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Are single unattached people more demanding?

September 04 2014

I have corresponded with a few men on here and it seems in my experience, single men (regardless of age) with no attachments and no kids (or have kids living with their Ex-es) are more demanding on my time and attention than the single fathers. I am a single mom running several businesses with one business requiring me to travel interstate or overseas very often, lately almost every forthnight. I have my boys every other week (when not away) so the possibility of a meet can be a logistical masterplan at all times but when we pull it off, I have a fantastic connection with my FWBs or new dates. As of late, this does not happen too often, sadly. Now the issue comes up when I come in contact with single men who want to meet at a drop of the hat, irrespective of whether I have work during the day or have my kids. Some want to meet in the middle of a work day. WTF? Haven't they heard of women with careers? I find this selfish and I 'encourage' them to move on to the next woman. I find that the single dads are more patient and understanding of my situation and therefore easier to relate to, hence easier to connect with on a deeper level. MY EXPERIENCE. Saying that, I am open to meet men from all walks of life as they all bring something different and special to the table and would not discount anything. Not a job snob or anything. I am NOT generalizing ALL single guys are like that so settle down and dont light up my bonfire and burn the witch yet. I am just relating MY experience. I find SOME single dads also behave similarly in a selfish manner as they are lonely and they want an itch to scratch but I just am not scratching it. I advise them to gently move on to the next woman in the chain or have that itch checked out by his GP.One of my regular FWB is single, no kids, but he is very understanding so we get along really well. The other is divorced with children every other weekend. We have to have our diaries in front of us and a conference call. almost businesslike, to organize a meet. Very spontaneous I know. Lol. So people of the forum, do you you have a preference to meet single person with no kids or single parent? A question, not judgment. What drives this preference?

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Tricky one,kids can make meeting to play harder to arrange,but not impossible! Most 30 plus have kids either with them or exes ,stage of life I suppose! Would have thought the single guys would be tinder(aholics) instant swipe quick satisfaction! Running a business or two is a handful in its own right,perhaps a pool boy is the answer,lol Wanting a quality connection is the hardest thing on here in my opinion,trying to juggle sex partners must be draining!No offence but can only handle one lady in my head at once,lol

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    You just need a hand running your empire so that you can devote a bit more time for the pleasures you wish for ?? Tall

  • Smilingwithfun

    Smilingwithfun

    10 years ago

    One of the first comments I get when I say I have trouble hosting is am I married or attached. Once it was established I was single, I generally found that most woman where very understanding of the situation, most being or having been in the same situation. Having a child at home makes you far more protective of your privacy & who you invite into your home. Its probably the biggest reason I use RHP as a social rather than a meet site.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Single people are more fun and are able to have spontaneous meet ups. :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I cry bullshit on that! Fair enough people with kids can't always be spontaneous, but it doesn't mean we are less fun

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    singles are less demanding, more flexible, easier to meet with and much less prone to putting conditions on meets like...times, places, days etc etc etc

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting LilyOrchid "Now the issue comes up when I come in contact with single men who want to meet at a drop of the hat, irrespective of whether I have work during the day or have my kids. Some want to meet in the middle of a work day. WTF? Haven't they heard of women with careers? " Yes they have heard of women with careers; just not them with one ;) But to your question.... Both demographic's of people can suffer the demanding qualities. But I think all that changes is the type of demands or should I have used context?? Meh.. But I think you get my point. A demanding single is going to be part of a demanding couple. My preference is find someone that will work with me as a team and do it my way :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    Or at the least their kids are in their late teens +.

