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Are flirts a waste of time??
January 24 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
I never looked at my flirts. It would be a full time job looking at them all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
If someone doesn't consider me worth messaging, then I don't consider them worth considering
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SacralChakra
10 years ago
One of the best lovers I've ever had was a guest on here. He flirted me and I messaged him back. I check every flirt in my preferred age range and some out of it. Ya never know when there's gonna be that hidden diamond.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For me personally I'd say about 95% useless.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For me personally I'd say about 95% useless.
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RHP User
10 years ago
mostly its a waste of time. I rarely answer flirts because the options for answers usually don't reflect what I would actually say in response. Mods can we PLEASE have a simple Thank You reply flirt? I have now set up flirts for an auto reply. It seems 8 hours is the shortest time frame you can set for auto replies. LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
I generally don't answer flirts on a regular basis. But this 1 time.... I was flirted nearly every day by the same guy for close to a year. In a moment of weakness I caved and sent him a message :) I'm very glad I did :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Waste of time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
titled: forget the bakery, sandpit, and any other metaphor.... This place is like a pub....so you wouldn't not introduce yourself like that right?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
yes - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you can't message me, buy me coffee, dinner IF I like you and stump up for a decent hotel, then I don't think you're worthy of considering... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' If you can't message me, buy me coffee, dinner IF I like you and stump up for a decent hotel, then I don't think you're worthy of considering... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... but I always go dutch, I pay for a membership so I can message people who interest me and I pretty much always host if I find myself compatible with someone. I think your bitterness may be getting the better of you HP....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not aimed at you specifically KIS, but there's a few floating around who might feel like questioning their aproach... I wasn't aware of you being a member, congratulations on you taking charge of your interactions, it sure beats sitting back and complaining about poor quality messages doesn't it ? Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a guest I can only answer with another flirt. Rarely would I use m one precious message to answer a flirt.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Keepitsimple72' I pay for a membership so I can message people who interest me and I pretty much always host if I find myself compatible with someone. I think your bitterness may be getting the better of you HP....
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RHP User
10 years ago
i sent out a flirt (I noticed you noticed me, and now I’ve noticed you too.) to a couple that had viewed my profile 4 times in one day, they sent me back a message acknowledging that with this reply "And Now I noticed you and bloked you" ha ha too funny i don't think i'll be sending out flirts anytime soon
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RHP User
10 years ago
i guess if your a new guest and just checking out this web site ( like i did before i joined) then the only contact you can send is a flirt.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Keepitsimple72' I always go dutch, I pay for a membership so I can message people who interest me and I pretty much always host if I find myself compatible with someone. I think your bitterness may be getting the better of you HP.... Word for word what she said. I find that I put the time and effort in by being a paid member, having a well though-out profile and sending proper messages, so I expect the same.Simples.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
I don't think they are a waste of time. I check them and if they are from profiles that interest me I will send a message. I also use flirts occasionally when making contact for the first time to see if there is any interest. I don't begrudge guys not being members on here. I am a member so I can message when I want to and I like to see all the pics..
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Some times pays off......💋 I with you MissB, but I don't check them all the time but sometimes if someone sends me a flirt and they have spiked my curiously then I send off a message....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Look at it this way mate, You need to establish rapport and trust with the contactee, They must be interested in what you have to say and stimulated to respond. IF you can clear that hurdle, you then need to be able to arrange a mutual time and date to actually meet... How can you do this if you can't instigate a meaningful message ? And this applies to men and women... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Always check and if I have spares left will message to find the diamonds in the pile of glass. Usually cut fingers but sometimes.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I get a few of the " if i send you a message, would you reply" flirt. I think thats pretty obvious that the guy doesnt want to waste a message on someone who wouldnt bother replying. But I agree, our reply flirt options are pretty tragic. But in saying that, Pie wants as many paying members as possible, so not having descent flirts is a good way to get that happening.
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RHP User
10 years ago
so don't bother, mind you, unless you profile picture looks like Brad Pitt no one is going to look at your messages either...
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mickey2014' so don't bother, mind you, unless you profile picture looks like Brad Pitt no one is going to look at your messages either... Only one person on earth looks like Brad Pitt. So don't try to be that person, he's already doing it better than everyone else who's trying lol So be you.... and present your best factual representation of you. (the "I can't write well, just give me a chance and don't judge a book etc etc.... doesn't apply in a 2-dimentional virtual world ) Write well... be relevant ... be be interesting... be intriguing.... be creative.....intelligent... emotively connective. And your messages will be read, and replied to. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Aww come on Mickey, I like your cute little face. Nice smile. Makes me wanna............. You should have all smiling photos up... not unsmiling ones that make men look like serial killers. Know what I mean?
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RHP User
10 years ago
To all those people that keep banging on about how are you going to communicate if you are a guest...... the OP is a platinum member.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you are a paid member, i'm not sure why you would use a flirt? Send a message, it's 2015......if you don't have anything to say, then just masturbate!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
They have their uses but for a guest they are next to useless if you send one to them. All they really do is indicate that you have noticed someone and that can just as easily be done by clicking on the profile a few times. If you are a full member sending a flirt makes you look lazy, cheap and fishing for anything. if you are a full member and send a flirt to a guest it just shows you have not read that part of the profile that says guest, and likely means you have only seen the image and read the bit that said, send flirt. For people you know and have set up a code, flirts a good for sending info while not wasting your messages. I would send "You are on the top of my to do list." Meaning I am free tonight are you available, no reply flirt or a no! flirt saved me a message and is handy for those that don't like to use their phones.
