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Are you OK???
September 12 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Actually couldn't be HAPPIER! :) :) FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
What a great organisation who brought the 'r u ok' day together. If you care for someone start a conversation with them :-) it could mean a lot..... Great topic foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hope everyone else is too.. ?
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wingman2014
11 years ago
One of my closest friends lost his brother to suicide . I remember well the devastation it brought to so many people close to him. Just a shame such a simple yet brilliant idea wasn't around.back then ... Things may have turned out so differently .- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm super, thanks for asking!
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RHP User
11 years ago
World Suicide Prevention Day was two days ago. I forgot, or I would have posted a forum. I suspect most of us will know (of) someone who took their own lives. A thought for all of them. x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just Ok ...Nup I am friggin fantastic...Winter is GONE and so is the Labour party All Smiles
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RHP User
11 years ago
We are ok laying in bed after some beautiful love making, day couldn't have started better, :-) Great to see you couldnt be happier Mr & Mrs Funky xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You made me laugh with that South Park quote...lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Thanks FOXYMado Tara xx
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sweetgem
11 years ago
And I am very grateful for it, believe me! :-) I have been extremely busy lately which has led to a certain degree of exhaustion! But I still can wake up and breathe the fresh air every day, so I am grateful, and my heart and thoughts go out to those who are suffering and their families!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
A little more good will eroded, a little less trust forthcoming and a dash of respect stolen ... aside from that Fantastic - thanks for asking.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Im frikken amazing ;-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Wouldn't be dead for squids!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I've been sick most of the week, so I am feeling a bit sorry for myself. Seeing a reference to Rolf Harris and his song Jake the Pag on another thread was a trigger to some tears as well. My foster-father loved him and Jake The Peg was his favourite song to perform when we had parties. The tears are brought on by the disallusionment in men I had a huge respect and love for... till I learned better!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I Will be OK! I'm a survivor.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are you ok? A friend on FB posted this too. Its great there is much more awareness of mental health and wellbeing. And less stigma! Yipeeeeeeeeeee!That makes me feel even better
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RHP User
11 years ago
A friend of mine just posted this on FB.His young nephew just took his life, such a waste.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But that doesn't matter. What matters is that you don't wait for today to ask because its R U OK Day. Its your friends and family...and if you see them looking not like themselves or are feeling down you make sure that you ask this earlier. :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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FunTimeLords
11 years ago
But we are ok! It is amazing when you are asked that question. A little time for self reflection. Are you ok?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' I Will be OK! I'm a survivor. You sure are MrsPeachy
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RHP User
11 years ago
and every 4th, 365. At least it's bought the attention of the mainstream to what is / was a rarely talked about topic, however one which has touched us all
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a quick look at the R U OK Foundation site and thought you'd like to know that the first words on the site are ... . The R U OK? Foundation is a not-for-profit organisation dedicated to encouraging all people to regularly and meaningfully ask 'are you ok?' to support those struggling with life. R U OK?Day is our national day of action on the second Thursday of September (12 September 2013), and dedicated to reminding people to regularly check in with family and friends. We also have Resources for You to use throughout the year to help you ask 'are you ok?' regularly of family, friends and colleagues. . Part of the idea I believe is that people don't show always show signs of their unhappiness and their sudden demise comes as a shock to all their family and friends, who had no idea there was anything wrong. . I'm sorry to hear you're not OK, it does matter. Virtual hugs from Perth, please look after yourself! xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm absolutely Peachy ;););) GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'WildSong' Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' I Will be OK! I'm a survivor. You sure are MrsPeachy Thank you for being you...
