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Are Bi Guys really Gay?
January 11 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Gay people have no interest in sex with the other sex, none at all. Bi people do. But its not about what others call you its what you call your self. How often you have sex has nothing to do with it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It seems in your case this guy hasn't come to terms with his true sexuality, in this day and age one can be free to come out of the closet without fear of vindication but some still caught up in the social stigma. Some like it both ways, there is no problem in that, I just think some maybe confused and can't quite decide, I guess it all depends on their life's journey and the people in their lives whether their friends family accept gender benders or not, if they don't and the guy is a bit of ac/dc this can cause them to hide in the closet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Whoa! I think everybody's sexuality is pretty unique, so I can't speak for your new lover, but generally bi guys are bi! Gay guys are gay. Straight guys who happen to like receiving anal play are straight guys who happen to like receiving anal play. The sex is probably incredible because you have found yourself a very openminded guy who enjoys all the meats of the sexual stew. Lucky you! I would hesitate to ruin it, if I were you, by throwing labels around when you could just relax and enjoy the fireworks :) Ms "crazy in love with a technically bi guy" Kinkster
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are bi guys gay?? No...they're bi. The question of frequency is a different issue.....which it would be my guess....you're not his only playmate.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would think if he is only having sex with you every 10 days and your availability is more than that .. perhaps he is having sex with male partners on the other days and thats when he can fit you in ? perhaps ? Just remember to practice very safe sex :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
He only likes sex every ten days?? Yep.. there is something fishy there... He is hiding something... might be medical.. might be "His other life" But.. you sre NOT being told the truth.. *shrugs* But.... who ARE anyway??
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting!! More concerned re: Bi or secretly gay... We both have other playmates.. That's not the problem.. It's more a question. If the Sex is so incredible and mind blowing for both. Why not more frequent?
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RHP User
12 years ago
i am partial to an encounter of the femme kind...........that makes me biam i a lesbian....hell no....but then...is the pope a catholic ??but to be honest ...bi men..make me nervous ... same as switches......you never really know whats going on behind the veil(i know.........judgemental and bigoted...irrational as well....but thats just the way i crumble.....i like em, but just at an arms distance...more cautious........not the same for gay men tho.....fine with them )sex every 10 days ....get the hell outa here!!! 10 x a week is more the target
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RHP User
12 years ago
But we cannot know if your lover is truthful in saying he is bi. There could be many explanations for his behaviour. The 10 day-thing is indeed interesting. I hope you get the whole truth, and if you do, we'd love to hear it. And welcome!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unsure on that one, I've wondered the same thing, if they want a big hard cock in their arse who are they kidding? I have known men who say they enjoy sex with another man but there is no attraction with men and they wouldnt kiss them, if I wasn't attraced to somebody I wouldn't have sex with them.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
what the label is and yes bi is bi,the infrequency of sex is a whole other issue....sounds like he is just a busy sexy man.If it is not enough for you then be like Oliver Twist and ask for more.
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RHP User
12 years ago
you make a lot of demands there LadyLu,a lover who will do as you please.Perhaps he is with others doing what will please him the other nine days
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your user name made me think of blue looanyway, there was another similar post I read from a man liking other guys to fuck him asking if it made him gay.. Like everyone said, it makes a guy bi not gay.
