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A question in relation to meet and greets
September 10 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Good thinking B M.. Ive always wanted to go to a swingers club to see how it all works.. I wouldnt mind being paired off with someone if thats the way to go. We dont even have to like each other.. lol....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't get the point of it. Why have it at a venue where single men are not allowed. If I went to a function and them was asked to leave half way I would be utterly insulted and pairing people up always comes with complications as you know. It's a difficult one.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why not have it Aarows on a Friday night? $20 to get in and everyone is welcome.... All night! Only thing is I think it would be no alcohol. :-/
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RHP User
10 years ago
Interesting idea for meat n greet Agreed with Meeka, tough if people couldn't stay in if they're single. Otherwise it'd get a bit like musical chairs when the clock strikes whatever
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RHP User
10 years ago
and organise it all yourself. Invite who you want, tell them it is invitation only, charge a fee to be paid into your account before the event and only those who have paid are allowed entry. Only give details of the whereabouts to those who have paid. You can throw together a few platters, or tell everyone to bring a plate and byo grog.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Great idea Ralf, much easier to organise! Having payment made up front means your costs are covered, no refund policy of course. You can get apartments with spas, multiple bedrooms etc. And you as the organiser gets to stay the night as well
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with Ralf. Maybe check out the events section, often they have people on there organising similar things
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Good thinking B M.. Ive always wanted to go to a swingers club to see how it all works.. I wouldnt mind being paired off with someone if thats the way to go. We dont even have to like each other.. lol.... Oh yes? And what if there are too many men to pair up? What if nobody wants to pair up with you? And quite frankly every time I have been in a group where men have "Paired" up with women to get into the swingers club there are always problems, resentments, etc. 1. Women don't want to be paired up with a guy they don't like or know, and 2. Men get resentful because they are asked to pay double the cost of getting in... because after all why should the woman fork out extra for a bloke to get in. 3. No matter how many times a guy says that there are no expectations.... in my experience there always are and for some reason I guy seems to feel that because he paid more for them to get in that entitles him to something. I think it is a bad idea personally.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just looking at the Aarows website. They do free HIV testing on certain days and you get the results in 20 minutes! I know of other clubs who will also do tests for you but you don't get the results on the same day though. Sounds like gay and bi men get all the good services. There is a swingers lounge there which you can book for private parties but I still can't see anything about the alcohol. It would be a very very wild night........ but not for the faint hearted.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'No matter how many times a guy says that there are no expectations.... in my experience there always are and for some reason I guy seems to feel that because he paid more for them to get in that entitles him to something. That certainly happens! I got "paired up" by a friend with a guy I didn't know once purely so he could get into the CC, and when he realised I wouldn't fuck him even though he had paid money, he got rather ugly. I like Ralf's idea!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I know of a service apartment in the city which can be booked and it is easy to get people past reception and into the apartment. Just make sure you factor in a cleaning cost.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why would you want a meet and greet at a swingers club ?? Is it not the purpose of meet and greets to be social and leaving the pairing of sex for those to work out individually and for AFTER the meet and greet??? I don't get the intention.... It seems as though you just want a swingers party not a meet a greet - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I know of a service apartment in the city which can be booked and it is easy to get people past reception and into the apartment. Just make sure you factor in a cleaning cost. An idea to get in touch with the NBO organizer? He'll have lots of tips.
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RHP User
10 years ago
house idea is better, you don't have to deal with reception and smuggling people in with no party rules, there are different rooms and areas to mingle or orgy, lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' Otherwise it'd get a bit like musical chairs when the clock strikes whatever It would be like speed dating. Your five minutes are up guys, all move one woman to your left!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Isn't it illegal to have a sex party and charge money?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Isn't it illegal to have a sex party and charge money? I hardly expect it would be illegal to expect money back if you are forking out for accommodation and food and other comforts for others to enjoy, they aren't paying for the sex. And how do swingers clubs get away with it then?
