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About Bedroom Etiquette
June 20 2016
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
The question " are you cumming?" will instantly delay the arrival of that train. May even derail the thing entirely....... I think its bedroom etiquette to quietly announce the arrival of the train to each other. Knowing the exact arrival time of their train may enable a little more throttle on your own train to time the arrival at the same moment. That makes the station very chaotic with both trains emptying out on the platform simultaneously. ANY talk of taking too long can result in signal failure stranding the train well short of the platform. Nakes everyone grumpy of they need a shuttle service later to get to the destination.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Annie, love your imagery! ;-) Ok... So even if one train is running low on fuel, just keep chugging on and on and on... Hmm... Energiser Bunnies... No wonder the Playboy Mansion has bunnies! *hums... C'mon baby, do the locomotion! :-D
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madotara69
8 years ago
Cowgirl ? yeah that's not just a simple question, cowgirl just bounc'n up'n down, could drag on a bit, unless it's anal, doesn't matter what position with anal they are all awesome, but if the hips are rocking, really grinding away on the old feller... that's a sure thing for doing the trick, great way to fuck either of. Are you cumming ? Wanna be quick love, I don't understand how you could have your wits about to even ask, isn't it normal you'd be off with the fairies, in euphoric bliss, altered state and unable to speak properly, let alone ask a full sentence such as "are you cumming ?" Tara's asked me to finish myself off a few times, so it's ok as far as I'm concerned. It happens when in peak physical condition. Mado Mado Tara xx
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Mado, that's when I have already enjoyed the very well-described euphoric state, but have gamely soldiered on although I really just wanna roll over and rest, and just had to ask cause chugging on immediately post-orgasm is kinda like doing the Tough Mudder circuit. Hehe! So, it's ok to ask a man to finish himself off? It won't be offensive? :-D
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Are you cumming? 😳 Who cares!! 😈👻😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
At a man not orgasming or asking someone to give a hand. I ask myself before, during or after- is it fun, did I have fun? Orgasm doesn't nessisarily come into it. We are all able to exact out our pleasure (well, most). If you're done and he's keen, I'm sure he'll do his best to pursuade you into succumbing to his carnal desires. I wouldn't worry about pushing away your delirium for his perceived pleasure. There should be plenty in you being pleased. Collapse as you wish and ideally he will do something other than tap your face with his penis. 😬 Wakey wakey! 🐍 eeep! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I know I'm female... - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
8 years ago
Eg; When Tara asks me to finish myself off and watches, next thing you betcha, she's knocking off one herself. It's a win win type of thing.
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Single_Guy4U
8 years ago
Had to think about it a bit. Love cowgirl position, you can see her expression and pleasure, and play with her breasts. Up & down would bring me closer to orgasm, whereas rocking motion (In my experience), helps her to cum, so she is in control of the situation and in theory can vary the up and down and rocking motion so both cum at the same time (ideal world), no problem with her asking how I am doing but more important is how she is doing. If she cums and wants to collapse then I most likely will not finish myself, wait for next time and happy she is happy.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
To tell a joke after my train anology Rastus and Marylou were having a fuck beside the railway line. In the throes of passion they find themselves rolling on the train tracks. Marylou hears a train coming.... "Rastus! Rastus, there's a train a comin!" " Marylou. Marylou. Trains a comin. I'm a comin. Trains got brakes and l aint" Sorry OP. Back on topic......or perhaps i was
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RHP User
8 years ago
never ever ever ask or try to rush the destination, enjoy the journey, but the second you get clinical or ask directly, all over. I've only once had a guy hollering at me while pumping me if I was going to come. It instantly turned me off. Fortunately, that was our first encounter and we went on to bigger and better things, so all good, but thank God, he never asked that again, he didn't have to. If you have to ask IMHO there's something not quite right or you or he isn't feeling it, or one or the other wants to try to rush the other one, either way, it's doesn't work, instant turn off
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RHP User
8 years ago
interested to hear how guys feel about cowgirl though. I hate it. I need to be in a relaxed position to orgasm and if I did in that position, I'd be the same as you, I wouldn't be able to stay upright
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Andremmo
8 years ago
As Annie says asking that way is a sure fire mood kill. BUT you can phrase it as a statement which works much better. "i want your cum" or "cum in me baby" or any number of variants along those lines help bring the train in much faster. You shouldn't need to put up with friction burns once you're over it. Ask what position they find gets them off fastest and try that one. Or suggest a quick break to recharge your batteries. They shouldn't be pushing on once you've lost your mojo unless the station is already in sight. I have no problem stopping in between stations - for me it's more about the journey than the destination. As long as my passenger is happy then I'd rather stop and get a return trip than push on and have them catch a flight back home. Cowgirl for me is good for short bursts. I do love it when she really takes full control of her own enjoyment. And her look of absolute concentration is very sexy. However it's one of those positions where my balls can really get crunched so the element of impending doom detracts from the excitement somewhat for me. We've become really good at rolling over into new positions without having to get all the passengers out of the carriage so cowgirl still gets a regular workout but i don't see any stations while on my back. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would never ask a guy to finish himself. If a guy suggested that to me I would be quite upset, and I wouldnt be seeing him again. But if things are plodding along and you feel its taking too long, its possible that they can feel that you have lost interest in helping them with their pleasure, and they lose their mojo in the moment. You can give them some encouragement or mix it up a bit. After all, they helped you to get off, so its nice to give back. Team players and all. And getting a lover off, and seeing what you are doing to them, is so freakin' hot that you will want to cum again yourself!! Why tell them to finish themselves off if you can help them. Slide a finger in their arse and masage their prostrate. Bam!! Champagne showers lol. Or go down and have a nibble. Change positions. Or a nice oily hand job sends them wild. Especially if you tell them you want them to cum on your boobs. Be in the moment with them and you wont get to the point of waiting for them to finish because its too looooong.