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Am I doing it right?
April 24 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nothing wrong with your profile, except I think it's too long. Most men won't read it... they'll look at your lovely face, and that's enough incentive for them to contact you. My profile is also too long, and I know most men don't read it because I still get messages asking if I want to catch up.... this despite the fact that I do say I'm in the Pilbara, and also that I'm not looking to meet anyone currently. I guess I could have a template profile with no info, but my profile is really there for those who read the forums to get an idea of who I am beyond what I post. So I'm not going to change it, and I just accept that I'm going to get messages from people who don't read. In your case though, I'd say be patient. There are men out there who will read your profile and who will meet your criteria - just hang in there.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Damn Kay I'd love to pick the shit out of your profile. But sadly that's impossible..... move to Victoria please. Stunning new profile pic by the way. Your profile is great, you state exactly what you seek and what you are all about when it comes to pleasure. Nice stuff to read about who you are. Fantastic preference lists. I just think as I am sure many ladies here shall concur and post, that there are just way too many tossers here and those with a shit load of entitlement. Kudos to you and a wonderful profile Kay. Cheers
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NoRegretsEver
8 years ago
All the blood has probably rushed to the penis and so nothing left in the brain to write a sensible message :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nothing wrong with your profile just the idiots reading it. We had a very similarly honest and full profile with pictures in three levels of gallery. Still had an endless run of blokes sending messages as if it was a girl only account and the the rest offering to 'show your missus a good time'. This despite CAPS highlighted statement saying no single males. These along with the three bullsh1t couples (single males masquerading) that wasted our time and money (travel and accomodation) plus some health issues for Miss lead us to just give up, hence our stripped profile. Yet single males still message. So don't beat up on yourself, it doesn't matter what profile you have, the idiots keep trying. We both think you are very cute and sound level heading, best of luck 😘
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've tended not to chime in on threads seeking profile critique. (Frequently/usually these are posted by men, and often they read as though they're looking for shortcuts that will preclude any further or particular effort on their part. Perhaps they believe there is one magical profile device that will make all women swoon! If only they could crack that code, they'd stand apart from the thousands of other men on the site, and ladies will line up to meet them without the need for any further effort at courtship. If wishes were horses, all men would ride!). I think your profile looks fine; I don't think it is too long. It is helpful you mention some of your interests, as it offers profile readers some guidance as to how someone might strike up a conversation. I can't account for the guys who have sent you messages up to now, but I don't see reason your luck shouldn't change.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Absolutely nothing wrong with it after reading it as Elke mentioned. Some men may not take the time to read it or fit your criteria which may limit the playing field. Maybe open yourself up to couples as a unicorn? always in high demand and few and far between. 😉😈😇 Lovley profile and pic's. Direct and straight to the point. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
whatever you do, you'll continue to get messages from men who haven't read your profile. On behalf of my sex I apologise for that. So my 2 cents: Your profile starts really well. Your photos are beautiful and warm and very appealing. Your "about me" section paints an equally enticing picture of someone I'd really like to meet... but then your "I am looking for" section goes hardcore on the negative, and it then keeps doubling down. Now I'm not saying people shouldn't have things they're NOT looking for, we all do, but I always feel it's stronger to focus more on what you ARE looking for. Phrase it in a way that will make the sort of person you want to meet feel included, and the people you don't want to meet feel excluded. You'll still get messages from men who don't read your profile, but there's bugger all you can do about that. Whenever I read a long list of negative stuff I begin to feel that the woman will expect me to prove that I'm not all of those things, rather than concentrate on what I am, and I'm not really a fan of jumping through hoops. Of course I'm very likely not what you're looking for anyway, so maybe it's all moot...
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RHP User
8 years ago
I read all of your profile.You call a spade a spade.Good for you.Don't change.Best of luck on here and keep posting in the forums too mate!