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uneventful
10 years ago
I attended a meet and greet at Gosford RSL... We had booked out 'wombats' a fully self contained house at gosford. Wombats is a two story house ..with 12 bedrooms ...two bathrooms..two kitchens..laundry..two loungrooms..pool and 8 person spa.BBQ..and two fully stocked fridges and a freezer... The cost of the unit was booked for two nights decided by the attendies staying over .... worked out at $55.00 per person for the two nights... Well worth considering for the warmer months. Also managed to do same with a property down kangaroo valley... hawkesburry river and Wentworth falls. Well worth it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Swingers clubs are licensed as sex on premises establishments. They have council approval. I know someone who went to a gang bang that was raided and and all the attendees were arrested. The organizer had to prove that he was only collectig money to cover his costs. I think it can be a grey area? But yeah it am sure you are right that it is unlikely an issue in NSW. I believe QLD as much stricter rules.
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is why I put it forward to everyone......... I needed this input, ideas, suggestions......... I still feel the idea is valid, however, maybe the venue isn't.......... Please keep your suggestions coming, as it makes easier to work out something............ Also, by the way I REALLY want it to include newbies, which is why it was a no play policy to start with and if it's a house etc, then the same thing applies............... I just realise that at some of the meet and greets / drinks night, people,have hotel rooms for a bit of fun after and so I was thinking about incorporating it all together, however without pressure!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Swingers clubs are licensed as sex on premises establishments. They have council approval. I know someone who went to a gang bang that was raided and and all the attendees were arrested. The organizer had to prove that he was only collectig money to cover his costs. I think it can be a grey area? But yeah it am sure you are right that it is unlikely an issue in NSW. I believe QLD as much stricter rules. that's rough...and a little embarrassing I imagine! I see what you mean though.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You may be the " expert " on swinging clubs and in the know on what goes on but that doesn't mean your way is the only way ? You are right about one thing... pairing with someone you don't like is asking for trouble, but doesn't that go without saying ? But pairing with someone you like who is actually happy to have someone to accompany them ' what's wrong with that ? You immediately pushed your own misguided thoughts by taring every man with the same brush. Not every man is a sex maniac and expects sex from someone who just done them a favour ? I certainly wouldn't , I for one don't look at every woman as a potential bedmate.. If 2 mature adults agree to attend a function together , that doesn't automatically make them sinister in some way as you may presume. Meeka' contrary to your belief' I'm quite comfortable with most women I meet and don't have any problems at all... It's only the few here who can't seem to get over them self' ..
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RHP User
10 years ago
You gals are experts when it comes to reading sub text right??? So imagine what that could mean for a newbie:- A house with 12 bedrooms. About 20 odd people that have been matched or paired etc. Yep.... Noooooo pressure ;) Just saying - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Settle pettle, not saying you specifically or all guys, but I have been in this scenario before with older men and it didn't not turn out well. Think about it. What if 50 guys turn up and only 20 Women? Pairing people up and then saying to the other 30 blokes, sorry you have to go home now that the clothes are going to come off.... You have to agree that is just asking for trouble and it will upset people. And I am 99.9% certain that if a single woman newbie wants to attend she will probably think twice about it if she knows she will be paired up with a stranger. Sorry, I can't help if you don't like my point of view but I still believe it is not a good idea. So JayMe you will need to go find your own friend and go yourself. Why haven't you already if you are keen?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Although I will point out, that when using the premises, it would be just that, with no play occurring......... When the premises then opens their doors, of course that then changes........ There is also a pub just across the road that could/would have everyone there for the actual meet and greet, looks like that is a better option.......... It was a thought
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RHP User
10 years ago
Please forgive the subtext and the demeanour with which that it's written. I don't mean to spoil a great idea but I just it to be pertinent point to be aware of. It's different for those who have attended meet and greets before; or have established a level of comfort within these forums. But the picture it paints when all the words of advertising say social....but the environment that then is being presented says a whole different thing; and I'm sure you'd agree that that would have a negative appeal to the newbies. But..... It's your party and my views really should have little to no influence when it's your decision. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I stated in the beginning that there were issues and I couldn't quite work out how it would go..... I also asked for opinions, yours were valid so no need to apologise
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your're it!! Just organise another M&G, a final one for the year, maybe November?
