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Are these fuck buddy rules normal ??

May 22 2014

I was seeing this guy and it turned out we had a few mutual friends via Facebook.. Once he become aware of this he didn't want to see me again.. But before he realised he put a condition on me that I wasn't to see anyone but him.. He sent me his opinion of what a FB is I will attach it for you to read... I have had a few over the years but never had rules like his ... Not sure I liked his conditions . "In my experience fuck buddies are exactly that. That's all they have in common and it's all they ever would have in common. They aren't Facebook friends, they have no need to be apart of any other aspect of the other ones life. They certainly don't got out for dinner and a catchup, they couldn't converse anyway as the only thing they would have in common would be the fucking. Fuck they wouldn't even acknowledge each other if their paths crossed at the shops or the supermarket. Their sex lives and their normal lives would be two circles that never dissected. Anything existing outside of that would have a high potential of one of them developing feelings that ultimately wouldn't be reciprocated and that's where lives could potentially get ruined through rejection and confusion. If any of that arises it's just got to end immediately. Harsh but necessary. " - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'll bet he gets heaps of offers...NOT

  • OPNmarriagecpl

    OPNmarriagecpl

    11 years ago

    Wanker!!! That's an absolutely fine specimen of man right there...... Gives the blokes on sites like this a really bad wrap. I've never had a FB nor do I need/want one but if I wanted to be treated like a warm inviting pussy for one to input himself into...... I'd change professions and get reimbursed for my services. Mrs Curious😈 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    He would have been f*****d right off there and then.

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    I think he hit the fuckbuddy definition on the head. FWB might be more what you're preferring, you know; social interaction, dinner dates, totally awesome intimate sex without complications. He's right though FWB's do run the danger of developing feelings. How mature and philosophical about this you both are will determine however if anyone gets hurt. That's just my take on it. I don't know as much as others do here though. I've always had wonderful long term FWB arrangements. Welcome to the forum Reggie and can I just say "Holy shit what a handful!!!" Haha sorry couldn't help it ☺️

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hi Reggie I believe this to be way to harsh. In my opinion. Fuck buddies are buddies who enjoy fucking Each other but also enjoy each others company and personalities. Hence the term buddy. My question to you is. How do you truely feel about it? Are you falling for me?

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Is there ever any rules to how people are, who enjoy each other and have sexual relations? Who's to say there are any rules?? It's only through "mutual" good open and honest communication between the people involved that sets the boundaries not rules.. That sounds like the man set the rules himself...where's your choice in the matter OP? Sorry to me it's say you have none...so I say "FUCK THAT!!" No one puts conditions on me with out giving me a choice. And yes it's happened to me, where I was not given any choice and they told me what the conditions were. And the same thing...I was not to see anyone else yet they could have other lovers yada yada yada. But as others say in the forums...a Fuck Buddy is just that...a fuck! Nothing more, nothing less. By having mutual friends it says to me, he's embarressed or somefink to be with you? So I would say "Fuck that too!!". He's not protecting his privacy he's only thinking of his dick. Sorry it that sounds mean...sadly it maybe probably true. Foxy

  • perthangler

    perthangler

    11 years ago

    your lucky to be shot of himtony

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Clearly you're fine for him to own so that he can get off inside you..... but he's embarrassed to let anyone know he does it with you. Ditch the bastard for someone more respectful. DG - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E they sure are not all men can handle it lol 😜 Foxy actually saw him at the local woollies last night while with my kids litterley nearly ran into him and all I said was "oh fuck umm hi" he replied "hey" .. I made no effort to talk to him or acknowledge him further.. yes I think he is embarrassed by me ... I'm not interested in knowing someone who is like that - Posted from rhpmobile

  • OPNmarriagecpl

    OPNmarriagecpl

    11 years ago

    Will remember when Mr Big kept taking Carrie to the restaurant that you take people to that "you don't want to be seen with"?? Didn't end up too harmonious for Mr Big in that episode lol .... Well said DG...... Kick him to the curb. Mrs Curious😈 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I agree with Miss Foxy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    But on another site a man contacted me and almost immediately he said...... If we are to meet,there will be no kissing,no scratching,no biting,...you will not wear makeup or perfume..l will contact you when I want to see you,you will not be able to contact me.............oh goody I thought,as I pressed the delete button.hugs xx Q

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have meet a few men on dating sites they all have rules eg .. Only them, as I said to the bloke I have written about on here .. So if it's just you only when I snap my fingers you will come running lol .. The blokes in RHP are do much easier to deal with 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I think he hit the fuckbuddy definition on the head. That's why I prefer friends with benefits. (But good riddance. Anyone who feels the need to spell out what I can and can't do can get fucked themselves.)

