MsJonesy

MsJonesy

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Age is but a number

October 19 2014

I was reading the Sunday papers online and came across a shot of a beautiful woman in lingerie, part of an advertisement for a well known American clothing company. The model was a real woman - sexy, lovely long hair, a certain sparkle in her eyes. The model is 62. Her lovely long hair is white. She looked gorgeous. The accompanying article discussed that women "don't have to 'cover up' after a 'certain age', that sexiness is not just for the young and that we are all tired of the impossible standards around youthfulness and beauty.” We often talk about issues related to this. We have discussed hot bodies, the attraction (or not) of ripped abs and the fit brigade. We have talked about what attracts us – physical and mental. We have also discussed cougars – and I would prefer if this forum does not become yet another discussion of this topic. But what of age? What do we really think of those who have reached the turning point on the graph of our life line. As I am one of those people, would that admission suddenly make me less attractive if you couldn't read that information on my profile? I don’t think my outlook on life has changed much since my mid 30s and in many important ways it is far more positive than in the past. Yet I am now seen as ‘too old’ by many. I have friends and fwbs who are both older - and younger - than me, but only one fwb has been my age. For me the 'number' that is attached to people in my life is irrelevant. Do you feel your chances of success on this site lessen the older you are, just because it pigeonholes you regardless of your outlook on life? Why does the number I list on my profile make such a difference? (For the purpose of this topic, I am not referring to significant differences in age such as 20s Vs 40s. I am talking about the differences between 42 and 48 for example.) And are we all really tired of the impossible standards of youthfulness and beauty?

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I can only speak for myself. So far I have a lover who has been in and out( pardon the pun) as my lover for over two years he has now turned 28. I have had a lover of here who was 22 and we are still in contact. Most of my lovers are between 22 and 42 but I tend to find that men in mid to late thirties do it for me the most. I also am a realist and know if I was not married, that most men would not go with a woman my age. So its a combination of things,.I just cannot lie about my age at all, well I cannot lie about most things to tell the truth I am pretty transparent. I also have a good set of boobs, and photograph ok so that helps Age can be a problem for stamina, and for just being in the mood on the day, and also having a hormone patch sure makes an interesting talking point. There are times that I think, give it up and grown old gracefully as they say. I would think if your a single woman at my age your chances would go down with age. Sometimes we become a novelty bonk, like to cross that of your bucket list but to date have been able to weed out those that just want the old girl carousel ride. I do know women shave of their age here to get more hits just as some men add to their cock size or height.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It's not about age for me ,we all age over time Love a lady with some style ,sexy is timeless Some can carry any age ,plus need to communicate with partner ,lover! Very hard if a few decades apart ,not on the same page xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Lauren Bacaul Sophia Loren Some women are classy and sexy when they age. Same with men. I think Brad and George are doing it very well. and there are some great profiles on here of older classy men , who who have big old sexy brains that are very attractive.