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uneventful
10 years ago
Apart from every bedroom door having a lock on it. No still keens no... and a house is no different to individual motel rooms. after all .... we are all adults.!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
To be honest ' it doesn't even cross my mind that often so it's not really a priority.. it's a curiosity thing more than anything... If lightening strikes and curiosity gets the better of me , then I will find someone who is happy to venture together... As far as the 50 males to 20 females goes, you would never find me among that 50... Seems to me that's like a pack of k canines following a b---h on heat... And No, I'm not calling anyone a biatch ... just using it to make a point...
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RHP User
10 years ago
You were all keen for it at the beginning JayMe.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meeka I said I always wanted to go to a swingers club and that still stands... but ' it's not that high on my list of priorities.. Stop trying to twist things... It's not a good look.
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6exxy
10 years ago
I've never been to a swingers club because I'm not a swinger. I'm not against the idea and I actually have some friends that are swingers. Love the idea of the Meet & Greet but the three that I have attended the best was at Devilles. I'm not suggesting that you should organise Devilles but it had more happening with music,dancing plus additional people who are simply out having fun. This is more of a couples site and RHP cater for that. Bigmamma1 I hope you can find a solution as it would be great to have more Meet & Greet socials! I'm up for it!
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Screening of all concerned has to be done, you've seen firsthand what can happen when undesirables are politely asked not to attend. Thankfully the club is open to the idea of having an event there pre-coitus. Asking single gents to depart once it's open to the public sounds tricky to me. Again the filtering process has to be stringent. Sorry single guys not all of you are bad news by any stretch and no one is saying that but it only takes one freak to fck up a great night out for everyone else. Screening sounds extreme but honestly.....it works and you still mert and make new friends who wouldn't otherwise attend this kind of meet and greet because of being worried about the clique, warm and welcoming though we are.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes to the screening, just really want to know how you do that ????????................. I was at the club in question last night and thought of coloured wrist bands (which is used by another 'social' group).........Red = couples! Orange = single woman who are curious and Blue = single men....... Then at any time during the meet and greet if somebody wants to hook up they can pay the additional fee and change the band colours accordingly........... Any pressure from the single guy and they are nicely asked to leave........... Have to admit, it sounds promising.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Screening is easy, go with your gut and then there's the ones who screen themselves out by being rude and sleazy. Private messaging and contact will help with this. I paid up so I could message 20/day but maybe the Mods could help you? Talk to JJ I think she got some help with this for January's M&G. The best thing is how people will travel from around the country if they can to meet and catch up with others. You'll rock it social butterfly that you are! xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
We're having a meet and greet and Devilles tonight. Will let you know how it goes...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why are you so hostile when someone asks a question? You are quite a funny little thing, aren't you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
No , not really petal. alas ' you can't handle the comebacks...
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Since I like you both you may continue your spat elsewhere children 👍
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RHP User
10 years ago
Indy, I wont tell you what I really think of that comment. Good luck with it BigMamma, if you get round to it let us know how it all turns out.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I know I'm your favourite but... C'mere and pucker up... hehe....
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I don't post much anymore and I think BM needs constructive assistance from people in the know, like yourself; not to have interested parties deterred by this thread deteriorating into a nit pick. Jay_Me I have no favourites just people I genuinely like.....cuddles accepted but puhlease.....no tongue......err hang on!!! 😍
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Actually it's not OK It's really disappointing that it has turned into a not pick. It's gone too far...especially when it is mentioned else where in several forums. This is Big Mumma's forum and she's wanting advice, not a all in one match. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Actually Foxxy has reminded me that women also get all worked up when people don't act as expected. I remember the last meet and greet night I attended that ended up at a swingers club there was this woman that made quite a scene because a paired off couple didn't stay together. She tried to make things uncomfortable for everybody there because she didn't understand the dynamics in a club. These scenes are amusing except for the people involved I guess. BigMamma, the nights I have arranged M&G like this I have actually put a big "what to expect" list together for people, as well as what is acceptable behaviour for both men and women. That puts lots of people at ease as well and I find women newbies feel more comfortable if they think is will be a very organised event. Having an event in a house is a good idea, but make sure you have a few burly boys you know and trust just in case there is trouble. I feel that newbies can cause problems sometimes because they just don't get it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry just had to say this because it gave me a giggle. Did you ever watch that Nanny show with Jo Frost who made the naughty corner concept famous. I am picturing you there all flustered saying "This is not ascceptable (she always misprounced the word) Too funny!