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    10 years ago

    Interesting but happy for both but it may also be an individual things as well. However saying that those with kids understand the situation better because we are there already but I like spontaneous too!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I was thinking of starting a thread called sex and the single parent but you have covered it with your thread. I belong to the 8% of families were the father is the sole care giver and it is a bitch to organise family and work let alone some adult time on the side. I have a list of babysitters, nannies and grand parents which I have to run through whenever somebody wants to meet up. I can relate better with other single parents because they have the same issues so there is mutual empathy and a desire to make it count when we finally do get together as we both know it may be weeks or sometimes months before we are both free to meet again. The only additional comment is that couples can be as insistent as unattached singles sometimes. I had been messaging a couple who were faffing about meeting, then on the evening of the Sydney meet & greet, I get an email asking me to meet them in a Brisbane hotel in 2 hours. Even if I was in the same city (face palm), I would have been flat out begging through my list of babysitters to come over on emergency short notice. They are a lovely couple and I would have loved to have met up but they have no idea about the logistics of childcare when you are flying solo.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'nostrings_1' Tricky one,kids can make meeting to play harder to arrange,but not impossible! Most 30 plus have kids either with them or exes ,stage of life I suppose! Would have thought the single guys would be tinder(aholics) instant swipe quick satisfaction! Running a business or two is a handful in its own right,perhaps a pool boy is the answer,lol Wanting a quality connection is the hardest thing on here in my opinion,trying to juggle sex partners must be draining!No offence but can only handle one lady in my head at once,lol I wish I have the option to juggle sex partners. Lol. That is the thing, I don't have a lot of time nor them, to meet as our scheds are out of synch. It is gettting to be more and more difficult to tea up so this lady ain't getting any honey. Lol. Wouldn't that be a lovely option to be able to juggle? I can only dream....Sigh....

  • OPNmarriagecpl

    OPNmarriagecpl

    10 years ago

    Yes. The singles that we have interacted with have almost had an air of desperation about their communication. Just our experience and not all singles that we have come across. Much prefer other couples of single parents. We all seen to understand that they're is more to life than "hooking up", in our humble opinion that is. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    You all made good points and good point of views. Thanks. yes agree we, single parents are more restricted in our movements and availabilities but not necessarily less fun. Good point Rocknminx. I do agree that the single men with no kids or with grown up kids are more flexible with their time and definitely can afford to be spontaneous. I wish I could be in the same position, i.e. more spontaneous, but I can't and I live with that. I can imagine it can also be frustrating for the single people to work around the sched and restrictions of the single parents they want to meet. As stir said, just find someone that will work with me as a team regardless of their status. Cheerio

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' You just need a hand running your empire so that you can devote a bit more time for the pleasures you wish for ?? Tall I wish!!! Lol. Am just a hired gun...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'm surprised you even have time for your FWB. .? I also have my own business which places limits on my time . Missed out a few times because this... Cera Cera...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Maybe the members listed as unattached, single, whatever, are actually the married or heavily attached members. Might help explain them being in a rush and being demanding. Perhaps a new category of member is needed? The cheats! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    still it is not easy to arrange a meet. We all have our work commitment and private time. As some said I will only ever concentrate on one at the time....and it can take weeks to meet sometimes. There is also a difference whether you meet someone for the first time or you have established a little connection and you can meet during the week. I have at the moment someone who is asking me for a meet, he did this before but he didn't fit in my schedule and was not happy about it so he must have blocked me. Now he tried again and I tried to write back but he must have blocked me and doesnt realize he did it. LOL

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Just that everyone has different time commitments The men in my life have young children. The children come first as they should and admire that these men do put their children first. I fully understand this At the same time I have work that requires me to mainly work the night time and weekends, so I need these men to be understanding of my work and its demands. And they are To me, you will make the effort to meet and if you have to wait that can not be helped. Time is man made. If you want to meet, in time you will. It will find a way

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Singles no doubt are more fun as they have more time and flexibility on their hands. But being a single father and belonging to a busy profession, I know how hard it can get sometimes to sync the schedules. And I wont mind waiting for person to be available as she would ve done same for me too.Having too many options, probably is not my thing. When you have options, you have favourites. When you have favourites, you would probably want to spend more time with them. Hence, you would end up doing the same (waiting). :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Most people in our age group have some restrictions, as in kids, family or work. When I start to chat to someone new I make them aware of my restrictions up front and if they can't deal with it they can't deal with me. It can be incredibly hard to meet new people sometimes but if both of you are keen to meet then a bit of patience and understanding goes a long way.