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Q.1+2 - Yes cowgirl is a position that I can come in, and yes up-down motion will usually produce more stimulation than just grinding. Every situation (even with the same person) is different though, PP, so nothing's guaranteed one way or another. I find that a good win-win is when she's come (a few times ideally) and is getting tired/wobbly, she rocks forwards onto all fours with me underneath, and I can make as much friction as I like thrusting up into her. (Works well with DP too incidentally) It's also a chance to whisper extra naughty things in her ear, or bite her neck (lightly ... perhaps) while getting vigorous. Q.2 - any attentive lover should have no problem giving you your space to enjoy your bliss (if that's what you need). I gather it doesn't signal an end to your participation(?) Sex has ebbs and flows doesn't it? It's not all one speed. Q.3 - I don't personally think 'are you cumming' is a question anyone should ask. If it's not obvious, then just let things take their course until it starts to feel boring and stop. I am guilty of asking later - like hours later in a different setting 'So, did you cum? I wasn't sure, and want to make sure you enjoyed yourself fully' Q.4 - I don't think either party should 'just keep going' when it's becoming unpleasant (however you define that). There are plenty of times I've had an awesome night of mind-blowing sex and didn't orgasm, or wasn't quite getting there for some reason ... and if I know my partner is keen on that 'payoff', I definitely take matters into my own hands, but don't require that in order to say I've had great sex.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm confused by the need to have to ask him to get himself off? I get off getting him off, and in turn, that gets him off. Nothing turns a guy on more than knowing how much you're gaggin for his cock Sounds to me like you're not really into what you're doing, sorry, I can't imagine why you would ever need to do that?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Any position in anal will finish a guy off quickly. 😎...so Ive heard
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Are you cumming? 😳 Who cares!! 😈👻😂 Seriously, I thought the man should be proud to bring you to orgasm and allow you a little bit of recovery time before round 2. :P Good one, On Safari! :D
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RHP User
8 years ago
Re: Cowgirl. Cowgirl is great for allowing the lady to do it just right for her. Which in turn is exciting for the ridden. Plus it is great for tit action. Nipples hanging down, brushing across the face is hot as, and when sitting high in the saddle, the view is awesome. Re: Rag doll. It is very satisfying to see your partner so spent. It shows that they had a rip snorter of a climax. It is not rude or selfish to need a rest...it is rude and selfish to be denied it. Patience. It is not the end...just "DING DING"...end of round one. 👍 Re: Ejaculation. If you think I'm coming, then you are wrong. You will know for certain when it happens. Re: Delayed ejaculation. Do not soldier on. Call a halt before you get sore, so that you can continue later. Personally, I do take a long time, mainly because I am enjoying it so much that I don't want to stop. But I would much rather have lots of shorter sessions, over a day or 2, before I cum, rather than one session that causes an "Out of service" tag to get hung. Extras: Good analogy Annie. And yes, some communication when getting close helps the other party.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
... of something called Delayed Ejaculation. It's a medical condition and it can be very exasperating for both. It can even cause a woman to doubt herself and a man to lose his esteem. It's a situation where the couple has to communicate and acknowledge that realistically, the man might have to take things into his own hands, and both not feel bad about it. Quoting 'Willow_1' I would never ask a guy to finish himself. If a guy suggested that to me I would be quite upset, and I wouldnt be seeing him again. But if things are plodding along and you feel its taking too long, its possible that they can feel that you have lost interest in helping them with their pleasure, and they lose their mojo in the moment. You can give them some encouragement or mix it up a bit. After all, they helped you to get off, so its nice to give back. Team players and all. And getting a lover off, and seeing what you are doing to them, is so freakin' hot that you will want to cum again yourself!! Why tell them to finish themselves off if you can help them. Slide a finger in their arse and masage their prostrate. Bam!! Champagne showers lol. Or go down and have a nibble. Change positions. Or a nice oily hand job sends them wild. Especially if you tell them you want them to cum on your boobs. Be in the moment with them and you wont get to the point of waiting for them to finish because its too looooong.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'Longest_dream' At a man not orgasming or asking someone to give a hand. I ask myself before, during or after- is it fun, did I have fun? Orgasm doesn't nessisarily come into it. We are all able to exact out our pleasure (well, most). If you're done and he's keen, I'm sure he'll do his best to pursuade you into succumbing to his carnal desires. I wouldn't worry about pushing away your delirium for his perceived pleasure. There should be plenty in you being pleased. Collapse as you wish and ideally he will do something other than tap your face with his penis. 😬 Wakey wakey! 🐍 eeep! - Posted from rhpmobile Phew! Thanks so much! Now I feel "normal" for needing to rest immediately after an orgasm! :D No more guilt! :D
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'Andremmo' As Annie says asking that way is a sure fire mood kill. BUT you can phrase it as a statement which works much better. "i want your cum" or "cum in me baby" or any number of variants along those lines help bring the train in much faster. You shouldn't need to put up with friction burns once you're over it. Ask what position they find gets them off fastest and try that one. Or suggest a quick break to recharge your batteries. They shouldn't be pushing on once you've lost your mojo unless the station is already in sight. I have no problem stopping in between stations - for me it's more about the journey than the destination. As long as my passenger is happy then I'd rather stop and get a return trip than push on and have them catch a flight back home. Cowgirl for me is good for short bursts. I do love it when she really takes full control of her own enjoyment. And her look of absolute concentration is very sexy. However it's one of those positions where my balls can really get crunched so the element of impending doom detracts from the excitement somewhat for me. We've become really good at rolling over into new positions without having to get all the passengers out of the carriage so cowgirl still gets a regular workout but i don't see any stations while on my back. - Posted from rhpmobile Thanks for your pointers! ;) Taking notes! I think there are only two situations when I couldn't resist but ask that awful question : i) when it's been going on way too long and I'm dying for a break or my jaw is hurting so bad or friction burn is ruining the fun; OR ii) when the guy is poker-faced, expressionless and doesn't utter a squeak the entire time and it makes you wonder...