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
that's funny as! made me giggles too! Foxy
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SoSoPretty
10 years ago
I kind of liked the idea of having it at a club or bar.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
It was BRILLIANT!! And yes made me a hell of a lot more comfy going to CC's. That's an awesome suggestion for BigMumma Meeka. xx
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
The after math of this person who was gossiped about afterwards was rather cruel and uncalled for. I actually felt sorry for them, because people thought they didn't know the rules or how they went, when in-fact they did. It was a trigger of events prior, during and after the event that had upset them. Others that attended didn't know "exactly" what happen and only saw them upset at the event, so they assumed the worst. It was only those who saw them upset were the ones who talked about them afterwards. Such a shame when that happens at events. Lucky they are OK and had great supportive friends around them. :) I guess these are consequences that happens when attending events. My understanding is, "what happens at an event, stays at an event". I hope this event goes really well Big Mumma. :)) Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quote: Jay_Me I have no favourites just people I genuinely like.....cuddles accepted but puhlease.....no tongue......err hang on!!! 😍 Cmon Indy' that was tongue in the cheek ' not in ear... Anyway' you'd probably run at the sight of my tongue ' my mum was half Maori and I inherited the tongue part ? hehe.. Its good for poking out too cheers Jay..
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think a private party would be the best way to go about it. Thursday and Sunday nights at Couple's Club, and Sundays for OSS aren't the most convenient times for a big night of socializing and playing, plus like people have mentioned it's going to be hard to tell single guys to hit the road. If you did hold the part on a Friday or Saturday other couples who aren't part of the social might get annoyed there are single guys around. Would it be better to hold the social one weekend and the play party the next? People at socials will meet up afterwards at their own discretion, and it puts less pressure on people to forgo socializing over playing. I like the wrist band idea, but give everyone a red one that lets people know "No sex right now, I'm socializing/warming up/spent"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Having a meet and greet in a swingers club is an interesting proposition, would give the newbies an insight into what its like inside. However, there would be complications to nut out that everyone have mentioned previously. I'm all for another meet and greet, a list of expectations is a great idea... a house with numerous bedrooms does give a certain impression for a meet and greet though and as we all know people intepret things very uniquely sometimes, for the worse alas.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Foxxy, not too sure what you are talking about but you can see my point. You only have to see the conversations on RHP about swingers clubs and how everyone feels differently about what should happen. For example, some couples think no single people should be there at all. As an organiser you have to manage everyone's expectations and it can be really difficult. I understand CuckleShells comment that we are all adults but you know, when you get say 40 people turning up to a "potential" sex party event not everyone is going to be on the same page. Yep, most people can go with the flow even if things are not what they expect but there are always one or two people who cause a bit of fuss because things are not going the way they want. That is my experience of going to clubs and parties.... by all means I am no expert but I understand as an organiser that you feel responsible and you have to think about all the angles. At the end of the day you are not going to be able to keep everyone happy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry Cuckle_Shells........ wrong feet! It was uneventful that said we are all adults.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'SoSoPretty' I kind of liked the idea of having it at a club or bar. The meet you have been following is interstate. We do have meet & greets here in Sydney town usually every 3 or 4 months - just keep an eye out in the events pages for the next upcoming m&g if you want to see who the local people are. (Next one not running yet). Sometimes we manage to attract a few interestaters to come along as well. Tall
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Bubbaj
10 years ago
ill be door woman! a few checks of IDs, a quick run down of what is expected and not expected, and ill put the pretty bracelets on them :D i also heard somewhere that its not illegal to have it at a house and charge if there is food being served?
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RHP User
10 years ago
You would always be welcome....... I think the idea to have it at the club is not going to work, mainly for the control factor when the club 'opens' and not having single guys. I didn't want to only do couples, as I really do have to many single friends that I love dearly...... I'm thinking of February for an m&g, so if anyone else wants to get one arranged for earlier, GO FOR IT :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I feel that newbies can cause problems sometimes because they just don't get it. As a newbie myself I find that comment a little insulting
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