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    Age is something many people use just to be able to discriminate, to justify their own decision making process not to proceed in a particular direction. You state that you are now at a 'turning point' - but is that really because of age, or because you may have an understanding that you are now approaching a 'mental' turning point in your life ? Some people age gracefully, like a proverbial wine, and some age like a piece of burnt toast. We all have differing views in what points attract us, so we will never all agree on one area. It would be interesting, as has been brought up previously, if age was not displayed on the site, to see how people would then react to others. Why, indeed, does the number one lists on their profile make such a difference to some ? Shouldn't we also look at the broader characteristics of an individual that would also appeal to us if we met face to face, such as sense of humour, humility, and the many other things we try and judge others by ? Unfortunately, too many here (and in life) tend to pigeon-hole others purely on one bit of information, which is often quite irrelevant to the overall other qualities they possess. I don't tend to fuss over the "impossible standards of youthfulness and beauty". As per yourself, we have reached an age whereby we know we cannot turn back the clock, and know that in ourselves we probably have more to offer via our life experience than someone who is just starting out in their journey of adulthood. They may exhibit more stamina than we can muster at times, but on the other side we know the virtues of technique (experience) and patience. And as has been mentioned, there are still plenty of mature age people who can still really rock. I feel sorry for the more shallow of those who feel they must classify by age parameters, for they really do not know what they are truly missing out on in their own journey of life - until, that is, they finally reach it themselves and then find they are also in the club that others pass them by (for no apparent reason). Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It's about the looks, experience and attitude that go with it. I've met with men both below and above my age requirements. Young guys more mature than their age suggested, older guys more youthful, etc. etc. However, when I turn a guy down because of the age he looks, talks, presents himself etc. not everyone seems to be able to handle it. A man here once contacted me several times, not wanting to hear nno. I told him not only was he way too far outside of my age limit, I just really did not find him attractive at all. He responded by saying I focused far too much on a number and he hoped I would get wiser over time. He completely ignored the fact that I wasn't into his looks or personality. I don't care about "a number", but I do care about someone looking like (and being as patronizing as) my dad.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Nothing under the age of 85 and accompanied by both his parents :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I am older then the dead sea..:-) ...I remember when the Dead Sea was just a pretty lake..I will probably still be here when the Dead Sea is just a pile of salt... Oh well,at least I will be well preserved xxQerulous

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I said you were around when the Dead Sea was just sick... I'll miss you!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    is 10 years younger. I think I still hold my own. He is a very sexy attractive man, and could definitely be with a younger woman. But lucky me. He chooses me - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    You must be jesting about your opening heading of "older but not wiser". I'm sure that you must appreciate the differences in your life as you have travelled your life's journey, and the extra experience and knowledge you have built up over that time. You would recognize the difference between, say your 20's to 40', and equally from your 40's to your current life time. You would surely have noted the 'fine tuning' of the mind and being able to pick the more important aspects of life as it relates to your wishes, tastes and desires as you have moved along your journey. Not to mention, that in the forums here, you can also better understand what people are talking about and at least manage to stay on topic, whereas others seem to wander off course at times with problems not fully associated with the OP's original topic. I think older and wiser has to be part of the equation (illnesses not withstanding), and I think you illustrate that well. Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    On a recent trip back to Christchurch earlier this year I went to big family party. There were a lot of people there, so Mum (92 y/o) dressed up for the occasion, nice skirt with stockings and the obligatory string of pearls...ATGATT as they say. We dropped her of after the party and headed out to finish off the night. A fair few cuzzies made all sorts of comments about her doing so well for her age...one cuzzie even described her as SEXY!She has outlived two husbands...and a boyfriend but reckons she's had enough of men for now. I'm not convinced as she does get a bit of attention at her retirement village...

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    10 years ago

    Hmm well it is an obsession of women to try and be younger. Most men don't bother.however each to their own as addition by subtraction and embellishment of the tape clearly wins the day as Inthekiss has pointed out. To answer your question YES. Most people are superficial.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting '6exxy' Hmm well it is an obsession of women to try and be younger. What a gross generalisation.

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Cuckle_shells' I don't know how I will feel when I turn 50 though. For me age is but a number. My x was 16 years older than me and my husband is 6 years younger than me. It is the person for me not the age. However I do wonder if I have limited time. If men will still find me desirable when I am older. I know my experience, attitude and knowledge brings more to the table than smooth skin but still. I look at all the older woman here and I think they are beautiful. Their confidence and sexuality shines through.I am hoping that we all grow old together and that the men that find me attractive now still do in 10 years time because I have a long list of things I want to do but I want to take my time. Shells. You don't have to feel any different when you journey into your fifties, or beyond. It is all in your state of mind, and as long as you still feel comfortable in your skin, you won't mind if you make to one hundred and fifty. As far as feeling desirable by the opposite sex, just think about how many times you will have seen news items whereby couples in their late 80's, or into their 90's, celebrating a particular anniversary, and they are still just as passionate about each other as they were in their earlier years. You will always be attractive to someone, and hopefully a group of someones, regardless of how long the years journey along. Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    As long as that's all that's relative.