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Age Differences
October 26 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! Enigmaoflove ..Thanks for your Topic:) Well my view is that whom ever is meant to cross your path and form Relationships with you ,will at the right time whatever age they are .Because they're meant too. So both of you can grow from the Experience . A Hyperthetical choice I'd say My Preference is all below My age 48yrs down to 30yrs and a strong Connection on all levels ..Lovers I'd go to 23 mature up to my Max preference 48yrs.. Friendships 22yrs-57yrs generally, tho all have their exceptions..Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
well, being 53 this year.. IF I had an 18 yo want some from me.. I would be up for it... with bells on it... that is what....?? 35 years differnce.... So.. would I do someone 35 years OLDER then me? 88??? NO :) AND, every year, it will get more definate.. 36 - 89 37 - 90 38 - 91 Ok.. so, I am a bad person... :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
For a relationship I'd say between 24-36, I prefer slightly older women because I seem to learn more from them, not only sexually but through life experience. Casual I'd still say 24 but there isn't really an upper limit as such. As long as there was a mutual attraction of some sort.
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belladonna888
12 years ago
Quoting 'MadamDragonfly' Hi! Enigmaoflove ..Thanks for your Topic:) Well my view is that whom ever is meant to cross your path and form Relationships with you ,will at the right time whatever age they are .Because they're meant too. So both of you can grow from the Experience . A Hyperthetical choice I'd say My Preference is all below My age 48yrs down to 30yrs and a strong Connection on all levels ..Lovers I'd go to 23 mature up to my Max preference 48yrs.. Friendships 22yrs-57yrs generally, tho all have their exceptions..Cheers Lu :) What Madam said is true , do we let the age of a person get in the way of happiness ? If your attracted to each other the only thing that stops it is " what will other people think " I say stuff that , as long as his legal
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' Ok.. so, I am a bad person... :) That's an entirely different subject. ;)AgeIt depends what we are out for. For some NSA fun age is just a number. And as it's not followed by 'DD' it's not important.For a short to medium term relationship age shouldn't really come into it.If you aim for permanency age might have to be a consideration but I don't feel it should be the major factor.In my early thirties I was living with a girl 12 years my junior. A friend thought she looked like Sarah Michelle Gellar so she got the nickname "Buffy the grandpa layer".Mr Tri
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RHP User
12 years ago
Cavey I think he spoke about relationship staying togethere and so forth, not just fun in bed or around your cave, lol Age in a relationship can be a big factor......I find males between the ages of 40 to 65 great. Now this would be only a difference to me of 15 younger and 10 older. I believe its easier to relate with each other, both have live experience and are more settled. When someone is older as 65 I am to frightened they die. But then rules you make yourself can be broken because someone walks into your life who is just right and you don’t think about the age. Yes a young men looks much more nicer then a old one.....but then too after a while you don’t see this anymore you see more of how this person is......so it doesn’t matter anymore. I don’t know maybe it is all shit we put so much emphasis on age or anything....its just in our heads planted by rules what should be good.....I’m confused. Litonya
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can't stand older men so I'm lucky if they get a look in at 40 but I will look at a bloke that's 42 but he would have to be very close to perfect.......on the downward scale I'll go down to 30/35 I'm not a cougar and I don't have the energy for young blokes so anything younger would do my head in lol :-) roxxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
well when i was 19 i met my ex husband and he was 10 years older and had 2 kids - sorry to say - ive wisened up in my old age and when looking for someone out in the real world relationship wise - mayb 2-3 years older than me but then they just seem to act so old - so im game enough to say i would b open to 28 - 40....but making sure the younger guys have seriously thought about the fact that i would not in no way be having any of their babies....