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RHP User
12 years ago
ask yourself this..so the sex is really great but how do you feel about the fact your new partner not care where he gets it..every ten days .mabe he's a shift worker on a mine .mabe he's got a lsit of people he see's and its your turn every ten days..as you say he's your new lover not partner ...your playing with fire and one way or the other you may end up getting burnt
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RHP User
12 years ago
Because frequent mind-blowing sex ends up not so mind-blowing. Everyone knows that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Being a bi guy is a mixed blessing. There are always folks who look a bit askance and posit the "but are you really gay and trying to cling to some measure of heterosexuality" theory. While there is certainly some prejudice and other disadvantages to go through by identifying as gay and having sex/relationships only with men, society in general is still free enough that people can identify as gay if they really are. Enough people do it! Which makes me believe the gay men have already figured it out and are happily gay. The bi men are bi because they don't want to have sex with either gender exclusively. It makes about as much sense to say that since he enjoys sex with a woman once every ten days or so, or whatever it is, then maybe he doesn't really enjoy sex with men? Maybe he's been straight all along and is kidding himself? Hmm, seems unlikely.I'd think the gay men who forced themselves to have relationships and sex with women because that's what was expected of them would have had a harder time of it and the sex wouldn't have been so mindblowing. Gay men used to get married and act straight a lot in previous generations but I'll bet neither partner was very thrilled with whatever sex life there was. Speaking as a man, we men can be simple creatures sexually. If we look, sound and ejaculate like we're enjoying it - we probably are. If sex were a chore a man was doing to try to be a part of the "normal life", he wouldn't do such a damn good job of it. Given some of the clueless conversations I've heard gay men say about this theoretical sex with women thing they've heard about, I'm confident it wouldn't be all that great. One memorable chap said, "I can't even imagine having sex with a vagina. What's it like?" I told him that the rest of the woman is usually attached too, for starters...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just a thought - what if he described himself as pansexual, or just sexually open? Would that be as confronting? I have to say, I do and I don't understand why some say bi guys 'make them nervous' and such... and yet, every woman and her dog here appear to be/describe themselves as bi, which is not just acceptable but, it seems sometimes, almost compulsory! I still remember the bad old days when being bisexual was seen as, variously, sitting on the fence, confused, wanting to have your cake and eat it too, a 'gateway' to bring 'diseases' from the gay community (when, personally, I find safe sex practice to be disturbingly much less compulsory in straight swinging communities), and not really a valid form of sexuality. Happily, the notion of a sliding scale of sexuality rather than this compartmentalised kind is slowly taking hold, which fits humans so much better than the idea that we 'click over' from one sexuality to another. Click! I sucked a guy's cock - dammit, I'm gay now! ... Oh no! I enjoyed going down on that girl's pussy way more than I should've. Waaa! I'm a lesbian! It doesn't make any kind of sense. My pansexual partner liking to play with guys sometimes does not make him some kind of rabid glory-hole munching, unsafe manwhoring lunatic. But it does make him somebody I love to share a gorgeous cock with - if you've never sucked a cock together as a couple, you're missing nice romantic times lol :) MsKinkster x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for all the comments. I will take it all on board. I do not and will never ever judge as I am no saint. I am open to all as we have our needs in various forms. Mine was more a curious question as I have never been with a Bi guy before. I will enjoy the ride, safely while it lasts. I guess I'm selfish in that I want and need more mind blowing sex but as PBG says. It doesn't last!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hallelujah. After reading a fair few threads on what makes you Bi? Are straight men that like strap-ons really Gay? etc, I ended up changing my orientation on my profile from Bi-sexual to Anything. People can take that however they want. None of us should have to define ourselves, let alone defend our choices.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love synchronized cock sucking. So good!! Another question for you peeps. Does it matter if the guy is a top or a bottom? ( Lmao. ⊂(◉‿◉)つ )
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RHP User
12 years ago
We all have our places on the sliding scale of personal sexuality. Try reversing the genders in your question perhaps. Are bi women really lesbians? I don't think the answer to that is any different from the answer to your question OP. But the 10 day thing? I don't think that has anything to do with your question about if he is really bi or not. Not sure what it is about, maybe ask him? He may have a reason for that that explains everything. I can't think what it might be, but then I am not him :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lucky you!! Not many bi boys around so it would seem. Where are you boys?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Does bi-lingual count???
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Hallelujah. After reading a fair few threads on what makes you Bi? Are straight men that like strap-ons really Gay? etc, I ended up changing my orientation on my profile from Bi-sexual to Anything. People can take that however they want. None of us should have to define ourselves, let alone defend our choices. Its the most apt description for Pansexual. Im not gay. Im not bisexual and Im definately not Straight
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RHP User
12 years ago
When writing that post I actually thought of you... About what me wanting to fuck you with my strap-on makes me. Devious?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Spit roasting Miss EBliss.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' When writing that post I actually thought of you... About what me wanting to fuck you with my strap-on makes me. Devious? :P
