sweetgem

sweetgem

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Am I the odd number in this sexually adventurous RHP world?

January 29 2014

After being on RHP for quite some times now, I gathered that I have not seen many male's profiles that say that they only seek woman. The majority listed Woman, Couple, Group, Couple (bi), etc. etc. in their profiles. This has made me wondering if I have come to the wrong place to look for a companionship?! I admit, with the culture difference and the way I was brought up, I am a vanilla person sexually. I don't like nor do I have any curiosity in many of the adventurous things (swallow man's cum, FFM threesome, sex toys, anal sex, swingers/couple clubs, and the list will go on) that are often mentioned in the Forums. While I have no problems in finding a play date, I find it almost impossible to find one willing man for ongoing companionship! I don't mean to find that friend just for sex. I would like to go out and about (go to the movies, dinner, and/or getting away, etc.) with him too occasionally to catch some fresh air. But time has proved to me that this wish is hard to be granted in the RHP world! I know exactly what I am seeking and what game/world I'm in, so I don't want a man to be exclusive to me! No, that's not what I want or mean by companionship! I don't care and won't ever ask how many women does he talk to/sleep with while he's seeing me, that's his business and I expect the same respect in return! My question here are: 1) Do most men on here get turned off by the term "companionship" when they see it, because they are concerned that I might not be truthful to my words about not being clingy, and that we both still keep our own lives and freedom? Or 2) Do most men rather move on to find women, who have the same sexual interests as theirs, so that they could have their own fantasies fulfilled, even though they have said that "1 on 1" vanilla sex is as good, for part of their interests? Or 3) Am I simply too vanilla for the majority of RHP men? Lol Well, I may be vanilla in the public and don't fancy any of the kinks I mentioned above, but I am no shy or boring in bed either! I believe in equality and always give as much as I receive behind the closed door. I just won't compromise to do the things that I am against for someone else's pleasure, and vice versa. Hence, I am always being upfront about me being vanilla from day 1. - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Lots of vanilla men on RHP... Whether they come here for companionship is a another question.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I call fwb. Nothing wrong with companions and friends... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    here are my thoughts in answer to your questions (just guessing) 1. probably yes 2. absolutely yes....most people are self serving; why be happy with just one piece of the pie when you can have the whole thing and eat it 3. I don't know I have been told a fair few times by different people on here that I am possibly on the wrong site. My views are more or less the same as yours sweetgem. I am not keen on a variety of playmates, just one. But I have stayed on rhp mainly for the forums.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Came running back here with my tail between my legs and my chains a rattlin' ... Sweetgem, everyone seems to have trouble finding the right FWB. As to your Q2. Yes. Isn't that what life is about???

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    . 1) Do most men on here get turned off by the term "companionship" when they see it, because they are concerned that I might not be truthful to my words about not being clingy, and that we both still keep our own lives and freedom? I would like to think they don't get turned off by companionship when they see it. The argument of sex site vs dating site has been raging here for years now and need not be delved into again here. I suspect plenty of men here seek the companionship you are looking for and you're actually a rare gem if your outlook on maintaining freedom holds true. 2) Do most men rather move on to find women, who have the same sexual interests as theirs, so that they could have their own fantasies fulfilled, even though they have said that "1 on 1" vanilla sex is as good, for part of their interests? You should seek compatibility and similar sexual interests, but again, there are plenty of "vanilla men" here. I believe that finding your "right one" - a good 'fit' for you - is still a numbers game on RHP that has nothing to do with the numbers of male vs female members. 3) Am I simply too vanilla for the majority of RHP men? Lol Again, no. Persistence pays off. As in the 'real world', quite often someone comes along that is perfect for you and your needs when you least expect it and often, when you're not even looking for him! Irrespective of how many FFM threesomes he claims he'd LIKE to have, the majority of men still crave companionship. Don't let the sheer weight of numbers or forum posts convince you otherwise! . Stay true to yourself. There is simply no point in pretending to be anyone other than who you are. If I were you, I would continue to contribute to forums, do a spot of online window shopping for the companion of your dreams and always be polite and friendly to those men who take the time to message you, even if their interests don't look anything like yours do. . Good luck! . Flirty x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    One thing I've learned about this site....take note only of the about me and the other generic crap like age, location, marital status smoking etc... Why??? The rest can change like an old mole's undies..... One day I might be in a mood for group sex....but I have ffm, etc listed as who I am interested in meeting..... So...... No I don't think you're an odd egg in the carton. Do I get turned off by "companionship"?? Fuck no....why would I?? After all I seek a long term goal of a relationship. Do I prefer to select women with the same sexual interests?? Bahahaha this is like asking do I stay with the same brand of chocolates...no I don't as I'm only going to die once so if I feel like exploring something that I haven't listed then I will pursue it. I think the real issue is how literal you take people's profiles, and to be honest, there's always more to people than their profiles.... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A companion is someone you grow old with or your dog. I would stop saying companion and start saying friend, that may help you. What you want is to casually date someone... Not sure why you need to necessarily find it here where a lot of the men want to experiment, are kinky, are married, or are only after a root.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    What I mean is... Cast your net a little wider Sweetgem. I have found lots of good friends here... One I would consider to be a bestie!! A BFF 😛