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markgreggson
8 years ago
Nothing wrong with your profile it is a little more than the average guy will read. Like ElkeM mentioned be patient a lot of us guys do read your profile, just bin the obvious ones that don’t put in the effort to construct a message worthy of the read. I would perhaps put in a little more of what you do like and just leave out some of the smaller dislikes. Honesty, smoking, intelligent and can’t read you could possibly change to a positive as to looking for someone intelligent non-smoker well read. you will in time be able to spot the messages worth the read and you’re on the right track looking for the non-generic profiles that indicate someone putting the time into presenting themselves in a way you find attractive. Best of luck Mark
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think that although it is maybe a bit long, you are quite specific with what you're after and that's just fine. If guys are completely ignoring what you have written, then they probably haven't actually read it anyway. I think you're profile is great. I must say I often wonder about mine too...and I get the same questions about what I'm looking for, but I guess it's good to also be clear about that stuff once you're actually having a conversation with someone.
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Openly_Curious
8 years ago
Overall it's a good profile. To make it great you could shorten (words & even some of the similar pics) and phrase things positively. Cheers, Ms O_C
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RHP User
8 years ago
All who replied. it's definitely good for thought. I had worried that what I was not looking for was too negative so I may change that. Thanks again :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like your profile and have enjoyed your forums presence. I doubt very much the off-topic messages you receive have anything to do with issues with your profile. Template messages from people who haven't bothered to read your profile are part and parcel here. I'd say the majority of my received messages are from someone doing a rapid fire of template to fill their daily message quota. Template messages receive my template reject, then are binned. Makes the message experience pretty redundant but does serve those well, who do make an effort.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I also like you and love your presence on the forum, your profile is great but overall a bit negative for me. I agree with Rick, and think you should lighten it up. I also think, although I respect your search for something beyond sexual, the sexual seems to have been lost altogether. I think you'll find men are looking for sexual women on here, regardless of what else they want, most would like that to be important to you as well, but I don't feel that in your profile. Just my 2 cents but maybe put something about that side of you in there, and less negative, to let them know there's something in it for them, well and you of course 😉 You are an especially nice chick, well liked on here, you're very cute 😉 nice pictures, and plenty of them which gets a big tick from me, and I hope you find what you're looking for 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't want to hijack this topic but I think your profile is fantastic. Start a topic if you want more opinions, but I think it's great 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'll have a look at rewording it :) I can see points made and they are fair enough. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Rick summed up my thoughts, you could make the tone a bit more positive but in general I really like your profile. As to the length, it's up to you if you want to change that but it really doesn't matter how long or short it is you will still get the messages from guys who haven't bothered to read it. It's just part and parcel of being a single woman on here. My profile is long as well and I think it does work to weed out some of the guys who see all of that writing and think that I'm just going to be way too much work so they'll move on straight away I also love your new pics, just gorgeous!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Again for all the kind words and constructive criticism. I've had another go at it. Tried to condense it and not seem as negative. Fingers crossed haha 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I love your profile, I think it's great 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' ... I respect your search for something beyond sexual, the sexual seems to have been lost altogether. I think you'll find men are looking for sexual women on here, regardless of what else they want, most would like that to be important to you as well... If something goes without saying, why say it? Whilst (obviously) highly significant, sexual relations are just one of many factors people find important in determining attractiveness. I note and appreciate, many women here regularly express frustration at the idea of a revolving door beyond which is a queue of guys just waiting to use them for a bit of short notice, 'illicit' sex ('on the side'/'on the quiet'/'behind the wife's back'). I think it is entirely fair (indeed appropriate; even recommended) to use your profile to indicate interests beyond your sexual interests/appetites/resume. Beyond encouragement, there's probably not a great deal you can do about the dunderheads who are too lazy, disinterested, or incapable of reading your profile, or those who become whingy or abusive when their advances are rejected. However, it would seem the profile does actually work as a screening device, huh? You can immediately tell whether someone has read your profile, and you can respond to incoming messages as you will. By identifying some other interests, you offer opportunity for guys to draft relevant messages which might pique your interest.