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captainkaos
12 years ago
Quoting 'Hotdiggettydamn'Your user name made me think of blue loo anyway, there was another similar post I read from a man liking other guys to fuck him asking if it made him gay.. Like everyone said, it makes a guy bi not gay. I am not gay but I once fucked a guy who was. I have read a few profiles of women who say that they don't like bi guys. Is that because they are afraid that the guy is going to run off with another guy? Just because a guy is bi or gay it doesn't mean that he likes all aspects of it. He may only like sucking cock or just anal sex. Maybe both? Maybe more? I didn't quite understand whatyou meant LLLB. Does he like sex with YOU every 10 days or sex with GUYS every 10 days? Either way, it's a bit strange. How can you tell how often you will be attracted or horny for sex.......unless like me and many other people on here, its every day.....actually horny constantly........lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'captainkaos' Quoting 'Hotdiggettydamn'Your user name made me think of blue loo anyway, there was another similar post I read from a man liking other guys to fuck him asking if it made him gay.. Like everyone said, it makes a guy bi not gay. I am not gay but I once fucked a guy who was. I have read a few profiles of women who say that they don't like bi guys. Is that because they are afraid that the guy is going to run off with another guy? Just because a guy is bi or gay it doesn't mean that he likes all aspects of it. He may only like sucking cock or just anal sex. Maybe both? Maybe more? I didn't quite understand whatyou meant LLLB. Does he like sex with YOU every 10 days or sex with GUYS every 10 days? Either way, it's a bit strange. How can you tell how often you will be attracted or horny for sex.......unless like me and many other people on here, its every day.....actually horny constantly........lol. Hi CK,I think, for a lot of people, bi-guys seem to post a greater risk than others, especially the closeted ones. The one's who hide that they love the cock, and duck off to saunas after work to get their cock fix, or hang around beats looking for some action... The perception is, and of course I'm generalising here, that those guys engage in unsafe practices and are likely to land you with something nasty.Of course, all the out bi guys I've ever met have been safe, and they know the drill about getting tested regularly, and engaging in safe sex, and emergency prophylactics if required and all that jazz. Personally, I think being with a bi-slut who shags someone different every night, but who looks after their sexual health, is much better than being with someone who is in a bit of denial and who hasn't benefited from the extensive safety campaigns by health services and organisations such as ACON.Then there is also the fear "what if I don't put tonight, is he just going to find some bloke to play with?". It's rather sexist and assumes that men can and will fuck anything, and if their needs aren't met then they are going to go out right now and fuck something, most likely another man, because men can and will fuck anything.That's what I think is going on with those women anyway. Maybe someone who specifies "no bi guys" can elucidate?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am very open sexually, have been around a while, seen a lot and don't consider myself to be ignorant or sexually repressed. However......I specify no bi guys, 1 is for the unsafe sex higher risk aspect ,I realise this is general but I struggle to get one man to wear a condom - I can imagine two men alone ...... 2 is because I want the guys to be totally into me ( very selfish but this is my playground and I get to act a bit selfish if I want) not distracted by my hot hung husband haha , and thirdly is because my husband (with many gay friends and a very open mind) is 100% straight and would feel slightly uncomfortable playing sexually alone with me and a bisexual guy............those are the reasons we state no bisexual men.
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RHP User
12 years ago
having known and associated with more than a few 'gay' guys and couples, i can honestly say that if a gay guy saw or was shown a womans bits.....he's be repulsed.... the language gay males use, when the topic of women....and sex comes up, isnt flattering at all.... a gay guy wont have sex with a woman at 10 day intervals....try 'never' as the usual and accepted frequency.........frequency of sex has nothing to do with sexuality/persuasion or even preference...... its about 'drive', and in this, we are all unique, it ebbs and flows with age/health/meds/fatigue/etc etc..........and some just dont want/like/need sex all that often..........its just how it goes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love Bi boys!! They let you do things that boring straight guys won't :-( give me a Bi boy any day!!.......as for sex only every 10 days. Ask him!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
hey guys :) mr hotinme here im bi and have been for several yrs.. but i can sympathise with this first post because i prefer ladies WAY more to men.. but every now and then u just feel the urge for some cock!! it turns u on.. but once u have had it u go even harder with the mrs because she is such a bigger turn on then before
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks guys. I love the comments and it's refreshing to see that there are others as hungry and open to my out of control sexual needs. Many questions raised and many answered. Why wait around to be satisfied when there are so many out there that will pleasure me over and over and not leave me wondering if he is thinking about the other guy in the bed?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think I'll echo my message to you by saying its ok to enjoy it every 10 days, but don't keep yourself waiting for him. IF you then have a date with someone else and he comes knocking, politely decline, you'll have HIM wondering and he will then invest more...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just because a man can fuck a woman while he's fucking men , does'nt mean he cancels out being gayIts black and white. If one male has sex with another male, he's gay.. If he fucks females only , he's not .Saying your not gay when you clearly have sex with another male is a state of denial...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Just because a man can fuck a woman while he's fucking men , does'nt mean he cancels out being gayIts black and white. If one male has sex with another male, he's gay.. If he fucks females only , he's not .Saying your not gay when you clearly have sex with another male is a state of denial... So obviously then there is no such thing as a bi female? Because that would just make them a lesbian..how is it any different, no matter what gender you are?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Same senario, different gender. Having a relationship with another girl then a guy would not mean you cancel out your gay side.. I dont give a bugga who anyone gets off on, but not recognising what you do ' is definately denial.h