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
theres around 10 yrs difference between me and my wife but even if it was 20 yrs difference it wouldnt matter.. i really think it depends on the level of maturity of each partner not the age... ive known guys that are 40 but have the maturity level of a 20 year old and ive met women like that also.. if both parties similiar in they way they think and have the same maturity mind set then thats all that matters.. if the man or woman is very mature minded and tends to live there life that way, then they may have problems dating an 18 year old that still listens to justin bieber.. thats my opinion anyway.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For me 30 - 50 (going up a year as I age a year of course). I like older men more (these days and this has changed a bit of the last few years) as they are more likely to have experienced a little more of the world. More likely to be able to hold a conversation (and where a relationship is concnerned) if they havent already got children are less likely to want them - for me this is key in any long term relationship. Sexually Im a little more flexible but not by much. I used to be hard and fast with no one closer to my Mothers age than my own but as I grew up I began to realise that age is less of a factor when youre older than in my youth. As long as there is compatibility on many levels (intellectual, emotion, sexual etc) then there really shouldnt be much of an issue. I do still have some hangups about major age gaps (18 with a 40+) but only because I wonder what they could possibly have in common outside the bedroom. Im sure there are instances where this has worked but I just dont get it. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
12 years ago
I myself have always been attracted to older men/women. When Im looking to play with women Im more open with my age preferences and as long as they are my age up to around 35 it works well. However before I met my boyfriend (when I was playing as a single girl) I use to only go for guys between the ages of 26-35 as I think younger guys are to immature and I never seemed to have anything in common with them. Finding anything interesting to talk about seemed almost impossible because all they wanted to do was screw, where as older more experinced men know how to treat and draw in women. My partner (who i met through rhp) will be 35 in December meaning there is 12 years age difference, and although he doesnt look his age the life experince and wisdom he brings to our relationship is obvious. I'm the luckiest girl in the world to have found someone like him. If I was like the other girls my age who refuse to date guys only a few years older than themselves I never would have met him in the first place. So I say and agree that age is only a number! Taby.
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inspirit
12 years ago
excite my mind and you will excite me
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have an age difference of nearly 11 years, and we see it as no issue. Its all about what you both like, how you communicate and most of all the spark between you both. Mr L enjoys the younger gals, and Mrs L is totally into the older guys. As they say, "You're as young as the woman you hold".
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RHP User
12 years ago
pmsl Cavey.... Good to hear some interesting thoughts. 'cliche' - im similar...i like the maturity of 37 to 42 year olds. 'bella' - yes i do know your answer to this lol. 'lostfocus' - Good point you make about a big age difference and what interests they would have outside the bedroom.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Does it really matter?As long as there are two consenting adults involved in the relationship, be it emotionally or physically attached, should age play such a big factor?I've often been frowned upon by friends or judge by boys my age when they see my going for men who are 8+ years older than me. I've always prefered older men as they seem to be inclined to want less of a 'Wham, Bam, Thank you Ma'am' and more of an experience. I've personally been a happy FB of a 36 year old when i was 18, which is a near 20 year age gap however intellectually we could still connect on a similar basis.Not saying there isn't issue that arise in the generation gap. Music, entertainment, friends etc however if it is purely a sexual deviant act that you're performing, age shouldn't matter if you're comfortable with the person.Well, that's my 2 cents anyway.
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rc_80
12 years ago
14 years for us. Works a treat!Mrs gets financial stability, a more mature outlook, support she couldn't get from others her own age.Mr gets a hot young wife, someone who is motivated and excited about life, and someone who will be fit enough to change his nappies as he hits 80.It works for us, as we both have a lot of friends ranging over vast age groups. Mrs had to grow up real quick and support her family from a young age. Mr didn't really do the usual teenager/young twenties social thing, so we're both enjoying a fantastic social life now.
