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Anal training....
March 20 2010
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CheekiBugga
15 years ago
have you tried like a thin type of dildo or a finger? something of the sort maybe you might have to be a little gentle to start with and take it from there.if you need a hand id be more than willing to lend a hand hehe :) bris xoxo
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RHP User
15 years ago
Don't try too much too soon. Start with maybe a small vibe or butt plug and when you feel ok with that get something the next size up. Don't rush, it takes time to stretch things. You will know when it's time to move on to the next one. Forget the fancy silicon lubes and stick with the water based ones. As a dominatrix I have trained a few guys to take a hard arse fucking and found the above method the best way. As a final tip, I have found that putting a condom on your toys means less mess. Good Luck
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey Live dream. I have had a few threesomes with DP involved. Probably the best thing is to practice with a small dildo or vib first. Get use to the feeling. When you have two guys maybe start with the smaller guy first. Ask the guy to go real slow and easy, be gentle until you are comfortable with it Shaun
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RHP User
15 years ago
You could try using a butt plug and work up from a smaller to larger size, so your ass is used to accepting things. Use lots of lube. Might take a little while for your body to get used to it (ie practise) but i'm sure the results will be well worth it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
harden the F##* up
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RHP User
15 years ago
If it dont fit dont force it Sweetiepie..Next time Mr Sweetpie wants to visit the vault make him wear a mask !
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RHP User
15 years ago
A lot of horniness, naughtiness, no pressure and a bit of alcohol seems to be the best lube for this mrs
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RHP User
15 years ago
I found it is all about relaxing.. lubricate first....just take a couple of deep breaths and go limp and relax... then enjoy worked for me.. but i guess it may not work for everyone.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' I had a similar issue, hubby tried to run off with my bottom cherry and actually hurt himself much more than me, Like breaking into a bank vault apparently :) He's a thick boy to be fair, so as a wise woman once said to me "thick is great for pussy, average is great for arse" xx Mrs S been a safe cracker from way backjust gotta get the tumblers right.....full of bourbon,ahahahaahhhhahahahahaahhhaaahahahhhaEarl
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RHP User
15 years ago
Now I say this having never had anal myself as my ex wasn't interested.Sex should be pleasurable and if you are not experience pleasure for yourself don't do it.As for training hmmmmm I am not a doctor but you may end up with lose bowels and a medical problem. my 2 cents Hermes
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RHP User
15 years ago
Can't beat a dude with experience to train a new bum. I suggest you play with your beads, then a dildo ... and then a cock. Inexperienced guys get too enthusiastic too early. That hurts. That's not pleasant anal sex. You don't need to train your bum... you need to train your men! Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
The guy needs to be patient.In the porn industry, the starlets use butt plugs before hand to stretch and relax the muscle.We have also found that Eros make the BEST lube for Anal play.have fun
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RHP User
15 years ago
All great advice, but above the previous advice, and i am a bi bottom male by preference, when trying to get a cock in your ass, especially the first time (or first for a while) make sure you are empty and clean, lots of foreplay to get hot and bothered, use spit and precum (best lube available) and once the head of his cock is against your ass, it's up to you! Tell him not to move, but let him rub your clit or finger you flick your nipples, whatever makes you hot, but the best way to get him in and enjoy it is for you to push him in. Take it slow, and if it starts to ache, stop for a minute and then start again. Gentle does it, but once he's right in you can start to move back and forth.....feels awesome!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I really hope you follow thru with all the idea's given here.(good work people) I never tryed it untill last year and OMG I could kick myself for missing out. The orgasims that anal gives me personally make stars appear!! It really truely is about being relaxed and trusting that person. best of luck on your training experience, the rewards will blow your mind
