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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Maybe your trying to hard to change. Just be yourself . :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Not long mean?..if its under 6 months then you probably need to give yourself some time...You are adjusting to a totally different lifestyle .Spend time alone.getting to know you again,spend time with friends,don't put pressure on yourself...enjoy yourself xxFreya

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  dontfallinlove

  9 years ago

  Yes less than 6 months Freya and that sounds like good advice thank-you - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  10 year habit will take more than a few days, week's or month's to break. The next "special" one won't be like your last "special" one. Detach and move forth!! Swings and roundabouts, don't be too hard on yourself.

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  dontfallinlove

  9 years ago

  Starting out again When your "you and me forever" ends especially when you have children together it becomes particularly hard to make a "clean break" as i still care for her deeply, not meaning to sound sorry for myself but just putting it out here as I'm sure alot of you have experienced similar circumstances and have valuable advice thanks x - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Life's a marathon not a sprint.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  It's sounds like you've thought of yourself as "we" for a long time, and I think it's important to really think of yourself as "I" first, before adding a new person to the mix. Good luck x

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  Seachange

  9 years ago

  A lot of people here have been in the same situation as you. Out of a long term relationship and with kids. It is not surprising you still have these feelings but it may not be what you think it is. You may just be missing the companionship, sexless or not, and the familiarity of a routine. I separated from my ex after 13 years together with 2 kids. but life goes on.... I deliberately took at least 12 months off after. having a 'relationship sabbatical' as I called it meant I can reflect on what has happened, grieved for the demise and plan for the future. I refused any drinks/date offered down my way because i was still dealing with my ' emotional baggage' and would not want anymore complications with anyone else or impose it on anyone else. I focused on myself - got heavily into fitness, sports, re-connected with friends and family. I got fitter, lost a lot of weight, regained my 'lost friends' and reconnected with my family, my support structure. In short, invest in yourself because you matter. Look after your mental, emotional and physical health. Seek professional help if you must. There is no shame in that. It is a positive move. You will find that people will be more attracted to you because of the inner confidence and peace that you exude rather than have a 'clingy' person around them. So take your time, as RHP can be harsh to single men at most times, even the attractive fit men, even harder if you dont have your baggage sorted. Best of luck.

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