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RHP User
12 years ago
A lot of these responses have just come through. Good to see and hear how a big age difference isn't an issue. Friends and casual buddies for obvious reasons seems to have a much wider difference so 15 to 20 years difference is common....but it is good to see responses from couples with that 10 to 13 year difference in successful relationships.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'triunity'In my early thirties I was living with a girl 12 years my junior. A friend thought she looked like Sarah Michelle Gellar so she got the nickname "Buffy the grandpa layer".Mr Tri Uuuuuuh Mr Tri, if she's still around could you please please please pass on my details!!! I'm still waiting for the real SMG to dump her sham husband and shack up with me.For the record, when Buffy was 16 she dated a 241 year old, and their love was the most intensely tragic love of all time. He was a vampire, she was a vampire slayer. It still brings a tear to my eye all these years later. Truly, age and sacred callings are powerless in the face of love...Angel: I knew this was gonna happen. Buffy: What? What do you think is happening? Angel: You're 16 years old, I'm 241. Buffy: I've done the math. Angel: You don't know what you're doing. You don't know what you want. Buffy: Oh, no, I-I think I do. I want out of this conversation. Angel: Listen, if we date, you and I both know one thing's gonna lead to another. Buffy: One thing already has led to another. You think it's a little late to be reading me a warning label? Angel: I'm just trying to protect you. This could get out of control. Buffy: Isn't that the way it's supposed to be? <Angel grabs her and pulls her close, and she gasps> Angel: This isn't some fairy tale. When I kiss you... you don't wake up from a deep sleep and live happily ever after. Buffy: No... when you kiss me, I wanna die. *shudder*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Gee I'd better hurry up and 'do you' before I expire My first husband was 14 years my senior, that didn't end too well. Current husband is three years older, that's going just fine. An ex FWB is 30, has a 51 yo wife, they are not faring so well sexually. But he still loves her and wants to be with her and support her. So whatever floats their boat. There are loads of men with significantly younger women, and not so many women with significantly younger men (although this is becoming more commonplace). It probably works better with the first scenario, a single older woman will often not be as 'financially set' as a single older male, and the woman will usually have kids from previous relationships living with her, making the dynamics of a new relationship a little more difficult. In my opinion, if there is love and attraction there though, what does it matter.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So I was in a long term relationship/marriage until we seperated 2 years ago. We met in college and were the same age. I remember looking a a few friends whose partners were a few years older that us over the years, and thinking there was no way i could do that...how narrow minded was I. I now find myself meeting and seeing people that are both younger and older than myelf. I've been with a few young ladies that I have met at concerts, but although physically attracted, there was no intellectual connection, I'm not saying that, that would occur in every instance, just the few experiences I have had. Plus it's like dating my little sister. However, I have been lucky enough to meet some lovely ladies that are around my age or slighty older that I would do anything for. I think i tend to agree with cassie and Mr Tri that if its NSA ages don't matter. If it's a serious thing then maybe ages would play a part. just my thoughts tho.any
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RHP User
12 years ago
my view on this is that age is only a number. I personally have no problems in being in a relationship with someone much older than me asn was recently involved with a man 30 years my senior. I also on the flipside just met a freshy, as in has been 18 for a whopping 2 weeks. Both of these people could hold conversations with me and interested me in different ways. I wouldn't go out with the whippersnapper because he has his whole life ahead of him, I will not impeded. Plus that connection isn't there for me. I think I'll end up with someone my own age or older, maybe a bit younger - see? I have no idea! 25 to late 40's early 50's would be somewhere I'd fit into. It really depends on the person!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been in a couple of relationship where there was a age gap of 8 years.if there is a connection between the too involved that is all that should matter.If the two involved are happy then their friends should be happy for them.On saying that, i know some ladies who are nearly a decade younger then me but are as mature as me.but then again, i know ladies older then me, but yet they less mature then me. So in short, Maturity, and connection, happiness is all that matters ..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like them young and thats it, really....and they also like me even tho' i am many years older, but then again i have the advantage of being older with young body so therefor maybe its not much an issue for both party...to have fun spending time in and out bed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I mean look at the pic I am no f@#ng cassanova.... Have fun where you find it Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
