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Are all men tarred with the same brush?
December 02 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's up to you. Are you the same "ALL" the other guys here? If not then it's up to youth prove how and why you're different and (hpefully) "better" Good luck :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
This topic, almost verbatim, was covered not so long ago. I suggest you do a search and read through the responses…. there might be a "take away" or two for you in there. My one tip… if you're worried about "all men" being tarred with the same brush….. put your profile, your messages and your actions (in here, and out side of this website) on a different playing field to those other men... …because the playing field is NOT level. Not here. Not anywhere. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I realise my location is small part of this as it is a smallish town where everyone seems to know everyone but it's not hard for someone to reply with a polite "no"! I try to endeavour to answer all flirts or msgs but do t seem to get the same courtesy. Simply would be nice to know so I can move on and leave you alone in the future.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey curiousgeelong. There are a few points worth mentioning here. Your profile does need to stand out from the myriad of other males here. Try including a well dressed shot of yourself, and a bit about yourself apart from your sexual interests in the About Me section. IMO, women here are looking for class, moreso than any male who will drop his dacks. From your interests, it is important to realise that you are in a minority of a minority group here too, which will limit who will find you compatible. Men have it tough due to the abundance of competition. Being a bi male & into TG/TS also limits your appeal to the masses, as well as being into married women. Don't get me wrong, I think its best to be specific in order to find what you are after, but these things will not appeal to a lot of people you are trying to message. On the other hand, you will find women who are completely into it. Its just a matter of sorting through. My point is mostly that you will need to put in the work, and lift your game as DG said above to stand out from the crowd. Read through the forum topics here for more tips, there are a lot of threads on this topic. Here is one I posted recently for starters. Good luck with it all. http://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Women-holding-all-the-cards-42928
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RHP User
11 years ago
sometimes a 'no response' is a response.
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Quoting 'paint_me' sometimes a 'no response' is a response. Sure, silence is a response but it kind of leaves the sender hanging indefinitely. It's not that hard to just say "no thanks" and let them know where they stand. x Me
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wandering around with your dick out isn't a good start. Get rid of that and write something interesting about yourself. You probably alienated yourself from about 90% of females by leading with a dick pic.. Become interesting first, and save the dick pic til they ask...
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
You're only left hanging...... if you only have no other options. (DGfucious) :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi OP I looked at your profile and there are a lot of things "you would like to experience" listed but what do "you have to offer"? Just a thought! SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some of the messages I used to receive I wouldn't dignify with a response. Those kinds of approaches, you know the ones 'Gr8 tits, wanna fuk?' get very old very quickly. I'm not saying OP that your messages would be like that (hope not anyway) but in your situation, your profile might need a bit of tweaking. The cock in your main pic could go in your pg. It may put some women off. And we've posted ad nauseam about a married/attached guys chances on here ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi OP, I clicked on your profile to see what you offer and it was information overload! All I thought was TL:DR. Maybe try shortening it a bit, stick to what you offer and say there are many things you'd like to experience yourself but that you'll elaborate when you start to chat to people or something like that... add a bit of mystery. The second thing I'll say is if you are looking for single females is that most single females tend to be guests in my experience. Therefore, no matter how wonderfully you have captured a pic of your cock, we can't see it anyway so it's just the same as having no pictures. Uninspiring. Besides, if your cock is the only thing about your body worth showing off, I don't think I want to be subjected to viewing the rest. How about showing off the rest of your body as that's what we tend to see first! Maybe some of the rest of you IS in the pic, but because I can't see it, I can only assume it's a close-up pic of an erect cock that was taken in the harsh flourescent lighting of your bathroom that looks pretty much the same as any other cock. The guys who get on my "to do" list are the ones that send a polite message that doesn't instantly assume I want to fuck straight then and there, and have pics that I can actually see in their profile.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'him_and_me' Quoting 'paint_me' sometimes a 'no response' is a response. Sure, silence is a response but it kind of leaves the sender hanging indefinitely. It's not that hard to just say "no thanks" and let them know where they stand. x Me Sometimes the messages don't warrant a response.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I want a woman to take control thing? It's in the OP's profile but I've noticed that a lot lately. What does that actually mean? Am I wrong in thinking that this might put some women off?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Women use that line VERY frequently in their profiles. Doesn't work for me either.
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Quoting 'paint_me' Some of the messages I used to receive I wouldn't dignify with a response. Those kinds of approaches, you know the ones 'Gr8 tits, wanna fuk?' get very old very quickly. Yeah ok, I can see that those might be irritating. We haven't received any messages like that, maybe because we're a couple (or maybe because Him's tits aren't that Gr8!!) ;) x Me
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'paint_me' I want a woman to take control thing? It's in the OP's profile but I've noticed that a lot lately. What does that actually mean? Am I wrong in thinking that this might put some women off? I often think that maybe they are lazy lovers, not creative enough to come up with enough of their own kinky ideas, that they want to leave it all up to the other person. Or perhaps they are expecting us women to chase them and make the first move because they're too afraid to do it. Either that or they want to be ordered around and smacked with a wooden spoon whilst I'm wearing nothing but an apron and heels. Actually...
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RHP User
11 years ago
What is really means is: Take control and turn me on take control and suck my dick Take control and give me pleasure Take control seems to mean I am too lazy, selfish or boring to worry about your pleasure . . . . JMO
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe he is a sub.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Maybe he is a sub. Just saying I want someone to take control could land a sub in an unwanted situation, even a dangerous one. So people who are saying "I want someone to take control," you possibly need to articulate a little better what you are looking for and let potential dominants know that you can and do negotiate your boundaries and limits.
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