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'lilyorchid' Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' You just need a hand running your empire so that you can devote a bit more time for the pleasures you wish for ?? Tall I wish!!! Lol. Am just a hired gun... " I am a single mom running several businesses " - do you perhaps mean you are engaged by a number of firms ? Not wishing to pry, but was under the initial impression that you had your fingers in several pies, under your control, hence the comment. If you are indeed the hired gun, then I can understand your predicament. Again, maybe time to consider your workload and work / life balance ? You don't wanna burn out young with nothing left to give afterwards.Hope you manage to come to a good conclusion. Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Miss lily,honey is hard to find!surely u have different ones in each state ,with your travels,lol Found it hard to arrange last biz trip to Sydney some quality time,lucky lady drove from Newcastle! Pretty sure it was worth her while,lol Funny it's not just the sex for me,love to have lady companion in my life xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    or at least older ones that can take care of themselves. I am finally get to a point in my life where I am a bit more free, my kids are old enough to look after themselves except the youngest one who has a better social life than any of us so he is easy to get rid of or I have a good family that will babysit but I haven't had to use them for some time. My main restraint is hosting because there is always someone at my house and my family love to pop in unannounced.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    What I do as a living has no bearing on your life or should not be of any concern to you but thank you for your input in this thread. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'lilyorchid' What I do as a living has no bearing on your life or should not be of any concern to you but thank you for your input in this thread. - Posted from rhpmobile Sorry 'lil one I believe you misunderstood my comment to you. I wasn't trying to find out what you do, but was just inquisitive about the nature of your workload. You seem to be a very busy gal and I was genuinely trying to figure out how things fitted in relation to your topic subject, and trying to provide some reasonable feedback to you - nothing more, nothing less. Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Personally, having no kids and working part-time, I'm quite time rich. I cannot imagine how tough and hectic your life must be and think perhaps some other singles can't either, hence them expecting you're available at any time.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    People are online a lot lotus... So it might seem reasonable that they have the time to meet up ? Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Highpriority' People are online a lot lotus... So it might seem reasonable that they have the time to meet up ? Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... Having two weeks off.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    There are allsorts of people in here most would be here for a quick fuck they are the ones you would find demanding they don't believe they should have to wait for it . Others are here for a little more and believe that if a person is worth it they will wait I find that a lot of people are impatient and if you can't give them the time when they want you will either make your feel bad about it or just move on to the next one I'm more about the quality than the quantity - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Pink_Lotus' Personally, having no kids and working part-time, I'm quite time rich. I cannot imagine how tough and hectic your life must be and think perhaps some other singles can't either, hence them expecting you're available at any time. Its funny this mobile app. the fact that it does not log us off even when we have physically logged off is giving some men out there that we are online 24/7. Bloody hell. I do love my sleep and they can try to send chat invites to me at 2am and hope they don't hold their breath for a response. I'm trying to get a life here folks. Lol. As long as they don't get pissed off when you dont respond.... Oh well...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Maybe Rhp needs to get all 90s and start adding another category of relationships. . Single. . Married. . Attached. . DINKS.. ( dual income no kids) and SINKS ( single incomed, no kids) to cut further more to the chase of what peepes are after. .? I might also suggest that the singles you speak of using that spontaneity are after a quick fuck and nothing else. (?) That will fall under every category lol. Lily., as this type of relationship isn't for you then you do the right thing and say move on. . I know you say not everyone ya yaaaaaa but again it's generalizing a major proportion of people . Couples have a tendency to call.a guy/ couple on the spot as it fits into their schedule too... In this regard it's all about the sex. . Look at it as making your job easier seeing who is more into a long haul then a stop and go.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Honesty, respect,, sex appeal & genuiness of character is far more important to me than their work or home commitments. Be upfront, & all is good.. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I agree there are a lot of people on here that are married or have partners that say they are single Yes a new catogory of people The cheats should exist - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Circe

    Circe

    10 years ago

    I have found that it is often very difficult to match up schedules with those who have children. I prefer singles or those with older children.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I prefer SPANK. Single professional, adventurous, no kids. :p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' I prefer SPANK. Single professional, adventurous, no kids. :p I like that

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    What about SPHANK? Single Professional Horny Adventurous No Kids? :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    My horniness has complete disappeared.... For ages!! So very sad. I need to get back on the saddle so to speak to get my juices flowing. How about SPEAK - single professional, emotionally available, kinky & kidless

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    How about Spunk Single Professional Unattached Nymphomaniac Kinkster

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Definitely SPEAK n SPUNK. Send them down my way. Haha - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Is a bloke with his own house. Bloody cars these days are so uncomfortable and the parking attendant guy is sick to death of me not feeding the meter. Single guys with their own place, because I have work and husband and busy life. So what I want is a quick shag every now and again. However my long term lovers are married and with kids. One is a sole parent. what i would never do is go to anyone house that has kids in it. I do not care if they are asleep and never wake up. putting strangers in your house when you have kids is not wise.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    True. I agree. I feel the same way. Except for.the car bit. Lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I've never married & no kids & run my own company for decades but found my clients to be the real stick in the mud .Having a hot date last night is not an excuse they find amusing, so many times I've had to cancel at the last minute( read...still not married ) but will always prefer the lady who puts her kids first before a date or a FB. HD.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    How about more sex and less talk about it - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Single_Guy4U

