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Anal Sex
October 06 2009
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2more4fun
15 years ago
The biggest thing to keep in mind that no amount of super lube is going to help unless you are completely relaxed. The sphincter unfortunately is designed to keep things out so you'll need to train it to stop resisting.The best thing to do (and sorry if it's TMI) is to prepare your sphincter as if to pass a bowel movement (but obviously without actually doing one!!) before penetration. Go slow and do use a lot of lube but once your sphincter is in the right position to accept a foreign object, the rest should be smooth sailing :)For more tips, you know where I am lolx
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RHP User
15 years ago
not all lubes are the same we tried some and my balls stuck to her butt and was crappy...not to mention didnt get it in butt.. slow and steady is trick, play with beav while lubing butt, and start with 1 finger...let it get used to little stretching before moving in...then 2 you get the picture.. obviously a hard cock is important, but so is patience have fun B and K ps. licking is a good warm up :>
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey K, I know exactly what you're going through! Here is what works for me, but I haven't spoken to anyone else about this so I don't know if this could apply to everyone :P I need to be extremely turned on and aroused by lots of other things before I can do anal without pain. Once that happens, it's easier because, as 2more4fun says, you are way more relaxed and "open". Lube is great but if you're not also naturally wet, then you're not relaxed enough. Even then, I get the guy to go very very slowly the first time, stopping but not removing if I feel pain.... your body seems to adjust slowly... then he can keep going... I've found that once he's gone slowly with the first penetration...then he can go as hard and fast as he likes....which is fantastic :P If he rushes it at the beginning, then it hurts like hell for the whole time. Don't over-think it, because you won't be relaxed! Good luck, it's really worth it! :P xxx S
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RHP User
15 years ago
Going slow, and being really turned on with other things such as playing with breasts or clit really helps. Try different positions too. I like to be on all fours as it gives me some control. Andy will get behind me....this is really cute...and will rub my clit and talk to me while I push back on him. Also try spooning. It is hard to relax, but it really really helps of you can. Take it slow to start, don't be disapointed if it does not work out, it just adds to the anxiety if not being able to do it kills the mood.Do you have a butt plug? Perhpas playing with one for a while....something a bit smaller than your man, to help you get used to it. xx Sal
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RHP User
15 years ago
mmmm relax seems to be the theme.....so Trev is you are reading this I think a massage, glass of wine and some tender kisses and licks are in order.... 2more4fun - yes we know where you are :) thanks for the help may have to get some more detailed advice at another time :) NeoandBlaze - visuals of Trev's balls stuck to my butt are going to keep me laughing for some time
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RHP User
15 years ago
This is taken from someone else, but it's pretty accurate. 1. Lube: Before you even think about having anal sex, get some lube. The butt has none of its own lubricant, so you have to use lube. No, saliva doesn’t count as lubricant, and I’m living proof that you can injure yourself as a result. 2. If you have a chance, prep for anal sex: Our anal canal is a passageway for things to head out, things are rarely stored there without us being aware of it. But for those of us that want to make sure we’re nice and clean, here are some tips. Wear a condom. Non-tested partners should be wearing condoms anyway to protect each other from transmitting STDs. The anal canal’s surface is fragile and can micro-tear easily (see the steps about lube to help prevent this), so it’s especially wise to use condoms during anal sex. Condoms have the added bonus of easy clean-up if the butt isn’t as empty as you’d like it to be. Eat foods that day that will be nice to your body . Having a nice, solid, bowel movement before sex is the most natural way to be clean. Clean yourself out with warm water. There are many methods: using your finger while in the shower to “rinse out” the area; using an anal douche to clean out the first 10 inches or so of your goods; or by rinsing out using a get-up attached to your shower head (there's even a “travel version”). Many people want to know if an enema is necessary before anal sex; all of my sources (including former registered nurse Nina Hartley) believe enemas to be too invasive for regular anal play. Enemas clean out much more than is necessary; you only need to clean out the bottom 10 inches or so of your canal for good, clean, anal play. A quick note about what happens when you aren't as clean as you'd like to be. Shit happens.. Be aware that every once in a while, things might not be as clean as you want them to be, and understand that it happens to everyone, and is completely normal. Think of it as “used food” , or as a fact of life like menstruation; you just need to respect it and work around it. Just laugh about it and hop in the shower, and be done with it... beating yourself up over something that is a normal occurrence doesn't help! 3. Lube: Are you remembering the lube? I bring it up again already because it's that important. The inner walls of our butts are fragile, and without the slippery stuff lube brings to the table, you can give yourself micro-tears that make you more susceptible to STDs and other butt injuries. 