M65
Age, how big is your fudge factor ?
May 24 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
to read the female replies to this as well. Though I think most, if they nominate an age, that's it, if they say 45yo for instance they mean 45 not 46 or more.Personally I would never contact someone who I wasn't within their age range.Nor would I send an initial flirt, or friend request, as far as I can gather they are not appreciated.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
Most will simply ignore your message, if they look at your profile and see you are outside their preference. Most, but not all. What you have to consider is, that their preference is exactly that, their PREFERENCE. Messaging when outside it, is same as expecting someone who does not have (for example) Anal sex listed, to actually want some anal sex. Be prepared for a lot of those you message, to simply block you, treating you as someone who cant read a profile.That said, others will accept a lil fudge factor, and be open to at least reading your profile and message, before deciding.Good luck.
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QLDtwo4fun
13 years ago
One thing we have learnt is to read the whole profile before saying yes or no. If the profile sounds like the couple may be appealing give them a chance. Some people over rate themselves, others under rate themselves, particularly on body type. Age also seems to be open to interpretation. No one ever lists themselves as having poor personal hygiene, or GF will take one for the team, etc but they are out there.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Either that or I can be called a lazy bugger, I let other people find us, make first contact etc. They've gotten a general idea from our pics...ok I could have a wart for a head but they can decide that for themselves as our PG2 has our face shots in it..We get profiles that are of younger then what we seek/state but we have no issues with that it's up to them really and I make it known they are free to run a mile once they have seen pics if we are not there style.Our pics are not fudged ( my age is) and profile pic is as recent as two weeks ago..Seriously though whilst age is just a number blah blah for us as a couple its purely aesthetics with a rather good dash of personality thrown in as to what we require.. To be really honest, I am more preferential to younger couples then older..thats just me ( in particular) So fudge away but I will notice it's not that hard to tell from pics and once cam is thrown in ,same with people judging us so *shrugs*
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RHP User
13 years ago
At the end of the day, if you're a match for someone, or think you are the worst that will happen is they say no. I know personally, I'm talking to quite a few people outside my 'range' and even though they're older than I was looking for, they're nice people and we get on. As long as you're open and honest about it, I think go for it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
To judge as you never really know if the persons preference is set in stone or a guide. I think you need to use some good judgment If your a guy contacting a girl who is 23 and has 18-30 as her age range and your 31yo then I guess you have to ask yourself and be honest . Are you a youthful looking 31yo or could yo pass your self off as a 38yo . If its the latter then perhaps your pushing your luck.What we found hard being a couple is putting down an age range I think ours is 18- 40 Now thats not ideal as Jane has a very tight range that she looks for usually 28 - 38 although she has gone as high as 40 but it was some one in exceptional condition for a 40yo. I on the other hand couldn't see my self with anyone under 23-24 and they would need a very mature head if I did. As for older I wouldn't have any issue with a girl in her late 40's if she was attractive and well kept.So in the past we set an upper age range of 50 to cover for girls up to there late 40's but all it did was get us swamped with messages from guys 40 - 60 and Jane wasn't at all interested. We would also get messages from the couples where the girl of the couple was in our age range say 38yo but the guy was 55yo. Even now with the upper range set at 40 only one of the members of a couple profile needs to be 40 or under and we come up in there searches .This needs to be change on RHP so couples can select a different age for M & F.Tim
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like initiative ;) some will think you can't read and will reject on that basis probably more so than on the basis of age but hey that's a lose : lose situation so you might as well try for the exception hoping it's exceptional :D Some girls or maybe just 1 will go hmmmm he is really keen, confident and will perhaps put in some effort and extra points if he takes viagra lol. But I live in my own world so not sure about the general consensus ;)My age bracket is very open though already but I wouldn't mind 50+ messaging me if they honestly believe they can pique my interest mentally and physically.Cass xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
It was a revelation to me that a young woman of 30 would prefer my company at 60!Perhaps this is very rare. It feels so special and ' right ' no matter about the flak. We are having a ball!The timing was right because as I become older I prefer much younger women.What is going on? Is this the ' dirty old man ' syndrome which may have some former physiological/cultural basis and lingers in the modern psyche?I have a lot of contacts on another site from women in the 22 - 26 age bracket that sound very interested but seem to have trouble committing to making real contact. is this the ' I want to fuck my daddy ' syndrome not quite strong enough in them to go right ahead?
