T63
Addiction
April 09 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
I first embraced social media in 2007. Facebook it was, and as I slowly worked my way around it, I most appreciated the visual aspect. Still do.When I compare to the 10 years before that( and before the internet for me )...so, my 20's I guess...it's plain that visual communication ended when I wasn't standing in front of another. And I led a more insular life in my 20's. I was still social, of course...but it was a smaller world in every way for me. 2007 was only a year before I started working in remote places or my move West...and the new to me visual social media was proving valuable at maintaining friendships, and inevitably making new ones too.That hasn't changed. But, it's been necessary to remind myself that I should treat it the same as all the other ways of communicating. Be empathetic, be respectful. Try to be, anyway. It has a way of feeding and stroking the ego if your not aware to it . It works for me and I embrace it. Because it helps bring people together and removes the barrier of distance.Its best use, I think. I can see how a generation 10 years younger than me won't have the benefit of making that comparison of before and after, though.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It has helped me in so many ways. Helped to get my confidence back and out into the workforce again at the good old age of 50. Am I addicted? No, although I use it a lot more when Im not in fulltime work. It allows me to engage with others while Im financially unable to go out and socialise. Ive made a lot of good friends through facebook and dating sites. But, yes, I think the younger generation are missing out. Who doesnt remember going out with your friends at the weekend, the thrill of who you might meet during the evening. There are ( I read online ironically) young people in Japan who are so addicted to online social media and gaming that they wear adult nappies. What will it be like in 50 years time I wonder?
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
Social media definitely has its benefits, but is also rather paradoxically quite antisocial. Go to any pub and watch the amount of people sitting around a table together staring at their phones. I have discussed this with people in other forums, they say it alleviates uncomfortable silences in such settings. I think that when you are out with friends that there is (or should be) no such thing as uncomfortable silence. I don't have any social media on my phone, removed it all about a year ago and really have never looked back. You save so much time! I get on here and other platforms when I am at home on the computer, and that is that. Now I just have to cure myself of the ridiculous need to Google everything on my phone (gee, I wonder what happened to the cast of Buffy?) and I will have no mobile phone addiction at all.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Of cloaking all mobiles when arriving at a social thing. Bit like leaving your six shooter at the bar when you arrive at the saloon for those of us old enough to remember But then when meeting a few rhp friends socially, how do you get your phone out to show the dic pics you received during the week.......that's essential entertainment
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RHP User
7 years ago
When you see people *constantly* on their phones checking social media; pulling the phone out of their pocket every couple of minutes to check the latest updates even though they are in a real life social setting; when people blunder into the middle of the road or into a sign pole or another person because they are fixated on their phone screen as they walk down the street; when people would rather risk causing an accident than put their phone away while driving and not text or read as they drive; when you are at a live event and people are busy tapping away on their phone rather than watching the event; That's not simply utilising the technology, it is bordering on addiction. - Posted from rhpmobile
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loveYOURpleasure
7 years ago
"My view, having only been socially online for the last 4 years, is that it is no different to any other form of addiction. If it is not stopping you from functioning normally in your day to day life and there is no adverse physical effect then what's wrong with it?" That's the crux of it right there. It's problematic if it creates negative outcomes in other areas of your life (financial, health) but if you manage the essentials fine I don't see an issue. Nobody ever seems to raise, for example, people who spend every spare moment reading as a 'problem'. As others have said, online connectivity can be antisocial - especially when applied in typically social activities ;out with friends or family) but likewise can also enable those less able to socialise in traditional ways to do so. Better to be in your bedroom alone chatting online than in your bedroom alone completely alone. Of course the tricky part is to be able to detect when you have a problem. That's where friends come in - be they in the flesh or online. That's my two cents. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