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RHP User
8 years ago
(I had thought all of my foregoing post goes without saying, hence my having not said it before now. I'll not chime in on profile critique threads again. I don't think it will bear repeating by me from now).
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RHP User
8 years ago
Where did I say there was anything wrong with looking for people who we share other interests with or want more of a connection? And where did I say it goes without saying? Are you sure you read my post? What I did say, if you'll care to reread my post, is that the sexual part was not there at all, and since Kay is asking for advice, my advice is to, forgive me Kay I'm rushing this post, but to go a bit easy on the negative, and hard to know how to put this since not everyone wants full on sexual reference in their profile, but something about that side of the op. A profile is meant to entice, some negative invariably comes into most of our profiles, but mixed with lots of positive and sexual energy, it doesn't dominate the profile. Kay, I hope you don't take of fence at my words, profiles are personal and as you can see from the variety of responses here, are viewed differently by each person anyway. Again, you are a beautiful, fun and kind person, keep on being you 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
"et al" (or "et alia") means" and others. This has been mentioned in other threads. You may have missed it. My post was not directed to you exclusively. My comprehension of your post is not flawed; a reread is unnecessary. You might consider Kay's omission of such things in her profile may be precisely because she perceives it goes without saying! (Of course, I could be mistaken. Kay might care to clarify that point, but really, I think that's probably not necessary either). Please, let's not slip into schoolyard tit-for-tat (eh?)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Guys, just relax. Everyone's opinions is ok. No dramas at all. I had thought it was maybe a little negative too so I made couple small changes without feeling I'm disguising myself. So I'm happy. Thanks again everyone - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' (A)...the sexual part was not there at all... (B)...since not everyone wants full on sexual reference in their profile... (C)...A profile is meant to entice... (D)...lots of positive and sexual energy... (E)...profiles are personal and ... are viewed differently by each person anyway... (F)...you are a beautiful, fun and kind person, keep on being you 👍 (A)& (B) Again (as per earlier posts), some may not see it as necessary in the profile; it is implied by the widespread perception of this site. Individuals might reasonably prefer to discuss intimate details privately. (C) It is entirely possible to be enticing without be overtly sexual. Some might perceive overt publication of intimate details to be: a bit embarrassing; a potential risk to their privacy or personal security; or they may even simply think it's a bit tacky. (D) re: Positive - I agree. re: Sexual energy, refer to my responses to (A), (B), and (C) above. (E) & (F) I agree, and this is a significant reason I've not chimed in on profile critiques previously. By being honest with ourselves and genuinely following our own instincts when completing (or not completing) the different fields of the Profile proforma, we should* naturally attract the attention of a potential match. The great risk in taking too much advice from others in respect of your own profile is that you may attract people who are not attracted to you, but an ideal that someone else has concocted. * Subject to further discussion and mutual agreement. (Feels like I've just marked a school paper. How did I become a Teacher here?!)
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RHP User
8 years ago
...your profile is great! You're an attractive young woman with your own opinions about what you like and conversely what you would rather avoid...both are positives depending on how you read them. Me for instance... ...I hate Lima beans and even disguised in the best of salads, no! ...golf is okay but on some days sure mucks up a nice walk in a well-groomed park. ...arguing is outta here, we are all entitled to our opinions and don't need to be ''corrected'' by anyone. ...don't fart in bed then giggle when you pull the sheets up over my head. ...I love habanero chilis. ...don't drown my prime rib steak in mushroom and peppercorn sauce. Short form...you rock!
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's a well-known scientific fact that slightly older men are much better lovers and when I can find that written in a book somewhere (it has to be...lots of us old guys are published authors) I'll send you the link!
