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Are we getting kinkier & were things better in the olden days?
October 25 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
So much for cut and paste.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The Good Wife's Guide From Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955 Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables. During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours. Don't greet him with complaints and problems. Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. A good wife always knows her place. · Meeka's addition. · Then go to the cupboard and get the biggest strapon attachment that you have, go to your husband and say, "Bend over bitch, I will show how it's really done". Love this one from the She-Manners: The Teen Girl's Book of Etiquette 1959. · Dumb It Down "To make him feel important, you have to forget your own desires for importance. Compliment him on his physical prowess, his mental acumen, his good looks, his virility. The worst mistake a girl can make is to make a man feel intellectually inferior or inadequate as a male. We men need a lot of reassurance. So lay it on thick but subtly. Stroke his ego. Let him think he's king much of the time. He will love you for it, and, you know, it will make you feel extremely feminine." —from She-Manners: The Teen Girl's Book of Etiquette, 1959, by Robert H. Loeb Jr. The number of girls I knew when we were growing up who pretended to be dumb so they wouldn't show the boys up. Wonder how their marriages are going? I recently saw someone make a comment that our grandparents were not vanilla, and I just have a hard time believing that. I would say as a general rule most people in our grandparents generation in western society were quite proper. Now I am not saying your Grandmother didn't like it up the arse....... but was she tying Gramps to the bed, while placing electrodes on his just razor blade shaved balls before she bathed his feet and put on his slippers? Are we kinkier as a population or have the kinksters always been there hidden in the shadows?
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
http://www.j-walk.com/other/goodwife/
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lay him on the bed, arrange his pillow and know your place... That would be standing over his body, while smothering him. Now, where was that drink I just made?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Erotic asphyxiation? Kinky!
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RHP User
11 years ago
My in-laws gave this to me at our wedding and they weren't joking I much prefer it with Meeka's additions
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madotara69
11 years ago
swinging started in the sixties? then those guys were all grown ups, there's around a hundred years.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
That just reminded me of Chev's statement that it was only discovered in the sixties that women could orgasm!
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RHP User
11 years ago
treat him like that.However after they both started a Restaurant together and Mum found she was a much better Business person then Dad it turned.I think there was always an underground of kinkster around,where sex was concerned, but more in the richer and city environment. The people in towns not so, because someone would have found out and talked.I would say a view had very great sex but most not. My mum is born in 32 and she found oral sex sooo disgusting she didn't want to hear about it. As my dad past away in 2011 and we went through all his things we found a great movie (porn)about oral sex....I dont think my mum has ever seen it, it was just for the men,lol. Women have been so sheltered. But again some did have outrages sex and very equal marriages...but didn't talk about it and behaved to the outside as it should be.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Eve said to Adam....Catch me if you can...It's been the same old story.....Ever since the world began
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I prefer tying them down thinking they're in for a treat....then pulling out Mr Whippy.....😈- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
No! We are not kinkier. It is just more out there and in your face. Grandpa and grandma did not have Internet access and the availability for porn just was not there. I have noticed that the more people are exposed to kinks, the more they need to search for sexual titillation the sexual palate gets jaded pretty fast. Remember also that back in the '50's most women did not work. The man was head of his household and expected to be treated as such. I don't know if many women who actually goowed these rules of etiquette. Having said that, my mother is in her 70's and has had a marrieds re for ten years now. I often tease her about it being easier for her to give head if she takes out the false teeth. She just chuckles knowingly!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just a short time ago in the rise of Caesar ?? They were kinky then as history shows r we kinkier now ?? Prob just do as they did with a modern twist is all :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is that true re the 60s lol omg so so blind to history lmao hang on his Like 50ish now ?? That means his mum had an orgasm
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank god for your addition Meeka or I think my brain would have imploded with revulsion. The kinksters were there at least 1 generation ago... still have scary visions of my parents from when I was but a young child.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kink is not a new Phenomenon ! GG♒️- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
This just came into my mind.Imagine..... when Eve wouldn't have let Adam bite into the apple....men would be still "now I have to be careful'stupid, simple minded, know nothing, can't think for them self. OHH God now I will be shot...lol loloThe apple was the symbol of knowledge and opening your mind.....so without the "force" of Eve, Adam would be still living " in Paradise"or was it just in the unknown?????
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes- Posted from rhpmobile
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goldcoastcple69
11 years ago
Were getting kinkier I think . Americans are going the opposite way, back to the 1940s with all their Christian bullshit lol Hopefully Australia keeps there own identity and moves forward with open mindedness rather than imitate American culture. I have no interest in living in a world where women stay in the kitchen dressed from head to toe and anything sex is illegal. Fark that..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kink is not new, I am not saying it is but certainly eras and societies are definitely different in how they view sex etc. I am sure my mother and grandmothers would have been totally disgusted and horrified by porn or group sex. Certainly lots of my friends find it bizarre that I would find bi-sexual men so hot. Yes there is always that seedy or underbelly element to any society but over all most people are quite proper aren't they?