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting '2GuysWithRespect' Q.1+2 - Yes cowgirl is a position that I can come in, and yes up-down motion will usually produce more stimulation than just grinding. Every situation (even with the same person) is different though, PP, so nothing's guaranteed one way or another. I find that a good win-win is when she's come (a few times ideally) and is getting tired/wobbly, she rocks forwards onto all fours with me underneath, and I can make as much friction as I like thrusting up into her. (Works well with DP too incidentally) It's also a chance to whisper extra naughty things in her ear, or bite her neck (lightly ... perhaps) while getting vigorous. Q.2 - any attentive lover should have no problem giving you your space to enjoy your bliss (if that's what you need). I gather it doesn't signal an end to your participation(?) Sex has ebbs and flows doesn't it? It's not all one speed. Q.3 - I don't personally think 'are you cumming' is a question anyone should ask. If it's not obvious, then just let things take their course until it starts to feel boring and stop. I am guilty of asking later - like hours later in a different setting 'So, did you cum? I wasn't sure, and want to make sure you enjoyed yourself fully' Q.4 - I don't think either party should 'just keep going' when it's becoming unpleasant (however you define that). There are plenty of times I've had an awesome night of mind-blowing sex and didn't orgasm, or wasn't quite getting there for some reason ... and if I know my partner is keen on that 'payoff', I definitely take matters into my own hands, but don't require that in order to say I've had great sex. Love your detailed answers, 2GuyswithRespect! Some men, even after I've announced that I'm seeing stars, which I literally do, and I roll over to rest all breathless with tiny beads of sweat on my forehead, and they still prod me like prodding a dead cat. Made me wonder if my post-orgasm ragdoll flop and seeing stars as if my brain has short-circuited is abnormal. Great to know it's a-ok! Systems functional! :D
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RHP User
8 years ago
As far as I know, I havent been intimate with anyone one who has had delayed ejaculation. although Ive had a few who had too much to drink and thats the best way to delay ejaculation!! (Or,"I hate wearing a rubber because it desensitises my cock") So if its something the man has told you he had, I personally would be more understanding and appriciate that he had shared that infomation with me. And more inclined to help in some form. Unless he told me that he wanted to finish himself. But then I wouldnt have to tell him, if that was already agreed on. Sorry if its not the same as your opinion PP, but thats the forums hey? Same as sex, we allenjoy it differently.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I'm confused by the need to have to ask him to get himself off? I get off getting him off, and in turn, that gets him off. Nothing turns a guy on more than knowing how much you're gaggin for his cock Sounds to me like you're not really into what you're doing, sorry, I can't imagine why you would ever need to do that? I see a brag followed by an insult and how is that constructively answering my questions? Everyone here knows you are an aficionado in all things sex but let's tone down the pomposity. No need to deal blows to someone who is trying to learn from the collective experience of everyone in here. Play nice.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' As far as I know, I havent been intimate with anyone one who has had delayed ejaculation. although Ive had a few who had too much to drink and thats the best way to delay ejaculation!! (Or,"I hate wearing a rubber because it desensitises my cock") So if its something the man has told you he had, I personally would be more understanding and appriciate that he had shared that infomation with me. And more inclined to help in some form. Unless he told me that he wanted to finish himself. But then I wouldnt have to tell him, if that was already agreed on. Sorry if its not the same as your opinion PP, but thats the forums hey? Same as sex, we allenjoy it differently. Never took offence or anything. Thanks for your participation. ;) It just made me think of my involvement with someone in my past with a serious case of DE and it was so tough, it actually reduced me to tears a few times especially since he wouldn't open up and discuss it with me. I had never encountered that issue before as well and thought I wasn't sexy enough. Antidepressants, too much porn with intense visual stimulation which then impedes the man's ability to reach a peak in sexual arousal with their real-life sex partner, emotional issues like depression, anxiety, guilt, shame, etc can all impede ejaculation. Viagra can also cause that side effect. DE is a very real issue and as life gets more stressful, as our sex partner(s) age, it can happen and it will have nothing to do with how skilful a woman is in bed or not so for those who have made comments with a streak of meanness about this, it's time to shed your ignorance and be aware of this issue so that if your girlfriend(s) should confide in you about an issue like that, your reaction won't be smirking nor ridicule but rather, you can help provide an informed awareness of the issue and be of help.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I'm confused by the need to have to ask him to get himself off? I get off getting him off, and in turn, that gets him off. Nothing turns a guy on more than knowing how much you're gaggin for his cock Sounds to me like you're not really into what you're doing, sorry, I can't imagine why you would ever need to do that? I see a brag followed by an insult and how is that constructively answering my questions? Everyone here knows you are an aficionado in all things sex but let's tone down the pomposity. No need to deal blows to someone who is trying to learn from the collective experience of everyone in here. Play nice. due respect peony but I'm 52 years old and in all that time, have never had to ask a guy to finish himself off, so you can also keep your defensive comments to yourself, rather than take that out on me. You asked the question, I gave my answer. It wasn't a brag, it was a fact. Getting a guy off shouldn't be a chore or 'too hard', do the rest yourself kind of thing huh?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dont think Touch needs defending, because she's a big girl with a big set of kahoonas. But you really need to tone down your own "pomposity", of which you acuse Touch of having. Your descriptive wording of your topic sounded like once you had cum, all the rest was a chore and you were over it. Bored and waiting for it to end. So touch could only reply, as well as myself,with what info you had given us. So no need for your rudeness towards how touch posts or how she fucks, eats, scratches or passes wind. She keeps it real. Not my type of real, but she lays it on the table and sticks up for the underdog on here. Which generally is when a woman bags out a males sexual prowess on here. Sorry Touch that Im speaking about you in the third person. But I replied with my opinion pretty much the same as yours, so I dont know why PP chose to call you out so rudely.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I didnt see your reply to me. So it wasnt just Touch you were rude too. So you say my reaction was smirking and ridiculing because I believe my lover/partners sexual experience is as important as my own ,to me, to us? Right ok. Yep youre just too experienced and you are so much more in tune with what a male wants and needs. So I will bow out and sit back and listen to your words of wisdom. And learn from an expert. 😝
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PurePeony
8 years ago
... up till that point, you weren't insulting. There is a difference between voicing different opinions and being insulting. And I don't think it's necessary to respond to questions with insinuations / sarcasm / insults. What you see as my pomposity, I see it as asserting my belief that it is not acceptable to respond in a certain manner to my genuine questions. As you have said, the forums is open to different opinions. If you interpret my questions as bagging out on the guys from my past whilst my real intention is to bring out these pressing questions deep within myself that I've kept secret for years so that perhaps I can learn from some of you here and correct some misconceptions, then we are really coming from different angles and we will hardly see eye to eye on most issues so it's best to live and let live. I'm more interested in hearing from the guys re. my questions and taking notes than participating in mindless catfights.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' I didnt see your reply to me. So it wasnt just Touch you were rude too. So you say my reaction was smirking and ridiculing because I believe my lover/partners sexual experience is as important as my own ,to me, to us? Right ok. Yep youre just too experienced and you are so much more in tune with what a male wants and needs. So I will bow out and sit back and listen to your words of wisdom. And learn from an expert. 😝 ... referring to I touch and her sarcastic remarks and insults. Not referring to you. Apologies I shouldn't have made the comment in a reply to you because that has created a misunderstanding. Sheesh! Enough with the cattiness already!