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RHP User
8 years ago
We were asked to give advice, critique the profile, which is what we did. So your opinion is things not said on a profile go without saying? Well that's constructive, let's all empty our profile info because it goes without saying? And you might want to let kay speak for herself. I'm sure she doesn't need you speaking on her behalf 👎 Ontology, I'm not going to engage with you, try someone else, not responding to your comments. Kay, on a happier note, your topic and my thoughts thereof lol made me check my own profile and saw I'd chucked a tanty one day 😊 and added a big negative rant to one part reflecting my frustration that day 😂😂😂 oops 😱 so anyway, just removed that. And that is NOT an invitation for the men above here to comment on my profile. I'm not asking, very comfortable with mine 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Cheers chasin midnight, I know from experience that yes your mostly right 😉 but yes when you find that link... go hard haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ChasinMidnight' ...arguing is outta here, we are all entitled to our opinions and don't need to be ''corrected'' by anyone... Lacking IP, my last two posts now do not appear in succession as when drafted. Whilst I hold a view different to I_touch, these posts of mine are not intended as argument perse. Rather, they are offered in attempt clarify for her (I_touch) the point I had made, and to invite reconsideration of a different viewpoint... I frequently see posts in the forum which indicate what some longstanding members choose to do, posed/worded in such manner as to appear to prescribe what others should do, or must do in their own use of the site. Many of these same posters also will be seen to proclaim how they value the opinions and free choice (and speech) of others, whilst also (even in the same post) they'll criticise an opposing view (which, as it turns out, they may not understand or fully comprehend). If my posts provoke some more critical thinking skills, considered thought, and interesting, engaged discussion by forum participants, I've fulfilled one of my objectives in the forum. If not in this thread, perhaps another. No problem. TL;DR? Again, no problem - there's a scroll bar to assist with that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think your profile is great. It's easygoing and straight to the point.Your variety of photos are better than before and more flattering, too.I don't know if it was longer, but it's still not a scratch on some womens profiles and plenty like information-rich profiles.I do. With the pics, they're what build the mental picture of a person. And, with their forum input, some are a very full and interesting picture. It sounds very even and relaxed with NO SHOUTING or exclamations!! like some do and which can read a little irritating, to me anyway, when there's too much of it. You look and sound like a casual and relaxed person. My only criticism...and it's not really one, it's just my clinical eye for grammar and punctuation...is that you could space it out into more paragraphs and lines. You have heaps of space to play with on the page.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Much better Kay, omly constructive advice is to check a few grammar errors as Kool mentioned. Being super picky but I wouldn't mention being burnt as most people on this site have experienced it at some stage. Probably something I'd mention later.. Best of luck in your search. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You haven't responded to me, guessing you're not happy with my advice. Whatever, you did ask, and I still think it's not very enticing, looking for a guy who wants to keep his dick in his pants and not talk about sex? Read that objectively, if you were a guy or a regular horny person like me lol would you find that appealing? Add to that, it goes full on into the negative 'Do not contact me if........." and continues that way, all negative sexual stuff. I think the responses here are sugar coated. I think it is boring with no sexual energy, like you're looking for someone to read a book with, a friend or companion maybe. I could lie to you and you might like me more but when advice is asked for, what good does sugar coating do. Entirely up to you how you move forward and plenty of men would be happy with any contact at all, won't even care what you have written in your profile, but are they the ones you want to find. Food for thought, maybe they are. Your profile, your choice how you move forward, good luck 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
The end part of your 'looking for' section is much better, but the first half is hard to read. Anyway, I've said enough. I hope you find what you're looking for 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I think the responses here are sugar coated. I know that my response wasn't sugar coated at all. People are different, they like and want different things, and have different approaches. What you like and what you think should be in a profile doesn't necessarily suit everyone. Just going by forum posts from you and the OP I know that you are looking for different things from RHP, so it stands to reason that your profiles are going to be quite different. Your way isn't the only way, surely you've been here long enough to realise that by now.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I thanked everyone earlier in a post, you were included in that. I appreciate your opinion but I tend to agree with those that have said it kinda goes without saying and regardless I'm not comfortable putting myself forward sexually to the general public, not judging those that do, just I think that the right person will find out what tiger heart lurks beneath the kitten looks 👍🏻 thanks again though to you and all who answered. - Posted from rhpmobile
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