  • cougar4fun

    cougar4fun

    11 years ago

    That's a hell of a list of rules there.... I agree with the no going on dates, no dinner, not being face book friends, hell my FB's don't even know my real name. However, we treat each other with respect and spend time chatting and treating each other like more than a "fuck" when we do meet up. We send friendly txt's from time to time to just say hi, how are you, if we have been too busy to catch up in a while. We are not friends as such, I do have FWB as well, we catch up for drinks, meals and hang out as friends and we also fuck when we want to....so there is a difference and certainly a line there between the two, but I have never had any rules (other than txt only, no calls and don't come around unless invited, standard stuff really) for my FB and I've never had any imposed on me, we just respect each others private life, while maintaining a level or courtesy and respect for each other I think ignoring each other in public despite being on an intimate level is taking the rules a bit too far, but that's just my opinion, I probably wouldn't stop for a big catch up, but a smile and a hi, would be the least you could do If you walk past someone you are "fucking" I would think...but again JMO.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    That's why I prefer FWB. I need to enjoy somebody's company to fuck 'em.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    As far as I can see he is pretty much describing a Fb relationship. If you want to have all the things he is ruling out, then a Fwb relationship is what your after. Either that or a boyfriend. Cheers N

  • ruby_blossum

    ruby_blossum

    11 years ago

    absolutely no interaction other than him to get off when he feels like it... ....and you are not allowed to see anyone else? Ofcourse, sure.........NEXT !!!

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    And while I believe what he says in his message to you is somewhat correct I don't think it's fair or reasonable that he expects you to see only him. That's not an option to me and the quickest way to get me to move on. But...I do exchange some casual "how you going" kind of messages with my fb and we have random after sex conversations about anything and everything including our lives in general. However have never had any kind of social outing and that's ok with me. Ultimately I think if it suits you and you are happy with it, it could have lots of or no rules at all. Personally I hate rules. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    But there is a way of setting the boundaries without making it sound like something to be ashamed of.

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    11 years ago

    Did he pause for a breath to ask you what you were after or for you to put a few boundaries of what you were looking for. Sounds like its not what you are looking for so just keep looking and personally I think you dodged a bullet.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A fuck buddy usually happens unintentionally ... Sometimes. But I would agree that a FB is someone you most likely don't want to get to know, or you don't have anything in common but the sex is great so you continue to see each other for booty calls. I disagree that this means you would ignore each other in the street. I mean what the hell? You are two people scratching an itch but it doesn't have to be a secret. It doesn't mean you can't meet for a drink before the bonk. It doesn't mean you can't chat!! You chat to your neighbour, the check out chick, the guy in the lift.... Doesn't mean you have to be Facebook friends with those people but normal civil rules apply. He sounds like one wound up guy that needs a root! Lol.

  • QLDtwo4fun

    QLDtwo4fun

    11 years ago

    Whether you realise it or not every relationship has rules, sometimes expressed rules, often tacit rules, if they are not mutually acceptable the relationship won't work. These don't sound like rules your comfortable with, and based on the forum comments they don't appeal to too many others either.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    LMAO! You have to love them don't cha? I wonder if he expects women to reply with a "yes sir". :P

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    he wants his cake and eat it too! It sounds like to me too that he does not want to invest in emotions or feelings. LOL I have to ask does he have any? I find that impossible to believe tho. How boring would that be?? I mean what would happen if he developed feelings for someone and he saw them at the supermarket? I bet ya bottom dollar, he would want to talk to them, maybe throw a wink or two. I bet ya too if the right person came along he would see the situation differently. Foxy

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    I've observed another 2 people do exactly that, not seen in public, not acknowledge each other, exclusivity rule, etc. Honestly he was a complete prick to her.....It used to hurt her feelings at times but the sex was apparently too good to resist. Funny thing is, they've been together now for 15yrs, have 4 beautiful little girls and are happy as......Bet they never saw THAT coming!!! Lol 😎

  • uneventful

    uneventful

    11 years ago

    NEXT - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Rules seem to always get broken !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    he's married and wants to make sure no one can find out about it.Tell him where he can go you may save yourself some hart ach how any one can just f*&^ some with out the social aspect has got me beet. I'm with Funlover on this one "That's why I prefer FWB. I need to enjoy somebody's company to fuck 'em."