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PurePeony
8 years ago
... Back to the original questions ...
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Thanks for answering! Learning much! ;-) I should've asked these questions a long time ago!
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RHP User
8 years ago
bowing out too. Thanks Willow, but trust me, my kahoona's are nothing to brag about
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RHP User
8 years ago
Lol you're not eating at the table unless you're being eaten ON the table.... I find it challenging to orgasm sometimes, but to me, if you need a break then have one. I still have fun with the person I'm with, with or without orgasm of my own, providing that my partner is satisfied. If she's not, then I'd find that a bit emasculating to be honest. But....I'd use that to learn more about her needs and what works for her..... Btw, cowgirl is nice....so is reverse cowgirl as it changes the angle and the stimulation for both parties 😍😍😍😍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are you able to come to orgasm easily with the Cowgirl position? No, I perhaps have DE issues, which is somewhat of a blessing when bareback, but with a condom, I struggle to find positions that get me to orgasm. And if I'm tired, forget it, especially in the evening perhaps after work. Much more capable in the morning after a rest. Is the Up-Down movement more conducive than the rocking motion for you to cum during the Cowgirl? (Ow... the burn in the thigh muscles! :P ) Sex is exercise, think of the calories :) From my bareback expoeriences in a relationship, yes, up/down is better. Or, do you lie back and wait till the lady achieves her pleasure and then you change positions because the Cowgirl kinda doesn't do it for you? I'm happy enough with the one bigger orgasm. So if I can make the lady climax several times in the meantime in various ways, I'm happy. Thats's also the sub in me :) - Typically, once I get my orgasm, my muscles kinda go weak and I just want to flop over and recuperate for a while to let the blinding lights at the back of my eyes cease, catch my breath and enjoy the wave upon wave of orgasms that might still be occuring. The man can continue to help himself but I'm as floppy as a ragdoll for the moment. :P I've often wondered if that little rest period post-orgasm is considered rude or selfish? Never selfish. As long as I get to cuddle or caress you while we are resting, or other light play. - With some guys, you definitely know when they are going to cum or are close to it. But there are others who are kinda expressionless and silent. Is it then considered rude to ask point-blank, "Are you cumming?" :P You will know. But to your point, occasionally an orgasm sneaks up quicker than you (the man) would think when the right stimulation is applied. So it's not always an even, slow build up when he knows exactly when he is about to get there. But he will have time to tell you if he's close. - If you are dealing with someone with ? Delayed Ejaculation and it's taking a helluva loooooooong time to get to the destination, is it ok to meekly request if they could finish the job themselves and take things into their own hands (pun alert!) or is it more polite to just put up with the friction burn? See my first answer. If it's taking a long time, sometimes tiredness will become more of a factor than arousal. So when you've had enough of your own orgasms, feel free to use your hands/mouth on me and/or let me finish on you/me/us. Not only is it a turn on, but more reliable because of the extra sensitivity of taking the condom off.
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Seachange
8 years ago
I know you only wanted to hear from the men but am going to throw my 2c worth in the ring. Lol. No point to ask if they are cumming. I think that can kill the mood, like what most people said above, because it may look like the objective of the night is to cum and then go, rather than actually enjoying the joys of the sexual act together. Regardless whether it results to one or both achieving orgasms. communication outside the bedroom should extend in the bedroom as well. So if I cum, I he would definitely know. I normally have multiple orgasms anyway, not just the once and that works well with men with DE. Most of the time. I like to switch it up, try different positions to make it less boring. Cowgirl is just one and I think it can be very sexual and intimate as you get to ride the man to pleasure yourself, while he watches and you both make eye contact. If the guy is the quiet type, as you mentioned, I would talk dirty to him and ask him to tell me what feels good. One cub I met a few weeks ago, he was the silent type, and I think to some degree, he was slightly overwhelmed and just wanted to watch. I asked him to talk to me to tell me how he wants it. He did try but still very silent, no sound. So I pushed him onto the bed, rode him like a banshee on heat and just to get something out of him, I gave him a good slap. (not always recommended people. only for special circumstances ) Lol. That sure woke him up and got him going!!! I think I let the genie out of the bottle. So we just need to experiment and go with the flow. Resting is ok, chat, joke around and play 'touch'. I am with Willow, wrt helping him out, after I have cum... There are so many ways to get a 'rest' after cumming and pleasure a man without resorting to penetration. We have hands, toys, lube, lips, mouth, tongue, etc. Be creative and have fun with it. He will appreciate it. Well, he has helped you cum, it is just right to give back the favor.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Q.1Cowgirl works well for both of us however i do not ejaculate as much as i do in other positions, seems to be a pressure thing. Q.2Not rude to relax a little i just hope you don't mind me continuing Q.3It's not rude to ask but maybe ask in a sexy voice? I'm quite vocal so you would know. Q.4Don't have delayed ejaculation until it's round 3 onwards pending excitement levels and the situation and lube is always handy for both, but only if everyone is still in the mood. No point in greasing the love tunnel if she isn't really interested!