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok so the whole anal debate is allegedly oh so sexy...bla bla freekin bla... I'll tell you what isnt so sexy...stretching of the sphincter to the point where you have no control over your bowel motions... The sphincter lining externalises....haemorrhoids...bleeding from the anus....seen it all during my time in the A & E... Hope you have medical insurance...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bicuriousgal'harden the F##* up
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RHP User
15 years ago
buy urself an adjustable anal toy. u start them off slow, and when u r comfortable with them, u pump them up too a larger size. so eventually u can train ur ass too accept most sized cocks, AWESOME
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RHP User
15 years ago
There are devices you can buy which are a dildo that has a flap on it. you insert into offending hole, and squeeze the end with your hand and the flap moves away from the dildo. Kinda like those old style hair curling irons, but this one won't cauterise your sphincter. Also inflatable ones work too but don't overfill it or POP! Random
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'randomtip' There are devices you can buy which are a dildo that has a flap on it. you insert into offending hole, and squeeze the end with your hand and the flap moves away from the dildo. Kinda like those old style hair curling irons, but this one won't cauterise your sphincter. Also inflatable ones work too but don't overfill it or POP! Random you sure you not Tiger Woods man?ahahahahaahahahahahahahahaahahahaEarl
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RHP User
15 years ago
These devices don't work very well on your mouth. Basically you can bust yer jaw then every time you give head it goes *click* *click* *click* Random
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RHP User
15 years ago
A lady is hurtling down the freeway at 130km when from behind an overpass pylon a police officer jumps out with radar gun in hand. The officer jumps in his car and dutifully pulls over the young lady. "Do you know how fast you were going back there Miss?" "No I don't Officer" " You were doing 130km/h!! What do you do for a living Miss?" " I'm an asshole stretcher" said the woman "An asshole stretcher?" queried the policeman " And how do you do that exactly?" "Well first you start with one well lubed finger, then two etc until you can fit your whole hand in" "Really" exclaimed the policeman " Then what do you do" " Then I slowly work the other hand in and beging to slowly spread them apart until I have it about six feet wide" " Oh yeah?" says the policeman " And what exactly do you do with a six foot asshole" " You give him a radar gun and a police car and hide him behind an overpass!!" ~elastic sheen~
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mr_sheen_live' A lady is hurtling down the freeway at 130km when from behind an overpass pylon a police officer jumps out with radar gun in hand. The officer jumps in his car and dutifully pulls over the young lady. "Do you know how fast you were going back there Miss?" "No I don't Officer" " You were doing 130km/h!! What do you do for a living Miss?" " I'm an asshole stretcher" said the woman "An asshole stretcher?" queried the policeman " And how do you do that exactly?" "Well first you start with one well lubed finger, then two etc until you can fit your whole hand in" "Really" exclaimed the policeman " Then what do you do" " Then I slowly work the other hand in and beging to slowly spread them apart until I have it about six feet wide" " Oh yeah?" says the policeman " And what exactly do you do with a six foot asshole" " You give him a radar gun and a police car and hide him behind an overpass!!" ~elastic sheen~ heard a similar one bout a cunt streched 6" from a treeahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahaEarlPS you coming to meet and greet night?
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RHP User
15 years ago
typo, sorry.ahahahahahahahahaahahahaaaEarl
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RHP User
15 years ago
lube your a hole finger a franger or even a balloon inside it get your partner to blow it up till its pleasurable keep playing for a while then blow it up until its uncomfortable this will increase your asshole size for the next time you do it be patient this may take more than a few fucks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'DAcuplzTOOL' lube your a hole finger a franger or even a balloon inside it get your partner to blow it up till its pleasurable lol, the image that creates is just too much, lol (If you used a helium tank instead, what would be at a higher pitch?)I'd suggest a few different sized butt plugs and maybe a soft/jelly dildo/vibe of the size cock you expect to be playing with up there - then lube up, relax and play around, get to know your angles, and such.I don't find that inflatable butt plugs really work your sphincter, which is where you'll find the discomfort if you're going to have it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi All, One method that I have found to be very effective for "virgin" butt holes is to get one of those plastic sauce containers (it has a fine point - for easy insertion). You fill it with warm, soapy