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RHP User
11 years ago
get a ARE YOU OK or HOW ARE YOU...from me when ever I am in contact with them - 7 days a week 365 days a year.I am genuinely am interested in their well-being when I ask, not only that I think it is good values and morals.It's funny tho...I rely get asked ARE YOU OK?It does not matter because I am SUPER and always doin OK no matter what.FOXYActually should eat my words...I got a few ARE YOU OK messages today. :)
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foreign_lover
11 years ago
What a nice incentive! I fully agree that the simple question, when asked truthfully can change the course of another person's life. Usually i'm the shrink for my close friends and i honestly care for their wellbeing. In fact, i care for most people i really get to know closely, there is one RHP'er whom i try to help as i know the person's situation isn't the best ( and no, it's not for the "physical repayment" that i do it!).My emotional wellbeing is a bit in a yoyo-movement. Some days are great and some other days... not so. But just as MsPeachPear, i'm a survivor! I've gritted my teeth plenty of times and there's always a way out of any misfortune!
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RHP User
11 years ago
super to be exact had flowers from a Company to say thanks its nice dealing with you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Foxy. I'm ok!! Thanks........ R U OK?? Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'foreign_lover'What a nice incentive! I fully agree that the simple question, when asked truthfully can change the course of another person's life. Usually i'm the shrink for my close friends and i honestly care for their wellbeing. In fact, i care for most people i really get to know closely, there is one RHP'er whom i try to help as i know the person's situation isn't the best ( and no, it's not for the "physical repayment" that i do it!). My emotional wellbeing is a bit in a yoyo-movement. Some days are great and some other days... not so. But just as MsPeachPear, i'm a survivor! I've gritted my teeth plenty of times and there's always a way out of any misfortune!Look after yourself dear sir, hugs. xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
A fb timeline post tells me... Ask the question using these 4 steps 1) Ask R U OK? 2) Listen without judgement 3) Encourage action 4) Follow up
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RHP User
11 years ago
I participated in a personal development session using the slide show and video from the site.There are also other materials that can be downloaded and used as exercises to broaden kids understanding of these very important issues.One of the things that often happens with kids is that they turn to their peers when they are having problems.Kids do not have the life skills to be able to help and support their friends around major issues.By developing children's understanding of how they can support their friends and encourage them to seek help and support from parents ,teachers or school counsellors instead of trying to deal with bullying or other abuse alone ,is a great preventative measure.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' A fb timeline post tells me... Ask the question using these 4 steps 1) Ask R U OK? 2) Listen without judgement 3) Encourage action 4) Follow up I'd suggest something like: 1. Ask "Are you OK?" 2. Genuinely want to hear the answer 3. Facilitate a safe place to talk 4. Listen without judgement and be inviting 5. Ask what you can do (someone may not want/need to take action, but just talk)* 6. Say you are there for them, for anything and everything 7. Mean it. * Don't aks IF you can do anything, as most people will say "Nothing". Ask WHAT you can do. If they still say "Nothing", respect that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
How interesting is the origin and background of the word OK......'OK is a quintessentially American term that has spread from English to many other languages. Its origin was the subject of scholarly debate for many years until Allen Walker Read showed that OK is based on a joke of sorts. OK is first recorded in 1839 but was probably in circulation before that date. During the 1830s there was a humoristic fashion in Boston newspapers to reduce a phrase to initials and supply an explanation in parentheses. Sometimes the abbreviations were misspelled to add to the humor. OK was used in March 1839 as an abbreviation for all correct, the joke being that neither the O nor the K was correct. Originally spelled with periods, this term outlived most similar abbreviations owing to its use in President Martin Van Buren's 1840 campaign for reelection. Because he was born in Kinderhook, New York, Van Buren was nicknamed Old Kinderhook, and the abbreviation proved eminently suitable for political slogans. That same year, an editorial referring to the receipt of a pin with the slogan O.K. had this comment: “frightful letters... significant of the birth-place of Martin Van Buren, old Kinderhook, as also the rallying word of the Democracy of the late election, ‘all correct’.... Those who wear them should bear in mind that it will require their most strenuous exertions... to make all things O.K.'FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
OK comes from Greek "Olla Kalla" which means "all good".FOXY
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Plain
11 years ago
Thank you SUPERFOXXY for caring, I have this illness and not by choice, I also choose except for my (work management) not to hide that I have it. So I will say it takes courage to tell people that you have it, it takes patience to tell and listen as to the reasons why you have it, as the causes are complex and the triggers for relapse appear trivial to the average person but to the sufferer are often insurmountable barriers to leading a normal life. Me I have Bipolar 2 and more through the way I am wired than anything else and heavily influenced by social circumstance as in race etc. Told you it wasnt easy to grasp but there you go. Thanks again. And are R U OK.!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you for sharing something very personal to you...You are RIGHT! "I will say it takes courage to tell people that you have it, it takes patience to tell and listen as to the reasons why you have it"FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