4. You have to seduce your ass every time: That’s a direct quote from sex educator and porn star Nina Hartley. And yes, you have to seduce your ass every single time. I first massage the opening with the pad of my lubed finger (even better with latex gloves on them, easy clean up and no worries about nails!), till the opening relaxes. Promise your partner you won't go inside (even if playing with the opening is as far as you get this session), and stick to your promises... if your partner thinks you're going further than they are ready for, they'll tense up and you won't get anywhere. Once you feel the opening relax, you can slip the first digit of your finger in, or the tip of a small toy, preferably a silicone one (which means it's boilable, bleachable, and dishwasher safe... a must for anal toys), the toy shouldn't be much bigger than your finger and no nails! Insert it slowly, you're waiting to feel the butt relax and accept this small bit; remember, don't go further than you say you will, or your partner will tense up and you'll be back at ground zero. A quick note about toys: most toy materials are porous, which means they absorb bacteria. Soft toys are better for beginning anal players, and silicone is by far the best (and easiest to clean) of soft toy materials. If you use a toy that's not silicone, be sure to put a condom on it to keep bacteria from coming into contact with the surface of the toy. Also, be sure anything you put near your butt has a flared base; your butt can create a vacuum and can suck non-flared items up further than you're game for (that's why we hear such insane emergency room stories). 5. Lube: I know I mentioned this before, but it’s that important. I suggest using an anal lube or a silicone based lube because it doesn’t dry up quickly, and our bodies expel it when we’re done. If you use water-based lube, be sure to re-apply often, as you might not realize that you're lube has dried up deep inside you. 6. Anal sex shouldn't hurt: if it does, slow down, start smaller, and use more lube. Another one of my favorite Nina Hartley quotes: “Butts cannot be forced, willed or guilt-tripped into complying.” She says that her husband can play with her but whenever he wants, but he can't fuck it till IT wants. “It's his job to get my butt to want his dick. It's my job to relax and let him pleasure my ass till it's desperate for him.” What does that mean? “Our butts are moody,” says Nina. There may be some days it just doesn't want to be played with. Be aware of this and be willing to back off if your (or your partner's) butt isn't cooperating... there's nothing that will shut down wanting/getting your partner to want anal sex faster than pushing when the butt's not ready. Also, be aware of your anatomy, and work with it, not against it. The butt curves (towards the G-spot in women, and P-spot or prostate in men, yeah!), which can cause pain if you don't work with it's curves and angle so you can go in comfortably. 7. Lube: Yes, lube, AGAIN. I'm bringing it up again to remind you to make sure that all the bits you're touching stay lubed throughout your play. Use gloved fingers to push lube up inside the ass (because having just the first few inches of your anal canal lubed isn't enough). 8. Our eyes are bigger than our orifices: So you’ve warmed your butt up... it’s agreed that having something (small!) in it can feel good. How do you work your way up to a penis? Slowly. Once the opening is happy to play with, it’s time to go in past one knuckle or the tip of a small toy. Don’t forget that patience will reward you in the end. (‘In the end’, get it? Ha...). Gradually work your way up to multiple fingers, or a slightly larger toy (but smaller than the intended penis), and then the butt should be ready for more. Going for gold right away will push your sphincter muscles faster than you want to, and pain (or injury!) can result. A good anal play session for me results in a slew of toys and a few gloves used before the penis gets to play. 9. Did we remember the LUBE? I hope you’re getting the point by now that using lube is THE essential thing to learn about having anal sex. Once you’ve started warming up the butt, it’s not a bad idea to add more lube, and as far in as you can reach, just in case. 10. Dealing with the aftermath: Depending on how well you worked your butt up to anal play, the time till your butt is back to “normal” should be short. If you have any type of adjustment period (things are looser than they, um hem, should be... for an hour or more), then you probably didn’t go slow enough, or warm up enough. Pay attention to your body, and take note for next time what it needs.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Casava - wow that all sounds very romantic ;) I guess there isn't anything romantic about ass fucking.... oh and we remembered the lube - I got sold on a rediculously expensive tiny bottle that is promising me the world
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RHP User
15 years ago
i always appreciate Casava's replies and she has been very thorough here as always... but I don't agree with all of it. you're right, that sort of in-depth analysis takes all the romance and fun out of it...and there is a lot of romance in anal!!!! I like a bit of romance in anything I do... otherwise I feel like i'm in a porn movie and I may as well be getting paid for it lol I know people like lube but I personally have NEVER needed it for anal... see my above reply re:natural lube... With all due respect to Casava, this is exactly what I mean about NOT over thinking it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personally....ass play first...rimming...rubbing...then perhaps the insertion of a finger....then when the recipient is loosening nicely....another finger.Lube inside and outside the ass...and the cock too.Gentle but firm pressure....with the recipient "bearing down" like they are going to the toilet.(make sure you're cleaned out first so you dont accidentally go)then slooooooowwwwwlllllyyyy....press in....stopping often....til youre all the way in. Then sloooooowwwwwllllyyy.....out again.....gradually building up speed when there is no discomfort.I find doggy the best posi for anal.Then....when you (the recipient) are ready....tell him to go for it!!My fb found a great lube...navy something....pina colada flavour....smells a bit icky...but tastes great!!Great for anal and fisting...and you dont need much for it to do its job!All in all...I love a good bout of anal....mmm....gets me hot!!Just my opinion....BJxxxI find guys that like ass play are generally more gentle with anal...as they know how much it can hurt if its not done right.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting Miss BJ: then slooooooowwwwwlllllyyyy....press in....stopping often....til youre all the way in. Then sloooooowwwwwllllyyy.....out again.....gradually building up speed when there is no discomfort.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Seems like I need him to read all of the above - sloooooooowwwwwwllllly and relaxed Trev - are you listening out there Love you K.