ideality and reality is that when it comes to serious relationships these type of unions are called "may to december romance" - and probably lasts only that long. The reason being (when the woman is older/man younger) - mostly because although some couples successfully forged a life together, these couples are far and few in between. Men are much more sensitive at the way they are pecieved by their peers, family, friends and others in general. If the feedback related to this type of union is not very positive, in time the individual will get "cold feet" and usually the union ends. The other way around (man older/woman younger) seems to be a bit better, because is largely better accepted by the society, and women tend to be much less sensitive at feedback relating to their partners age. That and also the men are percieved as The Provider, hence is ok. That's my 2cents worth, and I am sure there will be plenty to say otherwise, however the figures does not add up when it come to marriage/serious relationships between older woman & younger man. In saying that however I guess everybody should exercite their free will and spirit, and make the choices they feel are good, and working for them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
10 years either side of my age is where I look, but I'm open-minded. I'm deeply attracted to maturity and life experience, so I tend to like men 5-10 years older than me, but I've talked to enough younger men with big brains and big hearts to not rule anyone out :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
been in relationships with someone 16 years younger,and 14 years older.It is all about the connection you have with someone. Similar interests and life experience are sometimes the catylsts for more than just a short term fling.Neither of which have anything to do with age.x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm with you Freya! Cheers Felonious
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Enigma :)When I first started dating in my late teens (about 19), I thought I could go one or two years older, maximum.Then the maximum went up to 25.Then it went up to 30.Now it's up to 35.As a lot of people have said, the maturity depends on the person itself. I've wined and dined with some very immature men in their mid-30s, and chatted to some very mature 18 year olds. However through all the dates I've had so far, I most likely see myself entering a relationship with someone in their mid to late 20s - enough to provide security but not in an overbearing sense (no sugar daddies, please), there's not so much of an age difference that we can't comprehend each other's priorities and ambitions (my priorities at the moment do not involve buying a house or writing up a will), and we can still share a few common fun interests.Women-wise, I also can only lust after women older than me. Emphasis on the word woman rather than girl. I can't give reasons for this like I have above for men, as I would never even consider having a relationship with a woman; it's simply a matter of attraction.
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RHP User
12 years ago
..have been well within 10 years of my age..Younger ladies were fun to look at but I never seriously thought of sex with them. I just did not think they were interesting. Not lived enough to have something to chat about or an interest to learn.Then January this year happened along and I fund my self curled up with a 26 year old. Interesting and engaging. it was never going to go anywhere as she had old boyfriend baggage and was also pretty hung up about the 22 years between us. But I’ll remember it fondly.I now just look at the person, not the age. I also perv at young women differently now sometimes.honeybee0086 wrote: ..early 50's would be somewhere I'd fit into.~bows~ at your service my lady..I think I've joind the dirty old man club ~rolls eyes~
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am significantly younger than my partner (who I love to pieces). However all of these comments about how the older men can't keep up with their younger women is Bullshit ! I am a complete nymphomaniac~ However I can hardly keep up with my man at times~ he has the sex drive of a 15 year boy and I love it! We have the most incredible relationship, every single day I wake up and feel so lucky to have found someone who makes me this happy and who I feel this comfortable with~ I don't look at him and see his age, I look at him and see the person I love and who makes me happy. We played with a couple the other night and she was a gorgeous 18 year old who had the maturity of at least a 27 year old. Her attitude towards life and sex blew me away and was years ahead of many older women we have met through RHP. People are all different, and maturity can vary from person to person~ you can be pleasantly surprised by many people and the level you can connect with them on regardless of age. My boyfriend will probably comment on this forum as well and describe what I have tried to say a lot better than I have :) xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
@saskia72.....lol....That was more the relationship indicator age lol. The casual friends limits are usually much wider lol. Thanks to everyone for commenting. There is a mass of different angles and one the purposes of this topic was to see how the non-sexual way of life fits into age difference. Getting an idea if it is just basic human nature to confine ourselves to our own immediate age range...or whether all things considered it doesn't really matter.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am a firm believer that this can change over time. I was married for 13 years to someone 18 months older than me and then i left him for an older man :) My current husband is 25 years older than me and I adore him :) I am beginning to think i have a real thing for older men :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
as long as you can carry a good conversation and are reasonably fit i.e. can walk a beach or have a dance without expiring in a sweaty heap ! Then we're good.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've always been attracted to younger guys. Although my ex husband was only 4 months younger than me! Lol... However I wouldn't date anyone more than 5-10 years younger as I've found that people are just very judgemental when it comes to older women/younger men. Even though we shouldn't worry about what other people think, when you're also a parent, you have to take into account their feelings and how it will affect them..... Too much difference in age (older or younger) I also find it hard to relate to them, in terms of life experiences, generational issues etc.
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