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RHP User
12 years ago
oh dear...thats very closed minded....'gay' cancels out any desire whatsoever for the opposite sex.... gay men wont look at a womans bits, let alone discuss them....whereas bi men do...happily..... gay women would rather cut an arm off than have sex with a man.... bi women dont see this as an option they'd explore... they'll happily do either.... i wonder....how many bi footballers.......(and theres bound to be more than just 'one or two')......would you tag as 'gay' to their faces?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of course, any person who has gay tendancies but denies it exists, will find a way to twist the facts. No matter how much its twisted, it still remains what it is... Said it before, if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, its sure to be a duck.. Regardless, does'nt matter if a guy or a girl wants to bat for both sides, thats their business. But some thought must go to the people they leave up in the air like Ladylulublue. Yes, knew a few footballers who were in denial. Some you would never suspect. But dont kid yourself no-one has never said anything. Sledging is part of the game on and off the feild. pretty much like we have here... Hmmm.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Look, it's easy, if he is only having sex with you every 10 days & you want more, call me, no really call me :) That body & that desire, what a waste of 9 days !!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
we are both bi and believe if it feels good why the hell not a guy can lick pussy does that make him a lesso a woman can fuck a guy with a strap on does that make her gay at the end of the day who cares as long as your comfortable with what you are doing it really doesnt matter what any one else thinks!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
They are gay, just too scared/timid to come out.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unless you're been in this situation I'd suggest that you don't really have insight into it.Just because a person has a sexual encounter(s) with a person of the opposite sex it doesn't mean they're Gay/Lesbian.Sexual preferences aren't black or white. 'Sstraight' people tend to paint sexual preferences aren't black or white because that's how it is for them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LadyLuLuBlue' Interesting!! More concerned re: Bi or secretly gay... We both have other playmates.. That's not the problem.. It's more a question. If the Sex is so incredible and mind blowing for both. Why not more frequent? Some guys like a break between sex as they find the longer you wait the better the sex feels, I myself find that if I give sex a brake for a period of time the sex is a lot more intense, so cut the guy some slack...Some guys do like sex every night and other do not so best thing is not to read thing in that are not there, just enjoy the sex and maybe he will have it a bit more...........GTPSS Not every guy is a fuck rat.........
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ExcitableCouple
12 years ago
Being capable of being attracted to males and females.... That's all bisexual is. It doesn't mean someone is: indecisive, selfish, a polygamist etc. Being in a relationship with a person of the same sex doesn't make a bisexual person gay, it makes them a bisexual in a relationship with someone of the same gender..... Their next relationship might be with the opp gender. Does being single make u asexual?? Ahh no, bi is bi, gay is gay. It's all labels labels labels tho dont u think? We're all just ppl who seek pleasure - from men, women or both. How serious is this relationship? Do u trust him, on human terms? Do u talk about this stuff? Why not just ask about his bizarre 10 day notion....? He is bi and u are aware of him having another partner too and that's sweet with u so what's actually the problem? He is spinning some kind of crap re the 10d gap let's be honest... Why? Ask him!! If he's the type of person to brush over the answer and not take u seriously, either be happy with not knowing and get used to the 10d cooling off period or move on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Who really cares, LadyLuLuBlue this isnt having a shot at you by any stretch but if its a casual thing & the sex is "mind blowing" then why burn any brain cells trying to figure it out. Enjoy it for what it is & for as long as it lasts.
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RHP User
12 years ago
you obviously have a grasp on what determines if a person is 'gay' bisexual' and 'hetero'..... you understand that gay, or 'homosexual'....means ONLY attracted to same sex? you understand that 'bisexual' means attracted to BOTH? all you do by posting your opinion in the way that you have,is reveal your lack of understanding of human sexuality....well done!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry, not gay I'm bi. Not a duck either. Try to be a little more broad minded, you'll be a happier, more well adjusted person for it:-) Xx Ant
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RHP User
12 years ago
From a 'bi' guys perspective, I guess I asked myself the same question after my first experience and eventually arrived at this conclusion. I'm definitely not gay. I have no interest in any sort of relationship with another guy. I don't go looking for men while out, but in the heat of the moment it only adds to the excitement and we enjoy a situation where it doesn't matter who or what you've got your hands or mouth on as long as everyone is comfortable and turned on by it. Ms 2_4 is coming to the same realisation in terms of women as we gain more experience. And she definitely loves sharing a hot cock between us or watching me with one on my own. To each their own but the larger the playing field the more runs that can be scored.