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RHP User
15 years ago
can I can I ????? promise slowly Trev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Kileetrevthe lube you want is called Navy swiss. it is about $25 for a mid sized bottle - yes i know it is expensive - but when you only need enough to cover two finger nails for anything you want to do - it is worth it. It is really slippery without being too slippery, you get great sensation and doesn't leave you with the sticky feeling afterwards.As a guy who enjoys a bit of ass play, I agree with the comments of everyone else. You gotta be relaxed for it to feel good....good lube helps that!Hope this helpsMaybe
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RHP User
15 years ago
Try a flexible (silicon type) vibe on your clit or inside at the same time your bottie is being played wiv. A thin vibrating butt plug is good for your partner to use on you to get you started, with what ever else turns you on, whether it is your bottie nibbled, or neck kissed or hard core language, just to get you all excited, while you play with yourself at the front. You could try that a couple of times before upsizing and getting comfortable with it. There are also some anal sprays and creams that can numb the area a little as well. If you are into aromatherepy there are some oils that can give you a slight europhoric feeling, making you very relaxed, and a little heady. I used to make a "love potion", which I used to sell. But it did come with warnings, such as not to be used with epileptics or ppl who suffer from migraines. When I made it, I had to be gloved and masked as it has a very strong affect with me and I got really sick and punch drunk quickly teehee. I used to test it a little on people to find their reaction before I would sell it to them, me is a very responsible witch lol. In the end I stopped making it as some ppl were not being responsible with it and a couple of guys I knew were misusing it, especially the part about how it increases the effect of alcohol by 3 times, lil ratbags. But, you could always go to the library and do a little research on what oils do what, if you wanted to try something like that. It can be sniffed, rubbed on your skin or on a light bulb so the scent goes through the room. Please read all precautions with essential oils, they are there for a reason, and measure properly 3 drops IS 3 drops, and only buy good quality oils, not rubbish from the markets. And if any one is interested, no part of the recipe had opiates like poppy seed in it. In fact me finkies ppl would be very surprised, and probably have most of the flowers and herbs growing in your gardens at home. Any way just something else you could try, but then again ya could just get smashed on cheap champagne lol. Wanders off to look for Gaz.... me needs some newts toe. xxMiss Honeyxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I totally agree with MissBj and sophie..slowly ...............at first...My first time was me on stomach him from behind..whispering naughty sexy things to me ..lol...Got me so worked up..he was in in no time!! lol...........Now I love it when I am on top...mmmmmmmmm. have fun tonight...K...xxxx kisses sweetpetite41
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sophie, what i cut and pasted was primarily for the guy or whoever is giving the anal to do all the thinking, being mindful of their partner etc and prepping them. Yes, I agree with you, it works best for the receiver if they're not over thinking and they're relaxed about it, especially for the newbie or people who've previously had bad experiences, however it's easier said than done when you're anxious about it. Their partners also have to do their parts to make it as enjoyable for her as it is for him. If it's done that way, there shouldn't be any pain whatsoever, no matter how fast or slow the entrance of the penis. Please keep in mind that pain is important and pain is your bodys way of telling you something is wrong. As for romance, I really don't see how you can't include the above in your usual foreplay repertoire, for example, stretching her bottom with the fingers while you're going down on her or giving her a long session of passionate kissing while using small toys in her arse. It is what you make out of it. It's a bit like cooking, you have your basic technique you need to apply, but it's always the extras that makes or breaks the dish.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personally, I wouldn't recommend anything that numb that area. What if you seriously damage something and you can't feel it until it's too late. As I mentioned before, pain is your bodys way of saying something isn't quite right (masochist excluded). There really shouldn't be any pain whatsoever with anal if done properly. You don't really need expensive lube for it, just large quantities if your vagina isnt as naturally copious as some peoples. Especially inside the rectum where there's no natural lubricant, so unless the guy is dipping into your vagina regularly to keep lubricated (I can't begin to tell you how such a bad idea that is!!! even if they do it on porn, it just increases the risk of introducing bad bugs into the vag and urethra) or he's got a constant supply of pre-cum to lube you with (not possible if he's just a casual partner and you're using condoms).
