Activity surges

October 09 2021

Does anyone else find they have periods where all is quiet then all of a sudden they have every Tom, Dick and Harry hitting them up? Do men experience this from women? I’ve been noticing it for a while now but this latest surge has come with a couple of real life experiences that are weird too. Like at work yesterday a customer got really weird, almost forceful in his request to take me home, I laughed it off but he stopped me and made me answer 😳😂 that took me by surprise and I flipped into bitch mode real quick. Then I went out after work and someone who’s been friendly before was super friendly in front of everyone which was a bit awkward... I don’t know if I’m just super sensitive to people’s bullshit at the moment or if it’s actually getting worse, is anyone else finding it’s getting more difficult to balance being nice with being assertive?

Comments

  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    3 years ago

    It’s been a long time since I was out and about and single . I used to find it was either feast or famine .I was always baffled by it . Was I projecting something different ??Had my mojo just at times disappeared and I wasn’t attractive to anyone . Other times the attention was overwhelmingly . Maybe sometimes we project an air of confidence and being comfortable in our own skin that people find attractive, hence the feast . I find on RHP our inbox can be quiet for a few weeks . Which is fine by us . Then suddenly it’s 5 messages a day . I’m unsure what that is about . I can’t help you with the assertive part of your question . I so hate confrontation, I would just do a runner . Ax

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Um……. No I can’t say that happens to me 😂 Although I did get an unsolicited vagina pic the other day.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    I have had bugger all messages or contact in the years on here. Mixed emotions being on here. Not worried anymore.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    3 years ago

    No, you are not being super sensitive. People are pushing your personal boundaries. It shit me to tears when that happens to me. If people don't understand your boundaries, that's on them. I too, have ebbs and flows and moods I go through, where I just can't tolerate some people's behaviours. How I see it, if someone wants to spend time with me, they can earn it and compromise with me. If they can't, stiff bickies they can go wank or follow up with someoneelse who will tolerate their BS. Ms Foxy

  • funtimescouple1

    funtimescouple1

    3 years ago

    As a couple we'd love an activity surge. It's been quiet for about two years. Lots of couples look. There is the occasional exchange of messages and if we establish we're on the same page we say exactly when we're available to meet. The other couple is generally non committal and / or we don't hear back from them. This is on the Goldy too where you'd expect the scene to be busy. Yes there's been Covid but we've had few lockdowns. A lot of couples seem to be half hearted at best. Perhaps because both aren't really invested a lot of the time? Most conversations are very vanilla. No flirting, etc like we'd expect from couples looking to swing. You need to get each other going. The primary aim here isn't just to make friends is it? We need a connection and are not hard core but what is there to lose by being a bit flirty? Hoping the club and party scene picks up again.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    I have an activity surge of messages from thursday nights. Then through to saturday. The bois like to try and tee up a tap for the weekend 🤣Rarely get a message from sunday to wed 🤣 probably because they dont want to converse for a few days if they just want a quick & easy root on the weekend 😂

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    3 years ago

    Some days we wake up feeling great.. We look in the mirror and the person looking back looks fresh and alive.. We know today is going to be great and people pick up on this.. Maybe , just maybe , the vibes you were giving off at the time were positive which definately attracts... ?

  • JamienLou

    JamienLou

    3 years ago

    May not be exactly what you meant but we often find that things will run really quite for some time and be flat out hearing back from anyone then out of nowhere it's a flood of interest.. Always seems then we get hardly anything replies then we inevitably message more people then boom, we have too many sent messages and so many replies we can barely keep up and feel bad that we have to tell people we aren't available. But now back to you topic and yes we cop a lot of those approaches from Thirsty bottomfeeding slimy ShitC%@ts and nothing shocks us any more of how or what they ask us or what they imagine is a winner line they think will win is over lol 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ OMG

  • Rising_Phoenix

    Rising_Phoenix

    3 years ago

    It’s not all annoying or unflattering though I must admit, last night my older grumpy workmate came in and saw me with my hair down, said my name in a surprised way and called me a hottie for days...A HOTTIE FOR DAYS!! 😂😂 I giggled like a teenager & that was all there was to it but it certainly lifted my spirits, cute little encounters like that can be great 😊

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    It's all quiet on the western front usually

  • Kokoflamingo

    Kokoflamingo

    3 years ago

    Yep, from Saturday night through to Sunday morning usually, or if I post a new pic 😄

  • kisslids

    kisslids

    3 years ago

    Hi, yes it does happen. Is it because of lockdown??

  • Sugar_n_spice72

    Sugar_n_spice72

    3 years ago

    Yes.. weekends..

  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    3 years ago

    Generally it's quiet Wed to Tue. Annually, it picks up outside of the July-Jun dead zone. :P

  • Sugar_n_spice72

    Sugar_n_spice72

    3 years ago

    If my I’ve set my settings to “show when online” then I get a few hits more than usual. There is no question though, as a woman the odds are stacked in our favour!! 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • Supernova

    Supernova

    3 years ago

    “Do men experience this from Women?” 😂😂😂 that literally made me laugh 🤣🤣🤣

  • Superhappyfun

    Superhappyfun

    3 years ago

    No one ever turns up. I've never in my entire life as a woman had so much trouble getting guys come over for sex and this is on a sex site! I can literally walk into a nightclub and 200 guys will fall all over themselves to go home. Here...tumbleweeds and crickets. Pikers.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Nope. Just crickets for over a year.

  • Dirtyandfriendly

    Dirtyandfriendly

    3 years ago

    Yep I get it every now and then. I won’t hear a peep from anyone and then all of a sudden a I get hit with messages from play partners ect. It gets annoying because I do work, gym and other stuff and I’m a pre planner kind of person. But what does grind my gears is I might take a week off work and have some free time and won’t hear a thing, but as soon as I’m back at work I get the attention. My thing at the moment is it seems a few are just after some quick online fun and bores me to tears. You’re not super sensitive to bullshit you’re just more attuned to it. I think things are getting worse.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    I find it happens when I log on via the web.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Hi Rising_Phoenix, I thought when I started to read your post, that I was experiencing the same thing, but not quite. I find I go through periods of no interest whatsoever to logging on 3 or 4 times a day hoping for some interest. It seems to be all in my head tho, no change in the responses on my profile... I've got to send out plenty of enquiries just to get a return view, so no real change from that. Unfortunately for you, there are some blokes who still dont get "no means no"... it's a shame cos it gives us all a bad name...

  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    3 years ago

    In those couple of instances, there is a possibility they have seen your profile on this site or other sites if you are on any. We have been recognised a few times and approached in the real world. That's all cool with us though :)

  • sunnybrownbear

    sunnybrownbear

    3 years ago

    It would be very interesting to see the stats on how much traffic women get on their profile on average vs what men get heh heh heh