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Am I the only one??
September 14 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi op, sorry if this sounds negative but I've read your profile and both there and here, it all sounds like what he wants, not you. In your profile you say he is happy for your to explore your sensual side with a woman, your desire and fantasy or his? Here's the thing, 99.9% of all straight guys fantasize about being with bi women (that figure based on the mostly straight guys I've met). You say he's not proactively looking but how do you know that. It sounds to me like he wants more, and is steering you in that direction, you're running with it to try and please him, but is it really what you want, because if it's not, don't do it. Be in charge of your own sexual self, whatever that may be, but if you're doing it or contemplating doing it to fill his needs only, make sure there's something in it for you. Don't feel pressured is what I mean. This kind of lifestyle isn't for everyone, just saying, good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
That you are probably only asking about women, but for what it's worth, I had only been with one woman as of about a year ago. She had prior relationships before me though.
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CandDSwing
9 years ago
Yes they exist That's called being newbies - sometimes people never progress to full swap Same room sex is a reasonable step at first as a couple - I know I questioned if I could even get off with people watching. However funny thing is, people aren't "watching" they make peek a look in a group room but I've found most are concentrating on the person they are with. Everyone has a different journey - for couples not doing this together we always suggest a very very long conversation to ensure everyone is comfortable even handy to check in during your first encounter, you want to add to your experience and relationship and make sure nothing is affected. Our first experience was visiting a newbies night at a club and being wall flowers - just going and checking things out Also it's always good to read blogs or listen to podcasts I found them super useful Hope that helps C - Posted from rhpmobile
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compressor
9 years ago
good luck and hope you find what you are after. I think you will get a very wide cross section of what people do
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Call me cynical and jaded as a result of being in this place perhaps too long..... I read through your profile..... and was waiting for the phrases.... I kind of knew they were coming..... not looking for a man & Ideally, you would also be open to having some FFM fun with myself and the Mr
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RHP User
9 years ago
*welcome*YES to your questions!Some couples do it all.. some men SEND their wives out to get FULL outside sex, and "Clean" them out after..Some men like to WATCH their wives getting sexSome couples do the "same room" thing.. some full swap.MANY just "Cheat"My point is.. "Whatever you WANT to do with your partner" is good.. "Good luck" to you, and I hope you enjoy it ALL
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was in a similar situation to you, married young and only ever had the one sexual partner. The only difference is I had to take the next step as a single woman. My first encounter with another man was daunting, especially the prospect of another man seeing me naked and pleasuring my body. It was different as it was pure sex and nothing else. I suppose the main lesson I have learnt along the way is how to separate ones emotions from the act of sex itself. Nevertheless given you are married and have the support of your husband you should have no problems choosing the right people to play and explore your sexuality with. Best of luck.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Its your life. You can take your life in any direction. It helps if your partner gives you their support. Some people have one rule. Don't die wondering....... Remember. You and you alone is responsible for your own happiness.
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
If you are interested in finding out about the many avenues of outside fun, then you will at some time find out that there are plenty of similar sites to RHP, all with plenty of members asking for similar sorts of experiences. So odds are these are not figments of your imagination - people want to 'swing' in many and varied ways. You are now learning that you can open up to your desires, so as long as you keep your wits about you and be careful how you proceed, you should be able to move in any direction you wish. The ladies here should be able to give you more answers in relation to your questions when they read your topic, so hoefully you should get some clarification shortly. I checked out your profile and it seems quite nice and straight-forward, so you shouldn't have any problems there. However, you put yourself down as 'ample' - I think you are being a bit too harsh on yourself - the only thing 'ample' on you is your lovely breast size . I would re-think your body description, but of course that is up to you. Good luck with your searching. Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well we are one of those couples that never do full swap ,We have no desire to have sex with others at all even if though we have been playing for a while now. However MrsBella is very picky about who we play with in a soft & sensual way . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
when it's all said and donecome back and tell what's amazing you find1 or 100 in time those numbers will only matter to youwith each one that is added you will reach a point where you stop countingwhen you stop counting be aware and not to reach the point of not caring.my 2c