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It seems for some people what you have described is totally normal. Plenty of girls act like this too, not just guys. But - not an ideal relationship imo.

  • Smilingwithfun

    Smilingwithfun

    11 years ago

    We all get to choose how we use our bodies. Better choices seem to be the go here.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Raised in answer to the op... All I can add is that if that situation makes him happy and he can find someone else who wants that araingement then good luck to them. But, it's a pass from me... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I think he hit the fuckbuddy definition on the head. FWB might be more what you're preferring, you know; social interaction, dinner dates, totally awesome intimate sex without complications. He's right though FWB's do run the danger of developing feelings. How mature and philosophical about this you both are will determine however if anyone gets hurt. That's just my take on it. I don't know as much as others do here though. I've always had wonderful long term FWB arrangements. Welcome to the forum Reggie and can I just say "Holy shit what a handful!!!" Haha sorry couldn't help it ☺️ with that Indy. A lot of people don't know the difference between a Fuck Buddy and a Friend with Benefits.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Fuck buddy = booty call....that's all. I think he's a wanker for this "ownership" shit fuck that; that's just arrogant. I disagree with the notion you can't be Facebook friends or acknowledge each other in the street; that's just plain fucked up. But...... The best thing is; YOU. Have. Choice!!! You can accept those terms and be his "toy".... OR....... You can realise your worth and accept only what you desire that is best for YOU and YOUR situation. Simple eh??? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Married - Posted from rhpmobile

  • tamworthguy46

    tamworthguy46

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'sir_stir' Fuck buddy = booty call....that's all. I think he's a wanker for this "ownership" shit fuck that; that's just arrogant. I disagree with the notion you can't be Facebook friends or acknowledge each other in the street; that's just plain fucked up. But...... The best thing is; YOU. Have. Choice!!! You can accept those terms and be his "toy".... OR....... You can realise your worth and accept only what you desire that is best for YOU and YOUR situation. Simple eh??? - Posted from rhpmobile I agree %100 ......choices and logic .....but also it's another case of a guy wanting a free hooker, seriously what self respecting woman would want that ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have to admire his up front candour, he is tell you how it is and giving you the chance to decide if you want to play by the rules. All of us have rules, society is based on rules. I have rules of engagement I like to call them. This does not mean that you cannot be intimate in bed. It just means your relationship is defined to the bedroom or kitchen or lounge. Depending on the mood. I do see my lovely FWB now and again but never would acknowledge that we are intimate. I live in a small town and if your lover , or you are married, rules are very important to me. I would and have locked eyes a few times with people on RHP and just move along. I respect others rules, why not its a game we play here is it not? If you want more, then yes get rid of him, and find someone that suits your needs. I have had several people male and female wanting to be in my face book, from work or other walks in life and I just do not want that at all. I have two lives, I want to keep it that way and if people don't like it then they are grown up and they don't have to accept my rules. And even then when women get read the rules they think, oh I might just be able to make him love me or want to date me cause I am so good in bed. WRONG every one needs to read the rules, be on the same page and then work from there. LadyT the umpire

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    11 years ago

    That's why I don't want a fuck buddie, because that style of whatever you'd call it doesn't interest me at all. I like to have a connection, conversations and the intimacy of a friendship as well as lovers... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • passion8_l

    passion8_l

    11 years ago

    Lovinit, you summed up my feelings perfectly

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I think ladyT has pretty much nailed it. But I also wonder; just how many people have then just gone along with someone's rules despite those not being beneficial to each other's situation?? To me it seems crazy that anyone would go for those rules.... But.... I'm sure there are those that would. AND..... Maybe he was pricing himself out of her market deliberately as a means of respectfully rejecting her??? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MattLSX

    MattLSX

    11 years ago

    but the fact that he doesn't want you seeing others is going to far. I bet he is. kick the gronk to the kerb

