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Another topic about cougars but with a twist

June 22 2012

Ok so I really thing that the American Pie film series has a lot to answer for my generations "obsession" over milfs, cougars,soccer moms, older women ect. Granted that the graduate may have been the first notable film that brought this in to pop culture during the 60's I don't think it was nearly as effective in portraying the benefits of a older women but at the same time gives false confidence to the young male population watching these films which I believe was my downfall at that that age. Many people around my age and a bit younger what to experience a older women. (and by older I mean someone at lest 7 years there senior) All for varying reasons of course wether it be for themselves to gain experience from it and make themselves a better lover or for the hassle free nature of the situation with some girls there own ages not being as confident in the bedroom or expecting relationships to follow a sexual encounter. I remember when I was newly turned 18 that I would always be on the "hunt" and looking back on it I cringe at some of my attempts at picking up older women, needless to say I wasn't very successful. After a few months of little to no luck i decided to give it a break, have fun with people my own age and have another go in a couple of years. So here I am ready to give it another go, wish me luck but to be honest I can't do worse than last time.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Are you having a general chat about the topic or are you sending out invites to all the 'cougars'?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I was wondering the same thing Lil bit ... really need to start calling this the classifieds...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Advertising I think. Cheers Felonius

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    approach a cougar,she likes to hunt and stalk her prey....oh ,thats right,deja cougar.....just stand still bigboi ,now that you have come out into the open ,she will find youxHugs H

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    It was a bit of both really.I just thought I would write about what I think is causing the increased interest in cougars for my generation, and some of the positives and negatives in doing so. As well as sending out a "invite" even if all it leads to is a interesting conversation I am cool with that, its just interesting hearing other peoples views on it. hopefully my advert was a bit more interesting that the other ones haha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Most women loathe the term "cougar" so I strongly suggest you never repeat it to her.....never refer to her as "mature" or "older"....remember this fact...she is a woman with experience...but no matter how good she looks, she is very aware of her biological years and doesnt need it reinforced to her   Also please keep in mind (the presuming bit) that not all women older than you are "cougars" - many arent (including myself) , most "cougars" who advertise on here or if your out clubbing/ pubbing will make it very clear that if she wants you (Thanks Hesione)....she will pursue you....its an essential part of the game     And the assuming bit   Always assume that you are nothing more than a fuck puppet for the nite, nothing less, but certainly nothing more....   Good luck with your search :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Fuck puppet...lmaox Hugs H

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    American Pie? lol...we walked out of the cinema the night we went to this movie..... what a waste of money, and it did nothing to make young boys attractive, it just served as a vehicle to ridicule the imagined behaviour of a few....it was fiction, after all, wasn't it?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Geez I hate that word.... To me it represents desperate old women who look a little like that old badly tanned woman in Something About Mary and run around chasing young guys. Why are we (any of us) cougars, milfs, older, mature or anything else? We're just women! The downfall of guys your age is your insistence that you're more mature than your age. And you're not! None of you. And that's great - because that's how you should be at 21. Not to mention that you all praise your own abilities in the bedroom and tell us how you guarantee to leave us satisfied.... Dare I say, if that were the case, the ladies both young and old would be lined up around the corner. And that mustn't be the case if you're on here at 21!! I'm not referring directly to the OP, just about what I feel the downfall of guys his age on here.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I find it interesting that as we have seen here that some women despise the turn but then others wear it like a badge of honour and I never thought that all women are cougars, its like thinking all women like BJ's.apollo thirteen sorry but i disagreewe don't all praise our own ability thats a pretty big generalisation only the cocky tools do, many try to gain experience from it, me personally I am on here not because I am desperate to get girls or anything like that, I am on here because i wanted to have fun and joined on a whim more than anything else and found it interesting

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    The Op's business why he is on here, I always find that quite rude when people tell the younger members to go outside and get a life It's not unheard of for a young man or woman to be a lot more sexually adventurous than their peers and find themselves having to look to other avenues to spend time with like minded people (or other dirty fuckers in most cases on here lol)Don't belittle them everytime by telling them to get out and meet real people their own age.....we are all looking for different things in our sexual journey here, and there is a niche for all.We have a few young guys on here that can express themselves well , like the OP does (Jamesnp is another) both seem respectful enough in their posts, why can't you lot (who should know better at our ages) give a little bit of credit and be respectful back? .DGTNot taking the piss out of our youth

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I think you'll find most women dislike the term cougar and a small number like it. Your safest bet is not to use it at all. If a woman likes the term shell use it. If she doesn't like the term then at least you'll avoid seriously pissing her off. I think using the word shows a lack of imagination - it pigeon holes women as though we're all the same. How hard is it to look at a woman and simply say "damn you're sexy!" without worrying about her age?!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    if it's a younger woman puling your strings are you still a fuck puppet?and what the fuck do you do if you get a tangle ~grins~