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RHP User
12 years ago
From what Ive seen and heard, bi men are more inclined to lean towards, and as they get older towards only men, whereas bi ladies not as much. I might be wrong and everyone is different, but if a guy tells me hes bi, I automatically think its only a matter of time :) Might be Im biased :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
HEY IM HETRO AND NOT HOMOPHIBIC SO WHY DOES IT MATTER DOESNT MATTER TO ME I LIKE BI WOMEN AND HEY ID ONLY NO IF A BLOKE WAS GAY ON MOST AOCASSION IF HE CAME OUT AND TOLD ME OR HIT ON ME THEN ID SAY SIMPLY SORRY IM HETRO KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOUR SELF DUDE , SO I THINK BI IS PART GAY AND HETRO IS FULLY STRIAGHT ...DAS
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bisexuals are just that - bi...have never bought that they are more interested in men or that they will choose one sex over another ...I think we should all start being more relaxed about sexuality....fluid is much nicer...by the way, you need to get another lover...lol..maybe he just isn't in to you as much as you are in to him, or maybe he is extremely busy...there are other things in life apart from sex...have fun :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have encouraged my husband to overcome his inhibitation by exploring some bi play during our mmf. He has always been st8 but now realises that sex is about pleasure not whether it is a male or female that is receiving/giving the pleasure. We are both a lot better off now.
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mxxxm472
12 years ago
Well i,ve read all the opinions here and it seems to be a very mixed bag.I think kinkstersink sums it up nicely with "if you've never sucked a cock together as a couple, you're missing nice romantic times."Both my partner (of 8 years) and i are bi sexual, we have experienced the look into each others eyes as we have sucked a cock or licked a pussy together and been totally blown away by the passion of that experience together.We have both been bi since our teenage years, both our first sexual experiences were with the same sex. We play with gay couples & singles, straight couples & bi couples. We have had tremendous enjoyment and pleasure from them all, but the most fun seems to allways cum from our bisexual encounters.Are we gay? No, but it is a lot of fun trying.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unless you pointed out how peoples sexual preferences work. I would never had known.. ? educational, not. ?Now really , what you posted goes without saying.. No ' Im not ignorant to peoples persuasions at all. I've already said I really dont care one way or the other how people get their kicks .. As long as no one gets hurt go for it. Its simple.. Bi ** either man or woman gay tendency . but swings both ways.. Gay * only interested in same sex Hetero ** man / woman Not too hard really...
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
After reading this I changed mine to Anything from bisexual as well, I have to agree it can be more appropriate, and I have always had enough trouble defining myself but as so often happens labels are never a true indication of a person. Also reading your comments about EB, well she is high on many lists I am sure, and people who know a bit more about her well she is no. 1 on the list...BQuoting 'Ms_Devious' Hallelujah. After reading a fair few threads on what makes you Bi? Are straight men that like strap-ons really Gay? etc, I ended up changing my orientation on my profile from Bi-sexual to Anything. People can take that however they want. None of us should have to define ourselves, let alone defend our choices.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree. The reason there is "bi" and there is "gay" is quite simple.... They are 2 different things. A gay guy does not like women,where a bi guy likes both. No problem with that at all.................
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mxxxm'Well i,ve read all the opinions here and it seems to be a very mixed bag. I think kinkstersink sums it up nicely with "if you've never sucked a cock together as a couple, you're missing nice romantic times." Both my partner (of 8 years) and i are bi sexual, we have experienced the look into each others eyes as we have sucked a cock or licked a pussy together and been totally blown away by the passion of that experience together. We have both been bi since our teenage years, both our first sexual experiences were with the same sex. We play with gay couples & singles, straight couples & bi couples. We have had tremendous enjoyment and pleasure from them all, but the most fun seems to allways cum from our bisexual encounters. Are we gay? No, but it is a lot of fun trying.and doesnt it offer up so many more options than only playing 'straight'? lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well if a bi guy is gay (which I can say there not), I suppose it would work the other way, bi girls must be gay to then. A gay person only has a interest in the same sex not to say there isn't a few that bi ppl not sure of what they are- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sex every 10 days is a joke....something is not right.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why do people think there something wrong with this guy......................My wife does not have sex every day and only has it on the weekends sometimes once a fortnight and I know lots of guys who only get sex once or twice a month..... JUST maybe he has a very low sex drive... this does not mean he is gay or though he is bi, he just may need some help in the sex department.......LadyLuLu you may need to see if he see a sex therapist if you are that worried, but don't tell him he has something wrong with him, he may react to that............Question??? Why do people keep putting shit on others with out knowing who they are OR what their situation is GT (very disappointed in people)
