RHP

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Advice for an amateur

February 25 2018

Straight to the point: I've been on several dates, had a girlfriend with whom I lived with, but we never progressed to the next step in our relationship - the you know what. We were together for over 6 months. Is this normal? Any advice?

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    for 6 months but didn't do sex? I THINK you may have been used there mate... Of course, it MY have been you who did nothing and she got sick of waiting to get fucked and left for a more manly bf.. My point to THIS suggestion is - YOU haven't given us all the details to help you much Alfred.. It could be you are abnormally shy; I dunno.. help us help you mate..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Yeah. Can be normal. My oldest friend went out with her BF for 12 mths before they did the nasty. She was 18 -19. I don’t know why, she just didn’t feel ready. But I think they were experts in oral sex and touching by that stage. Haha.

  • swingalingson

    swingalingson

    7 years ago

    Where you been brother?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Hey Alfred, like cavey has said without certain details it is hard to know where you are coming from. But I guess I had a similar situation to you when I was 17/18. I was madly in love with a girl and had been for many years. Finally we had the chance to be together did not live with each other but spent every day together for six months or so. For me being a deeply romantic lad it scared the absolute shit out of me as it was my first real love and it was very overwhelming. As I have gone through that experience I understand what cavey has told you without any idea of your circumstances. This lass, though beautiful and completely crazy about me could not wait any longer for me to make that move. The sad thing is had I had made that move she would have reciprocated with pure joy. So maybe you are shy or just shit scared of what may happen like I was. But I can say for sure for me it wasn't normal in view of how I saw other people dealt with this situation but normal for me. And I would presume in this day and age not that common. Wishing you all the best mate.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I should have said, my friend was a virgin at the time.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    7 years ago

    I would say it is very normal for your age and experience. Don't stress. Im sure some older woman will take you under her wing in here and show you how to fuck as you wish for. However, be warned, you will never think the same the again. She will corrupt your mind with devious sinister thoughts and before you know it, only older woman will satisfy your salacious appetite you become acustomed to. Something like that anyway. 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • The_Phoenix

    The_Phoenix

    7 years ago

    Am I young enough still??? Promise I haven’t been with an experienced woman before😜 You salicious devil🤪 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • The_Phoenix

    The_Phoenix

    7 years ago

    Try not to put too much pressure or expectation on being with each other. I ruined many a relationship around your age by doing just that. Discuss as openly as you can before making the leap would be my advice. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    7 years ago

    Several dates And Girlfriend you lived with for 6months This sounds like two different people. I’m not calling it a pattern as detail is lacking, but to my way of thinking, I’m wondering what this ‘girlfriend’ was thinking committing to someone with no sexual energy?!! There is no middle ground in early stages of friendships that progress towards relationships. You’re either in the asexual friend zone, or you’re gettin sexy all over each other That’s it. So without knowing the finer detail as you offered very little...,, I’m going to say.... you NEED to masculine the hell up, and express your sexual element respectfully, so that these women know EXACTLY where you stand These wom n could well be waiting for a definitive signal from you as to your intent. Without it..., they simply don’t need to make the decision to progress, or not So..,.. can you do it?!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    7 years ago

    “Normal” - none of us are normal here. We’ve all got a story to tell. I like your approach. It’s perfectly reasonable to let other people go at their own pace. Some of us gentlemen need a bit of encouragement. It’s in our nature. What I really want to know is how on earth did you get away with all that wanking without ever getting caught? Hugs Gaz Some - Posted from rhpmobile

  • The_Phoenix

    The_Phoenix

    7 years ago

    Excellent hearing and or a really good hiding spot. I reckon listen to ML, good advice right there. I had zero game with women at 19, vaginas got me all excited but I was scared of built up sexual expectations from a woman’s point of view.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    7 years ago

    😜 Like I mentioned. Get thy self an lovely older woman who will be delighted to break and ruin you. 😜 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    WHO do we know in Brissy Qld area - who can take one for the team and make a man out of this lad??? :)

  • Gr8distraction

    Gr8distraction

    7 years ago

    You're taking the piss right" let me get this straight....Several dates, you've co-habited for 6months......maybe Nah......ive got nothing that won't get me banned again

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    7 years ago

    Nooooooo. This team member doesnt want to be accountable for his fall into the dark side. 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Don’t listen to ML. He is a special case as he came out of the womb wooing women With the finesse and skill of a modern day Lothario. This extraordinary skill of knowing everything makes it very hard for him to understand the common man. Very sad for him.... wTF! Haha. I do like you ML but sometimes I Just wanna ........

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    7 years ago

    I agree with ML... Buddy if ya want it....ya gotta man up and just forget the fear and move toward the outcome that you clearly want.... The sticky finger lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'CandyD'Haha. I do like you ML but sometimes I Just wanna ........ Id have to give you permission first. And Im all about consent

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    #metoo. 😝😎