water and squirt into the ladies arsehole. Do this until she can barely contain the water and then she can go "powder her nose" so to speak. This has 2 advantages, 1) it cleans her rectum completely and 2) it makes her pass wind (alot!!). Ladies, try this in the shower (alone) with your finger and some soap. When you start to fart, put your finger at the opening of your butt hole and when you pass wind slowly push your finger in. Throw in a good helping of 69 until your young lady feels a fart comming. Lube her hole generously as well as your cock! Position your cock at the opening of her butt. Press firmly but do not penetrate. When she tells you she is about to break wind you slowly and very gently start to push in. This works because your cock is blocking the opening of her arse so the muscles open naturally to let the pressure escape. As this happens her arsehole is wide open, from the inside (a very important point) and so your cock can gain a painless entry. At this point you should be all the way in. If she is not used to anal sex, she may feel some discomfort at this stage, so go easy and be gentle. Think with your head and not your dick!! IMPORTANT NOTE!!!! There must be trust in the relationship for this to go without a hitch. If the woman says stop, she must know that her partner will stop. No if, butts (sorry!) or maybes. I know that this method works and works quite effectively if you take your time and listen to your partner. When you have got the technique down pat get her to stick a vibe up her pussy (a Rabbit is best!) and you will both blow your tiny minds. The orgasms just have to be experienced to be believed. Anyway, I hope that this will help you but if it doesn't at least you can have fun trying. Thanks for listening, Kingston
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RHP User
15 years ago
Interesting tips in this thread, thanks :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have taught many girls the pleasure of anal & here is my remedy :) STRETCH IT YOUR SELF ON YOUR OWN WHERE U CAN TAKE UR TIME!!!! USING FINGERS FIRST GET A FEEL FOR YOUR SPHINCTER & STRETCH IT SLOWLY SUCKTION CUP DILDOS SO U CAN LOWER YOURSELF - THINNER THE BETTER DEFINATELY IN A SPA WITH PLENTY OF VASELINE OR A WARM BATH VALIUM OR SOME OTHER TYPE OF MUSCLE RELAXANT POPPERS - GAY GUYS CARRY THIS STUFF AROUND FOR GOOD REASON :) ONCE YOUR STRETCHED UP GET YOUR PARTNER 2 SIT PERFECTLY STILL & U TAKE CONTROL OF THE THE PRESSURE AND SPEED & DEPTH..... IN THE END IT'S ANAL TRAINING & IT TAKES TIME WHAT MOST GUYS DON'T REALISE IS THAT THE GIRLS THEY SEE IN PORN WHO TAKE IT STRAIGHT AWAY - HAVE BEEN BEHIND THE SCENES STRETCHING UP FOR 30 - 60 MINS B4 THEY START SHOOTING..... MY RAUNCY GF LOVES HAVING 2 GUYS DP HER - SENDS HER CRAZY WITH ORGASAMS BEST OF LUCK E-MAN XXX
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'DAcuplzTOOL' lube your a hole finger a franger or even a balloon inside it get your partner to blow it up till its pleasurable keep playing for a while then blow it up until its uncomfortable this will increase your asshole size for the next time you do it be patient this may take more than a few fucksSo where is the simple solution???
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi All, Forgot to mention in my last thread, if you don't want to start wearing pads or nappies permanently, only indulge in anal sex once or twice a month at most! I have been with one or two ladies who went wild with anal (anal DP and large dildos) and it took a number of years for their cute little butt holes to return to something close to normal. To Giaperth, if you use my method, I'd be very interested in finding out what you thought of it. Kingston
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh.... I'm liking the sauce bottle idea most of all... And how appropriate for such a saucy activity.... And the best thing is, apparently, I just have to wait for her to feel a fart coming on and then plug her up with my cock!! Lordy lord... I think I've actually come full circle and Now I've heard everything! Actually I think I just pissed myself... hehe. Can't wait for the next person to want anal to come along. I'll stock up on sauce bottles... Fountain sauce of course. Or... What? Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
15 years ago
come on you fuckers! what about my joke? who gives a toss about the subject? I've been saving that little jem until just the right opportunity! If any of you can tell me there was a better time to tell that joke then i want to know when it is!!! lol xx ~crickets in the room sheen~
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RHP User
15 years ago
My first time.....lil aclohol...lots of foreplay...pusy ex..:) Then when he knew I wa ready...turned me on my tummy...with still more foreplay and naughty whispers in my ear...mmmmmmmmm I never felt pain...just sheer pleasure!... No dildos or anal beads or fingers had been any where near my arse...First and best..cock..lol.. Gotta love the Scotsmen! mmmmmmmmm Harden up princeses! hahahahah huggies sweetpetite41 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Good joke sheen! hehe..