    Single_Guy4U

    10 years ago

    I be SPANK; however, not the point. It does not matter if you are single, married, kids or work, you can not just request a meet in 2hrs without notice. Maybe it is how it is portrayed (can you meet me in 2hrs, or are you free in 2hrs as I am in town for the next 48hrs), if not, I understand you are busy, do you have any spare time as I would love to catch up with you, when can we or would you like to, and are you able to meet. (Assuming you know each other and are both willing)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Pink_Lotus' How about Spunk Single Professional Unattached Nymphomaniac Kinkster How about STRUCK Single Time Rich Unattached Charming Koolgrey ( Did I see a recent topic deriding us poor charming men as opportunists? I beg to differ! )

  • Dimeshreds

    Dimeshreds

    10 years ago

    Each individual would be different. To stereotype a marital status is ridick... We don't get sex everyday like the couples so we are on edge all the time until we bust that nut.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Jay_Me' I'm surprised you even have time for your FWB. .? I also have my own business which places limits on my time . Missed out a few times because this... Cera Cera... Exactly my point, my dear. In order for this bee to get her honey, massive organization required to get a meet with one of my FWB. Now it's a numbers game, so requiring to increase the number of FWBs to increase the probability of success of a match in sched? LOL. (sitting down, doing my numbers with my abacus..)

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Dimeshreds' Each individual would be different. To stereotype a marital status is ridick... We don't get sex everyday like the couples so we are on edge all the time until we bust that nut. I do get you. Most of the people here will say things based on their experience. So there is nothing wrong with that. I am basically single, like yourself, except I have kids week in week out. Yes, couples can have sex with each other when they can get somebody else with them and lucky them. Been there before and I tell you, we did not have a lot of sex when I was married because we were both very tired from work and kids. Sleep was sometimes better than sex. Lol. Sad. No break, so I feel for couples with kids. Now if you really are busting, you always have you hands? Have fun.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'hardnhot123' How about more sex and less talk about it - Posted from rhpmobile Agree. Come over. lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It's very hard to meet people for coffee let alone play times ? But rest assure us single parents are just as much fun as those without kids :) might even let our hair down little more then the child free people lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I don't think its about a person being single or with kids that't the problem. Its about the person themselves and how they conduct themselves. I find with online, there are lots of men who think they can say and treat people in a different manner then in the real world. Well thats what I have experienced. But with that said there are also some really great people online that I have, had some great conversations with and I've had some great times in person with as well.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Lilyorchid, the only thing in the topic that I am demanding is spelling: "I am a single mom running several businesses" Let's retain our Australian identity where the word more commonly used is mum. Now back to the topic…

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    WHICH IS WHY I PREFER TO PLAY, HOOK UP WITH ATTACHED/MATURE PPL LILY HIT THE TARGET WITH MY THORTS & EXP. WITH SINGLES TOO!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Think this Goes hand in hand really .single or not .Either way we want our Play Time Meets To Be at a time suited To Our Life style . Me for instance ,single , full time mum , study , work & I want a friend/s with benefits who Will be there When I call up/txt & spring it on them that iv got 3 hours spare right now Let's Meet in 15mins.or maybe iv only got 30 mins for lunch & Chat. Personally It sounds very demanding but that's my life lol But yes I Have experienced Quite often This situation when People just don't seem to get that I Really Can't just dump Everything & Run off for a quickie (im not really into Quickies).plus If I'm Not able to meet up due to life commitments , just run off to the adult shop & get some supplies to get by on lol

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Orangesound' Lilyorchid, the only thing in the topic that I am demanding is spelling: "I am a single mom running several businesses" Let's retain our Australian identity where the word more commonly used is mum. Now back to the topic… bloody hell, is that all you saw? Lol . The influence of living in the US and Canada. Lol. But I will mind them American colloquialism. Take care.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    haven't really noticed a pattern, i've had couples be demanding, i've had single childless girls be demanding, i've had single mums be demanding if they're good in bed i don't mind if they are a bit demanding