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Addicted to sex or addicted to the rush
May 10 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
God yes, I think you can be addicted to it all, the rush of a new body, the thrill of the chase, and of course, the sex itself! I personally like the new, but every now and then I like to hang on to a good guy for just a little while. Those lovely boys that are just too good to have only once;) Minxy x
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RHP User
13 years ago
I miss my mojo
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RHP User
13 years ago
sex addiction... yeah, that exists i believe... just like you can be addicted to your emotions, by the choice's you makei've had very little experience in RHP land, and a tight leash most of my life... i tied it myselfyour questions are tricky for me.... i'm such a rookie...i invest a lot of myself in the 'sexual experience'... as a single, i'm exclusive with another. I choose to be that way, for now anyhow. but i like random too... with sex of course. i also have a rubber arm... and a long leash if i choose to stray......
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yeah, I think human nature is such that it's easy to become addicted to anything that makes you feel good, even if we know its not necessarily the best thing for us either emotionally or physically.Having said that, while some people have very good self control and are less likely to experience addiction; others (like myself) become a little addicted to 'happy things' very easily. And that includes sex. For me, the kind of addiction is different with different people. There are just some things I can't get enough of and am constantly impatient for more . And I think that's a happy thing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think there's a fairly strong difference between 'enjoy immensely, can't get enough of' and 'addicted', particularly in a psychological discourse. I missed Shame in the cinemas, but from what I heard it's a pretty amazing film (Michael Fassbender and Carey Mulligan? Yeowch!), but also quite uncomfortable. Addiction is when the compulsion ruins other areas of your life, and you can't stop despite the negative consequences. Where do you draw the line? No idea. I would worry a bit if someone was 'proper' addicted to sex, but sure, I think most people here have an above-average interest! Incidentally, check out the Hungarian poster for Shame. It was banned pretty much everywhere else. I wonder if Australia would have as well? Probably, under our byzantine classification system. http://nevermindpopfilm.blogspot.com.au/2012/01/given-that-shame-played-in-maybe-40.html
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes there are definitely those who are addicted to the rush, the experience, the chase, the attention. But when its works with someone with a lust as healthy as your own it just keeps getting better.... and you can share that together or with others to keep it alive.... one nighters are empty and purely physical......there are those who are addicted enough to live that....I prefer chemistry, hunger, lust, and extreme pleasure with the person who you connect with....thats not addiction.. thats a relationship with great sex!!!!! You know when it happens .
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
I've seen it, think they really missed an opportunity to dig deep. It made me & everyone I know whose seen it talk about it in the days after, which in my mind means they've done something right. As for sex addiction, I lived with a sex addict for 18 months in my youth. Sex was, pardon the pun, filling a hole.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Totally addict to it.... If I could one time dinner twice sex daily....lol What I always say " SEX up ur life"
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love the excitement of a new lover..and the next time with them when it is good..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I mean knowing you carry all these secrets, that you are living the dreams that other peoples inhibitions hold them back. Im not ashamed of my addiction, I am proud of it & I can wear my heart on my sleeve, just hate those pesky standups.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Suppose u eat same meal daily u get bored and need change...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is it sex addiction or lust ???For me it's lust, the totally addictive nature of lust.....That uncontrollable lust when you think of someone you can't get out of your head....Lusting after that special someone who melts your heart who will fulfill your sexual desires.... The explosive lust story that comes climaxing with that someone....Sex is the end result....it's the lead up that gets my heart racing....Addictive ??? Hell Yes !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are so right...sex is best when you can connect on all senses, I really love to have that energy between us if or when it gets physical as the body does what the mind says.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Okay then, hands up everyone here who can give up sex. ...well, c'mon, ......anybody? ...Anybody at all?