telling people u have bipolar is an extremely hard thing shaka. i hear you and understand. Im type1 bipolar have been my whole life with all the massive extremes that brings with it.thank you to those who truly care about others in this world
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RHP User
11 years ago
I did a quick search and found that the post I wrote out above is from the R U OK? Foundation itself... they have a page on facebook. So anyone who's on facebook and wants to follow up on the day by day idea of supporting the R U OK? concept, the page is there to support, encourage and remind you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Of number 1 importance is to care, don't just go through the motions
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Plain
11 years ago
A conundrum about this illness in some ways it is easier to talk about it too strangers. Family and close friends are often shocked that you have it as they tend to have put up with some of your ways as a result of depression and not taken you seriously. Thats why once I learned what it was, I immersed myself into the causes and mechanisms that are the drivers in my case, that I am able to cope with it, yes you are on medication and no I am never out of it as some people imagine you to be and I now lead a very normal life.And able to cope with a tragic illness that my partner has. Keep believing in one self no matter what, the thoughts are there, hit them with a shovel see this is the conundrum, see how easy it is to write about it,but understanding the anguish can only ever be understood with fellow sufferers. This is but a small insight.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Best Black Friday ever thanks for asking , seems most people are all ok too !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Only depression and anxiety along with a few other letters like OCD and PTSD. But it's been as long as I can remember. Good friends and family is what gets me through every time, it's not a huge group but I go for quality not quantity.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No, but who cares?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am ok. The Labor (note correct spelling wowow) party isn't gone, just out this round and will be back to clean up the mess that Abbott makes in 3 years. What I'm most scared of is if/when Abbott looses his speedos and we have his dick waving around in our faces. Just remember who's side you were on when that happens people!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its great to hear posters are OK. :) FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'here2playtoo'No, but who cares? Would you like to share?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Had major surgery on 10 th and am still here minus quite a few bits and pieces. Sore but still breathing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I came across this piece of writing quite a while ago, I really like it a lot. I've googled it today and will include the piece of writin that came with it because, it says so much. :-) . “I am me and I am okay” We all have bouts of depression and despair in our lives. We have low self esteem and times when we just feel like it will take a miracle to go any further. When I was in high school was when I had my first serious bout of depression and despair. As I started to venture away from my abuser’s, and got a glimpse into “normal”, (before then, I just didn’t know any different), I became depressed. My high school English teacher, who was a life saver for me gave the book with the poem “Self Esteem” by Virginia Satir. She gave me that book 20 years ago or so, and I still turn to it on occassion for reassurance. Below is a copy of it…wonderfully true for us all! I AM ME In all the world, there is no one else exactly like meEverything that comes out of me is authentically meBecause I alone chose it – I own everything about meMy body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,Whether they be to others or to myself – I own my fanatasies,My dreams, my hopes, my fears – I own all my triumphs andSuccesses, all my failures and mistakes Because I own all ofMe, I can become intimately acquainted with me – by so doingI can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts – I knowThere are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and otherAspects that I do not know – but as long as I amFriendly and loving to myself, I can courageouslyAnd hopefully look for solutions to the puzzlesAnd for ways to find out more about me – However ILook and sound, whatever I say and do, and whateverI think and feel at a given moment in time is authenticallyMe – If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thoughtAnd felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which isUnfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for thatWhich I discarded – I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and doI have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to beProductive to make sense and order out of the world ofPeople and things outside of me – I own me, andtherefore I can engineer me – I am me and I AM OKAY © Virginia Satir, 1975.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always answer that question the same way. It almost got me committed one night at work!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'justforfunisall'I always answer that question the same way. It almost got me committed one night at work! How did that happen?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'here2playtoo' No, but who cares? That is the basic problem with Are you OK? is that people tend to move quickly away if the answer is No. So I shall linger awhile to ask you - What is wrong? Is it anything that a stranger can help with - if so message me and we can chat about it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are you OK??? Would love to hear from you? FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
As in scheduled.....They thought I had MPD lol (kidding).Honestly though it is either that in the big gay Al voice or "getting there......are we having fun yet?"