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RHP User
8 years ago
It is hard to tell sometimes with men if they have come or not. Some are very quiet rooters. I agree, I have been with men who don't always easily come due to their life experiences, or a medical condition to a person not often coming in group situations. It's not that unusual and doesn't mean someone is not into you at all. Mean thing to say really.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I always need to rest, I can take more but I don't love to go straight back into sex. Enjoy it, love it, own it! 😄 xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As I usually like my lady riding me in the cowgirl position , I'm very content to lay back and watch her work herself to orgasm, so I kinda like it when the lady flops and goes all limp. Then I take the opportunity to flip her over and take advantage of her in this complete relaxed state. Usually she will lay dormant until something clicks and she starts to get in the rhythm. Then we fuck in unison. No , if I'm taking some time to reach orgasm , don't say anything. It's a complete put off. As someone already said, it adds a pressure and that's something we can do without.
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol so you orgasm and then it's over? Haha omg I'm actually quite amused by this conversion and you as well Candy. All you ladies just stop right there. God, I don't really know what to say to that. I'm absolutely aghast. 2 people will rarely orgasm together. What if he came and then just stopped ahaha In fact I think there are whole threads dedicated to that. I suspect there are women who don't orgasm at all and would think that's when they get bored and want to give it up. I used to be like that so um I'll just grab some popcorn now I think. Oh and ladies, why stop at one 😉😜
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PurePeony
8 years ago
... to learn from all of you that : - a man doesn't need to cum to enjoy the sex session; - if a man doesn't cum, it isn't because I'm not sexy enough or good enough and it could simply be due to fatigue / stress, etc - NEVER ask, "Are you cummin?" to men who aren't expressive and to stop myself from saying that, maybe I should go stuff something long and hard in my mouth instead! ROTFLMAO!!! :D Loving the tips and answers! Hey lili, you are one hot mama and thanks for your post. I didn't mean to exclude ladies but I simply wanted objective pointers and not have to deal with subjective, insensitive remarks. My bad. Thanks to everyone for answering! I do seek to improve so learning from the experts is the best way to go, eh? ;)
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'amos444' As I usually like my lady riding me in the cowgirl position , I'm very content to lay back and watch her work herself to orgasm, so I kinda like it when the lady flops and goes all limp. Then I take the opportunity to flip her over and take advantage of her in this complete relaxed state. Usually she will lay dormant until something clicks and she starts to get in the rhythm. Then we fuck in unison. No , if I'm taking some time to reach orgasm , don't say anything. It's a complete put off. As someone already said, it adds a pressure and that's something we can do without. Top marks from the Rodeo!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Keep it spontaneous.Observe how your partner is reacting.Try to know your partner as well as you know yourself.Take pleasure in intimately pleasing another.Throw away any script you might have had.Have fun. If all else fails, there's a book out called...''Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say Fuck'' by Amy Alkon Keep it on the nightstand.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Yes, they are very rare but I've experienced it. Less than five times in my life thus far. When it happens, it is spectacular! Both collapsing in a heap in sheer bliss! Mission more than accomplished! Cum to think of it, twice when I enjoyed simultaneous orgasms, it was when I was doing the Cowgirl. Love the white flashes of light that I see when I get the multiples! Maybe the neurons in the brain are firing up and short-circuiting for that moment! Hehe! Only twice, methinks, have I experienced orgasms so powerful that the muscle spasms are more aptly described as flutters. That was a mythical sensation and would probably look like a 9-10 on the seismic scale! Haven't experienced those elusive flutters for a very, very long time! The flip side is, I occasionally get massive cramps post multiple orgasms. Thankfully that is a super rare occurence. Back to the Cowgirl! There's nothing to spur me on with a fresh spurt of anaerobic exertion no matter how exhausted and spent I am, than a good smack in the butt! That's like revving up the engine! Listen to the purr! Now, to find that partner in crime!
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RHP User
8 years ago
You know exactly where I was cumming from ? didn't ya .. eeehaa. lol. 👍👍👍...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your comments say to me that you haven't had much experience with a wide group of men. There are lots of reasons why things are different for some people. Btw, just because a man comes.... Doesn't actually mean he is into you necessarily. We all know that. Well, the wise ones. ;-)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I said some men may find it difficult to come due to a life experiences (usually not good ones) or medical condition and you find that funny? Where is you empathy TMI??????