...definition for a true "addicition" and that is one that is physiological effecting the function of organs but primarily the brain. By example, both heroine and alcohol leave a residual called THIQ which makes it near impossible to quit and never safe to try again if you have quit. The next group are mild to disabling OCD behaviours and whilst debilitating, not a true addiction. Let's face it, I'm not going into dangerous withdrawals if my battery karks it right now. These can be anything from sex to an online presence. In many ways, I could argue that a strong online presence may be quite healthy in that I have a "global opportunity" that might not exist otherwise. I converse with and "know" people from around the globe that I may not know otherwise....thus multicultural bonding of a sort. I enjoy this! OCD's are online an addiction, such as gambling, if they have a detrimental physical effect and as long as I can eat, sleep and drink, am happy and healthy then don't see any issue. This endeth the sermon! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
...driving by Box Hill Hospital and seeing some poor bugger wearing a gown, dragging a pole and sitting on the ledge next to the smoker's pole madly puffing away! Yes, nicotine addictive! An OCD is when that person whips out their phone and starts scrolling through this site! Hope they can keep up with FB too! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always do have time for and respect your opinions albeit here is a litmus test? In terms of a physical addiction versus a psychological disorder perhaps try this... Take a heroin addict, long-term alcoholic, a gambler, and phone user...take away any of the substances or habituations for 30 days and observe the results. The heroin addict and alcoholic are going to need medical supervision and management as the DTs and drug withdrawal can be fatal...full stop. The gambler may miss the activity and the phone user may want to call home however neither requires hospitalisation and neither faces death as a consequence. Mind, I am not minimising the impact either of the latter may have on an individual or their families. Many gamblers will dump a pay-check ahead of a mortgage payment or putting food on the table for their family. The phone user may bore the crap out of everyone around them and waste money/time that they can't afford at the expense of everything else. I've yet to know of anyone laying in a pool of blood, vomit and faeces because they missed the roll on river or ET really called them,did you? These are social issues and often the collateral damage to others (child neglect, spouse abuse) had a deeper psychological root. Of course all of them may just be getting shitty behind a jones for that next ciggie? Bloody things and that very short term delay to the next uncomfortable synapsis zap, eh? Well I need a Coca-cola and a Whopper...no, I'm not! Okay sooooooo I only suffer from a few of my OCDs and and enjoy the crap out of the others! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I fully believe in and support the need for inpatient rehab, clinical services and long-term counselling for a host of other substances and activities. I've a family history that I won't discuss in this venue and thus wish everyone well in their quest. God bless. ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I've read a lot of different stories from both sides of the fence and can definitely see both sides. It can be a boon for people who can't get out much for whatever reason, or are cut of socially. But I'm on a couple of sites, and in various groups on one of them... and it's the choice of where you put yourself that can make a huge difference. I have appreciated the choices of chatting with different people in the last few days to get a good grip on the many different types of people in the social media world. On a non personal level, we saw a show last week where they introduced adults into a school secretively to get the idea of what needed to be fixed there. Mobile phones were everywhere including during the middle of the lesson where they were texting each other. 'Undercover High' is the name of the show. The stuff they did with those phones was scary. I could go into it another time maybe but enough to say what the students thought was okay to say and do was shocking. Kinda reminded me of the old movie, To Sir, With Love... on speed, and without the Sir who made the beautiful difference. Peachy
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Gr8distraction
7 years ago
Or habitual?Sometimes i bite my nails Quoting 'PeachyPearL' I've read a lot of different stories from both sides of the fence and can definitely see both sides. It can be a boon for people who can't get out much for whatever reason, or are cut of socially. But I'm on a couple of sites, and in various groups on one of them... and it's the choice of where you put yourself that can make a huge difference. I have appreciated the choices of chatting with different people in the last few days to get a good grip on the many different types of people in the social media world. On a non personal level, we saw a show last week where they introduced adults into a school secretively to get the idea of what needed to be fixed there. Mobile phones were everywhere including during the middle of the lesson where they were texting each other. 'Undercover High' is the name of the show. The stuff they did with those phones was scary. I could go into it another time maybe but enough to say what the students thought was okay to say and do was shocking. Kinda reminded me of the old movie, To Sir, With Love... on speed, and without the Sir who made the beautiful difference. Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