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Hi op, sorry if this sounds negative but I've read your profile and both there and here, it all sounds like what he wants, not you. In your profile you say he is happy for your to explore your sensual side with a woman, your desire and fantasy or his? Here's the thing, 99.9% of all straight guys fantasize about being with bi women (that figure based on the mostly straight guys I've met). You say he's not proactively looking but how do you know that. It sounds to me like he wants more, and is steering you in that direction, you're running with it to try and please him, but is it really what you want, because if it's not, don't do it. Be in charge of your own sexual self, whatever that may be, but if you're doing it or contemplating doing it to fill his needs only, make sure there's something in it for you. Don't feel pressured is what I mean. This kind of lifestyle isn't for everyone, just saying, good luck I have heard of this situation - where a woman agrees to help fulfil the male's FFM fantasy, even though she isn't genuinely keen on being with a woman herself. Each to their own I guess! I personally never get pressured into anything by my partner, quite the contrary in fact, as I am the one who is curious and initiated this. With regard to the 'not proactively looking' comment - I suppose I say that with confidence because that is the kind of trusting relationship we have. Not to mention... it would be my preference if he was looking, which is why I am hoping to open a couples account. But thanks for your good luck - I might need it as single ladies are few and far between (or so I've heard :P)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' Well we are one of those couples that never do full swap ,We have no desire to have sex with others at all even if though we have been playing for a while now. However MrsBella is very picky about who we play with in a soft & sensual way . - Posted from rhpmobile Glad to hear that you are fulfilling things at your own pace - I hope to do the same :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Call me cynical and jaded as a result of being in this place perhaps too long..... I read through your profile..... and was waiting for the phrases.... I kind of knew they were coming..... not looking for a man & Ideally, you would also be open to having some FFM fun with myself and the Mr Well, you cant say that I wasn't upfront right? haha.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Lolita007' I was in a similar situation to you, married young and only ever had the one sexual partner. The only difference is I had to take the next step as a single woman. My first encounter with another man was daunting, especially the prospect of another man seeing me naked and pleasuring my body. It was different as it was pure sex and nothing else. I suppose the main lesson I have learnt along the way is how to separate ones emotions from the act of sex itself. Nevertheless given you are married and have the support of your husband you should have no problems choosing the right people to play and explore your sexuality with. Best of luck. I can relate with you regarding other people seeing your body etc after only sharing yourself with one person for so long! I am pretty self conscious so very daunting indeed! Good point with separating your emotions. - I'm pretty lucky that I have support from my husband. For me, its all about fun and now just need to find the right people :)
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hankster
9 years ago
we also only do same room same couple and have had many good times with no pressure to go any further it is what Eva you make it just enjoy the ride !!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'girl_crush' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Hi op, sorry if this sounds negative but I've read your profile and both there and here, it all sounds like what he wants, not you. In your profile you say he is happy for your to explore your sensual side with a woman, your desire and fantasy or his? Here's the thing, 99.9% of all straight guys fantasize about being with bi women (that figure based on the mostly straight guys I've met). You say he's not proactively looking but how do you know that. It sounds to me like he wants more, and is steering you in that direction, you're running with it to try and please him, but is it really what you want, because if it's not, don't do it. Be in charge of your own sexual self, whatever that may be, but if you're doing it or contemplating doing it to fill his needs only, make sure there's something in it for you. Don't feel pressured is what I mean. This kind of lifestyle isn't for everyone, just saying, good luck I have heard of this situation - where a woman agrees to help fulfil the male's FFM fantasy, even though she isn't genuinely keen on being with a woman herself. Each to their own I guess! I personally never get pressured into anything by my partner, quite the contrary in fact, as I am the one who is curious and initiated this. With regard to the 'not proactively looking' comment - I suppose I say that with confidence because that is the kind of trusting relationship we have. Not to mention... it would be my preference if he was looking, which is why I am hoping to open a couples account. But thanks for your good luck - I might need it as single ladies are few and far between (or so I've heard :P) genuine bi women are hard to find, I was curious at one point but lost interest, got hit on a bit but not what I was looking for and so many fake couples profiles. I also smoke, which would turn a lot of people off, and my age of course. I'm sure it's not so hard in your age bracket, have fun, hope you meet some great people
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RHP User
9 years ago
age of course is irrelevant as far as what age bi women are, I didn't mean that, just that my interest is with younger players, so the age gap is more what I meant. I wouldn't have played with women even in their 40's, same as men pretty much, for the most part anyway, and hits I got were closer to my age. Anyway, doesn't matter, I love men anyway I decided haha what was I saying about women reserving the right to change our mind at any given moment haha fickle creatures we are
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Quoting 'girl_crush' Well, you cant say that I wasn't upfront right? haha. The point was.... the way its written has a few people questioning who the "I" really.... is. DG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'girl_crush' Well, you cant say that I wasn't upfront right? haha. The point was.... the way its written has a few people questioning who the "I" really.... is. DG Yes, the terms are on every other profile aren't they? Having a verified account doesn't count for much obviously??
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