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Yup! Leather straps and feather whips are welcome at the Rodeo! But please leave your spurs at home! LOL! :-P Ladies, please register for the special category, Cowgirl riding Bull! :-D
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inspirit
8 years ago
"Cum for me" I do love watching a guy cum too. As for cowgirl and reverse... Yes please. As for me thinking I can get every guy to cum.. I'M just not that naive. Orgasms...sometimes yes and sometimes no. Multiple mini ones... always. Im just happy to be sexually mature. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' lol so you orgasm and then it's over? Haha omg I'm actually quite amused by this conversion and you as well Candy. All you ladies just stop right there. God, I don't really know what to say to that. I'm absolutely aghast. 2 people will rarely orgasm together. What if he came and then just stopped ahaha In fact I think there are whole threads dedicated to that. I suspect there are women who don't orgasm at all and would think that's when they get bored and want to give it up. I used to be like that so um I'll just grab some popcorn now I think. Oh and ladies, why stop at one 😉😜 I'm with Longest on this one, when he and I have both come I'm quite happy to just have some pillow talk or go to sleep as I'm so relaxed. You may feel amused and aghast at that at the same time (impressive feat), but no need to diss others once again for not having sex the way you do.How would you like it if I insinuated that two people coming at the same time isn't that rare, and maybe you are doing something wrong? Maybe be a bit more accepting? nice to see you put your slant on my comment, not what I said at all. Peony said the guy hadn't come, she had orgasmed and needed to rest. You say when he and I have both come, yes, so what's your point? Nothing to do with what I was talking about. Of course we all hang and rest in between rounds, but stopping when one orgasms? I'm confused by your comment
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Seachange
8 years ago
Why would you think that the ladies in the forum are incapable of providing objective comments? Don't see why we are no better than men because our comments are insensitive and subjective? you lost me there. 😕 the thing is that all comments are subjective, opinions tinged by the posters experiences and background. Just like yours and mine. Regardless of gender. Maybe I am missing something. :$
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I'm confused by the need to have to ask him to get himself off? I get off getting him off, and in turn, that gets him off. Nothing turns a guy on more than knowing how much you're gaggin for his cock Sounds to me like you're not really into what you're doing, sorry, I can't imagine why you would ever need to do that? I_touch_myself2, Have to say I love your style and graphic example and certainly got a reaction here as that would be a very enjoyable experience.Mutual oral and the taste and sharing each others cum with each other makes things hot back up very quickly.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
lily, like I tried to explain before, it was my bad. I was reacting to unwelcome catty comments and unfortunately made the mistake of tarnishing everyone with the same brush. I should have phrased my comment better. I've learnt much from you and a few other ladies in this thread. Please let it rest already - you've brought it up twice. That statement was made in the heat of the moment, not meant to insult any smart ladies here.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Lika_fine_wine' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I'm confused by the need to have to ask him to get himself off? I get off getting him off, and in turn, that gets him off. Nothing turns a guy on more than knowing how much you're gaggin for his cock Sounds to me like you're not really into what you're doing, sorry, I can't imagine why you would ever need to do that? I_touch_myself2, Have to say I love your style and graphic example and certainly got a reaction here as that would be a very enjoyable experience.Mutual oral and the taste and sharing each others cum with each other makes things hot back up very quickly. yeah thanks, does it for me, big time, I could do this all day, no chance of me getting bored
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inspirit
8 years ago
You just cant fix the unfixable. They're just too self absorbed. 🙊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
8 years ago
Thats gotta be it ey. 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
What like not orgasming? And not having sex the way I do? So if a guy started this same topic, saying he just wants to rest after he comes, lay back and 'own it' hahaha yes summer, whatever you say
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Seachange
8 years ago
What are you talking about?
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Seachange
8 years ago
I didn't bring it up. Brought it up once re. Women only post. But my second post was seeking clarity in response to succeeding your comment alluding to women posting 'insensitive,subjective remarks'. 😁 I would have not further comment if not for the last bit? I see what you are saying but you just need to stop inflaming the situation by making side swipes at some people who may not agree with you. Jmho. I'll let it rest as there is no further discussion to be had. we both said our piece. Thanks for the clarification. Cheers.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Should read 'your succeeding comment'. 😁 thank you
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inspirit
8 years ago
Eats roots and leaves. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
8 years ago
Haha 😂. D'oh! My flu medication must be stronger than I thought. Haha
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Eats roots and leaves. - Posted from rhpmobile That's for one with DE problems, otherwise it's eat roots, shoots and leaves. :)
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
That's a wombat. Koalas dont eat roots....
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inspirit
8 years ago
Is too Annie. Im 99 yanno, so the brain gets fused at times. You get my drift tho..... 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As usual you're on the money.. Realistic and insightful.. 👍
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inspirit
8 years ago
Best I not let my next lover rest ey..... Heaven forbid if he laid back and soaked up the euphoria. In saying that, I like that as it gives me a chance to ummmmm....... be playful OMG mutual masterbation. How hot is that tho........ Many men cum and need a rest too. Its not brain science. Its understanding the anatomy. Hands up the guys who need a rest after cumming....thats cumming.... If you don't, please message me. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
8 years ago
My inbox is closed and going on holidays. 👅 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' What like not orgasming? And not having sex the way I do? So if a guy started this same topic, saying he just wants to rest after he comes, lay back and 'own it' hahaha yes summer, whatever you say More likely that he will lay back and go to sleep and you would have to work on him to wake him up
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RHP User
8 years ago
