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Am I just fussy? Or is it a 'lack of confidence' thing?
October 07 2012
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Almost_Ready
12 years ago
If you find what you're looking for please let me know! Coz although I'm not that way inclined he would certainly be worth changing sides for... There are plenty of people here to choose from, its just that they get to choose too. You can still have fun while you look for your perfect match & you may find that they turn out to be the complete opposite of what you think you're looking for.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You come across as very very demanding, "Must be willing to go when I crook my finger" you're whole profile reads as if you think the world revolves around you and people should put their lives on hold just to accommodate you. No offence intended, maybe work on the way you word it all. Honest is good, belittling is bad unless you're looking for a sub! Cheers dan
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Torturedcliche' You come across as very very demanding, "Must be willing to go when I crook my finger" you're whole profile reads as if you think the world revolves around you and people should put their lives on hold just to accommodate you. No offence intended, maybe work on the way you word it all. Honest is good, belittling is bad unless you're looking for a sub! Cheers dan
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RHP User
12 years ago
women only
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well, hopefully I may be able to help you out of your little predicament. I'm in the southern suburbs of Adelaide myself and looking for some genuine NSA fun too
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Dee...It's all about the 3 r's luv...Reading your partners emotions desires & physical needs. Righting the situation by submitting to the age old question...who needs...The most. Responding appropriately in a commited and passionate way...In all things. Hope this helps...Oh...and there is...the secret 4th r...nothin like a good root!!! To wash away the cares, work up a sweat & clear the sinuses...Now that's a 3sum!!! Cheers one n all...fabio
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do I really come across as too demanding? And why is that such a bad thing? I did actually find someone perfect for me, which is why I know what works - all I'm looking for at the moment, is a 'filler in' for him, while he's away. Perhaps, because I have tried long and hard to find another partner to suit, without success, I have ticked off all the 'do not wants' and know what it is that suits me. I require absolute discretion, and can't work with someone who's actually not available - therefore no married men, and because I work an odd shift pattern, people have to be free to fit me in. It's only a matter of being able to work around each other - NOT about being too demanding in general, I would hope. I just thought I was making it clear what I needed, so I didn't get contacted by too many time-wasters...but, alas...it still happens.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well, I was keen & Southern, but reading your profile there was no compromise & strict deal breakers, so I just thought 'Fuck it! Why get burnt'. From a guys perspective I totally second what 'torturedcliche' articulated so well......
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Almost_Ready
12 years ago
Now your saying that you want a fill in while your regular squeeze is away? We have feelings to you know not sure I would like to be used & then tossed aside like an empty sauce bottle (but would be willing to find out).... As a male on here I reailze that you would be inundated with all sorts of crap so I cant say I blame you for having such high standards but if times are tuff you may need to ease up on your criteria to get almost everything you want for Christmas! Good luck & by the way, you may not be Miss world but you could be some one's Miss Universe! Cheers Oldog.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unbelievable! Men have feelings? I feel like putting on my best pantomime voice and shouting 'OH NO THEY DON'T!' It's ludicrous. Look how many guys are on here strictly for sex, because they're married. Am I expected to believe they have any feelings at all besides lust? They're not exactly feeling much in the way of guilt for cheating on their wives, are they? I'm honest in my profile, that's all; maybe brutally so, for all the delicate little flowers out there who can't handle a few prospective rules of engagement. Look, let's re-phrase all this and get past the misunderstandings. There are no 'deal-breakers' besides you being too far away to play with. It would have been nice to meet a new 'friend', someone easy going enough to put the occasional smile back on my face, but I don't think such a thing exists in Adelaide, or certainly not near enough for me to ever meet him. And apologies if this is coming across as somewhat 'tetchy'. Blame it on a bad case of frustration!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Dee, there's nothing more i like than being told what to do and when by a hot cougar... Plus I'm a sucker for a pom... I'm in Pt Willunga - maybe you should drop me a line...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I volunteer to meet you
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RHP User
12 years ago
Did you have any luck? I understandwhat youaresaying. Alot on here are fromthe northern suburbs and I am also finding many arenotsure what they are after???? Suppose youshould workthat outwhen you arewritingyour profile. Would be good to find someone who is available when required.....not next week when no kid saround or dependingif i am called in to work.....sex life is important and many need to understand other things need to fall around it....not vise versa!!! Haha nsa is good.....but need tospend the time to please.....not wham bam!!! U go girl....if you have any luck i suppose this place does work...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting comments, I am down south and don't think that I have put a false profile up. I am honest to who I am and seek the same so if you take the time you might just find a gem. I don't judge people as all have a story to tell. And yes it may not just be about sex but a need to get intimacy which sometimes becomes horribly missing due to lack of effort. Behind closed doors only they know. For me I can say it is not just about getting my rocks off, sorry but that does not work for me. My mind has to be stimulated first. Not all men are rabbits. Some have brains. LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