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Reggie, You are well shot of this guy.....everyone knows why your here....to have fun....maybe you should hit him with your own set of rules & see how that goes :-) Or just ditch the loser.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yeah I have to agree with the comments here, your lucky to be rid of him. A little respect goes a long way, I mean the least he could do would be to show you some... But I'm sure you realise that not all guys are like this tool, most of us are pretty respectful towards any lady who we spend time with...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Curiousplay1980'I've never had a FB nor do I need/want one but if I wanted to be treated like a warm inviting pussy for one to input himself into...... I'd change professions and get reimbursed for my services. - Posted from rhpmobile Yes, these were my thoughts, like he thinks you're essentially a free prostitute (ie. to him nothing more than a warm wet hole.) Don't forget the 'buddy' part of 'fuck buddy'. To me the difference between a FWB and a FB is that you might do non-bedroom things with your FWB (go out for drinks or something), and you could see yourself being friends even if and when the sex stopped. A FB you probably wouldn't, but geez - I need to have SOMETHING in common with someone before we shagged. I couldn't ever see myself in a situation sleeping with someone where the ONLY thing we had was sex, though I suppose many people do. We wouldn't have to be besties, and we'd probably only ever see each other on booty calls, but some of what he describes sounds cold and pretty unsexy. Fair enough to not be Facebook friends (though who cares, really?), and I agree with some of the parts about not socialising, but that's a long way from "That's all they have in common and it's all they ever would have in common." Ignore you on the street? He sounds like he has the personality of a cheese grater.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Any rules have to be mutual. Whilst those ones sound pretty lame to me, any relationship needs to be an agreed set of terms. My present FWB is a great gal I'm proud to have as a friend, and would introduce to anyone I know. "Friend" is a keyword here, isn't it? If you want a "secret sex slave" and you both agree to that...well...??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Have to agree with indagine, what you may enjoy more is a fwb, more relaxed, socially connected, but at your discretion. He clearly is worried that there may be a unwanted emotional connection. Maby he has been in a position that prior to you scared him off, or created drama's for him and he's being over cautious. In any event it should be what works for both of you, not just his rule book.

  • lookintoplay_qld

    lookintoplay_qld

    11 years ago

    bit like hes married and cheating and cant evan be honest about that

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    One could ionly say that with a attitude like tat re FBs I could imagine he would spend his time wanking alone...a pig... and bringing most guys into dissrepute!!To me we are casual friends who have their own lives and interests but enjoy catching up for mutual outings and sexy fun times...bloody idiot! Steve

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    11 years ago

    He puts those conditions on you, without any reciprocal conditions self-imposed, clearly he is a tool to be avoided at all costs. Good for the goose, good for the gander I say. And yes, clearly married playing without permission, or embarrassed to be seen with you, or both. He doesn't want a FB, he just wants a F. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Exactly ive had a similar situation although my fuck buddy never accepted my friend request on Facebook,oh no not good enough for that i felt we got on ok wen we chatted with a few drinks after we'd done the deed , but however he only replied to my texts when he felt like it he would sometimes ignore me for days i spent way too much time and money running after him than i care to think about, the sex was great but gotta say the rudeness was unacceptable would they rather some twisted stalker bitch or a good sex with some good company with someone nice, but anyway all those selfish men will get whats owing to them lonely sexless nights sweetheart your better off without the asshole trust me theres loads of hot sexy nice men out there you will find a nice respectful fuck buddy good luck sweetness u deserve better.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Sorry but you are not a hooker. I go for guys at least half an hour away to avoid uncomfortable situations. I avoid introducing children but if they meet by chance so be it. . I am more than happy to go out with mine just don't want to answer awkward questions from nosey Parker's. Gossip travels at the speed of light around here and often is bent waaaay out of proportion. And that is also why I block anyone who is associated with anyone to do with my ex or my family - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Does he have the condition that HE cannot see anyone else but you. I bet he wants everything his way. Sorry but a fuck buddy is someone you like but don't love. You need to enjoy spending time with your fuck buddy or at least I think you do. Fucking is fun. You need to enjoy it. I'd be pissing him off and just getting a new guy.

  • thedevilsfantasy

    thedevilsfantasy

    11 years ago

    Well there you go... I thought FB and FWB was the same thing ?? But then I wouldn't fuck anyone that I didn't want to be friends with... and rules?? Rules are meant to be broken... I would've embarrassed the asshole when I had the opportunity... He's definitely no loss 👿

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I never fuck my buddies.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    What a dog... you are not a piece of meat for his pleasure. You deserve to be treated with respect. I am looking for a FB, and when I find one, she will be more than the way he treated you. We live nearby, and I would love to hear from you sometime, even if it never eventuates into anything.