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RHP User
11 years ago
To me someone who is promiscuous, as suggested in another thread, doesn't make them kinky or not vanilla. Or was that comment suggesting that women who enjoy sex are by definition not vanilla?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really!?! Gawd what did you say? :O
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think living a sheltered life definitely has something to do with it. I didn't know half the stuff I did and about all the different kinks, about polyamory, swinging, etc before I joined RHP. Obviously I was very open to it and found a lot of the ideas and sexual practices normal to me... But would I have ever gone there if I hadn't met some the people that I have in the past couple of years?
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Fantasyplus
11 years ago
I dont think we are getting kinkier.I think people are more open minded these days, we are constantly urged to talk about things and not keep things hidden anymore. Our sex lives are no different. I remember growing up, my parents never spoke about their sex life at the dinner table. Now every time we go out for dinner the subject of sex or someone's sex life is the topic of conversation at least 5 times. Mainly Our's because we are rarely together long enough to have hallway sex let alone have a good session without the kids around! Sex is not a dirty little secret and shouldn't be hidden away in a dark bedroom, where the lights are off and the only position is missionary. Fuck that shit! Turn on the lights, bring out the sex swing and all the toys and lets have some fun!
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madotara69
11 years ago
I remember my late granddad telling me when I was a teenager " It is not the chasing women that will wear you out, it is when you catch them" There is all sorts of reasoning to put to that, though put it with the old saying of "shaggers back" and I can read through the lines with what he meant. he heAnd yes the Roman Orgies have been well documented, I remember reading someone's post a while back, it was something to do with the older system of everybody, that means everyone going to church on Sunday, Some were getting a little bored with the idea, so they snuck off to another town nearby and swung with some other people who were also tired of being told how to live.Oh and the Adam and Eve post is from a song better known to.... Eddie and The Cruisers, second movie.Mado
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yankmychain56
11 years ago
it seems to me that many australians are close minded when it comes to people of faith.FYI:those 'old fashioned' American values of yearsteryear:The man worked his ass off all day in the field or the factory.The woman worked her ass off keeping a household.And they STILL managed to pay off the house, two cars, a boat, and put both kids through college....ON CASHno credit back then.With just the man working.AND THEN, many of those 'backwards', religious american families managed to have ten to twelve kids in some cases after a hard days work.And still go to church on sunday.Anything sex is illegal??????Uh, HOW did we father all those kids???When dad got home, he thought mom looked really hot in that apron and bent her over that 1950s vintage kitchen table.then they knocked one out again on the couch.and another after going to badGods COMMANDMENT:Be fruitful and multiply.How do we do that????who is the one sheltered?????I would go back to the world back then any day, where EVERYONE respected EVERYONE, and you werent demonized for going to church, and the people in church didnt demonize the ones who didnt go to church.Todays world STINKS, where everyone lives on credit and does their best to stab the other person in the back.If you HATE 'american culture' so much, NEVER pull up to a McDonalds again.NEVER crack open a coca-cola.And throw your iphone away.All those church going americans stopped Australia from speaking Japanese not too long ago.Then we went home.... so the world can crap on us.and your welcome.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You can never go back like that... And I am betting most women wouldn't want to anyway. As for religion... Sorry I am one of those people who don't think there is a need for it. Australia isn't an extremist society when it comes to religion, of which I am very grateful.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Because the bible says go forth and multiply doesn't make it kinky though does it. My question was that people of our grandparents generation seemed very proper. In some extreme religions the wife places a sheet over her body and the husband pokes his dick Through a hole in the sheet, so they are multiplying but I can't see that they are getting any enjoyment out of it.
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yankmychain56
11 years ago
in the opposite sense.ANY mention of religious commitment is demonized by the media.and people here applaud it.You might not think there is a need for it, but as much as many people hate the ten commandments it is the basis of ALL western law.And there about about four billion people out there that have some form of religious faith, so it cannot be trivialized and demonized.It seems that in todays world, you can read your astrological charts (offshoot of old testament writings), see your psychic, and research all kinds of dangerous demonic crap, but trying to live a committed religious life is demonized.it is just wrong.I have no problem with Atheists or agnostics disagreeing with what i believe.But when the mainstream media and a whole society demonizes people of faith, it stinks of social engineering.There are extreme religious sects out there that circumcise young girls, cutting their clits off so they cant enjoy sex (sharia law), but there are WAY more people out there who are dying from all forms of disease from being flat out twisted in their sexual activity.I grew up around the Amish, who are some of the best people you can be around.Their bed springs constantly squeak, and sometimes they pull over that horse and buggy on the way to church to knock one out.It just is kept PRIVATE, as it should be.We were given sexual desire for a reason, but some people take it to the perverse level.How far can kink go before it destroys a persons life or kills them?
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yankmychain56
11 years ago
I enjoy sex just as much as the next person, but I try to control myself, as I do not want it to dominate my life, ruin it, or possibly kill me.worse still, transmitting an out of control sexual life to killing other people.People who knowingly transmit aids or HIV should be tried for attempted murder.bottom line.