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am pretty good :) thank you! hope everyone is as well. Life is a journey we take with good and bad just some of us are stronger to cope with life and what it throws at us. So my wish for everyone is that you can find comfort and solace in times of need and perhaps someone there to extend a hand if it's needed.Always watch after each other - Peace :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Today I feel foolish and I wonder what lessons my history is trying to teach. Seems for the foreseeable future I am doomed to repeat past mistakes.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'justforfunisall' Today I feel foolish and I wonder what lessons my history is trying to teach. Seems for the foreseeable future I am doomed to repeat past mistakes. did the new dryer shit itself.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
You OK??Did you break an arm or somefink??FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
How you feeling now?You doin OK?FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
How is EVERYONE??You all doing OK??FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Something a little harder to fix....bad day when I realised a few things and they still hurt. That's all, I have no idea why I posted it. Call it a moment of weakness.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Are you OK, I am OK you OK im OK, is the first complete conversation, We have had with our little two year old girl.Tara has been suffering from a tooth ache, and a terrifying trip to the dentist. Hence my extra activity in the forums of late. Patience is a virtue, he heAnd of course compassion.Mado, Tara xx (ouch)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Awww HUGS to Tara, Tara and also to you're 2 yr old (how cute!) Awww HUGS to Justforfun. :) FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hp is actually feeling better than ok... Hp is feeling downright dangerous 😍😍 For the safety of all hp has exiled himself far away from the deliciously tempting and innocent morsels of the pie shop... 😘 Hp xo 💌 For the greater good...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I spend half my life feeling like a complete dill...sometimes I just shrug and try not to over think it....hugs to you
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madotara69
11 years ago
Here comes Miss Superfoxxy. It has been a while. he he
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks from us both for your concern
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RHP User
11 years ago
wore her shirt inside out in public today and got busted!BIG TIME..I'M DOIN OK!!FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
for moi
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you ma'am!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I recognise the signs in others and ask the question and do what I can to help wether I know them or not. 'A reason, A Season OR A Lifetime' was given to me 3 years ago by a friend of mine at the tail end of an all time soul shattering rocked to the core low. Extreme depression doesn't begin to cover what I had been going through at the time. Without going into detail, had it not been for my seeing this, it's fair to say that I would have taken my own life. This single piece of writing had such a profound positive impact on me and reached me in such a way that no amount of talking to family or friends was able to do and it has since been the driving force of who I am today. These are not my words, it was written anonymously and has had one or two slight amendments... "People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done and now it is time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life."
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wondered why this Forum popped up.WOW!! WOW!! WOW!Absolutely loved those words.Popped up at the right time for me.THANK YOU. XXXXHUGS....................FOXYPS-Hope you are OK??
