RHP

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Anal Play for Men

May 11 2014

Okay, so recently the subject of anal pkay come up with my husband. With other partners (many!) I have had great success with stimulating the prostrate during head especially. I have been trying for YEARS to convince my hubby, and it's still not working. I KNOW he will love it, how can I convince him? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • canbefun4u2

    canbefun4u2

    11 years ago

    just do it he will love it

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Maybe you can't. Only two suggestions; find some appropriate porno clips to show him men being aroused by it, and (just like for women) being relaxed and taking it very slow.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    just doing it!! Doing anything to anyone sexually without their consent is not on! But I think you can head in that direction without penetration to tantalise his thoughts a little with rimming and letting a finger massage the outside while giving head. Use plenty of lube in the area and just give it a bit of a tease, just sneak around there for a bit and gauge his reaction then one day when you think you are in the zone ask if it is ok to slip a finger in. It may be a cleanliness issue too, some people just find the area a little icky so maybe try it in the shower or bath, just be cautious of lubrication of the area in water because any water based lube will wash off, get a silicone lube or you can even get a silicone body wash which will make it easier to explore everywhere and give a nice slick feeling all over the body.

  • OPNmarriagecpl

    OPNmarriagecpl

    11 years ago

    "Just do it". Like a previously poster said, horses for courses. Just because other men you've been with have enjoyed it, doesn't mean your hubby will it even should for that matter. Just take it slow and steady and if he vehemently does not wish to continue then there's plenty of other ways to have fun. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    ah going to brown town, the holy grail. If he isnt keen now he is never going to be. Just like me that just is neeever going to happen.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hmmm Maybe suggest he go to the doctors for a prostate check up.Make sure you book him in with the Hottest Doctor you can find, with really long fat fingers. He will either Buy you a strap on...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'arkangel1978' ah going to brown town, the holy grail. If he isnt keen now he is never going to be. Just like me that just is neeever going to happen. seen plenty of turncoats on the issue, never say never ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Just because it turns you on -ie the thought of you playing with him or you think he might, you are not respecting his wishes, bring it up once then let it go. Put the shoe on the other foot and understand that if it isn't for you and he keeps putting the pressure on would you like it? Don't make him feel bad if he doesn't want to, you would be using emotional blackmail and that is not good for any relationship, just love and accept him for who he is, if you back off he might down the track like it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    and, of course, take a some care between "massaging prostrate" versus "massaging prostate" as the positions WILL change your perspective.....

  • StuntNuts

    StuntNuts

    11 years ago

    There are many instructional videos out there and the one I have found to be the most informative and convincing (which ultimately led to me giving it a go) was Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men. Unfortunately due to the poor state of sex education in this country there is somewhat a stigma about Anal play with many having the common mis-belief that if a man enjoys it he must be gay. If anything you will always need to start off small and work your way up in size and always remember there is no such thing as too much lube. If you are manage to eventually convince him, he might find it quite surprising and off putting that on his first time he might ejaculate without having an erection but this is quite common. The only other thing I could add would be to let him know that if it's something that feels good, can be done in the privacy of your own home with someone that you trust, then why not give it a go and if in the case that you are still uncomfortable with it then there is no need to go there again. P.S. I can provide a link to the video I am just not sure if posting it here would get the message banned for linking an external site.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Its not a very nice experience. I really like StuntNuts ideas/post - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    he doesn't know what he is missing. maybe its the stigma ?it may just be a kink you enjoy more than he does. cant change that.

  • just_Adam

    just_Adam

    11 years ago

    Ralf had some great advice, but when you feel you can get away with it, dont ask to slip the finger in, just do it really really gently, and straight for the prostate with some gentle stimulation. I would be more than happy to provide you with your "fix" should hubby not be interested *)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I don't mind it myself. Get head and just b4 I cum getting me ass fingered makes me blow harder and feels good too. However a bit of lube always helps.