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Dellaroo
15 years ago
OMG my fav.........................................
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RHP User
15 years ago
Tha is sum serious info on anal, i guess im not the only one tha is obessed with it , any ladies wana contact me and swap experiences ??? go on im irish!
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RHP User
15 years ago
In my experience a good rimming for a long time usually helps relax the muscles too. Helps if he's like me and loves licking for hours. ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I said it numbs a little, it does not totally numb the area. You can still feel what is going on, it just assists in the relaxing part, so u lessen the desire to clench. I would expect the person to have a respectful lover and not see that as an excuse to go hard. All the above still applies. It is just another aid, like lubricants.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Amazing to see so much Female Technical Perspective on this sensitive issue ! lolStarting with Bonjello or numbing gels before lubes helps.Every person has a different more comfortable entry angel.If it hurts too much one way, try the opposite.Helps alot to be well aroused before hand to feel mentally prepared for it.We all have seen people walking over glass when the Mindset is right !It should not hurt too much if done correctly, but its not meant to be pain-free either.
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RHP User
15 years ago
What MissBJ said! She can have my arse any time! (except for being a few thousand kilometres apart!) LOL
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks everyone, there are some awesome ideas here and I am looking forward to the next try... Trev is very excited ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I dont know how u chicks do it.Mrs Pip has a fantasy about doing a guy in the arse with her strap on.After constant nagging i thought I'd let her have a go but only with one of her smallest butt plugs.Well the only feeling I got out of it was that I needed to go to the loo.Maybe chicks arses are made different to guys,I dont know.Needless to say I have now learnt to sleep on my back.lol Mr pip
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RHP User
15 years ago
i love getting fucked with toys in my arse, males also have the prostate which feels fukn awesome being rubbed form inside. It does hurt if u do it wrong, but as has been said - use lube, go slow, be prepared to stop, be PATIENT, dont just poke it in. Mr PIP, if ur wife wants to fuck my arse she is more than welcome :) it is also extremely yummy to have your cock sucked or wanked whilst being fucked anally, or even better, fuckign a hot sexy girl while being fucked - yumm xx scruffy
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RHP User
15 years ago
i love getting fucked with toys in my arse, males also have the prostate which feels fukn awesome being rubbed form inside. It does hurt if u do it wrong, but as has been said - use lube, go slow, be prepared to stop, be PATIENT, dont just poke it in. Mr PIP, if ur wife wants to fuck my arse she is more than welcome :) it is also extremely yummy to have your cock sucked or wanked whilst being fucked anally, or even better, fuckign a hot sexy girl while being fucked - yumm xx scruffy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Dellaroo Glad to know that. I'll keep it in mind for when we meet. I am available on date finder and my number is listed there. MrDarkNess
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RHP User
15 years ago
You have to lube EVERYTHING thoroughly....the South Pole and the Suez Canal. A stiff drink (followed by something else stiff) for the recipient is recommended.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Don't use the ones, that attach to the shower.....Dangerous...!!!! Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Geesus all this talk about anal and the prep required (mental and physical) is turning me on !!! lol One thing that works for us is helping her feel comfortable about it...she worries that there will be a mess and that understanably doesn't help her relax. So we purchased and enema kit and a simple proceedure half an hour before we play helps her feel clean and sexy.... On lube - try Aqua-Glyde....good lube and cool name !! lol Try to avoid lubes that go claggy and sticky after a lot of stroking/pounding.....yep we POUND ! Although one thing she really seems to enjoy is when I am in as deep as I can go and I hold it in her, pinning her to the bed (or wherever) and crushing her down, changing the angles and with my fingers either in her or toying with her pussy/clit........(remember though she is submissive and enjoys being crush fucked in this way)..... I know a guy who fists his partners pussy while he's in her ass and can feel his cockinside her....whew ! Bet that made you squint girls ! He's hung too ! lol As for the romance....there should always be romance.....even when you are just in the mood to go for it it should still be sexy and fun....we've gone from me wanting her ass all the time to her pestering me for it....I guess anal orgasms will do that to you !! lol Like anything, romance means different things to different people.... My personal fave is for the a girl to sit on me and ease me into her ass while looking into my eyes.....hell sexy ! Great post and good advice in general. Dog.
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RHP User
15 years ago
If only I could bookmark ....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Has anyone ever had much experience with a guy giving anal to a girl while another girl used a strap-on on the guy?
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