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RHP User
15 years ago
WICKED JOKE ABOUT THE COPPER :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Never mind my joke E_man...have you seen your profile pic lately? Joisus! now thats a little bewdy! hehe xx ~pervy sheen~
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RHP User
15 years ago
IF U LIKE THAT PIC KEEP AN EYE OUT FOR THE PICS FROM THIS WEEKENDS SHINNANIGANS :) FRIDAY A MFFF SATURDAY A MFFFF - REVERSE GANGBANG CAN'T WAIT
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RHP User
15 years ago
show some respect dudes.some honey wants her date punched.now cut out the banter and help the poor lass.ahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahaEarl
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have it on good authority that the best thing for anal and or DP is infact......the E_Man! xx ~a friend told me so sheen~
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mynameisearl2' show some respect dudes.some honey wants her date punched.now cut out the banter and help the poor lass.ahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahaEarl ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahalove this quote bit, cheers mrs P.ahahahahahahahahahahahahashhahanah nah nanahhna mr SheenahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahhahaEarl
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi livedream, great to see you want to try it, take it slow and have fun along the way. Find someone that cares about you and not the sex and have fun trying different size toys, the trick is to teach your body to relax and it will, having fun with someone who cares about you will make them think twice and not force things onto you, as you get excited and your pussy loosens up so will your arse and before you know it, it will loosen on its own pleading for attention, no bad experiences until you get there so it dosnt get scared and close shop. Have fun with it dont rush it and get excited.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey everyone Thanks for all the tips - I have lots to try :) Looking forwards to a whole lot of pleasure! Mwah Mel x
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Dimples_
15 years ago
Quoting 'Kingston9999' When you have got the technique down pat get her to stick a vibe up her pussy (a Rabbit is best!) and you will both blow your tiny minds. The orgasms just have to be experienced to be believed. I have to agree with Kingston on the vibrator bit, if you have that going while he's trying to enter you it makes alot of difference in your ability to relax. Also once he's just in, having him stop and just letting your muscles relax helps too...Anal sex when you're in the mood is awesome!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'randomtip' There are devices you can buy which are a dildo that has a flap on it. you insert into offending hole, and squeeze the end with your hand and the flap moves away from the dildo. Kinda like those old style hair curling irons, but this one won't cauterise your sphincter. Also inflatable ones work too but don't overfill it or POP! Random WoW - Random. You must have very intersting toy box. Tell me - do you share your toys? Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'randomtip' There are devices you can buy which are a dildo that has a flap on it. you insert into offending hole, and squeeze the end with your hand and the flap moves away from the dildo. Kinda like those old style hair curling irons, but this one won't cauterise your sphincter. Also inflatable ones work too but don't overfill it or POP! sounds like a speculum
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RHP User
15 years ago
Don't women lose control of their anal muscles, as reported by porn stars? I saw a report that porn stars later couldn't with hold pooping their pants.
