Are single guys that bad???

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  In my limited experience,and my opinion only,as a swingle, the dynamics of a 3 way is very spacific. Its probably harder than a 4way to get it right. There are 2 people with different tastes( no pun here) that both need to be comfortable and attracted to you. I have had the reverse of what you have. The female half will be the one who ultimately has the last word on accepting me into their partnership. With single males it will often be the husband making the final decision I suppose. This is understandable to me on many levels. Different scenario if its a bi 3way though. Then its harder to get the right mix for all 3. Its not being too fussy, its just getting the right combination to make it a great experience for all involved. Taking one for the team isnt always a good outcome. Ive kind of done that as a single, I was more attracted to the wife but not at all to the husband. Wouldnt do that again.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  are a dime a dozen on here.

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  QLDtwo4fun

  9 years ago

  There are so many men with single profiles out there, some may even be single. Why bother weeding out the single guys on websites when you can go to clubs and parties where someone else has don't the work.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Penis size is the LEAST of my wishes, as long as its not weird or ugly ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Hubby and I have only ever had MFM in threesomes - so be careful of your stereo types and judgements RE the Mr's ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  225Special

  9 years ago

  We personally would rather play with a couple or single female, that is just where we are at, at the moment.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  How hard is it to find a sexy youngish male, who's not a tool :( And we though single females were are to find lol.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Don't be assuming its the Mr who's putting the brakes on. I know when we've had MMF encounters Mrs3 hasn't enjoyed herself nearly as much as FFM. She enjoys women as much, if not more so than men, so maybe thats why couples prefer 3somes with a FFM twist. Both members of the couple are attracted to the other participant, and vice versa you'd hope. The MMF is an entirely different dynamic. And yet I constantly hear the single men on this site criticising the male half for not having MMF, assuming EVERY woman would prefer it to FFM. Not so in our case (despite the name we actually prefer playing with more than one extra). As for the rest of your question, from our POV we'd rather you just be a decent bloke than someone bragging about their 6pack, cock size or sexual prowess. And the best manner to do that is by actually meeting the couple in question first. We suggest getting out and attending meet and greets or a swingers club. As it's already been stated on here, the single men outnumber everyone by quite the number, and no matter what the message most of the time single male messages just get flipped over. We're not anti-single male, we just prefer to play with couples or more. If they can bring another single woman to the picture, all the sweeter. If Mrs3 feels up for it on any particular given night, sorry but it's not hard to get a willing participant. It's just the way it is on RHP, much the same as single women wield all the power in most situations here, the single male is sadly at the other end of the spectrum.

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  Missb4u

  9 years ago

  i like single men 😉😊😋

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  madotara69

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Fr33Spirits' Hubby and I have only ever had MFM in threesomes - so be careful of your stereo types and judgements RE the Mr's ;) - Posted from rhpmobile So be careful you can't change what you said before you changed your username Mado Mado Tara xx

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  Mischeviouslad

  9 years ago

  Dimeshreds...... the reality of sites like this.... is that not only are you one in a large over abundance of guys.... ... but that over abundance has a habit of swarming all over women (and I include the women in couples profiles) with the kind of rabit, dribbling ferver of a sex offender..... through totally stupid.... STUPID messages and behaviour. So, sadly, yes..... many single guys are that bad.

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  AnnieWhichway

  9 years ago

  Single men are tarred with the same brush. Undeservedly but because of behaviour traits of some/many and their atrocious messages, single men have hurdles and hoops to jump.