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Yes & No.. If we get a flirt n the profile takes our interest we send a flirt or a message back. We prefer messages - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've only received 1 and given. I think they can be effective. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Freya's. It's like a lovely knock at the door and time for a cuppa. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes. Yes it is a waste of time and energy. It doesnt really catch anyone's attention. Unless you are a male getting flirts, never mind whom the flirts comes from.... -Sparty-
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RHP User
10 years ago
Blindman... If you have already established contact with someone don't you exchange numbers ? If I've been messaging someone here and it's their turn to reply, but they haven't gotten around to it, Ill sometimes send them a flirt to remind them that I'm still waiting with baited breath for their reply... @meeka... 50 messages a day doesn't go far you know... :P Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' For people you know and have set up a code, flirts a good for sending info while not wasting your messages. I would send "You are on the top of my to do list." Meaning I am free tonight are you available You want to let someone you're available for a fuck, but without wasting a message? They must feel really special!
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's why i have to work extra hard when they are home. I would not want someone to send me a message and miss out because I am not home or studying. Their special has already been established, the availability is the question. Or do you expect all communication be personal hand delivered, written on home made paper, inked in the finest iron gall, and scented with pure white distilled virgin sweat? Because you're worth it.. That would make one fell special, and a little concerned.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' Blindman... If you have already established contact with someone don't you exchange numbers ? If I've been messaging someone here and it's their turn to reply, but they haven't gotten around to it, Ill sometimes send them a flirt to remind them that I'm still waiting with baited breath for their reply... You are not thinking like a bi man, some guys live in mortal fear of their sexuality being discovered by family and friends, thus the up most discretion is insisted on. Phone is only safe to use to reply immediately, never to send a message out of the blue. It sucks but society has still not made many feel comfortable with their sexuality.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I sent one today
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can only do Flirts for now. I have only just joined and don't want to spend the time or effort upgrading until I know it will be worth it.I will be looking at any flirts I might receive :) x
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was a guest on here at the start and i would never have paid to join if i didnt no weather it was realy a site worth paying for so if u want more options on here people answer those flirts and see where it goes there's a lot of bullshit sites out there and no way to tell them apart - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree 95% useless. They're just time consuming in my view and the flirt replies don't match what I want to say. I do check them occasionally but that's quite random. I rarely feel inspired to respond. I don't get many messages these days, as my profile isn't designed to inspire them and I've been around forever. But at times I've been inundated with messages and moreso with flirts. WELL over 50 flirts a day - who has the time to trawl through all of those as well as dozens of messages? It wasn't personal, I just couldn't sit here for hours getting through them, and I'm sure it's still the same for a lot of women, especially those with new profiles. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'Mickey2014' so don't bother, mind you, unless you profile picture looks like Brad Pitt no one is going to look at your messages either... Only one person on earth looks like Brad Pitt. So don't try to be that person, he's already doing it better than everyone else who's trying lol So be you.... and present your best factual representation of you. (the "I can't write well, just give me a chance and don't judge a book etc etc.... doesn't apply in a 2-dimentional virtual world ) Write well... be relevant ... be be interesting... be intriguing.... be creative.....intelligent... emotively connective. And your messages will be read, and replied to. DG You didn't read my post did you? The messages are not even opened, so it doesn't matter what the we, the non Brad Pit looking types, write. It's astounding how many women reject messages without reading them or looking at the profiles of the authors. If I read one more forum posts asking where all the good men are I'm going to throwsomethingatsomething!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Blindman, I hadn't considered that... Hugs dude. Mickey... Some of our messages never get read, that is true, the recipient is often a vanilla type who is mortified at the openness and content of this place, and has already run screaming from the building or they are fake profiles... Sometimes they are real, genuine people who have learned of a couple of "sneaky shortcuts" that allow them to read a message and view profiles without your knowledge, it's not illegal, it's not hard... It the way the site is designed... To me it's just a bit "tricky"... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Aww come on Mickey, I like your cute little face. Nice smile. Makes me wanna............. You should have all smiling photos up... not unsmiling ones that make men look like serial killers. Know what I mean? Better?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think there is anything wrong in using flirts to arrange booty calls with established lovers. why not? I have been known to send a man a flirt if I wanted him to message me before. That always works.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I don't think there is anything wrong in using flirts to arrange booty calls with established lovers. why not? I have been known to send a man a flirt if I wanted him to message me before. That always works. Still waiting for that one... LOL
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would say flirts are 99.9% a waste of time (for a male sending them,) but still, messages are up there also (I'd say 98% for males). But I have never sent a flirt on an adult site. It can take many hours of your time each week to search profiles, read through them all start to finish, and write personalised messages to those you think are compatible. But if you don't waste [read:spend] your time, you will never achieve anything. And if you really don't have any time to waste, maybe an escort would be better. (No disrespect to anyone, I have great respect for most sex workers and related professions). Flirts are NOT a waste of time for women sending them to men, as for my own experience, I am flattered if I get one. But that doesn't mean I will be automatically interested. But I recently did meet someone (YAY!!! ... local, 50yo female) who sent me a flirt on RHP (although she decided later that she didn't want to take things further). Still... when it comes time to extend/renew your paid membership/s, it does weigh on your mind a little.
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