appears freedom of speech isn't the thing around here. Inspirit, why are you removing my comments? They're not abusive. How is it that you can dedicate a whole page of comments here to insulting me, but when I go to reply, boom, it vanishes? Is that fair?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' lol so you orgasm and then it's over? Haha omg I'm actually quite amused by this conversion and you as well Candy. All you ladies just stop right there. God, I don't really know what to say to that. I'm absolutely aghast. 2 people will rarely orgasm together. What if he came and then just stopped ahaha In fact I think there are whole threads dedicated to that. I suspect there are women who don't orgasm at all and would think that's when they get bored and want to give it up. I used to be like that so um I'll just grab some popcorn now I think. Oh and ladies, why stop at one 😉😜 I'm with Longest on this one, when he and I have both come I'm quite happy to just have some pillow talk or go to sleep as I'm so relaxed. You may feel amused and aghast at that at the same time (impressive feat), but no need to diss others once again for not having sex the way you do.How would you like it if I insinuated that two people coming at the same time isn't that rare, and maybe you are doing something wrong? Maybe be a bit more accepting? nice to see you put your slant on my comment, not what I said at all. Peony said the guy hadn't come, she had orgasmed and needed to rest. You say when he and I have both come, yes, so what's your point? Nothing to do with what I was talking about. Of course we all hang and rest in between rounds, but stopping when one orgasms? I'm confused by your comment I agreed with Longest, not Peony, but my comment was about your ongoing imo condescending remarks to posters whose sexual preferences and experiences differ from yours. Hope that's a bit clearer. that would be my opinion? It differs to yours, yes, thank the lord for small mercies. Thank you for your insightful comment again, you're a gem
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's ... Eats Roots SHOOTS and leaves.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
I am so disinterested in being reprimanded and chided, or criticised and insulted, but still extremely interested in the actual topic. I choose to be fixated on the intriguing topics of sex and orgasms. Anything else is irrelevant white noise to me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My phone went flat and if I hadn't, well, I wouldn't of written half of this again! I'm not offended. I think there was just a misunderstanding and a vast diffence of experience going on. I feel no guilt in taking a break and letting the colors wash over me. There's no shame in that. I also love watching a man shudder. You've referred to that yourself. I enjoy giving my partners pleasure just as much as receiving. Like you, I become turned on when my lover is loosing it, just as much as me climaxing gets me off. 😉 What I was saying with the 🐍 lines was: if he's so keen to keep going and not give you your 5mins, hopefully he will be charming and persuasive. Ideally making you want to become fully aware again. I edge and I have had plenty of partners who do too. I've also experienced peony's predicament from both sides. I just don't believe orgasm or being on a constant upward trajectory is needed for fulfillment. I've said don't worry about me before and I've had men, even the O/H admits he just won't blow that far down the sexual path we've been on. I've also flat out told pissed nit wits it ain't gonna happen. Just a bit more? No, every orifice I have let you at hurts. Go home to bed and sleep off the drink!!!! -this is my less understanding side. I'm not the best at judging a pissed man until he's apologizing about it. Damn it! I hope you will relate to this better perhaps? The O/H and I regularly come together or me second, as that's how we like it. There will be edging on his part for us to achieve the former. My original response only tried to answer the OPs question directly and a few words can't explain my entire sexual philosophy. I'm also still a baby when it comes to everything sexual I hope to one day understand. I hope that day includes myself! 😜 I'm not sure why it would be strange that I prefer a break? I worked hard, we're still able to to continue fucking in 5 or so... My turn around is going to be better than his!!! 😜 Plus If I said something along the lines of: I want you to sit on my chest and run your cock between my tits. I oil up and push my tits together letting him slide as he like while I pluck my pierced nipples. Perhaps look up with slightly parted lips and give a little smile.. Whatever, He's helping himself basically. I'm just playing a purely submissive part. I could give head until my jaw breaks, if he can't physically come once or again. There's a point where we (I'm including you I_touch, not dis including you) adults call it and agree it's been fun. Would you like a cocoa and some biscotti? Great, because I really have to pee! Next! Do you understand a little better how peony may be feeling? As a multiple orgasming woman there must be a point? How do you end your sessions? I slept with a 22yo for 6m, he never came even once. He never spoke about it. It was always a pub hook up and we basically had nothing to say to each other. Guilt? F. No! I might of worked with him if he chose to tell me about it, perhaps not. It wasn't my problem and he took part too. Seemed to be happy enough. -what would you have me do?! I've known others. It's also really common at clubs for men to choose to end a session without orgasm because they wish to hook up with more women. I wouldn't rob them of that to fulfill some kind of ego that said I had to milk him dry for me to be a worthy lay. Would I? I think that's just as selfish as not caring about their pleasure. We all have our own experiences and we can only judge from that. I think I'm pretty grounded in what I do and like. There's no need for guilt when everything is engaging. It's when there's guilt that it's not! 😄 I've given a few examples here, I'm in no way saying that's how you or anyone else behaves I_Touch. Personally I quite like your posts and enjoy your point of view. It often melds with mine. I'm a fan.😊 - long one from longest✌️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
8 years ago
Magik - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your comment starting with: What a relief! (Sorry I don't have all the posting/ quoting thingys!) Great thoughts, I'm so glad that that's the points you've taken. 😄😄😄 There's obviously some conjecture but I strongly believe it all true. The affirming answers seem to be ringing true to an audience of people with similar experiences. I can't see any way that this forum's tried to take away from : -Orgasming more than once. -Being sensitive to your partners needs. -everyone's right to gratification. That's all just mud in the water and it detracts from your original post. It's obviously a great subject that requires a lot of exploration and thanks for asking! 😄 I need to ask myself these questions so I can continue to form my own self understanding. -longest 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
thanks
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Seachange
8 years ago
Check with the mods where your comment went. I haven't read nor noticed any posts from anyone here that were deleted. However, missing posts don't happen often so it would be good if you can find out where they went. May need glitch in the dB or system, or the work experience kid been put on clean up duties. 😁 good luck with that. 🍀
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' As far as I know, I havent been intimate with anyone one who has had delayed ejaculation. although Ive had a few who had too much to drink and thats the best way to delay ejaculation!! (Or,"I hate wearing a rubber because it desensitises my cock") So if its something the man has told you he had, I personally would be more understanding and appriciate that he had shared that infomation with me. And more inclined to help in some form. Unless he told me that he wanted to finish himself. But then I wouldnt have to tell him, if that was already agreed on. Sorry if its not the same as your opinion PP, but thats the forums hey? Same as sex, we allenjoy it differently. I have a FWB who loves cow girl and finds it easy to reach an orgasm because she believes I am thick and due to my fitness am able to arch my back at the climax of her orgasms. I am also able to control and delay ejaculation simply by stopping before reaching the point of no return and then resuming after a few minutes rest. This prolongs her pleasure and makes her orgasm multiple times. Also she loves tasting herself on me after her orgasms and relaxes on all fours and we continue the session from behind. I am able to delay ejaculation due to stamina and strong stomach muscles by controlling the rythmn and pace whilst behind her. At the same time I am massaging her back and kissing her shoulders. My FWB normally has 3-4 orgasms in one hour and I am able to delay ejaculation for such a period. Delayed ejaculation is simple if you understand your body, have stamina and pace yourself.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