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RHP User
13 years ago
You asked if it was acceptable to make contact if the age range you are trying to contact says up to 45. I would say it would depend mostly on the person your contacting.. is it a 35 year old woman with a maximum age range of 45,or is it a woman the age of 40? Even though it just 5 years I think it actually makes a big difference. If I was 35 and had the age range of up to 45 I don't think I would want to be contacted by any males over 50, but if I was 40 or in my mid 40's obviously then its an age gap of ten years which ( if you keep yourself in good condition ) shouldn't be too much of a stretch. As a 30 year old ( I think my profile still says 29 oopsie!) I think I have 40 as my maximum but to be honest I haven't been attracted to any men yet over the age of 35... unfortunately alot of guys don't look after themselves physically it seems once they get past a certain age they just stop trying.... but it seems to be the opposite with women... the older women get I think they try even harder to maintain themselves...and as a bi 30 something year old women I can tell you right now that I have been attrcated to MANY women that are between 40-50. I was contacted by a guy last week and he was 38.. actually quite an attractive face but ALOT of wrinkles and yellow teeth... a non smoker but that aged him to be in his mid 40's... all it takes is a trip to the dentist to get some teeth whitener to take 5 years off! I would also say read what the profile says and see if they make a reference to what age they are seeking. Not only that but if you do message someone and you are above the age range they are looking for and make reference to it when you write to them, it shows respect and that you've actually read their profile but would take a punt anyway... but make sure you tell them that. This week I had a man message me in his late 50's when I have clearly written on my profile " please do not message me if you are old enough to be my parent/s as it creeps me out" so he quite obviously had not read my profile. Then he made no mention of it in his first message to me which was quite disrespectful I thought... I mean did he not think I would notice his age? When I quizzed him laterhe said he was trying to take a punt which he didn't think was harmful.. I disagreed when its a gap of that much I told him he was wasting not only my time but his own time aswell. Anyway thats my little rant for the day, not even sure if I answered your question but i hope I've been of some help! :) xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
All good opinions so far thank you , pretty much along the lines of how I approach things, read the whole profile and evaluate. I'm not into wasting my time or anybody else's.Keep 'em coming
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RHP User
13 years ago
ten years either side of our ages.....less is better tho...we play within our own age group if we can, as we find there are many 'shared' things like attitudes, opinions, experiences, music etc that make conversation much more relaxed...and if we cant connect verbally, we wont ever connect physically............
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorry but very rarely will I go above my limit...I might go below it but rarely above it. I'd still chat to you but I'd never meet and play with older unless I seen you very close to perfection.... Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
I find peoples reaction to this post rather sordid.. Really' if you read into all the ' ... I dont like this, I dont like that , he's too tall , he's too small.. I like a big dick.. Im scared of a big dick.. he's too young ' he's too old.. aaaarrrrggghhh. where does it end ???For god sake' never knock anything until you try it... I've had younger and older women and enjoyed both. I always take people on face value, who they are, the way they present themself, and whether we can enjoy each other for what and who we are.. In other words look at others as people first and put your prejudice's second and see what happens. How do you know your'e not doing yourself a injustice when you reject people because of what you perceive they might be ?? If you're serious' open your mind and experiment some' and see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised but then again disappointed , but at least you can then speak with authority of knowing first hand...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes I have a age preference..45-60, however it is flexible. When someone contacts me under 35, I definitly say no.....the rest is up to the first chat I have with them. I am not to bad in picking the men on a chat...and because I dont believe in bulshit I am straight out with my answers or questions so I get fast to the finish line, and know I could continue or not. Some just rub me the wrong way quite from the start and I know it will not work. I am sensitive to words and how men talk to me and I listen to my gutfeeling. I am not saying I am always right but to now it has work in my favour with the agegroup I have chosen. It is nice to meet new people and chat and dont care what age they are, some just dont give you any vibes, I then stop chatting, and when I stop chatting I will not meet them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
35-45 for me. There may be exceptions above 45, but there will never be any under 35. I still wonder why all the 22 year olds insist that age is just a number because they they have experience beyond their years.... Riiiiiight...It is MY preference and I have nothing in common with a 34 year old guy. I know my life, I know my experiences and I am fully qualified to make that judgement.I put the cap on at 45 because I'm still amazed at how many men on here who claim they are 38 and look 55!! So really, the 45 is just a rough line in the sand, the 35 is a pretty defined line..I've never just deleted a flirt or message because they're out of my ideal age range - I just let them know they're too young for me. The older gents usually start by saying they acknowledge they're outside my age range. And that shows the maturity the pups are lacking!
