Anal sex - a woman's perspective?

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  for boys only??? closet fag??? no way. most men that i have met on here, and in "real life" too, are just hanging to meet a girl who likes anal. to be honest it never occurred to me to label them closet homosexual. i dated a man recently who i'm sure is a closet homosexual - and that's because he wasn't that interested in the female body - he was a two-position man!! as opposed to a man who wants to try out, well, everything on a female body!! for myself, i like the idea and the feeling of being absolutely and totally fucked in every way possible. since i also like things like submission and also dirty talk, this fits in with the way i like to play - dirty and no limits. i think exhibitionists generally like it too - there is no part of you not being seen and used. yum! but girls who are shy about their body might not want to get into it. how does it feel? if done right, it hurts for a second, then once you're used to it, it doesn't hurt - and it feels so different, it's a turn-on. for me, it feels quite submissive which is hot, but that's my kink - others may differ. a man who can give anal sex properly (who, despite the rush of finding a girl who'll do it, can be patient and be guided by the girl to start with) is a great find. we girls are apparently not made to physically get off on anal sex, but the plus is that girls are more mentally stimulated by sex in general than guys and it can be an awesome mindfuck. having said all of that, i was once entered urm, back there when i wasn't expecting it and wasn't therefore relaxed, etc - and dear god, i have never felt anything so painful!! yes, you can have full-on, hard, nasty anal sex... but that's once your girl has given you the go-ahead - her body has relaxed and taken you and she's ready for play! girls may not mention that they're into it straight away, and may not want to get into it on a first meeting with a new or random lover, because it can be a very bad experience with an inexperienced or impatient man. i think it says a lot that, even in the roughest sessions with my Dom who i've known for a while now, he is still gentle when it comes to starting anal play. ps sorry Dave - somehow i got on my soapbox and went off-topic a little, but felt this might be useful for those browsing the topic :)

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  dave, I think it is just part of the whole sexual repetoire. I am certainly not gay, just love to experience as much as possible with a woman who is willing to experiment (and not just with anal). My wife doesnt prefer it (though she has come massively while providing the extra stimulation) but she really gets off on rimming. Many women seem to tag it as a gay thing, or wont admit they like it or are unwilling to try, could be the whole sex is dirty syndrome. You have to go with a womans wants/desires and go from there. If they dont like it/wont try it respect their wishes, whatever the experiment. Me, I cant cope with pure vanilla. Would love to meet a woman who doesnt have sexual inhibitions in this area as it appears to provide intense orgasms, and I love to see a woman in orgasm, as my whole desire is to give my partner an experience she wont forget (till next time). I am still looking for a willing participant, which is difficult as I am married and most women think a MM must be a slease to cheat, and even more so if I tick the anal box. The thing that suprises me is that there appears to be quite a few younger women who put it in their profile, so it musnt be that badly thought of. Everyone has their preferences. Love your reply cowgirl, you sound like a woman I would enjoy !

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I think not the majority of women not liking or not admitting to liking anal sex comes down to one thing it can really hurt for me it's not something I would do with a one of friend, it requires trust and lets face it most males wouldn't or haven't gone through it to know what it feels like from the other side the sex is dirty comment is soooo wrong, but anal sex can be very messy and most guys don't realise the hygiene issues for a female when going between the 2 varieties all that said between 2 ready and willing partners it can and is fun but as it is the women who is being penetrated it is her choice

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Hello again Dave...................I just read your post and have to put my 2 cents in also!!!I have no idea why anyone would relate anal sex with a female partner to the male being gay or even bisexual.............I thought it was more about exploring???I will admit I enjoy anal sex very much..............it feels different to vaginal sex!!I need to be relaxed and in the mood though otherwise it hurts. On another note............ it put a huge smile on my face seeing your reply Cow!!!We need to catch up!!!

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Thanks everyone for your reassurance! No need to apologise Cowgrrlhat, it was great reading what you had to say. I wouldn't have asked the question if I wasn't prepared to read what each of you had to say. I'm a very open-minded guy and I appreciate everyone's thoughts on the subject. What have I taken from this? Well...I need to be gentle, approach the 'subject' with sensitivity, and make sure the woman is as relaxed as ever. Also, no means no, and lastly.....enjoy it! :) Thanks ladies....and gent!! Dave

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