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Am I an Asshole or Just a Guy?
March 15 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think we are all the same. Some guys I would only meet once, some just for a coffee and a rare couple of guys I see over and over again. Doesnt make you or me an asshole because we are all attracted to different types. But it does make a difference with how you tell them and how you treat them. Always be respectful even if they aren't. Thats how I do it anyway. Good luck😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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tall60
8 years ago
Hard to say based on scant information...however you're definitely a guy who knows how to post a free advertisement...lets see how u go in the jungle.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ha ha ....I have to agree !...I think its our age .... been there done that ...we know what we want !!😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not standards, necessarily. Just preferences, I think.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I say a guy with standards...and everyone should have them...and as long as you are honest and upfront with your expectations, then u stay the standards guy not the arsehole
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
It's because you like what you like. It's called having self respect. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Unless of course your behaviour towards the ones you take home for just a root, you're a complete arsshole about it. Guarantee if that happens, they'll never return. ;) Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm the same does that make me a bitch???
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'll kick this off lol I tend to jump in with new topics, and was holding off, for fear of putting others off commenting. But, I think you're perfectly normal. Don't ever drop your standards. The only way I'm different, is that I never meet anyone with the intention of only seeing them once. Not to say there's anything wrong with that, but for me, I always meet with the hope of seeing them again. If someone didn't float my boat enough to see them more than once, I wouldn't meet them at all. But that's just me and obviously we never know until we meet, how it will pan out 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with foxy, if your intention is for a one time root, most women will pick up on that and it's not usually well received 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Has somebody called you an asshole for something you have done, or not done, and that has prompted the topic? If so telling us a bit more about the situation could help give you more constructive answers.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Keeping your options open. Nothing wrong with that. I think profiles should state...one off meetings only. Then no one will be disappointed.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Arseholeism isn't usually earned by what you do so much as how and why
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RHP User
8 years ago
Think it's related to just males. I definitely for one feel the same but I don't feel bad, it's part of life and the joys of internet dating. I am honest and upfront with those I do meet to say hi and never commit to more then hello. As someone prior mentioned as long as your respectul. I'm not an arsehole haha so it's pretty safe to say in my opinion anyway that you aren't either. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
This is too simplistic. I think the question of '[if you're an asshole or not', comes down to how you're handling these people. eg., for illustrative purposes onlyIf you'd fuck someone from this site, but woudn't have a relationship with them - assIf you'd fuck someone giving them impression you're after something more, just to get some action - assIf you meet and decide this is the wrong match for you, and you're honest and genuine in your dealings - non-assetc., So, dunno, maybe you're both normal and an ass, I just don't know your proportions. I'm sure we can all be an ass now and then. Curious, what lead to you asking this question?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I do my upmost to be respectful and be polite to people in every aspect of my life even if I don't like or agree with them. This topic is just a general question. I am not perfect but maybe my contempt for other peoples lack of integrity and manners is bubbling away just under the surface!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'juicypants15' I'm the same does that make me a bitch??? Maybe we should meet! lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
What's the difference? Single Caucasian men are the dog everyone likes to kick.
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol definite asshole & Juicypants15 fantastic name
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jedi_knight
8 years ago
Well on your way to a relationship you have to meet at least once and probably take the luck person home a few times ... and somewhere inbetween convince the lovely individual you are not a 💩 😂🤣 ... life's a journey - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
too keen, average looking and most likely not getting any attention from his desired audience . Everyone needs a self importance boost occasionally and post gives him a chance to show he rates himself highly (I'm sure he's a self proclaimed asshole based on that) Probably a really great guy though so good luck - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'tall60' Hard to say based on scant information...however you're definitely a guy who knows how to post a free advertisement...lets see how u go in the jungle. Thankyou for your interest, I am flattered. Though I am not into guys.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Try multitasking, you could be both at once. 😕
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RHP User
8 years ago
sorry hunni ,,,but your over 50 and not the best looking guy ive seen ,,,may be you should sit down ,have a good hard look in the mirror ,,and re,evaluate your self ,,,,havent you heard of the saying that beutie comes from with in ,,,,??