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DonnaBrett
13 years ago
As we say in our profile ..it's your attitude that counts not your years. We have a ball park figure of course but will certainly go over that if the person is in good shape..body & mind. Also we have said before that because so many people on here lie about their ages (WHY?) that at the end of the day you may end up playing with someone outside your requested age group anyway and if that's the case what does their age matter? Hypothetical question... You are looking for people between 20 & 40. Someone contacts you who says they are 40...you hit it off..you play...have a great time...really get along fine..then BAM...you find out this person is actually 45. Do you freak out cos you have played with an old timer and become disgusted in yourself or do you think..hmmm..that didn't hurt afterall ? LOL
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had my preferences from 30-42 I also had a side note for those who considered themselves to be youthful in appearance and attitude, that I was open to at least considering someone older. Because I can relate to this greatly, I don't really look my age either and even on a social level I get frustrated with people of my own years that seem to have this belief that they don't need to try anymore physically for one, but the lack of motivation and enthusiam for ...well anything really, is what really kills me.I absolutely refuse to feel bad about my age requirements, I struggle to feel attracted to the majority of men older than me, and before you judge I have very good reason for it too. An older man greatly affected my entire being as a child, I don't have to find older men attractive and I begrudge people making light of my preferences in that area.I shouldnt have to continually justify my choices (yes I had to many times through contact on here not the forums for clarification) As Mischievouslad said so well, attraction isn't a choice.......and to agree with Roxxy as well, I will talk to and become friends with all ages, but as soon as sex comes into the equation that line is drawn firmly in the sand.Dont make others feel uncomfortable about their age pref. if you can avoid it, you just never know what their reasons might be
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PartyOrg
13 years ago
Personally I dont even bother with age................I think it depends on how young you make yourself look......... I know a lot of beautiful women in their early to mid 40's that would give girls in their mid to late 20's a good run for their money. Another thing.............. Not many people put down their real ages on this site
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' I find peoples reaction to this post rather sordid.. Really' if you read into all the ' ... I dont like this, I dont like that , he's too tall , he's too small.. I like a big dick.. Im scared of a big dick.. he's too young ' he's too old.. aaaarrrrggghhh. where does it end ???For god sake' never knock anything until you try it... I've had younger and older women and enjoyed both. I always take people on face value, who they are, the way they present themself, and whether we can enjoy each other for what and who we are.. In other words look at others as people first and put your prejudice's second and see what happens. How do you know your'e not doing yourself a injustice when you reject people because of what you perceive they might be ?? If you're serious' open your mind and experiment some' and see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised but then again disappointed , but at least you can then speak with authority of knowing first hand... Great answer Jay........much food for thought, I like it .
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RogueGeek
13 years ago
No.I am quite certain I wouldn't enjoy sex with a porcupine - I don't need to try it before I "knock it". Some people know they wouldn't enjoy sex with a person of the same sex (or opposite sex as the case may be). Likewise, I know I wouldn't be comfortable with somebody old enough to be my grandfather - I have enough 'daddy' issues as it is.To suggest that somebody's preference is "sordid" is itself narrow-minded and patronising. A person's preference may be considered 'shallow', or 'egotistical' or just plain desperate. But unless it involves something that is actually immoral (ie sex with children, or adults unable to consent), then a preference is just a preference.For the record, I have met with and slept with people outside of our current age bracket. I actually revised our age-bracket (it is now more narrow than when we first joined) because of those experiences.Cheers,MS Quoting 'Jay_Me' I find peoples reaction to this post rather sordid.. Really' if you read into all the ' ... I dont like this, I dont like that , he's too tall , he's too small.. I like a big dick.. Im scared of a big dick.. he's too young ' he's too old.. aaaarrrrggghhh. where does it end ???For god sake' never knock anything until you try it... I've had younger and older women and enjoyed both. I always take people on face value, who they are, the way they present themself, and whether we can enjoy each other for what and who we are.. In other words look at others as people first and put your prejudice's second and see what happens. How do you know your'e not doing yourself a injustice when you reject people because of what you perceive they might be ?? If you're serious' open your mind and experiment some' and see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised but then again disappointed , but at least you can then speak with authority of knowing first hand...
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Cat505
13 years ago
I have a step son who is 35. So that age and younger just feels...wrong..! I like to still to the ages group..that I couldn't possibly be their mother...lol. I have lower limit of 45.. Tho I am finding I fancy more the 43-47 age group..if the younger one contact me I thank them and say to young sorry..
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RHP User
13 years ago
our choices and preferences are the result of experience.....we've whittled down to a bracket we do like, after many bad experiences. this is our fantasy, and we honestly have no issue with being as particular and as selective as we feel appropriate.its the easiest thing in the world to say 'no'.....especially when there are so many putting their hands up to play........the ones we say 'yes' to, have obviously ticked more boxes than they cross....
