Are voyeurs seen as offenders?

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  flimac

  12 years ago

  Having attended swingers as a couple and a single person, I much more enjoyed going as a couple as I had someone to play with, but I'd never go as a single woman again, all that was happening where couples playing alone. That was frustrating and a bit depressing lol! Found it a bit frustrating though, I would think people go to swingers to swing and as a single woman it was a little dissapointing, I won't be rushing back- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  You and what your desire is. We like the private parties as well, and sometimes there just isn't a connection with others there. So you just don't get it on because your there.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Everyone goes for the same basic reason, to have fun and enjoy yourself, if voyeurism floats your boat good on you. I bet there are people there that are exhibitionists so you are a perfect match for them, don't worry what others think just have fun.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Don't let that put you off, it's just a matter of finding the right party or place. Or maybe you went on a very coupley night. As the single girl you may have to make the first move and go and chat to the couples and subtle know you are interested. But yes it isn't as much fun being a single girl alone I agree.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  2_passion_fruits I don't think there isn't anything wrong with people watching, some people have this as their kink after all,There are some people who don't like it when people only watch that is true, it can be a bit daunting especially when they are still full clothed (the watchers that is). Everyone is different. Some people like it, some people hate it. So you can't please all the people all of the time so you just please some people some of the time and please yourself all the time. Or something like that.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'Meeka100'2_passion_fruits I don't think there isn't anything wrong with people watching, some people have this as their kink after all,There are some people who don't like it when people only watch that is true, it can be a bit daunting especially when they are still full clothed (the watchers that is). Everyone is different. Some people like it, some people hate it. So you can't please all the people all of the time so you just please some people some of the time and please yourself all the time. Or something like that. some of us are just chicken shit, but I blew a guy so at least I did something just not into taking my kit of with a lot of people around

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I dont see a problem with the way you guys approach this. Gaining confidence and moving at your own pace make sense. Like you said, Mrs passion_fruits found some fun with a girl and I can only imagine theres more in store when and if you feel its right. Regarding the voyeuristic bit.. I can see Mrs passion_fruit is nice on the eye. ' so she is bound to draw attention regardless.. I also think theres a time and place for people wanting to vent their voyeuristic side , and a swingers club I would imagine would be one... As meeks said, its their kink.. Not talking from experience by the way. Just my point of view after reading others experience's. I will go to a swingers club some day, but not as a single.. Once I find a suitable willing partner , we can break the ice together... Jay

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  There's nothing wrong with not participating. Even just playing with your partner you're adding to the sensual atmosphere of the club. You're NEVER obligated to do something you're not comfortable doing, and the people that give you dirty looks can deal with it themselves. Just don't loom over people (guys seriously, you sometimes look like starving dogs, not attractive) and everything's fine.On the flip side - one of the biggest turn offs is meeting a couple that don't seem affectionate towards their partner. I understand these people come to play with others, but some look almost pained when they kiss or touch each other.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I agree with all those above... it's your kink, run with it! If you're looking to "give" something back to those who you're enjoying watching, or perhaps to even up your karma, then perhaps you could consider a few things that might reap rewards for everyone.Firstly, for those couples/groups you're watching, why not make sure they know you're getting off on watching them - that can be the difference between it being weird and sexy - by having your feminine half go an whisper in an ear (or a couple of ears) how much you're both enjoying it, in graphic detail. As well, you could try to add to the social element of a night at a club/group... you mightn't be the playmates for singles, but you could take on a minor roll in getting the ball rolling. How about getting to know couples and singles, even play a little of the match maker by being able to introduce people who don't know each other. It's a little thing, but it might add to your sense of belonging.Just some thoughts from someone who's watched some of the dynamics...

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