Advice for inexperienced man (low 20's)

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  OkeyDoke45

  6 years ago

  G'day LCG, my only advice is to just be yourself in your profile. Your thread is inoffensive and articulate, some humility thrown in. You sound like a genuinely nice guy. The problem you will find on here is that you are up against a tsunami of ''shredded'' in-the-mirror-in-the-bathroom ab pics, with much boasting of sexual prowess from the owners of such. You have a face pic, which to me sets you above the rabble. I haven't read your profile but many will and will pick it to pieces. Your profile will be critiqued as either being too obsessed with sex, or not obsessed with sex enough. My advice is to write it how you feel. What you have written on this thread sounds pretty honest and upfront to me. If it's good enough, and you're not ugly by any stretch, then you'll do okay on here. Don't be surprised by disappointing results though - eleventy million seagulls to only a handful of chips on here.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thanks OkeyDoke45, much appreciated :) That's how I structured my profile, being completely honest, respectful and genuine about it. But you are right, competition is extremely fierce, plenty of blokes that are more attractive and experienced. I simply hold no illusions to that :) All I can do is just put myself out there, see what happens. Keep sending those flirts and messages. If they're interested, cool. Otherwise, no problems. Just got to keep looking and stay patient. Just put myself out there and be completely honest about it, that's all I can do. If it happens, it happens. It's not the end of the world otherwise :) Hopefully I can pick up some more honest advice. Rather have someone be honest and blunt about it, as oppose to people sugarcoating their words. Thanks again.

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  cat_n_the_hatter

  6 years ago

  Of course, there are lot of shallow women and a lot of not shallow men, but one CAN win a woman over if you do not look like a model or earn a fortune, when you make her laugh and treat her right. Do not fall into the faulty reasoning that alfa male is getting all the women and you having to sell yourself. Important question is - who do you want to be with? (Ms)

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  Mischeviouslad

  6 years ago

  Personally..... after reading your intro (and please take this as overall advice, not a criticism)..... is work on your own perception of self worth and self value. Nobody should lead with a description or attitude like the one you’ve written You’re better than that. And if you don’t believe it, and project it.... why would anyone else see it, especially in a crowded marketplace of candy coated illusions Because...... you’re worthy 👍

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Hi LCG I read your profile and enjoy the grammar, punctuation and use of paragraphs - at least for me, it says a lot about the person. Also completing all the questions, very good. I’d remove weight, height and penis size, as this has already been covered in the details/questions. I understand you’re trying to be honest about your inexperience, but I don’t think many people are here with the main interest being to guide / teach inexperienced ones (although we all have our preferences, so it’s just my perception). Therefore, instead of focusing on what you don’t have, what about writing about what you have? Give a bit of insight on your likes / hobbies, curiosities, opinions, anything that make you the unique person you are. As mentioned, humour is always a plus. Also, what do you prefer in a partner? Not just physically but also what type of people you would like to have experiences with. Above all, be yourself and believe you’re worth as much as anyone else here!

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  sweetnsensual

  6 years ago

  We are looking at running workshops for single guys on how to write a profile take some nice pictures and how to communicate on RHPWould that be of any interest to you?

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  A young lad interested in food doesn't walk into Sydney's best restaurant and say "Hey. I love food. Please, can somebody teach me to cook?" He gets his experience the old fashioned way... and when ready, gets into that kitchen and can perform with his (now) peers. Your profile is honest, kind, respectful... but it has a little too much "help me please" within it. If that's a woman's / couples' fantasy to help a younger lad? You might be in luck. But the key word is "fantasy" - people are here for passionate dates and some fantasy fun... Don't sell yourself short... "not the best looking" - rid your mind of that. Are you fun to get a wine with? Look after your body / health? Look after your lover? Kind, respectful? Then that's attractive. I don't want to bash this site, but I'd tell a young cook such as yourself to just get out at the bars and app dating with the other early 20 year olds... figure out what sex is by just "feeling" it rather than being taught by somebody with quite varied (and naughty) experiences on here. Enjoy some vanilla fun, cause it's damn fun - and then? When you're ready to mix in some other spices and new tastes? Dive into this community, and you'll be ready to enjoy all it has to offer. Wishing you luck!

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thank you everyone for providing some honest advice, much appreciated. Sorry if my post crossed the line of self-hatred. It's simply not the case. I find it best to be honest about my limitations, hopefully develop strategies to work around it (hence the purpose of this thread) :) Hotlatina: I can certainly cut my physical descriptions (height, weight etc.) and create a bio that's not 100% about sex. That can be beneficial :) Like my interests, hobbies and what I look for in a partner to name a few. Are you suggesting that I cut out anything negative? Like being inexperienced? I'm not hoping to create a pity SOS type profile, but I don't want to be a catfish either :). Maybe I'm horribly wrong, but I really don't want to waste anyone's time. At least if I'm upfront about the entire thing, it's out there for the world to see. They can ultimately decide whether or not they are interested. Again, I could be wrong. Sweetnsensual: Thank you for the offer, I'll certainly consider it :) Once I buy a longer subscription (currently 1 month), I'll let you know.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  USA_Gentleman: You're right, that's what I was worried about. The risk of creating a profile that reeks of the ''help me SOS type'. I'm probably out of my depths on this site :) I did the whole bars, nightclubs type thing with friends, it's not what it's cracked out to be haha. Way too introverted for that sort of stuff, it's never really my thing. But I'm trying a few online dating sites, obviously not using this bio as my description. More towards dating and building a serious relationship. Just normal things like hobbies, interests etc. Just putting myself out there, see what happens.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  You’ve got a good profile and you are looking absolutely fine. I’d perhaps be more specific about what you want. Anything and anyone, whilst it may come across as open minded, can also come across as I’m not fussy who you are as long as I get what I want. I know that’s not what you meant, but people still want to be appreciated for their specialness. That you are looking for specific behavior attributes is a plus though.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thank you Chriscat, much appreciated :). It's certainly something to take into account. I understand the point of making a woman feel appreciated for their specialness. I could identify potential features, but I don't wish to come across as being picky or cheesy. Seems like a very fine line, but maybe it's because I'm clueless in that regard :)

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