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Can sound a little old fashioned... But I'd rather be considered old fashioned than b a txt spkr lol... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Highpriority' Can sound a little old fashioned... But I'd rather be considered old fashioned than b a txt spkr lol... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it... But we too, know the modern you, that ain't so old fashioned Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Shhhhhhh... Mado Shhhhhhh... Tara ... It can be our secret... 😘😘 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Just jumping in to say, I think you are a wonderful person...I love your honesty, integrity, and unwillingness to compromise your values. I wish we'd had a bit longer to chat at the meet and greet!! I really do hope you find what you're looking for, whether it's on here or from somewhere else. Don't give up!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I can only speak for myself....my opinion, and mine only, yadda yadda yadda Q1 Short answer no. Long answer nnnnnnnnnnnnoooooooooo. Actually, no issues with companionship here - in my mind that translates into someone to hang out with and enjoy all that life has to offer, not just the naughty bits. That's a good thing. Q2 I look for the connection outside of the bedroom antics. If that works well, I find the other stuff looks after itself. Q3 Vanilla is very yummy. Especially when there's ice-cream, or other desserts involved. No such thing as too vanilla. Chocolate's good, too. CheersJAB

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I like the thought to be a partner in many ways. Respect of others needs and wishes and mine....Love to have someone just wanting me!!! Who don,t want that..? However Disney is in USA

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    This is not the place to find. Companion or commitment. Yes many talk the talk but most guys in the end will date the "nice girl" to breed with and then come get the very bad girls like me. The do like words like "cunt , concubine" and cunning linguist! It's not easy fir a man to live with a sexually liberated woman. Reason is and every couple on here knows. It's women that get more sex than hot meals on. Rhp. It's called " cunt collateral"

  • TimidButCurious

    TimidButCurious

    11 years ago

    HI SweetGem . Great post. You are not alone. I too think I am too vanilla for RHP and actually landed here a few years ago from the affiliated “Yes Dating” site which I thought to be a vanilla site… then I pressed a link to RHP and found the RHP forums and haven’t looked back. . I get put off when I see what many of the male profiles are seeking or have on their sexual and fetish interest list as I don’t think they would entertain the idea of an ongoing vanilla friend. . Will watch this post with interest. . Timid xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I haven't been here long but it hasn't taken me much to see( and experience )that most everyones flavour is catered for. Being a fan of vanilla doesn't mean your in the wrong shop, I think. It's just like the Real World: to get what I wan't I still have to put in some effortand show patience. And like Stir_it_Alot said, most of that generic crap on the profile is unimportant....but..for myself, I've chosen to be open and honest on mine. Pictures too.I admit, If I was a cricketer, I'd have a pretty lousy batting average..but how is that any different to the Real World? Less complications later, I figured..and that suits me fine.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Might be worth you trying other dating sites simultaneously Sweetie, only you will get the monogamous relationshippy types who want to get married and have kids there too. Think about the kind of guy you want, where would he go? Where wouldn't he go? If you're willing to pay for memberships, eHarmony is an amazing matchmaker and a great personal experience to go through their extensive personality profiling. It will teach you things about yourself and make you really clarify what you want in another person. That alone is worth it IMO (although you don't need to pay to do this profile setup bit, just to see any pics and communicate). RSVP has been successful for a few of my friends in gaining them boyfriends, but again, you have to pay to get anywhere, the men on there seem to be of reasonable quality from what I've seen so far. For a totally free and more vanilla audience, try Oasis Active, the problem with it being free though is that you get all the scum of the universe on there, but there are genuine guys in there somewhere, just gotta do some sifting. Otherwise the newbie on the scene is Zoosk, and being new it's getting lots of new members all the time, so plenty of action to be had, and some interesting features like their "Scientific Matchmaking Service" (that comes at a price of course). When sifting for gold, the more dirt you get your hands in, the more likely you are to find your nugget.

  • cancunsun

    cancunsun

    11 years ago

    disney can be here if you want it to be

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Good I am in for it.

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    11 years ago

    For your inputs and opinions on this top. My apologies for the late response as I had been flat chat like hell in the passed week! Anyways, I am a bit of an old fashion person and I think the word "companionship" or "companion" has a nicer, more classy tone than the term "FWB", which immediately gives me the image of people only bonking each other and no more! And as I am not only seeking a man to fuck, I refuse to use the FWB term. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    11 years ago

    Not top lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    11 years ago

    Thank you for your kind words and support, I appreciate it and no, I will never give up! Giving up is never a knowing word in my book :-) - Posted from rhpmobile