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    This debate seems to me to be incessant and quite pointless.This is like the 5 thread in nearly a week.People are people are people.And preferences are individual.also its has been going on a very long timeCleopatra had a host of young ''boys'' to tend her.Catherine the great also(among possible other things(tugs collar)Dali`s muse had a weakness also.Sex happens when people are willing and attracted.The rest is just scenery in my humble opinion.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I was taking the piss... but in no way was I telling the OP to go and get a life outside of here, I think its great having so many young men into older women, all of my lovers have been younger than me, and its been wonderful. It makes alot of sense really with us just coming into our peak sexually, and the young guys also, makes for explosive and explorative sex. Yes, some of the younger men can be a bit cocky ( as can some of the older ones too) Bring on the lovely young men who are just happy to go with the flo and experience all that RHP offers.   Can I just add a sort of side topic on here? I am struggling lately with 'how young is too young?' Receive alot of mail from very young men, my initial thoughts are hubba hubba, but then I get the moral thing going and... I'd really appreciate your thoughts on this... anyone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    The question was raised (well I think it was) on the rise of the Cougar, and I think the answer is pretty damn self-evident - IT IS BECAUSE THEY CAN! It practise isn't looked down by society, in fact they are often the envy of their female friends Whilst most will look at a mature woman in a pub or club with a harem of young studs clammering for her attention and secrety wish either they were her (if they are female) or wish they were as carefree and as lucky as the harem (if they are male), the same can't be said for the reverse. I believe society still sniggers when they see a male with someone who is young enough to be his offspring, even I do it, it looks bloody ridiculous.   I must admit what makes me laugh is when Cougarism goes wrong! When a mature lady not only tries to compete with the women half her age but dress and act like them as well. It just isn't a good look, you are sought after because of your age and experience (and often the willingness to have SNA sex on the first night), not for wearing the latest look from Miley Cyrus lol Of course the same goes for the men, hoodies for anyone over 40 should be a no no lmao

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Thanks everyone for there input. I have learnt quite a bit and enjoyed reading it (yes even the "constructive criticism" haha) and will hopefully be able to use this advice in the future if I am lucky enough to have the opportunity.Saskia72Yes that is quite a tough decision to make I have heard, especially if you have a son or have a family friend around that age.believe it or not some young men have a similar moral dilemma being the whole oedipus complex and if have sex with a women who is older than them is fuelling this sexual fantasy, which definitely freaked me out for a bit.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' I think you'll find most women dislike the term cougar and a small number like it. Your safest bet is not to use it at all. If a woman likes the term shell use it. If she doesn't like the term then at least you'll avoid seriously pissing her off. I think using the word shows a lack of imagination - it pigeon holes women as though we're all the same. How hard is it to look at a woman and simply say "damn you're sexy!" without worrying about her age?! I agree totally. Just remember .. the young blokes draw the women into the site as much as us mature hunks :)

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'bigboi2393' I find it interesting that as we have seen here that some women despise the turn but then others wear it like a badge of honour and I never thought that all women are cougars, its like thinking all women like BJ's.apollo thirteen sorry but i disagreeYou kinda can't... Unless you get multiple contacts from guys your age a week professing what incredible lovers they are. Do you?9/10 young guys when I say "no thank you - you're too young for me", respond with "well you don't know what you're missing, I've been with hundreds of older women and have left them all very satisfied. I'm very mature for my age and know what I'm doing in the bedroom" Yep.... Sure...we don't all praise our own ability thats a pretty big generalisation Not a generalisation - that's my experience on here, that's all I can reference from. You asked what is the downfall of guys your age - That's what it is - to me. only the cocky tools do, many try to gain experience from it, me personally I am on here not because I am desperate to get girls or anything like that, I am on here because i wanted to have fun and joined on a whim more than anything else and found it interesting Decibels - I'm not a guest... You want the phone number??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    In Vic I think the legal age is 16 as long as your not a carer or teacher. I believe it's also a valid defence if you believed that they were of legal age,but who would want to be in court to test it.So legally I guess thats as far you can go. Not that, that stop's some women.I think it was last week that I read in the paper about a female teacher who was convictedof having a sexual relationship with a 15 yo male student, and have heard of a few cases with13 year old's.As far as morality goes, I can't see anything particularly immoral about having sexual relations withsomeone within the confines of the statutes.That won't stop individuals from condemming you though, because you don't fit into theirvision of what's right or not.If you want to, and can deal with the possibility of the fallout, then go for it.Though seeing as you want to sail close to the mark, I would be wanting proof of age.Good luck and have fun!Cheers Felonius

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Hi all, yes it was interesting topic, and to have the views of many discussed on here, does help shape how you view things...I'm 40 and my sons father is 7 years younger than me (we separated long ago)...I have to agree with Irish44you, it's all about the individual and not making generalisations....I don't know why people much such a big deal about the years someone has been on this earth, as it all comes down to experience and mentality. Someone can be 30 and act like there 18 years and vice versa...Appreciate and treat people for who they are and not want you want them to be...

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'DontGrabThat'The Op's business why he is on here, I always find that quite rude when people tell the younger members to go outside and get a life It's not unheard of for a young man or woman to be a lot more sexually adventurous than their peers and find themselves having to look to other avenues to spend time with like minded people (or other dirty fuckers in most cases on here lol)Don't belittle them everytime by telling them to get out and meet real people their own age.....we are all looking for different things in our sexual journey here, and there is a niche for all.We have a few young guys on here that can express themselves well , like the OP does (Jamesnp is another) both seem respectful enough in their posts, why can't you lot (who should know better at our ages) give a little bit of credit and be respectful back? .DGTNot taking the piss out of our youth Couldn't agree with you more DGT hun....Well said! Hugs...xFunlovingx