I used to bite my nails but made up my mind not to one day and haven't since. One of those memorable moments I hold onto about the power of the mind. I gave up smoking the same way. Do you have more to make a point of addiction Vs habit Gr8? I'm not entirely sure of your point in respect of my post. 🍑
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RHP User
7 years ago
Try changing for 21 days. Now do the same with your six. Some asshole talking on their phone while driving would be the same sort of "addiction" as some slob shoving their gob with Maccas whilst driving. At least with a phone you don't get greasy fingers. Ciao for niao. ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I gotta quit dating Kiwi women! 🙃😉⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Gr8distraction
7 years ago
i'll have what he's having
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RHP User
7 years ago
I find things have become a little fucked up in todays society. We've become too fast, too wanting and labels have become common place. For me the word addiction has become something society, especially media have bandied about. I agree with Chasing in the fact that there is a major difference between addiction and obsession. If I were to be completely honest this social media addiction is BS we have become soft and weak as a society, coming to depend on worthless things hence thinking addiction. Not obsession, dependence, wants, these are the words that describe supposed addictions these days
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RHP User
7 years ago
"Addicted to Love" Although if you watch the video and that bevy of bombshells in black leather that supposedly are the band? Colour me.....gone! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Was what LOVEyourPLEASURE raised. Being on your phone when in your own company is no different than someone caught up in their reading of a book. Reading your book in company would be rude, as is being online in a social meet. Least being online you may be learning something on the net or advancing your social skills. Lost in a novel is just escaping into a fantasy world. But doesn't catch the ire of others because we have been reading for centuries whereas our online activities relatively recently
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
I get the whole drug/ physical addiction side, l mean who wouldn't. It's the extreme end of addiction. 10 out of 10. But there is a point, where the physiological addictions can begin to cause physical harm and it is difficult to isolate the two. Our mental states are delicate. You take away a person's avenue of interaction, an addicted unbalanced mind can turn to self harm. The end result in the same area of drug dependency. Different but all relevant in the area of human health. I'm not lessening the devastating subject of drug misuse that affects us all. Many of us feel the anxiety of accidentally leaving our phones behind at home. Addiction in the minor sense
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RHP User
7 years ago
...yet take any unbalanced mind with phone (internet) access and turn them loose? Don't know...is the fire being fed or can it be reduced to embers? What scares me is that we do have a virtual world at our disposal and one where all you need to do to correct murder, rape, drug abuse et al is push the reset button and everything is back to normal. The new Gen Y video games are terrifying! I'll leave it there as it's my opinion after-all and quite happily so....not a clinical diagnosis. Carry on. I've my chainsaw humming and about to play "Scream III" online with a lovely lass from .....shhhhh, don't tell! Seeeee ya! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
7 years ago
Is it a addiction, or a hobby. This maybe splitting hairs, people adapt differently to social media. In the days of old, some of us where social butterflies, and used face the face chat method to develop friend and associates. This was achieved via functions, sports, and events of different types. With that said I have meet and chatted with many people from this site, and have really made some great mates. 😀😅
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Gr8distraction
7 years ago
Peachy.I only wanted to copy the title of you post "Addiction to Social Media is an interest of mine" Thereby asking is it addiction or habit, like the biting of nails. Quoting 'PeachyPearL' I used to bite my nails but made up my mind not to one day and haven't since. One of those memorable moments I hold onto about the power of the mind. I gave up smoking the same way. Do you have more to make a point of addiction Vs habit Gr8? I'm not entirely sure of your point in respect of my post. 🍑
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RHP User
7 years ago
It can be both things I imagine, and others in between. It would depend on the negative effects mentally and physically wouldn't you think? On a sliding scale of sorts? Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
How habitual is it that I have to remember not to sign Peachy when it's not RHP business? Peachy, very much a creature of habit, pedantic even...
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