though this is adult dating site the kind of men that are attracted to this site are mostly I think married men wanting a bit on the side! Why else would you be on here lets be honest if your not half bad looking and can be bothered to get off the computer to find someone why would you be on here! The same with swingers heaven I should know my hubby was on there fucking lots of women!!I've been on the receiving end of cheating and its not very pleasant why dont you married people try putting some effort into your marriage instead if spending time on here you might be surprised. Needless to say hubby and I are very happy and having lots of sex .The happiest we have been in a long time just takes some effort from both parties.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it's a bit unfair to group all guys on here into the same basket. Firstly, any married men who are on here are not here precisely for the reasons you think. It is not just about getting what their wife won't give them. It is more to do with a biological need/urge for sex/intimacy and married men generally (though I accept not in every case) would only cheat out of desperation and would feel extremely guilty afterwards. It is an inability to deal with the self-loathing that comes from being rejected by your partner, and a need for validation from elsewhere in order to feel like we are worth something. What these guys need is self-esteem and self-respect. They need emotional support in their lives, but as guys we don't realise that and we go looking for sex because it makes us feel emotionally connected. I personally never cheated until after I was separated, but some still view that as cheating. I'm not living by those people's rules though. I haven't let down my own integrity, although I've come close many times. All I want to say here is that what it looks like on the outside is nothing like what is going on inside the person who goes down that path. It's a horrible thing for sure, but it's also pretty horrible to be on either side of the fence (cheating vs cheated on). No one wins. Now that I've got that out the way, not all guys on these sites are married and not all are just after emotionless lustful sex.Some of us are looking for something more meaningful, but are not ready for a full on relationship yet.I wouldn't rule out meeting someone special on a site like this either. I would have thought that these sites would attract people with a higher sex drive than normal, but after that we are all still people and there's no reason we can't connect with people on here and see where things go. Getting back to the original topic, I think perhaps Dee may need to sometimes take a deep breath and give some new guys a chance. My preference is to meet in a public place first. That way there's no commitment - if they turn out to be a jerk, then there's no harm done and you can go your separate ways. Yes it takes more time and is less impulsive, but if you're in a rush that's when you're likely to make bad decisions. So I would say, take a chance. Embrace the unknown. People are all different. Everyone has their own story to tell. Everyone has different qualities. Everyone has something interesting about them, you just have to listen and find it.I don't for a second believe in "the one". I think there could be any number different types of women I could be compatible with. You tend to grow closer over time and you tend to change over time to suit the person you're with...so who we are and who we look for today will be different in 10 years time. Just enjoy yourself. Stop worrying. Live life. If something doesn't work out, then that's called progress. Cheers :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '69reasons2wantme' I think it's a bit unfair to group all guys on here into the same basket. Firstly, any married men who are on here are not here precisely for the reasons you think. It is not just about getting what their wife won't give them. It is more to do with a biological need/urge for sex/intimacy and married men generally (though I accept not in every case) would only cheat out of desperation and would feel extremely guilty afterwards. It is an inability to deal with the self-loathing that comes from being rejected by your partner, and a need for validation from elsewhere in order to feel like we are worth something. What these guys need is self-esteem and self-respect. They need emotional support in their lives, but as guys we don't realise that and we go looking for sex because it makes us feel emotionally connected. I personally never cheated until after I was separated, but some still view that as cheating. I'm not living by those people's rules though. I haven't let down my own integrity, although I've come close many times. All I want to say here is that what it looks like on the outside is nothing like what is going on inside the person who goes down that path. It's a horrible thing for sure, but it's also pretty horrible to be on either side of the fence (cheating vs cheated on). No one wins. Now that I've got that out the way, not all guys on these sites are married and not all are just after emotionless lustful sex.Some of us are looking for something more meaningful, but are not ready for a full on relationship yet.I wouldn't rule out meeting someone special on a site like this either. I would have thought that these sites would attract people with a higher sex drive than normal, but after that we are all still people and there's no reason we can't connect with people on here and see where things go. Getting back to the original topic, I think perhaps Dee may need to sometimes take a deep breath and give some new guys a chance. My preference is to meet in a public place first. That way there's no commitment - if they turn out to be a jerk, then there's no harm done and you can go your separate ways. Yes it takes more time and is less impulsive, but if you're in a rush that's when you're likely to make bad decisions. So I would say, take a chance. Embrace the unknown. People are all different. Everyone has their own story to tell. Everyone has different qualities. Everyone has something interesting about them, you just have to listen and find it.I don't for a second believe in "the one". I think there could be any number different types of women I could be compatible with. You tend to grow closer over time and you tend to change over time to suit the person you're with...so who we are and who we look for today will be different in 10 years time. Just enjoy yourself. Stop worrying. Live life. If something doesn't work out, then that's called progress. Cheers :)
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