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    11 years ago

    Ato has some definitions to distinguish between work and hobby...I guess if a sex worker does it as a hobby..she may like his FB definition.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have to say i agree with his ethics that eaxctly my rules and conditions too, i know its harsh but thats how it is.....

  • PL1963

    PL1963

    11 years ago

    My Ex's brother was exactly like what you describe, liked to have 3 women on the go all the time, not take them out, just "fuck em" If they even looked or mentioned another man he would fly into a rage & bash them, I'd be very wary of a man like this, they usually lead double or triple lives. He is not worth it. I have an FWB lady, I'm busting to take her out for dinner, a W/end away, whatever, but her teenage kid's limit what she can do, she has told me to meet with other ladies that have the time available, but to leave a little time for her when we can meet. It is the most honest, open & probably satisfying relationship I've ever been in. Fuck him off, you deserve better, Arseholes like him are what fucks up good sites like RHP for the genuine people like us. Cheers PL.

  • SexySmart50

    SexySmart50

    11 years ago

    Wow that definition if a FB is just awful. Quite cruel and heartless . If someone is lucky enough to get THAT part of you then they should at least be a Friend too . - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    means you are a fuck AND a buddy which differs from the 'fuck' that the original post seems to be about. I have a FB and we do some things together and other stuff we definitely do not do together. FWB I think is on another level of intimacy again though

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'PL1963' My Ex's brother was exactly like what you describe, liked to have 3 women on the go all the time, not take them out, just "fuck em" If they even looked or mentioned another man he would fly into a rage & bash them, I'd be very wary of a man like this, they usually lead double or triple lives. He is not worth it. I have an FWB lady, I'm busting to take her out for dinner, a W/end away, whatever, but her teenage kid's limit what she can do, she has told me to meet with other ladies that have the time available, but to leave a little time for her when we can meet. It is the most honest, open & probably satisfying relationship I've ever been in. Fuck him off, you deserve better, Arseholes like him are what fucks up good sites like RHP for the genuine people like us. Cheers PL. OMG!! Did I just read that? Are you serious? No way in hell is that OK>>> NEVER EVER! He's not a very nice man in my eyes. I wouldn't even call this man an arsshole..that's insulting arssholes! Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    That some people forget to treat others with the respect and dignity they deserve. It's inhumane if they can't, all in the name for awham bam thank you mam, boring ol fuck! It makes me sad what some people will do for that. Foxy

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    11 years ago

    I prefer a FWB rather than some random guy for a FB who in some cases may turn out to be a psycho. I love the idea of talking and sharing myself with somebody, chat intimacy and laughter. A friend with benefits. Stuff the rules. So contrived and controlling of that man to impose on you. so many quality men out there who are willing to share themselves as well. Give him the boot.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Twisted_Mister' He doesn't want a FB, he just wants a F. I agree with Twisted_Mister. To me FB and FWB are kinda interchangeable, but FB is more about the fuck and FWB is more about the friends. In both cases you still treat your partner with respect, what he is describing is wanting just a fuck on his terms.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A fuck on his terms. He spelt it out very clearly. Why is being honest so Bad? There are a shit load of people that do this, but they lie about what they want. The get your dick/pussy brigade is alive and well but is mostly sugar coated.I prefer my men to be up front about what they want. I am not partial to someone pissing in my pocket.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Next !! make your own rules hun 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Fuck buddies or not once you sleep with someone like it or not you have formed a relationship.Laying down rules like that is absurd and disrespectful to you . The guy is a wanker and not even the decency to actually talk to you about it . You don't need people like that

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    Yeah right. Some peeps hold a very high opinion of their own opinions. pfffft. The dude's a freak. Rules? lmfao. I have one rule for peeps that like making up these "rules"... Apply Rule No 1: "NEXT" HugsGAzpacho

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    i reckon ya way better off without him took me long enough to realize my FWB was only in it for himself got to a point where he was happy as hell to swing with me but not to have our FWB one on one meets hows that for a world class user gotta say makes ya feel like being just like that with other men but i have more respect for people than that