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
and I won't apologise nor feel the need to justify it. Why should anyone?I do wish I could set different age preferences for males and females tho. They're quite different for me.xx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know some exceptional older guys... it comes down to attitude and life. A lot of older guys have been through the wringer, or have quite a negative view of women & relationships, and I don't want to play with someone like that. I want to spend my time with someone who is active, and fun and spontaneous. Who is happy for a snuggle but also happy to wrestle me, or have sneaky park sex or to jump in puddles with me.So, if it can be demonstrated that you're older than my preferences but still fun with a youthful heart, I might go there, however looks also play a part. I'm not all wrinkly yet and would prefer my partners aren't yet either.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I never age differences stop me, either here or in person. I've been in relationships with women half my age and had mutually satisfying great times. I know what I have to offer and if the chmistry is good the 'party' is hot, intense and memorable. I see some profiles here where the people are so fussy and demanding but, as the old saying goes, often they are nothing to write home about. Besides, I've found from experience that such people are seldom much fun.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quote. For the record, I have meet and slept with people outside our current age bracket. I actually revised our age bracket. ( it is now more narrow then when we first joined ) because of those experiences.At least you were open to experiment and made your decision based on that experience.. Thats fair enough.. It is also fair to say that at your age I probally would have thought likewise.. The one thing you learn in life as years roll away, is that you will change your mind from one year to the next.I mention I had both younger and older girls but that did not mean "all or any girls I meet I would sleep with. What I meant is I give people a chance based on who they might be rather than who I perceive they must be. There are girls I've meet that I know we wont go any further than a coffee or lunch.. Thats got to do with chemistry.. no chemistry' and you know it... so nothing happens.. But at least you know why..To say you have narrowed your age requirement because of your experience is understandable.. My point is that not all people are the same. There are airhead girls and guys at any age, but then again there are probally more genuine out there than not. A few years back I swore I would not go near any woman less than 30 yrs.. then I meet a not so beautifull girl in her mid twentys who was a absolutely fantastic.. Not the type of girl I was normally attracted to.. In fact when we first meet I thought it would be just hello goodbye.. but that meeting lead to some great times with a great girl. So these days I never say never until I take the time to find out..My post certainly wasnt meant to be patronising in anyway. I was just trying to point out how' with so many negatives' some might be overlooking some truly wonderfull people.. Jay
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
This post is doing my head in..."Fudge" means "falsify the data"! Now are you asking about people lying about their ages or are you asking about their age criteria? Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I always thought Fudge was that delicious party treat you nibbled on, like a lot of delectable females here.
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RHP User
13 years ago
xFunloving, I'm asking how much, if any, leeway you give people contacting you with regards to the age limits you have prescribed in your profile.
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I first joined, I put down an age of 30 as my absolute maximum, as my sister is around that age and the idea of playing with anyone around that age was slightly disturbing to me at the time. However in the time that I've been here, I've gradually eased it up to 35 (although I'm cringing by the time it's 33-34) as I've met some amazing people, with whom I get along with surprisingly well. I've been told I have the mentality of someone in their mid to late twenties though, so it's different for everyone, I guess. Generally I prefer the company of those from their mid twenties and above and can't stand people my own age when it comes to more than friendship, however I've left it at 20 rather than pushing it up to 25, so as to see if there is the chance of any 'old souls' like myself floating around here.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some people have had a hard life it seems. I like to play with the young of heart... it rarely comes in an older body, but is a joy to behold when it does.
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I joined you were my age....now you're a couple of years younger. So come on share the fountain of youth and don't be greedy Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
Older I'd go maybe 5 years if incredibly fit ( having said that I did give head to a hot man who was 60 , never knew his age at the time !) I'd not go younger than 25, purely because I like men who take their time and enjoy the moments, young guys find it hard to slow the pace ( I find it VERY hard to slow the pace , I need someone to settle me so I don't rush things) Either way everyone we meet in person is taken as they come and age plays no part! It is only when casting the net online you can be specific !
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RHP User
13 years ago
How can you meet someone knowing you have shaved almost 20 years off your age??? Do you think people won't notice ? I'd be pissed off and walk out of the meet ! People are weird :/
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PartyOrg
13 years ago
Would love to know the circumstances under which u gave a 60yo head :p
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ruby_blossum
13 years ago
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RogueGeek
13 years ago
I love it when people make comments about "when I was your age"... *pretends she is a teenager and rolls her eyes*But what you were saying was that people should remain open to meeting other people regardless of whether or not they fit the 'criteria' listed on the profile, just in case that person happens to be an exception to the rule. I am well aware there are exceptions to my criteria, and if I happen to meet them IRL I am more than willing to see where things go. However, people don't have to be open to meeting people who are outside their criteria. In this context is its not "sordid" at all. I don't think anybody on this site has the time to meet every single person they make contact with (or who contacts them). I sure don't, and the "looking for" criteria assist in cutting down the numbers.One of the wonderful things about RHP is that it lets you cut to the chase: not fond of uncircumcised men? Then you can rule them out before you meet them. Not a huge fan of women with breasts larger than a C cup? You don't have to talk to them at all if you don't want to. Fussy about a person's understanding and application of the written word in , you can evaluate that too - all from the comfort of your own computer/laptop/smartphone/ipad/tablet...Cheers,MS Quoting 'Jay_Me' It is also fair to say that at your age I probally would have thought likewise.. The one thing you learn in life as years roll away, is that you will change your mind from one year to the next.
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