Are males intimidated by toys?

January 09 2019

A couple of weeks ago I went with a playmate to a party with hosts I had never met before. After the initial meet and greet of everyone and sussing out the vibe, I decided after about an hour or two to go to my car to get some of my toys for everyone to enjoy. My playmate said I shouldn't get them as most guys can feel threatened/intimidated by play toys (not his exact words but along the same line). I was shocked as I've always seen toys as added fun for play not a replacement for good sex. I'm asking for honest feedback from the men of rhp please..

Comments

  • sw1ng3rz

    sw1ng3rz

    6 years ago

    Hubby is not intimidated in the slightest. Quite the opposite. They are there to enhance what is already an amazing sex life. He loves a show and also loves using them on me.

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    6 years ago

    It’d be pretty insecure to a point of new levels if anyone was to be intimidated by an inanimate object lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Never a problem, always a fun addition

  • MissRedFox

    MissRedFox

    6 years ago

    My ex is intimidated by toys And by his performance in the bedroom he should be

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    6 years ago

    I don't think intimidated is the right word; clueless maybe lol. Most men really have no idea how to use toys on a female, when to inject them into play, how to usr them to heighten an already sensual time. I dont bring mine out with lovers anymore, just hubby.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Toys are great. I believe the goal of sex is to make your partner feel as amazing as possible, anything, within reason, that helps achieve that is welcome in my bedroom.

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    6 years ago

    nope ,toys can be awesome ,and very erotic, if a woman is bringing toys to a party and letting loose ,she’s got my attention ,i’m watching mr b

  • BlueDMB

    BlueDMB

    6 years ago

    Toys are great!! Not intimidated in the slightest. In fact, having toys available gives reassurance that my/our partner/partners can keep enjoying all styles of play if/when the available real life penises lose their lustre (either temporarily, or for the rest of the session). 👍😉🤣

  • WishingWell

    WishingWell

    6 years ago

    👌

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    6 years ago

    Am I intimidated by plastic/latex/silicone? Nope. Should a man know how to drive a stick? Yes 😎

  • Hedonist_fun

    Hedonist_fun

    6 years ago

    Hell no! No one should be intimidated by toys!!! Embrace it and enjoy the show I say. Adds to the excitement. Let’s chat sometime gorgeous ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    I'd be more concerned by the fact he felt it appropriate to asert his opinion over yours in the assessment of the situation. And that a man potentially feeling intimidated outweighs enhancing the pleasure/experience/entertainment of the collective group. Toys are always popular at parties, and even required for many bi activities. The biggest risk of sharing your toys at a party is actually losing them. I haven't seen my strap-on since May, so obviously that particular man wasn't intimidated by it 😂

  • Dryphuz

    Dryphuz

    6 years ago

    but i was unsure the first time. I was all for learning but hadn't had any experience with them before. I guess its the same with anything new.

  • WishingWell

    WishingWell

    6 years ago

    Exactly Auflaurer and don't worry I still got them and some of the guys enjoyed me using the toys on them 😆

  • Bobafett77

    Bobafett77

    6 years ago

    Some guys are... personally I love toy play!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Husband brings out the toys when I’m in overdrive. Gives him a well earned break and gets him hot and horny for round 2.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Quoting 'WishingWell' 👌 lol why didn't you tell me about this party on the phone?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Not intimidated in the slightest, even take my own vibes to play dates to enhance meets. I agree that they add to the fun.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    6 years ago

    You take your own toys..... to use on other people? And they’re fine with that??

  • deepestpurple

    deepestpurple

    6 years ago

    I have first hand eye witnessed a friend destroy the most promising relationship he's ever had over the fact she owned a vibrator, it made no sense. It was hilarious, the vibe was forcefully evicted from the house and remained out on the street for days. I personally don't get a whole lot out of using toys with a partner but I wouldn't say I am intimidated by them. I am definitely ok with the women I am seeing owning them lol, they may even keep them at my house.

  • WishingWell

    WishingWell

    6 years ago

    Mischievouslad just to clarify.. On the rare occasion I do take toys to a play party it is generally amongst friends and they are for everyone to use both singles and couples. I have a mixture of vibrators, crops, paddles etc You'd be surprised how many males ASK me to use different things on them, but always with consent and respect of personal boundaries 😉

  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    6 years ago

    I sometimes deliver stuff to antique auctions, sometimes there are old really long wooden boat oars etc, I mention that these are for spanking people from the other side of the block ;) Yes, not all "toys" are vibrators/dildos that men might be comparing to their penises, and/or have some hygeine issues about sharing. Friends of mine's favourite toy is a riding crop. Far from intimidated, I'm encouraged ;) With more conventional toys, I also like to watch as well :)

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    6 years ago

    Am curious...for everyone to use at play parties..are vibrators and other sex toys thoroughly cleaned before and after sharing them? Ms Foxy

  • WishingWell

    WishingWell

    6 years ago

    Of course Superfoxy, condoms to cover the dildos and I always have a stack of Dettol wipes.. Am a bit of a germaphobe actually 😉

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    So...I’m curious, when people share toys do they wash them in between? Or put condoms on them? It doesn’t sound very safe in a group environment...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Ok, that had already been asked and answered, lol, my apologies. I couldn’t see those comments when I commented.

  • WishingWell

    WishingWell

    6 years ago

    In group play do people wash their mouths and genitals in between sharing each other?? I only share my toys amongst friends at select intimate parties and make sure they're always clean.. This thread was started to get opinions from males about their perception on toy play. Thanks for all your feedback guys!

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    6 years ago

    My friends husband Threw her one toy away without asking and told her she didn’t need it anymore 🙄. How would he know? I’d say he was a little intimidated 👎 I’m going to buy her a new one for her Birthday

  • Mask_007

    Mask_007

    6 years ago

    Is interesting... I have a very close friend that is extremely timed and other one that can hold him self together in that subject. Me in particular I all for it. And more I think is so much fun when she get me involved as well. I do really like using toys on her... is such a nice foreplay... I am getting quite good at, think. Hahahahahahaha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Wishingwell, I don’t engage in group activities so I wouldn’t know, but thanks for answering that question too 😊 now I’ll keep my questions and opinions to myself since apparently this thread is very specific, not to be deviated from and for males only. 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • kisslids

    kisslids

    6 years ago

    Love the use of toys I use the toys as a addition to helping her reach orgasm. It can be so much more fun