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A "relationship" based soley on sexual ownership........

March 21 2015

What is your take on it? I am interested to know how you would view this. What is your perception of it? Is there a buzz word for it? Is it being collared or is it not? Is this a form of D/s? An exchange of power is at play.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It was called marriage 😘xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    To my understanding, that is exactly a D/s relationship. The BDSM side is paraphenalia, but the power play, control and sexual ownership is the D/s.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya79' It was called marriage 😘xxFreya I was told the sex stops after marriage so it can't be that!

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    Sexual ownership Fenced into a relationship, you would need to put a gate in it, for if you at some time, to let a guy or girl in or a couple swinging. It's all to be agreed by both partners. So say the milkman turns up and turns you on and it's a chemistry moment, you need to ring your partner and seek their permission. A mutual decision to open the gate and shut the gate when your done with him. Back to a mutual agreement to open it again. Unfenced in an relationship, either partner are free to do their own thing and don't need to tell their partner We fit the fenced relationship with a gate (manogamish) Mado Mado Tara xx

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    10 years ago

    as in one partner controls the others sexuality and dictates who they will fuck, when they will fuck, how many if any orgasms they are allowed. I would say it has some elements of D/s as it has a power exchange but the "based solely on sexual ownership" bit takes all emotion out of it to me so there would be no love. I would call it an ongoing FWB D/s relationship with very clear guidelines.

  • Newday10

    Newday10

    10 years ago

    100 % correct Freya !!! And why I'm not anymore didn't enjoy been owned

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    slavery...............

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    What is ownership? There is to much ambiguity in the word ownership. Nobody can own someone so it is of course a metaphor. But in that there is the ambiguity of what the metaphor represents. So OP what do you mean by ownership?

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    How could it be slavery if it is consensual. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'ralf74' Quoting 'Freya79' It was called marriage 😘xxFreya I was told the sex stops after marriage so it can't be that! ...then it stops

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    I am too thinking a D/s partnership with out the "emotion" aspect. Can it be done though. Is it really possible. .Is it too clinical. Can a person submit to an other and not get emotionally involved. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think it starts off that way with all good intentions but then...IT happens, the connection A film was made on this very subject called "A Pornographic Affair" - it a French film with English subtitles, excellent story and addresses some of the questions that you are asking

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Just wrote a big dissertation about submission being a gift you give, impossible without an emotional payoff somewhere for both parties. Short answer is no .... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    I just highlighted the A "relationship" based soley on sexual ownershipAnd these two encompass all possible kinds of relationships leaving nothing and nobody out regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. These two relationships are : • Fenced • Unfenced Simply put, fenced means a based on the concept of sexual ownership and unfenced means not based on the concept of sexual ownership. So, examples of fenced relationships include things like conventional boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife relationships. One night stand. Often understood to be the opposite of a relationship. A one night stand is a relationship. It is an unfenced relationship of a duration of one night. Now don’t get me wrong, unfenced relationships do not mean just mean short term or casual relationships like one night stands, fuck buddies or friends with benefits. An extremely common misconception is that whether a relationship is fenced or unfenced has anything at all to do with the level of the affinity, love or pair bonding that may go on in either kind of relationship.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    I just saw concept, so that idea might have been ripped off the D/s

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    fenced with a gate but he has the keys oh and usually leaves the gate unlocked, wide open and the guard dog chained up lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    it's not marriage that causes it.... It's that damned almond icing crap 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I thought that your topic was referring to a hooker and her client?? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think the buzz word you're looking for is monogamy ;-) Flirty x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Oh, tricky territory. We are emotional creatures - we get angry when someone cuts us off when driving, and doesn't wave thanks. We cry in sappy movies. We lust after something we want, etc etc, etccccc Technically there is a very small proportion of the population who don't feel things the way other people do. But I doubt you are talking about them. Sex, trust, are highly emotive. So unless the two people involved, are devoid of emotion generally, then I don't think it is even slightly possible to have any type connection without emotion.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    You control their sexual activity both physical and mental. They're submissive and want to please the pleaser. It was a general question and no need to read too much into "ownership"

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    Fence and Unfenced makes a lot of sence in a couple scenario. You are correct too in saying even a one night stand is a relationship if for only one night.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    ..... is that a form of sexual "ownership"? Just askin.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    Is it possible to be in a D/s FB relationship based purely on sex. The only contact you have is based around the end results of the next meet up. Two people meet - they do not want the conventional emotional relationship as they are happy in thier own single private lives. They seek to be dominated sexually - Is it possible for them to have a emotionally detached D/s "relationship" - Yes I mean sexual ownership as that is what it really is, in the sense that MissB has written. You can brush it up with all the pretty words tho it is a form of ownership. "Collared" maybe? Thanks for all your answers!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    My take on it: "Is it possible to be in a D/s FB relationship based purely on sex." Yes. Sex can form the basis of a connection "Is it possible for them to have a emotionally detached D/s "relationship"" No. Though, by emotion, I'm assuming you mean love? Debatable. But there will be emotions - the label of which could change or be manipulated (technicially speaking) . But, it would be emotionally charged; even if it is not love, in the traditional sense. Good luck, play safe.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    You might be thinking I must be leaving a lot out if I think there are only two. Ok, long term heterosexual relationships are the mainstream but what about short term relationships like casual flings? What about gay relationships? Lesbian relationships? Transgender relationships? What about relationships between married men and their mistresses? What about one night stands? What about BDSM? There are a million different kind of sexual relationships surely? No, there are only two. And these two encompass all possible kinds of relationships leaving nothing and nobody out regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. These two relationships are : • Fenced • Unfenced Simply put, fenced means a based on the concept of sexual ownership and unfenced means not based on the concept of sexual ownership. So, examples of fenced relationships include things like conventional boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife relationships. If you are thinking that by “unfenced” I must mean open relationships well I don’t really like the term open relationships and here is why. The opposite of open is closed. So therefore an example of a closed relationship would be a marriage.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    That's the first thought I had which run through my mind. Slavery sexually. I have read books and thought about D/s and it just is a feeling of slavery/ putdown for me. All my young life I had to see women being "less" then men.....it took women so long to get where they are now, and still some are treated like shit. We have more domestic violence then we can handle, on both sides, and I am a bit frightened , I know yu say it has nothing to do with that. Still for me it's a putdown, even it is a consensual one. I want the world of sex to be loving and beautiful.......I know that's my world I am living in and want.....I can't see your fascination with this type of sex play. I am not condemning it nor saying I am right, its just in my eyes and feelings so downright demeaning. So I will shut up and just read. Love L

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'inspirit' ..... is that a form of sexual "ownership"? Just askin. but I also think it is for the common good, not for the benefit of one. To me it is establishing a sexual relationship that is not ownership of either one's lives but with a common goal of sexual satisfaction, respect and you can lose the inhibitions of first time meetings, wearing condoms once it is known both are safe, can explore each other more in depth from sustaining a level of trust. To me that is not ownership but far more fun than the same old shit being served up time and time again with different people. I want to share the sexual part of me with someone I enjoy spending time with not own someone for that and if they felt owned then maybe it isn't the right relationship for them. I think all relationships be it family, friends, lovers or marriages should be about sharing, not owning.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    3 years ago

    That was a long time ago. I understand it now after being in the rabbit hole 😆