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  DynamicCouple36

  9 years ago

  Dimeshreds, you asked the following question, addressed to couples we assume : " what we can do to help our cause? " We assume that you are wanting to find out how to increase your chances of success when it comes to meeting a couple for a MFM 3 some ? Most single guys, in the swinging scene /those that frequent swingers clubs, are there for a chance to get a quick shag, with a woman (although there may be a few that want to have a shag with a man). Single women at swingers clubs are few and far between and so most single guys would be hoping, at the very least, to be able to join in a MFM 3 some, as a way to get laid. "Single" males, on these sites and at swingers clubs (on those nights that they are allowed in) are generally always in oversupply, their ratios far outnumbering females & couples (in our experience) In our experience, both in here and at swingers clubs, the majority of the "single" males that we have encountered and or been approached by, have been extremely pushy and over eager, and 9 times out of 10 have had a sense of entitlement. Sadly their behaviour, in many cases, has left a lot to be desired and Michevious Lad has eloquently & accurately described their behaviour " ... but that over abundance has a habit of swarming all over women (and I include the women in couples profiles) with the kind of rabit, dribbling ferver of a sex offender..... through totally stupid.... STUPID messages and behaviour. " What "lures" the "single" guys to swingers clubs? Are they after other males or are the women (single or attached/married) the main attraction? Is the "cause" you are talking about, the quest to dip your penis into a vagina at all costs ? From our experience, at swingers clubs and on these swingers sites, the majority of single males that have approached us have been overtly clear as to what their intentions are, and that is to get into Mrs Dynamic's panties as a matter of extreme importance/urgency in most cases without any consideration to our wants/needs and done in a most selfish and disrespectful manner. We don't want to see photos of your penis, nor your sixpack . We don't want to receive pushy messages or those that have opening messages along the lines of "Hot pix wanna fuck ?" We get dozens of such messages daily and it is for that reason and based on our experience, that when we get a message from a "single" guy we have not only pre-tarred him with the same brush, and expect his messages to go the same way that others have. And so we are very cautious , expecting the worst. Yes this is not fair, as not all "single" males behave in that manner ... but in our experience the vast majority of those who have contacted us, have behaved badly and as a result of this we are, we feel, entitled to be "on guard". If you are going to have any success in making contact with a couple, and things are going to develop from there, you are going to need to be very polite and non-pushy and to let things take their time. Remember that the couple has what you want, a woman (vagina) and that for most women, sex is a very intimate thing, sharing ones body, and it has to feel right and be with the right person. Not only have the "bad apples" thrown a spanner in the works for you, but also the fact that "single" males outnumber the couples 90 to 1. You would need to be able to stand out from the pushy flock of "seagulls" and be noticed. It certainly is a numbers game. Your final question was as follows : Also why are the Mr's so one sided with threesomes,all is fair in love and sex? MFM is just as hot as FMF. With regards swinging, and sharing ones body with another person, you need to understand (and accept without question) that the women make the rules. They decide what will happen and with whom. They decide how far things will go and with whom. If they feel like stopping then they stop. No questions asked. No always means NO. So when it comes to swinging, it's all about them, what makes them feel good & happy. We are not sure if you mean that the Mr or the Mrs are one sided in 3 somes. Perhaps you could elaborate further on this and give us an example of why you think 3 somes are often one sided? If a Mr is one sided in a MFM 3 some scenario how would he show this ? Remember he is sharing his wife with another male and as such he would normally be putting her needs / her enjoyment before his own. Its not like (in most cases) that he is wanting a MFM so that he can shag the other male. How would the Mrs be one sided in a MFM 3 some scenario ? She is sharing her body with a strange male and should she not be entitled to make the rules ? In a FMF scenario, should both females not be entitled to make the rules ? As far as we are concerned, its important to establish boundaries and to lay down a few ground rules so that we are both comfortable. Perhaps the whole swinging scene is dominated by what the male wants. What % of couples are looking for MFM 3 somes versus FMF 3 somes, and if one of these is favoured ? Why ? Perhaps its because women prefer to be intimate with other women in a 3 some and thus prefer a FMF scenario ? We know that we do and in this regard it is not that Mr Dynamic would prefer another women (to slip his penis into) but rather that Mrs Dynamic would prefer having fun with another woman whilst Mr Dynamic watches or engages in foreplay. Again , her enjoyment is the priority.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  A single girl I know on here reckons that its the opposite on here to going out on the weekends. More single girls & not enough men Here is the other way around.