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
Looked at the OP's profile and well if I was seeing that person, sex would be on the mind constantly, and when the next opportunity would be coming along. But aside from that asking the guy if there is a particular reason sometimes guys can be a bit embarrassed if its a medical issue and they do not like to talk about it. Of course if he has read Victorian Literature on a a male cumming, then he only has a certain amount and cumming too much can be damaging to his health. But of course we would hope nobody takes Victorian Literature seriously...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Kinkstersinc' Just a thought - what if he described himself as pansexual, or just sexually open? Would that be as confronting? I have to say, I do and I don't understand why some say bi guys 'make them nervous' and such... and yet, every woman and her dog here appear to be/describe themselves as bi, which is not just acceptable but, it seems sometimes, almost compulsory! I still remember the bad old days when being bisexual was seen as, variously, sitting on the fence, confused, wanting to have your cake and eat it too, a 'gateway' to bring 'diseases' from the gay community (when, personally, I find safe sex practice to be disturbingly much less compulsory in straight swinging communities), and not really a valid form of sexuality. Happily, the notion of a sliding scale of sexuality rather than this compartmentalised kind is slowly taking hold, which fits humans so much better than the idea that we 'click over' from one sexuality to another. Click! I sucked a guy's cock - dammit, I'm gay now! ... Oh no! I enjoyed going down on that girl's pussy way more than I should've. Waaa! I'm a lesbian! It doesn't make any kind of sense. My pansexual partner liking to play with guys sometimes does not make him some kind of rabid glory-hole munching, unsafe manwhoring lunatic. But it does make him somebody I love to share a gorgeous cock with - if you've never sucked a cock together as a couple, you're missing nice romantic times lol :) MsKinkster xI love reading your post and you sound like a truly awesome couple, so lucky you found each other :-) There does seem to be a double standard when it comes to Bi guys sometimes unfortunately, maybe we just enjoy pleasing everyone :-P
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RHP User
12 years ago
...answered extremely well by several others and made an interesting read. From a more primal view of sexuality, we are all one thing......human,Whose business is it to know or judge how it's expressed......yours only.Why......because every single person here is unique. The End
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DontLookDown' ...answered extremely well by several others and made an interesting read. From a more primal view of sexuality, we are all one thing......human,Whose business is it to know or judge how it's expressed......yours only.Why......because every single person here is unique. The End Well Put A happy GT
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nicely said
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's refreshing to see such passion out there. Thank you all for your comments. Understand I was questioning not judging as i have never been with a Bi man before and I am very new to this site. Each to their own and the freedom to follow your dreams, desires and passion without judgement is key. I suppose in my case I believe he is definitely in denial just by further conversations with him and yes still waiting for my turn 18 days down the track. Hmmm another story. The reason I joined is to persue my sexuality freely and to find like minded people. Good on you all for finding the peace, freedom and openness to pursue your inner selves. Now it's my turn to find the right one and get rid of the wrong.. Again thanks one and all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are welcome and have fun and be safe Bisexuals rule (LOL)GT
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RHP User
12 years ago
My understanding, limited as it is, of sexuality is that these days from a clinical perspective it is seen as a spectrum, rather than hard edged categories. That's my experience, too. I've opted for 'experimental'. I'm not gay, I'm can't imagine having a MM only liason, I am attracted to and motivated by women pretty much exclusively (I use the term 'motivated' for particular reason). However, any two (or more) people engaging in passionate, geniune, sexual intimacy is a turn on for me, and in any sex scenario I'm turned on when I turn someone else on. In a bi-sexual group scenario (be it mmf or ffm or whatever), that's heightened because the third usually gets a big kick out of seeing the two bi participants enjoying each other while enjoying them. What interests me about the worries people have about introducing a bi-male into the equation is that -for me, at least - the focus is one firstly making sure everyone has a good time (and that's not possible if the bi wants to overstep the mark; the onus is on the bi person to moderate their behaviour, just as it is on the person who loves, say, unprotected sex when with covered only people), and secondly (definitely for me) on making sure the woman is the focus. I know I'm programmed to do whatever it takes to satisfy a woman, either culturally or biologically. That in mind, there isn't anything sexier than giving one person an amazing sexual experience while being watched by another who is getting off on it. Perhaps that's my nexus of being 'open minded" and an exhibitionist.Anyhow, I don't think the delimna is the bi-ness of this guy... the answer to the 10-day turn-around. He is either:1) Married with 14 children and can't get to you regularly.2) Operating a very strict round-robin system amongst his lovers (men or women).3) Just not sexy every day. It happens.I guess the really tricky part is working out if you're prepared to ruin the good arrangement you've got trying to get a bit more out of it...
