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After the first meet ...
August 19 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
...meet first with the option to play the very same day. No pressure or need to as you can always walk away. That said, if there is chemistry why waste it...I'd hate to overthink it and prefer to just taste it!
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RHP User
8 years ago
5 minutes. ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
You snooze you lose I dont see anyone at the olympics saying " wait im not sure im ready" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wait for the other person to contact me and then it's yes or no thank you..... And if they don't contact - that's all good, I take it that's their no thanks. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Of course, I always meet first, play later *coughs* How long after the first meet is there contact? I've been contacted as soon as I've left a date / the same day / the following day. In my experience, if it's any longer than that, there will be no contact at all / either party isn't very interested. Do you leave it up to the other person to make contact first or are you happy to initiate? Depends how we left it. While I've usually been the one contacted, I would happily contact someone as well. Especially, if there was a follow up question / conversation that was left open-ended. If you don't want to see someone again do you make contact to say so or wait and see if they contact you and then inform them ? When I haven't wanted to see someone again, I don't make contact. If they contact me and ask generic questions, I'll answer them. As sometimes it's clear it's a friend/ no chemistry scenario. But of they contact me and ask to see me / want to gauge my interest, etc., then I'll say something more direct. But that is just generalising my experience, it doesn't depend on the person and what went on.
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RHP User
8 years ago
But I think if I haven't heard a peep after 24 hours I would message to ask the question upfront? Are you in or out? If I wasn't interested, I would message pretty quickly to let someone know. Nothing worse than hanging around waiting for a message especially if it's a no.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
The kiss at the end of the meet will tell you all you need to know No kiss = coffee/wine was nice. Have a nice life A peck = coffee/wine was nice. Some work required if i want to....... A pash = you know it, l know it. We'll keep it respectable for now. We'll fuck very soon. A tongue kiss = We are not going home alone...... Remember, this is RHP, not RSVP........
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Focus on what you want to do. There's trillions if Nike adds about it. Just do it. Do what ever feels right and follow your gut. Be confident, after all this is all about you. Personally, I do not think there's any such "golden rules" in doing this or that. It's what ever at that time, feels right for me and them. How I see it, each meet is different, each person is unique. So there's no right or wrong answer Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
the next time is playtime if we connect. Although there was once the first meet was a date in the city with a younger guy. He turned up in a suit and we had drinks, dinner..........and I took him home and gave him a lovely time And he is still a friend xx
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Loved your kiss scale! LOL! It made me recall the first time I met Mr DB - he was sizzling hot and when we said our goodbye's, he boldly leaned in for a lingering pash that turned into a tongue kiss! I truly almost melted into a puddle right there and then! :-D
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sweetgem
8 years ago
But when I was able to go out freely, I usually waited until I got home, parked my car, got inside my house and sat down on my couch before I initiated a second date for intimacy, which would be an hour or so after the first meet. And those who I had had encounters with, also did similar by texting me within 1-2 hours of our first meeting. I am an opportunist, I don't sit around waiting for luck to strike me. The same concept applies in here, if I like a guy, I will initiate the contact for a second meet. I rather take action and go for what I want instead of waiting around wondering if the person would be interested or not. As for your third question, I would leave it as it is if I don't like the guy and if he doesn't contact me either. If he does, then I will let he know, otherwise no answer is answer :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like to be up front before we say goodbye on that first encounter. I'll usually volunteer 'Well I'd do this again' or something similar if I'm attracted but unsure of the response. If I'm not attracted then I'll say so - much better to be up front about it - 'This was great, but I wouldn't go any further than here' is one way I've said that before. Of course, if the chemistry is very much there I'll suggest less clothes next time we meet ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
8 years ago
No lapse in time for me I generally meet and play if both are happy to do so.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' The kiss at the end of the meet will tell you all you need to know No kiss = coffee/wine was nice. Have a nice life A peck = coffee/wine was nice. Some work required if i want to....... A pash = you know it, l know it. We'll keep it respectable for now. We'll fuck very soon. A tongue kiss = We are not going home alone...... Remember, this is RHP, not RSVP........ If only! I've definitely pashed guys at the end of a date where everything was great, only to think "Oh hell no, this is so not going to happen..." In that case I'm upfront about there not being enough chemistry. same here, a kiss can make or break and I've also not kissed at the end of a meet and seen them again / played with them :)
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inspirit
8 years ago
There us a second time.... I am intrigued by this phenomenon. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' There us a second time.... I am intrigued by this phenomenon. - Posted from rhpmobile That's when you get put over the knees, then over the back of the couch... Tall
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Limited_Editionx
8 years ago
I text on the way home and say pretty much what I think while its fresh in my mind. Then it's pretty much up to them to respond :) XxMiss L Ed
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
On the rare occasion I meet someone new, I will tend to follow up later that evening with a text (if it's a lunch time/afternoon meet), or a text when I get home, saying thank you for a lovely time. Assuming it was, of course.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is a pretty good guide. Always exceptions to the rule though : when you walk away from a goodnight kiss with moist panties and never here from tbem again :( needs to be chemistry for both. I have been weak at the knees having a goodnight kiss in a elevator and the text to meet the next night appears before you get your car keys out.Ahhh good times :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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