  • wannabyummymummy

    wannabyummymummy

    11 years ago

    In my opinion this guy was pretty clear about what he wanted out of it, i dont agree necessarily with his version of what constitutes a FB, to me he is right except for the "exclusive"part, you cant have it both ways buddy!!! I personally wouldn't be interested in a guy like this but i am sure there are some who might go for it. Its a bit different for me because i am already married so i don't need the whole "dating experience"but i still prefer more of a friends with benefits kind of arrangement, i have to be able to have something in common, be able to chat and have a laugh in order to have great sex it helps if you can communicate freely with someone you actually get along with. But at the same time i don't need to go out for dinner, hang out and watch movies etc (but i have hubby for that lol) End of the day if it doesn't work for you move him on, if you are cool with it then that is fine for you. Rules are made to be broken anyway, and what is "normal"for one will be wrong for another so you have to go with what you feel is right.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    recently I discovered that the FB (half my age) was really a FWB who had now become " the only person I have ever been able to talk to about anything" and texts were now including the word "love" within a few months. I didn't care before because he was happy but I wished we had STRICT RULES prior to being "open"... PS been married 28 years

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    sounds like he's married ...

  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'cougar4fun' That's a hell of a list of rules there.... I agree with the no going on dates, no dinner, not being face book friends, hell my FB's don't even know my real name. However, we treat each other with respect and spend time chatting and treating each other like more than a "fuck" when we do meet up. We send friendly txt's from time to time to just say hi, how are you, if we have been too busy to catch up in a while. We are not friends as such, I do have FWB as well, we catch up for drinks, meals and hang out as friends and we also fuck when we want to....so there is a difference and certainly a line there between the two, but I have never had any rules (other than txt only, no calls and don't come around unless invited, standard stuff really) for my FB and I've never had any imposed on me, we just respect each others private life, while maintaining a level or courtesy and respect for each other I think ignoring each other in public despite being on an intimate level is taking the rules a bit too far, but that's just my opinion, I probably wouldn't stop for a big catch up, but a smile and a hi, would be the least you could do If you walk past someone you are "fucking" I would think...but again JMO. But I think it's the "I'll pretend I don't know you if I ever saw you in public" that is the jarring part. I wouldn't introduce you to whoever I was with, particularly if it were my children, but I'd at least smile and nod and if asked I'd say you were a friend. I think cougar4fun's definition pretty much exactly matches my own expectations from fuck buddy vs FWB arrangements. xx Sarah

  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    11 years ago

    There's definitely no exclusivity. Nope. xx Sarah

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Is more a FWB. Being good friends, doing EVERYTHING good friends do, and if and when the situation arises, enjoy the intimate sexual side together. But its friends first. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Somebody needs to learn some manners! Nothing worse than boys giving all men a bad name!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    This is just a peek inside the mind of a man with crippling intimacy issues.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Ms jane smith if I crossed your path walking down the street I'd be the tall guy that just walked into a pole sitting on the ground with a hardon and should have no choice but to break numb nuts 'stringent "fuck buddy/slash don't fucking move and don't look at anyone else buddy rules and converse with you .cant ever imagine having sex and not in someway feeling,sharing,tasting,grabbing hold of firmly,smiling together,simultaneously writhing ,having our naked bodies rhythmically joining together connected deep within ,pulsating,throbbing,warm,wet,sensual,raw primal clit tingling ,mutually orgasmic fun and then adhere to old mates 11th -23rd fuck buddy commandments .girls just when you think the man drought is breaking,dr Chris bondi vet is not the last keeper out there u get a flog write what ms j mentioned .hang in the girls x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The only rule is that it should be fun!! Your the prize miss jane,your very attractive ,you should be respected and desired and made to feel a lil spesh even if it's something fleeting ,if you aren't then next ,sure raw hot primal deep fucking doesn't require manners but holding the cab door open or paying a woman a favourable compliment should come naturally ,doesn't cost anything to verbalise a nice thought x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I have a few fuck buddies, they are fun! We text, chat for a bit, chat when meeting up, fuck, sometimes cuddle, but do not go out for drinks or be social outside of that. I also have had FWBs in the past, my preferred choice! I still have a few friends that i occasionally fuck, but they are have moved out of the FWB zone, into the friends zone (not the friendzone, thats another issue altogether, lol) FWB for me is someone you like hanging out with, going out places with, and then coming back for great sex. but it is not all about the sex, there is an actual friendship there to. FB is more of a booty call arrangement, but to rule it as NO interaction outside of the bedroom? wtf??? no thank you. Not allowed to fuck other people? yep, no, pass!!! If that is what gets him off, then that is fine, but he definitely should have found a better approach then that! I would have seen that message and replied back with 'thanks but no thanks' ok, now, where is my next FWB? ;)