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  Mischeviouslad

  9 years ago

  That's because all those married guys who are expected to be at home with the wife n kids on a Saturday night can still use the Internet and pretend to be single in here ...... 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  luvsilver

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'willowtree_2' In my limited experience,and my opinion only,as a swingle, the dynamics of a 3 way is very spacific. Its probably harder than a 4way to get it right. There are 2 people with different tastes( no pun here) that both need to be comfortable and attracted to you. I have had the reverse of what you have. The female half will be the one who ultimately has the last word on accepting me into their partnership. With single males it will often be the husband making the final decision I suppose. This is understandable to me on many levels. Different scenario if its a bi 3way though. Then its harder to get the right mix for all 3. Its not being too fussy, its just getting the right combination to make it a great experience for all involved. Taking one for the team isnt always a good outcome. Ive kind of done that as a single, I was more attracted to the wife but not at all to the husband. Wouldnt do that again. We play mainly with couples but have had MFM and FMF threesomes before.If it is a single guy joining us it is Mrs Luvsilvers choice who joins us. Mrs Luv has always met the guy for coffee only on a previous date to see if there is an attraction both physically and mentally.I usually have not met the guy beforehand (nor do I need to as her judgement is always spot on) but the one common trait is that they are very respectfull.If it is a single woman joining us it has usually been both of us together though my decision at the end of the day.Couples- now that is the hard part finding 4 people all on the same page as each other. Mr luvsilver Mr Luvsilver

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  Hottie1

  9 years ago

  In most of our MFM play I have done all the initial interacting! I'm picky not because of any reason but that foremost in my mind is that is my hubby going to be ok. Is this prospective playmate going to treat me with care, courtesy and respect whilst we are playing. As a single guy dimeshreads, you are sharing someone else's partner. I can see with the couples that have posted above (no I've not played with any) that they love each other and take care of each other. I don't suspect the male of that couple will accept any behaviour from a single guy that does not treat their lovely partner with extreme care. So ultimately I'm picking someone physically attractive to me but also respectful of my hubby! Our experiences in MFM have been awesome, even when we were with an escort, he was incredible with me and hubby :) On a second note, my biggest beef is that supposedly 'single men' are really not single, I'm with Mischievous Lad on that one. As a hotwife, with an incredibly supportive husband and the ability to be available most nights if I like, I have been unable to connect regularly with single guys. I Would have loved to be able to text and say 'I'm horny I want you, let's meet up tonight!' I have done so to be told repeatedly and by different 'single' guys a myriad of excuses, coz guess what, they're not really as available as they pretend to be. Lastly, they may read the words in my profile but choose not to use them as a guide to secure some time with me. No not vain on my part, I've put in writing what floats my boat, how easy is that for guys? Mary xx

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  Dimeshreds

  9 years ago

  The comments are exactly what I was hoping for, insight into the couples realm to ascertain the differences between some of them and hopefully try to aim for a "middle ground" when approaching them on here. @ DynamicCouple36 the "cause" I am referring to is to those of us who try to act in a respectful manner and not to be shut down by the nice guys finish last scenario. Great write up btw. I am 100% on board with the husband wanting the single guy to respect his woman and that she takes the reins when selecting guys, however, I always look at couples friends to see who they would be interested in and if I fit the mould, it always seems to be guys with limited info on their profile and a pic of the six pack. The single girls are totally one sided in this manner and it is understandable as they are not looking for a bf just an f. I am going to aim for the middle ground on here this summer when I get a full membership again, I will get myself a good tan oil up the six pack and take a shot with some amendments to my profile to try and hint to the couples I respect the ladies first and foremost. I shall report my findings. PSNote to couples. I am a nice guy and I enjoy sex, especially in the trio format but I have to play the numbers game too, if I don't send you a message I will be invisible and if I do I might get tarred with that single guy brush, so I still need more posts to "get it" If you do go looking for a guy what will grab your attention to read the profile and eventually send a message to a single guy.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  If we're gonna grab a single guy it'll be more a spur of the moment thing and we'll just hit someone up in the chatroom or phone a friend lol. We wouldn't plan to meet a single guy or bother exchanging messages. Just being honest.

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  social_suicide

  9 years ago

  Personally we have had only a couple of issues with single males, but on the whole we find them great company. They are great playmates, know the lay of the land and are always fun and respectful. The single male is fun as the "rules, rules and more rules" crap is non existent......thank god, so we can all relax and enjoy a fun free flowing night. We love them and want more please!!!

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