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
Maybe this will help the people trying to define themselves.RatingDescription0Exclusively heterosexual1Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual2Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual3Equally heterosexual and homosexual4Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual5Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual6Exclusively homosexualXNon-sexual<3>So if you are in the 1-5 group you could be considered Bi-Sexual, though you could argue that 1 and 5 might not mean that, but fit into the things happen area.Sexuality is such an interesting discussion.B
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
Rating Description 0 Exclusively heterosexual 1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual 2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual 3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual 4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual 5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual 6 Exclusively homosexual X Non-sexual
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'StudyingHard' Because frequent mind-blowing sex ends up not so mind-blowing. Everyone knows that. I totally agree with this. Once it becomes a regular thing its not so mind blowing. If he says he is Bi I think he is. Just question him on it straight and not in an invading or mean way
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RHP User
12 years ago
MsKinkster talks a lot of sense! I had my first threesome last week with my bicurious friend and a guy from RHP. The hottest part was when my friend was fucking me from behind whilst I sucked the other guy off. He then slid his chest along my back and then whispered in my ear "shall we suck his cock together"? My eyes lit up, I nodded excitedly and then we licked his cock together, kissed passionately and then took it in turns to suck him. It was soooo hot!!! I don't care what labels u put on people but I'm loving having sex with such a horny and adventurous guy. As long as it feels - enjoy!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You partner is bi, he likes to play with both sides, he is turned on by both. This is more comon that you would think. And yes what Meeka said sync sucking is a hell of a lot of fun
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love the fact that a persons sexuality can generate such a variety of views. It also makes me realise I am a snob and that I can be judgemental! lolIt's one of the reasons I read the forums as well, because sometimes a profile just doesn't say enough, but eventually, if you read the comments they post in the forums you can build up a picture. I'm calling myself a snob because I just can't bring myself to communicate with people who I consider to be bigots. I guess some may call them ignorant or lacking in intelligence, but seriously....if you can't (or won't) get the definition of heterosexual, bi-sexual and gay correct then I would have nothing to do with you. I guess we all have our own limits :)Having said all of that....I do think there should be more categories of sexuality, just to give us (me) piece of mind.Firstly, if a guy likes ass play from a woman it doesn't make him gay or bi-sexual. Your ass has nothing to do with your sexuality. It's just another erogenous zone!1) If a guy only likes girls then he is straight. no problem.2) If a guy likes girls predominantly but occasionally will want to play with another guy as part of a MFM then he is bi with straight tendancies3) If a guy is happy to play with either sex at any time, depending on what takes their fancy then he is bi4) If a guy likes boys predominantly but occasionally will want to play with another girl as part of a MFM then he is bi with gay tendencies5) If a guy only likes other guys then obviously he is gay!Pansexuality was a difficult one for me to get my head around, but my understanding of that is that someone who is pansexual could form a RELATIONSHIP with either sex, which is a bit more than just enjoying sharing a body now and then - but if someone has a better or more accurate description I'd love to hear it. :)I don't think it matters what particular activities they do - although kissing is probably the most complex issue to most, as it is often seen as the most intimate activity (I know lots of straight couple who won't kiss anyone other than their own partner when playing). Personally, I find that strange when you can stick your tongue in any other orifice without hesitation!From my perspective, considering myself to be straight, I think I would have no problem meeting couples with males in categories 1-3, but I would still be less comfortable with category 4, and category 5 is a complete non-starter (as it would then be a MMMF tryst and I don't think Mrs SinS would be too happy with 3 cocks but only 1 she could play with! lol)however...if the situation was reversed and we applied the above categories to the female gender, then I'm in on all counts! I'm sure I could use my willpower to just play with Mrs SinS whilst all three women enjoyed each others bodies. That might make me a hypocryte but it doesn't make me a bigot lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
if it guy on guy .then being bi could been seen as gay.but according to a song i just listen to.........its not gay, if its in a three way...... unless third person is another guy ..
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Letsgetcrazy09
12 years ago
I was just about to make a fool of myself, I am sure I was......I can only say that from my personal perspective, that to say that I would quote myself as one thing would be a lie.....I have not tried all that is out there......I'm not entirely sure that I will try all that is out there....all that I can do is try.....if I don't like it I wont continue it, but at least I can say I have tried
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'gtbi_mm'Why do people think there something wrong with this guy......................My wife does not have sex every day and only has it on the weekends sometimes once a fortnight and I know lots of guys who only get sex once or twice a month..... JUST maybe he has a very low sex drive... this does not mean he is gay or though he is bi, he just may need some help in the sex department.......LadyLuLu you may need to see if he see a sex therapist if you are that worried, but don't tell him he has something wrong with him, he may react to that............Question??? Why do people keep putting shit on others with out knowing who they are OR what their situation is GT (very disappointed in people) Many, many, many people do not want sex every day, or every other day. I have met quite a few men who like sex once every few weeks. I see nothing wrong with that. We are all different. Maybe he is playing the field, maybe he isnt. Nothing wrong at all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
we go thru periods where we dont even share an evening meal from one fortnight to the next.... due to work rosters and other commitments... 10 days between romps? for shits sake...there are times where every 10 days would be 'frequent'!