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gave me slight goose bumps and a small fuzzy wuzzy.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thing to do is to ask 'are you ok?' and then LISTEN to the answer. Listen closely, use active listening techniques if you need so as to make sure you frame the problem accurately and so that the sufferer can see that you get it.Then REFRAIN from offering advice, suggestions, solutions unless it is really clear that they might be wanted.This is the mistake we blokes make; we like to take over and 'OK darl, what you should do is....' and you have stolen ownership of the pain, imposed a duty on the sufferer and fixed nothing.Polite listening is the key.And good on you those who were brave enough to disclose their pain. Never easy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Such a simple, easy question but sadly not used enough in the world we live in today :( But the weather (Pth) and the company I had today it was awesome :) Great topic........... B safe all :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
No Way!!! To be honest I sat there momentarily thinking WTF?!? Why on earth did I just do that?!? LoL so I can't tell you how happy I am that it popped up at just the right time for you I'm so much more than ok (as I trust you are too, but thanks for asking) and right back atcha with them hugs
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RHP User
11 years ago
EXACTLY!!The "fixing" thing really bothers me...at the end of the day I don't want what ever it is FIXED - I just want a listening ear.I recently said something to a male friend about this, cause every time I said something I would be given the "well if you don't like it do *****". Just listen guys and say "I understand" is all that is needed to say.GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am happy to hear.Great weather, awesome company - perfect!!FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Better day today thanks. :)Taking one day at a time.MWAAAH!FOXY XX
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RHP User
11 years ago
A few of my team at work have had some rough times recently and I found myself asking the question twice. Mostly so they knew it was more than the obligatory "are you ok?" Management garbage. I found myself saying...."no but really....are you ok?" Thankfully I got mostly "yes I really am" most of the time, but I did get a "not really". So perhaps part of the asking is making sure the person knows you sincerely want to know, whichever response they give and that you will take the time to listen if the answer is no.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' World Suicide Prevention Day was two days ago. I forgot, or I would have posted a forum. I suspect most of us will know (of) someone who took their own lives. A thought for all of them. x Its how I lost my late husbandxo
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RHP User
11 years ago
But no, not really I'm notlost my husband a while back and a lot of other things after that. He took his life. There I said it on an open forum (perhaps I'm beyond giving a #hit anymore...not about him...but it)Supposed to be moving in with my bf and have an open relationship. I'm dealing with that ok and working through my issues that I have on occasion..not just with that but with that lol.I ask myself and him tonight. If he wants to sleep with someone, which I can deal with is it right for him to share the bed and sleep the night, wake in the morning then go? Not sure I fancy that. So no, today. I am not ok. But maybe tomorrow I will be ok. Thanks for asking.xo FH
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RHP User
11 years ago
about six months I was chronically depressed,this was a few years ago.I have always loved classical music and because of my work, I knew that Mozart's music in particular could actually take the mind from a beta state to an alpha state...calming and lifting the mood......Every morning I would listen to his music and it worked.Some people think that Mozart had tourettes syndrome and that his music was a way for him to be less agitated...there is an institute in Paris dedicated to researching the phenomenon of his music and the positive effects it has including improving intelligence.I recently shared this experience with a friend, who spends many hours on the road,he immediately downloaded some pieces of Mozart and he tells me it has helped him enormously.So if you aren't ok,listen to some Mozart or other mood lifting music,it may just help you as it did me. x R
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'kingoftheroad'Thing to do is to ask 'are you ok?' and then LISTEN to the answer. Listen closely, use active listening techniques if you need so as to make sure you frame the problem accurately and so that the sufferer can see that you get it.Then REFRAIN from offering advice, suggestions, solutions unless it is really clear that they might be wanted.This is the mistake we blokes make; we like to take over and 'OK darl, what you should do is....' and you have stolen ownership of the pain, imposed a duty on the sufferer and fixed nothing.Polite listening is the key.And good on you those who were brave enough to disclose their pain. Never easy. I know I've been guilty of this in the past but now really do try to just be there to listen and offer support. It's hard to watch someone hurting, the natural instinct is to want to 'fix it'...take the pain away for them. Listening is key. What a great bunch of people we have here
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY'Better day today thanks. :) Taking one day at a time.MWAAAH! FOXY XXGlad to hear you're ok
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am sorry to hear of your loss. *hugs*. Thank you for sharing, it takes courage to do. Im with you on partner with sleeper overs...it would be a no from me as well...too intimate!! FOXY xxxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you...FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' I am sorry to hear of your loss. *hugs*. Thank you for sharing, it takes courage to do. Im with you on partner with sleeper overs...it would be a no from me as well...too intimate!! FOXY xxxxx it's all good. Just is important the are you ok day..a lot of things are important more so now with this regard.xo
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