The delayed ejaculation you are speaking off is called orgasm control or 'edging'. The delayed ejaculation spoken of in this thread is a condition either medical, substance or mental whereas the guy has trouble reaching ejaculation even though he wants to orgasm.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My wife is happy to just lie back loose and wet and relaxed after orgasming and let me continue to work my magic😉. She is often out of breath and laying back, completely spent and compliant like jelly. This is the best time for both of us. Cowgirl and reverse cowgirl does not work for her at all so we don't do it. She always knows when I have orgasmed because she feels the hot wet slipperiness of my ejaculation inside her vagina and she feels the throbbing, twitching of my penis when it fires. Do not all women feel these sensations? I sometimes get her to tell me when I orgasm and I try to hide it but she always knows. She never dries out mo matter how long we have sex for because I continuously drip precum and semen during sex which keeps things very slippery and if she has an orgasm she gets very slippery and loose which makes it easier again. We used to work on her having first orgasm and then me finishing off inside her. More recently, I tend to cum quickly inside her while making out, then we take as long as we like, without rushing, to achieve her orgasm. Then when she is laying back completely spent from her orgasm, I mount her and we take our time - this is the best because we are not rushing or focussing on orgasming and there is no dry burning because 'down there's is by this time incredibly relaxed and soaking slippery wet. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lifes_great
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Are you cumming? 😳 Who cares!! 😈👻😂 I'm not upset...just disappointed
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry resting after an orgasm, i guess I'm mean as, I would roll you over taking you from behind, go down on you, missionary or help you squirt. The change up usually helps the second or 20th cumming. I have DE, and will not keep thrusting. Love cowgirl, but love back and forth tapping her G spot and getting deeper. Timeouts are fine, but multiples are so much fun 😉
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PurePeony
8 years ago
What you have written is so erotic! *thumbs up! Bareback sex is oh so very very awesome but atm is elusive to me. I'm extremely mindful of STD's and so will just have to remain safely wistful.
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RHP User
8 years ago
PurePeony. Yes there are certainly benefits to being long term married and 'selectively non-exclusive' in our relationship. For me, the moment of ejaculation inside a woman provides a real feeling of closeness and intimacy (not to mention sexual pleasure). A condom feels like having sex with a condom and provides a barrier (yeah obviously, I know). But yes (before everyone crucifies me) they are very important. The other thing for us is that no matter what type or brand of condom we used to use, my wife ends up with a burning, itchy, stinging feeling in her vagina (presumably an allergic reaction to the condom or lubricant). I wonder, does anybody else have this problem? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'jeffjohnson1985' PurePeony. Yes there are certainly benefits to being long term married and 'selectively non-exclusive' in our relationship. For me, the moment of ejaculation inside a woman provides a real feeling of closeness and intimacy (not to mention sexual pleasure). A condom feels like having sex with a condom and provides a barrier (yeah obviously, I know). But yes (before everyone crucifies me) they are very important. The other thing for us is that no matter what type or brand of condom we used to use, my wife ends up with a burning, itchy, stinging feeling in her vagina (presumably an allergic reaction to the condom or lubricant). I wonder, does anybody else have this problem? - Posted from rhpmobile some women are allergic or sensitive to latex. you can try non-latex condoms in the market. see how you go.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' some women are allergic or sensitive to latex. you can try non-latex condoms in the market. see how you go. Also, if you (Jeff) are already trying different condoms, latex and non-latex, I'd suggest it is the lubricant. I've been to some parties where the woman has ensured a specific lubricant to use, because others have just that effect. Perhaps check out different types, there should be types that are the equivalent of low irritant/non-allergenic (also called hypoallergenic), natural based (eg Sylk) etc.
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lovman8
8 years ago
1) remove socks before sex2) don't wipe your dick on the curtains3) refrain from trying to stick used condoms to the ceiling 4) remember to remove all gags ad restraints before leaving5) don't fake ejcualtion so you can switch TV on in time to catch the footy scores
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Eats roots and leaves. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Quoting 'Lifes_great' Quoting 'On_Safari' Are you cumming? 😳 Who cares!! 😈👻😂 I'm not upset...just disappointed
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RHP User
8 years ago
cool to see a female really trying to get to the bottom of a sexual manner which can turn a fun session to a draining over exhausting one. Now in my personal opinion position wise i get most stimulated by being in a position of power e.g doggy as i am in control of the situation and derive more pleasure in that then letting the girl take the reigns. I will however completely contradict that because a power swap and getting the lady calling the shots might be more sexually stimulating at the time and i really think that comes to sexual chemistry. I think if you were in a position that was physically straining and unsure if it was leading to a climax and it was causing discomfort id just address it in a smooth jokingly manner like "wow who knew i was gonna get a gym workout in today, you should totally take over" haha I dunno depends on your partner and the situation but getting into a comfortable area would be the priority, if your partner dosent wanna put in the effort thats a lil unfair if i do say so myself. In regard to pin pointing the male orgasm a very easy (and sexy) way is to just ask "are you gonna cum for me or what" and then you can get atleast some sorta idea where he is at haha hope that helps
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mrdarcey
8 years ago
1) Cowgirl is great. I love the rocking motion, but the up down is definitely easier to cum to. 2) Not rude and a little breather helps it all last longer, and who doesn't want that? 3) I suppose it is the way you ask if I have cum, although my whole body shakes when I cum and it is pretty obvious. 4) Nothing wrong with asking them to finish if it is getting that bad. Probably not that compatible or you are going to be pretty comfortable with each other to say it.
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