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yankmychain56
11 years ago
I almost forgot where I am posting. on a website where almost anything goes, I might get turned in to the thought police for disagreeing with the party line.It has happened before.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I disagree that we demonise people of faith in the Australian media. Let's face it the media are just as bad anywhere and are all the same, including the States. To me there are lots of elements in the States that I find extreme. I disagree with home schooling. On a tangent, I did go to an Amish supermarket when I was over there... Stupidly I was surprised to see cash registers and all the modern conveniences but I guess we were in the middle of New York. But the variety of food, the cheeses and the fruit and veg were amazing! I would shop there everyday if I lived in NY. Yum!!
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goldcoastcple69
11 years ago
Quoting 'yankmychain56'it seems to me that many australians are close minded when it comes to people of faith. FYI: those 'old fashioned' American values of yearsteryear: The man worked his ass off all day in the field or the factory. The woman worked her ass off keeping a household. And they STILL managed to pay off the house, two cars, a boat, and put both kids through college....ON CASH no credit back then. With just the man working. AND THEN, many of those 'backwards', religious american families managed to have ten to twelve kids in some cases after a hard days work. And still go to church on sunday. Anything sex is illegal?????? Uh, HOW did we father all those kids??? When dad got home, he thought mom looked really hot in that apron and bent her over that 1950s vintage kitchen table. then they knocked one out again on the couch. and another after going to bad Gods COMMANDMENT: Be fruitful and multiply. How do we do that???? who is the one sheltered????? I would go back to the world back then any day, where EVERYONE respected EVERYONE, and you werent demonized for going to church, and the people in church didnt demonize the ones who didnt go to church. Todays world STINKS, where everyone lives on credit and does their best to stab the other person in the back. If you HATE 'american culture' so much, NEVER pull up to a McDonalds again. NEVER crack open a coca-cola. And throw your iphone away. All those church going americans stopped Australia from speaking Japanese not too long ago. Then we went home.... so the world can crap on us. and your welcome. I disagree with pretty much every thing you said there. And no I have no interest in eating mcshit or drinking coke, just like I have no interest in having diabetes and heart disease..Thanks America for all the shitty junk food chains You want to go back to the 50s? what the fuck are you doing here? Anyway im so damn glad we don't follow American culture. American culture is extremist, not Australian media. Most americans surveyed thought afghan was near mexico lol there so brainwashed into thinking jesus is from America and America is leading the world to freedom with jesus and an ak47..Im sorry but americans are freakn crazy and they can keep there churchie religious bullshit. If you don't like the aussie way of life here ,2013 style ,were we are free to bag out religions, free to walk around with our tits out (most of the time ) lol Then go back to the usa !! simple
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RHP User
11 years ago
At least in Australia you can't walk into a department store and buy a pink "Hello Kitty" assault rifle - you know, the ones designed for the young female market. And we don't have any counties where it is illegal NOT to own a gun. Have to say we're rather happy with the state of affairs here. Oh, and before we forget, don't remember Australia fucking up the world's economy any time recently... ***All in jest, TC's just yanking some chains*** But more seriously, you think Australian media demonises those that have religious beliefs? Frankly, don't see that. Our media's so crap and unintelligent these days we're not sure they could even handle a topic like that. Aren't Julia Gillard's dress sense, who's going to win X Factor, and Miley Cyrus' boobs all far more important than religion in the mind's of our media outlets?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that what is significant is the attitude change towards singles.Single women in the 50's were considered to be ''old maids'' and asexual.If you were a sexually active woman you were demonised.Lesbian women had more freedom ,simply because only a very few people could even spell the word but it was a hidden lifestyle.Until the 60s in this country ,it was a criminal offence to be a homosexual man.The reason women were not included ,was because Queen Victoria's PM at the time could not bring himself to broach the subject with her....or so it's been said....when they were drafting the laws.Are people kinkier now?...considering that most peoples experience of sex was confined to the missionary position until the last couple of decades.What is mainstream now was definitely kinky for most people in the 50's.....most couples would not even go to bed naked afteral.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's what makes us so unique, to learn and take in what other culture bring us.We blend and take, hopefully, the good from all of our unique backgrounds and make this country great.Coming from Europe.....Australia is way back in some sexual things, maybe not when the doors are closed but open in the Media or Magazines, no way. Religious people in Australia are more dogmatic then where I come from.Sex has become a drug for some people and not for others.Kink, I believe is defined when you would think or do something what others or what society thinks is wrong or wired. However people where always "kinky"
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RHP User
11 years ago
What my grandma told me. Here we were 4 sisters giggling together over the secrets of sex and in walks our grandmother, that beautiful regal woman with silver hair. Of course we all stopped talking, whereupon she laughed and asked if we had any questions, GaGa we cried that's gross, so she crossed her legs, sat down with us and said......."what you think your Poppa and I haven't jumped on the bed and broken it a few times". As for are we kinkier, in some ways we are and in some ways more staid. Because everyone is so public about their appetites, desires, likes etc we as a society are able to experiment more and bend the rules that little bit easier. However, it also goes the other way, with people trying hard to live that wholesome lifestyles (yes the 50s) and misinterpreting it as self control as well.
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