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"Agony Aunt"'

January 17 2014

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RHP, have you considered starting an "Agony Aunt" section on your website? I'm recently new here so maybe you have one. If not, I may be a great candidate for the position!! The last TWO guys I have seen, one separated and one married, talked the talk on here, even texting constantly everyday for up to two weeks before I met either. Was so excited to meet, it sounded like we were going to blow the roof of the place......hmmm...well.... The first one, handsome, nice body, sex was good, but then he had to spoil it by starting to talk about his situation, on and on............. You could tell he was still hurting. The second, married!! Well that should've been a warning sign from the start, but as I'm separated, but still legally married I thought his situation may have been the same as mine, no longer in love with the partner. We have sex, then he gets a conscience, and starts talking about his kids, mother in law, his health. Of course, I listened and replied at appropriate times. I ended up telling him to get off this site and try and make his marriage work, he still loves her! So. I ask again, should there be a section for people to "unload" their problems instead of meeting up with people and telling them. Who knows, maybe it was me! Maybe they didn't feel it with me but didn't know how to leave? What do you think?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Urgh the guys I've met up with on here know how to talk the talk, then after the deed .. Nothing. Not a word. Unfortunately that now means for the genuine guys, it's going to be a lot harder to get in my pants. It's not that hard to communicate after, you spend days chatting me up telling me how awesome you are, F me, then F off. I get what site this is but seriously?! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Develop a stronger Bullshitometer.... ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • MzKarma

    MzKarma

    11 years ago

    Hmmm The fact that they already got what they came for makes no sense for them to unload their "sh*t" afterwards! I am not saying all the separated guys or "married" guys are like that, I was just unlucky to get 2 in a row. Lol

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  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    11 years ago

    Ask Bessie, and the date doctors section in Community. Dan Savage = Best ever agony aunt for kinksters.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    we women all know men are not attached after sex like we as women can be.Ask any men when they are honest they will tell you.The chase is on we are the prey.....we play we surrender they fuck us they are finished. Why come back when you don't want a relationship......??????Ok they mostly kill it with no communication after for them self when they want to come back ......................later....bad luck then...but again men are not poled this way. THAT'S THE GAME. Your in it or your out. Maybe I sound to harsh but thats plain cold facts.I think we all" WOMEN" have to understand men are like this....Hey men I like you....please dont take it the wrong way.

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  • Violetincredible

    Violetincredible

    11 years ago

    And they felt so comfortable and relaxed with you they just let it all out :) I'd take it as a compliment... You must be a lovely person Xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    this has happened to me too Luvdudley....not just with men but with women too...I have felt like an unpaid counsellor ....I now have compassion fatique and am not meeting anyone.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    People are just unable to leave their baggage at home. Happens all the time. If they are married and recently separated it's virtually all they can think about, apart from getting it off with someone/anyone. People get lonely after separation and they let their guard down after sex, so whoever they are with at the time cops it all.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yeah , the Guys here really suck ! ;) GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    There are something's that should be off limits as we are not their mum, wife or husband! NSA should incorporate the verbiage as well.

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  • MzKarma

    MzKarma

    11 years ago

    Thank you for the compliment!

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  • MzKarma

    MzKarma

    11 years ago

    But, I didn't expect them back! I didn't ask them to tell me all about their life! I have problems too as so do most people, but u don't have sex them pour ur heart out to a stranger. I guess it's cheaper than going to therapy :)

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  • wingman2014

    wingman2014

    11 years ago

    Dan Savage Yes , very switched on guy . - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Coops27M

    Coops27M

    11 years ago

    "You see it all started a very long time ago..." - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    ..how about some compassion as clearly they wanted to get something off their "chest" and trusted you and now you bag them out! Call it guilt or what ever you like.....walk a mile in thier shoes and then judge. BESIDES.....you do not have to sit there and listen! Say something to the effect you are not interested in hearing about their problems. People get it and soon change subject. You engaged them in the conversation by replying with advice!!

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  • cleopatrababe

    cleopatrababe

    11 years ago

    Where else does a man go where he can get someone to listen to him give him some comfort , love a soft hand on his body , great sex and go !!!!! pity we dont get the same but thats life

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  • MzKarma

    MzKarma

    11 years ago

    I obviously showed them compassion by listening to them!!! I haven't bag them out, I just asked if there was an "Agony Aunt" on here for people who want to get things off their chest. As for walking a mile in their shoes! How do you know that I haven't, therefore don't wish to go there again with a stranger? I guess I'll just have to stop being a nice caring person, and become a bitch and tell them to take their problems elsewhere. But now that I know about Dan Savage, I'll direct the next person (if it happens) to him.

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  • MzKarma

    MzKarma

    11 years ago

    Hahaha, very clever!! Love your reply

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  • lovman8

    lovman8

    11 years ago

    Luvdudley, as you may have realised there are all types of men on rhp,the wankers,the arrogant arseholes, the self obessed, the perverted old men are well represented and I believe there is even a few good ones. I'm afraid there is a lot of chaff to sort through to find the grain. Im not telling which catogery I fit into but just saying I'll be more attracted to you when you let you "bitch" loose. PS the same applies to women on here although in my opinion their "good" to "bad" ratio is better than for men.

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  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Develop a stronger Bullshitometer.... ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile ^ That

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  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    Welcome Back

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  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    am not so sure you didn't.

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  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'inspirit' Welcome Back Thanks :) I missed the forums! xx Sarah

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  • Man2DesireU

    Man2DesireU

    11 years ago

    I agree with you (luvludley and others) .. that it is important to know when sharing/DMCs are appropriate .. and when they aren't. But it cuts both ways.. (I'm suggesting that it isn't just men guilty of this) Pre = RHP .. I used to meet / chat with women online via msn and another site (which i won't name) .. now it was very clear that reasons we were meeting.. were for erotic chat / playing etc. I do have a counselling background.. and I am a good listener/communicator... .. but long story short.. most women I chatted with .. although stating they were there for fun/sexual adventure... ended up spending a LOT of time 'sharing' with me... so like qefenta ... i ended up getting tired of it all .. and got out .. .. and came to RHP :D

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Isn't that what Dolly magazine is??? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    This is a good reason to have an exit strategy. Don't lie there and make small talk with your shagger, unless you're a qualified therapist. FFS, if at all possible, gag ball him right from the start, get what you need, then boot him out the door with your reddest leather knee highs. Hugs Gazpacho

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  • MzKarma

    MzKarma

    11 years ago

    Thanks :) Yes, I guess I am to blame, but as I'm a new comer to all this, I need direction. Thanks your suggestion, I shall remember that in future. Maybe attach them to a stretchy rope (that's attached to the door) as soon as they come in, then when I'm finished just open the door...and.....watch them fly thru the air!!! Hahaha. Thanks again :)

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