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Nothing wrong with a one time root ? If a woman picks up that that's all that's on offer the only reason I can see she would walk is if wasn't attracted or just not that way inclined. I've had one time roots that were great and never backed up again.. I'm sure you have too even though you wear your bikini up side down ... lol..
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Do it your way. Myself, for all intents and purposes I wouldn't meet with someone with the thought that its a one time thing. Unless its a hook up and the guy is from out of area and theres a massive attraction (Then all bets are off.) If I am going to meet them there must be enough attraction and connection for me to think I would meet them again. It doesn't always work out that way but that is the goal. I couldn't meet someone just for 1 time sex without the zing. Sounds boring.
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RHP User
8 years ago
No, I never go into any encounter wanting 'one time only' and that will never change. Quite a few end up one time only, of course, either they or me, don't want a repeat performance, but never go in with that intention, and if I knew a guy was thinking that way, I wouldn't meet him at all. It's a waste of my time. I'm looking for repeat/ongoing, always have looked for that, occasionally strike gold, then keep on panning lol but if I'm attracted enough to want that kind of intimacy, why would I only want it once? I'm a greedy girl remember? 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not boring at all. So much time goes into filtering and getting to trust people before we meet them. I'm not a big fan anymore of hooking up with interstate visitors for that reason. Few special exceptions to that though, some are just too hard to say no to 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
So just to clarify, you're not perfect but you have contempt for those with a lack of integrity and manners, as opposed to your non perfect self who's bright shining character traits rank pretty high in your mind ? And also just needed to clarify, you say there are some women you'd only want to meet once? Lucky them, might want to take your head out of the sand sometime soon 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PepperRose' eg., for illustrative purposes onlyIf you'd fuck someone from this site, but woudn't have a relationship with them - assIf you'd fuck someone giving them impression you're after something more, just to get some action - assIf you meet and decide this is the wrong match for you, and you're honest and genuine in your dealings - non-assetc., I understand the second and the third one. But on the first option, really? By "relationship" are you calling long term commitment compatibility, or just the ongoing communication for a fb/fwb etc? By "fuck" do you mean ONS only, or little or no other communication or actual care? Sometimes the person you are with is partnered (aka a couple), or wants kids when you don't, or is a smoker when you aren't, or many other things that prevent a relationship compatibility. Just seems strange considering everything this site advocates.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm gonna start a topic tomorrow asking if I'm an asshole 😀 there'll be people jumping on their keypads all over Australia. From there I'll tally the votes, and it's tipped the asshole party will win 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry CT, I'm not really following what you're asking me / making a statement about. So I'll blabber on, and may or may not be addressing your point. What I was saying in that sentence was alluding to what I have found, that people can view people differently depending on where they meet them, and can make judgements on whether they're 'relationship' (whatever that means) material or not, purely based on that. So Person A can be found a sci-fi convention / music festival / political rally / sex party / sex-positive online forum / vanilla dating site, etc., and be can viewed by Person B completely differently depending on where they met them, and dismissed as worth nothing more than a quick dip, if met at a sex party, or this site, for eg. Person C doesn't give a fuck, because they're enlightened and non-judgemental, and actually likes that Person A has varying hobbies and has a sex-positive view on life.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I never plan a one time only. It just happens that way.. How do you know if you want seconds , thirds etc if you don't have a first ? 🤔 😜
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RHP User
8 years ago
I always thought it was the way we responded to a situation that mattered in life and not the situation it self. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You naughty girls, you liked my comment 😠 So what are you saying? 😂😂😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol exactly. Lots of crash test dummies during test driving 😉 oops I should speak for myself there, think I'm the crash test dummy most of the time. Take the 'ol cougar out for a spin 🏁
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