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RHP User
11 years ago
but I got seduced in the showers of a gym once, a guy commented on me standing there naked, I tried to hide it but even though I was uncomfortable, I was soon standing there with a raging hardon, I enjoyed it quite a bit and the gym showers have never been the same since.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was going to add to this thread but mez summed it up for me... why you do this mez! Always my comments read like blurbs of urs -_- lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I need to say that I can't believe this question has been asked in the first place, & by a woman within my age-group who would have witnessed the progress first-hand that has been made from when we were teenagers to now & the acceptance that gay men & lesbians have fought hard for (I know this still hasn't been won, and there is still a fight but I'm making a point that if OP had not been living under a rock when she was 16/17 she would have the same memories as I do & be able to acknowledge the open homophobic attitudes that were displayed compared to then & what is viewed now). It now looks we are back on the subject of Bi men being 'confused'. I have my theories regarding this thought pattern & it won't make me popular but I never have cared about pleasing the masses anyway, especially if there are people who need dragging into 2013 by their hair. before I put my point of view in the mix, I would like to answer the OP's questions how I see them. no, your new lover isn't kidding himself. if he tells you he is bi & has a preference for women but is also attracted to men & transsexuals then he's told everything about his sexuality. there is no more, it's out there. not your thing, you may not understand but you don't need to. sex once every 10 days when you are new lovers is something that raises questions. these are questions you need to ask him though as he is the only one who can answer you truthfully. it does appear suspicious & it is very easy to assume that he is sharing himself around but without knowing him no assumptions should be made. hypothetically, if this was the case though, any additional partners should not automatically be thought of as being male as one person indicated in an earlier response. signs do point to suspicions he is sharing himself around but these are uninformed suspicions & based on a stereotypical view of men in new relationships. i'm just going to repeat that there are different sexualities, just as everything else in this world is not black & white, an individual's personal sexuality cannot be compartmentalised in a convenient slot. there are hetrosexuals, bi-sexuals, homosexuals, pansexuals, polysexuals, transsexuals & assexuals. I think I've got them all covered. Yes, there are people who have chosen to live a life hiding what their preference is for fear of rejection, persecution, etc., but the ones who have embraced who they are & taken the label society insists they have, are NOT CONFUSED. to say that or imply that is dismissive, narrow-minded & reeks of insecurity. Obviously this subject is very close to the bone for me with my husband being an openly Bi man. I have known this about him from the moment we met 10 years ago & I have never worried he may run off with another man or that he doesn't know what he really wants etc. etc. My husband is very confident in himself, knows what he wants & I am very secure in my marriage with him & with the love we share for each other. It's funny, I am a Bi-Female, I love the female body sexually & have been involved emotionally with a female lover in my past. I have never been questioned about my sexuality & it has never been implied that I am confused. It doesn't even raise an eyebrow. People are threatened by a man who admits he enjoys sexual experiences with other men but doesn't identify as being gay. Assumptions are made that he would screw anything that moved & had no morals. Men worry that he is just waiting to pounce on them never thinking they wouldn't be his type & women are confused & then threatened that a man just may find another man more attractive than them. my short post has become longer than I intended but at least it's out there.... probably won't make any difference to what people have decided to believe, but if enough people step back & listen & allow themselves to open their minds, put personal insecurities aside & accept the wide diversity of people in this world maybe drivel like this will stop being asked on a public forum on a sex site catering to modern, progressive adults..... right now it feels like a time warp has sucked me back 20 years mrs funky
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love ya work Mr Funky xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mate your post made me piss myself, dude quickly!!!!!! run to your closet because there is an oppressed SCREAMING queen trying to break out. And stop looking at our pics and sending us flirts, - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
No. Bi men are bi and gay men are gay. It's a continuum.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'slickz'I was going to add to this thread but mez summed it up for me... why you do this mez! Always my comments read like blurbs of urs -_- lol I had to check what I wrote. Damn I was smart back in January. And it's Mes. p.s. Bi/Experimental/Anything guys, message me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Heteroflexible ! Works for me !I just want to hold your cock, not your hand.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mrs funky (and other enlightened others) really not much left to add... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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yankmychain56
11 years ago
with a body like that, I would be pounding it EVERY DAY, not giving you a ten day schedule.Just an observation.
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