or soaking your hands in Palmolive because it's good for your skin... Just saying... Is there such a thing as a perfect sex life? Or are we all kidding ourselves that our presence here is just to find the icing on the perfect sex life? Because if it were perfect, we wouldn't need to be here...right? What have you been watching? WTF. I'm an exception to that question? I'm here for the social side of the site, the forums. You know, because it's not a sex site. But yeah, we gave up on the site in that way years ago. Things are not perfect but they get better all the time. Feel free to answer either or both...and please respect everyone's right to express their own views 😊 Oh, we're at the end, okaaay... I'm Peachy, thanks for asking
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NewVicCpl
6 years ago
Our lives are fantastic, couldn't want for anything else really. But I wouldn't say perfect as I'm not really sure what that looks like
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piperlove
6 years ago
This would depend on whether your standards for perfection are external - owning the perfect things, having the perfect lover. Or whether you seek an internal locus of contentment - enjoying things as they happen, embracing the pleasure others share with you. I have been much happier the last ~2 years of my life learning to enjoy experiences for what they are, without being attached to specific outcomes or comparing what IS happening with what theoretically could be. The perfect life for me is inner contentment with external imperfection.
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piperlove
6 years ago
This would depend on whether your standards for perfection are external - owning the perfect things, having the perfect lover. Or whether you seek an internal locus of contentment - enjoying things as they happen, embracing the pleasure others share with you. I have been much happier the last ~2 years of my life learning to enjoy experiences for what they are, without being attached to specific outcomes or comparing what IS happening with what theoretically could be. The perfect life for me is inner contentment with external imperfection.
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