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RHP User
15 years ago
HAHAHAHA Love that "bicuriousgal" Might have to harden the fuck up myself :) Bel
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xFunlovingx
15 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' Like breaking into a bank vault apparently :)Lol this is so true for some of us girls...I wouldn't be too upset about it...some of us just aren't built for anything to go up the (hmm trying to think of a nice word) the brown pearly gates of love?? I for one have such a high fantasy about a man doing anal on me let alone having a DP done...but alas I am one of the ones that can't take it!! I tried it a couple of times and both times left me in excrutiating pain for about a week. Now before you all guys get on your high horse and say "he didn't do it right" or "you just haven't found the right guy" blah blah blah..I am sorry to burst your bubble...but some of us are just not built that way (not that it is a construction site)..but you get my gist. Just keep dreaming as I do hun xo PS: Have tried the smallest butt plugs and they kill too (sigh)...Hope you have better luck. xFunloivngx
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RHP User
15 years ago
As well as the various methods mentioned by other above, some people with a preference for the backroads use amyl nitrate as a way of relaxing the involuntary sphincter (the one that causes the problems usually, since the other sphincter is voluntary...) It can be sourced from some sex shops, usually by asking after "video head cleaner". It does need to be treated carefully though, since it does also drop your blood pressure at the same time, so don't use it standing up. If it is mixed with Viagra or Cialis (or other drugs in the same class) the combination can drop your blood pressure in a severe, sustained fashion that can be fatal (and has been for a fair few punters). Anyway, don't read this as an endorsement, and always know what you're about when trying anything with drugs, medicinal or recreational... Valium and other benzos aren't muscle relaxants per se, but they do relax people very nicely, and that's very helpful. The advice re DIY stretching and training is excellent IME, no one is better placed to push your limits while not pushing into massive OW! territory than you are. It also allows you to train yourself to accomodate bigger objects than your partner's cock, so that when it goes in you know that your anus can stretch that big. That not only helps with the physical side of learning to love anal, but also with the mental side, because you *know* that your ass can take even bigger toys it means you no longer have to worry about whether it'll fit or not. Less worry = more relaxed = more fun in the bum ;) On a personal note, the ludicrous size butt-plugs you see in some sex shops (often the same ones selling amyl, oddly enough ;) make a great warm up toy. Not to actually get some 12 inch diameter plug into your butt though, that's always seemed like it'd make the experience like the old hotdog down the hallway for your partner... Instead, for example, you can squat over it and lower your ass onto it while you give your partner head at the same time. It gets you very horny and wet, the smooth taper lets you really stretch your asshole for a moment or a minute without running out of girth, and since your controlling it, as soon as the stretch becomes too much you can back off a bit and let your ass get comfortable again. Boys always seem to love getting a bj while their partner is busy dilating her (or his) anus for his use, but that's hardly a surprise. And since you're both getting more and more turned on together, as soon as you're ready to have your ass fucked you can be sure that he is rock hard and dripping with saliva (especially if you've been deep-throating him too, he he he) so his cock can slide in smooth and slippery, and of course you can either keep your anus relaxed for that porn-style gape (though it is easier said than done), or you can squeeze tightly for the first few strokes for than tight feel (and since it is only the voluntary sphincter you can relax it as you like to avoid any pain but still get that feeling of your ass being invaded/owned/used :) Hmm, can you tell we like anal play? He he he Lisa & Finn PS: Even in the worst case scenario of having the muscle of the anal sphincter torn (as often happens during anal rapes for example) it doesn't mean you'll be wearing adult diapers for ever more. Partial tears heal, and even complete tears can be repaired with a gracilis muscle transfer. It's not ideal, obviously, but it does mean you are the commander of your bowels again :D
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bustystclare' A lot of horniness, naughtiness, no pressure and a bit of alcohol seems to be the best lube for this mrsI agree, and if it works, great, if it doesn't, there's always next time
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RHP User
15 years ago
plenty of alcohol and vas i believe that works and take it slow baby no rush
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RHP User
15 years ago
love this
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah, I thin that the vasoline and alcohol trick may be useful. Smoke can be helpful, so can plenty of rimming and fingering. But I think the loosing of anal muscle control comment has some truth to it too. But, it's rare to finda lover that likes anal (for me anyways) so try try try, that would be my motto
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tank__girl
14 years ago
Next time we get together, I'll give you all the advice I have at intermission (although....I don't ever remember there being any intermissions.....?! hehehe...) And I will always be there for you to lend a hand, on hand to pass the lube, spit on it, whatever. I'm an anal slut.... You're definately missing out gorgeous girl, call me and we'll get onto it asap!? And as per usual, I would be more than willing to step in and cop it for you if it's get's too much...X
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