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RHP User
13 years ago
After getting on the pony again about 2.5 years ago after a 4 year hiatus from all sex (bad divorce, young children & a demanding job) yep, I went cockacidal!!!!!! I found my mojo and my confidence again and I was blessed in being able to tick off all my bucket lists and alot of lists that I didn't even know existed before hahahahaI meet my gorgeous BF from RHP and we swing together. I'm at the stage that he keeps me more than satisfied and we still have sex at least once a day 16 months into our relationship. The difficulty I still have when the kids are at their dad's once a month - is to plan playmates back-to-back - and basically be go sex crazy when the kids aren't around!!So while I'm no longer single and in a conventional relationship with kids in tow - is it bad that I still want to have sex with numerous people when the kids go to their dad's? We have and do the occasional playmate and parties we attend, but is it the sex or is it the hunt that I'm addicted too?? Or the simple fact that when the kids aren't around, this is what other 'normal' swingers do???Curious to know what you might have experienced and/or your thoughts.Ms Funk aka baygirl2315xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'msminx3' God yes, I think you can be addicted to it all, the rush of a new body, the thrill of the chase, and of course, the sex itself! I personally like the new, but every now and then I like to hang on to a good guy for just a little while. Those lovely boys that are just too good to have only once;) Minxy x I love the trill of someone new, finding out what pushes their buttons, their taste (all parts ), their touch, how their body quivers and shutters, their moans and gasps, their scent...... discovering them and what best to push their sensors.. That's my addiction and sex gibes that
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RHP User
13 years ago
the older i get, the higher my libido becomes, i think...stimulating the mind, is definitely the key, i believe...i am addicted mostly to my husband...lolthe comfort of the familiar, the knowledge, of each other's bodies...needs...desires...that being said, it needs to stay fresh....so we come up with new ways...like role-play( i love being his obedient little sex-slave....)new places, new game-plan...being a sex-goddess one day, having my man making love to me...being a dirty little slut the next...being taken rough and hard...Hmmmmall of that ensures, that it stays exciting...it's like having the excitement of someone new, with the benefit of the knowledge of someone familiar..does that make sense..?and if on top of that, you add the occasional extra spice , by including others in our play...just pure heaven...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've noticed that if there's a promise of some sexy times I get much the same way an addict does anticipating their next hit. I suppose the same chemicals are stimulated in the brain with that anticipation.I've also found if it doesn't happen I a) come crashing down and b) engage in "risky" behaviour trying to get that fix met.However, my risky behaviour has been tempered a lot of late, so it really just involves me hitting up fuck buddies for sex "right now dammit!". Once upon a time it involved me just going out and finding some random to be my victim for the evening.So I suppose that now I would be an addict who has it under control? Is that even possible? Maybe I just like it a hell of a lot?The rush of meeting someone new and being intimate with them definitely exists, but I have found that the best experiences are not the first times, but the third, fourth, fifth, enth times.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I haven't decided yet, as I'm still doing the research ...During the past few months I've wandered through the list. Here I go (takes large gasping breath!):- Several one night stands and sex with total strangers who I will never see again. These pickups were at bars and there was a bit too much alcohol imbibed by some of my take-home candidates and it was a bit fumbly with some and others had such a bad hangover they were not very passionate or had much stamina to make a wonderful impression in the Sex Stakes.- Lots and lots of sex - presuming that this means hours of pleasurable consummation, uninterrutptus coitus.Most easily done with an inexhaustible selection at a swingers club where some go off 'to have a cigarette' and I just 'work' the room, so to speak. Variety of techniques, go-slow-mo and hard-and-fast rumpy-pumpy and a gorgeous smorgasbord of pussies and penises to delight in. I'm a sensual beast. - New and different person and the rush of that new attraction.Thankyou Red Hot Pie. It requires time to be spent Window Shopping, definitely pays off to do lots of sifting through the dross - and some yellow carding - and then a bit of chat/message foreplay whilst organising for meet'n'greet with possible second, third dates.I get the best sexual romp with someone who connects with my mind as well as my body. I love exploring the mental and physical nooks and crannies. Total satisfaction. One-offs may/may not lead to being 2nd dates ... watch this space for any updates. lolThat said, I enjoy the euphoria and the rush I get from anonymous encounters (one-nighters, swingers club) - it has me walking around on an elevated plane for several days. Actually, my last Club visit was with a playmate who I had met 24 hours previously through RHP, had spent several hours from midnight to dawn exploring the (sex) menu, decided to continue our romp at the Club later that evening, met up for a quickie before we went and then both had a fun-filled all-nighter there ... and I still wanted more - "the spirit was willing but the flesh was weak". So home alone to a cold bed. :-(So, I will continue to research, examine more options, live a little (or a lot!)Retrospectively, I don't regret stumbling headlong into this new territory but, as a person with a heart and acknowledging my 'life before'. My new freedom to explore also comes at a price: I grieve for not having a comfortable, familiar, warm safety net but the long marriage was not a sustainable or sane place for me to be 'having a life' or indeed any life Quoting 'sensualtimestoo'i am addicted mostly to my husband...lolthe comfort of the familiar, the knowledge, of each other's bodies...needs...desires...Rox
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