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Are you a feminist?

February 20 2013

And why do you say yes or no?Is feminism compatible with swinging?Can men be feminists?

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    A feminist is a female who believes in equal rights for women. So yes I am a feminist. Swinging has nothing to do with it. Swinging is a personal choice couples make. Feminism is irrelevant. By my definition I suppose yes a man can be a feminist. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    we both are...men/women are equals...in love, in life, at work, and at play...and partnerships should reflect that....equal rights, equal effort and equal responsibility.....

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    very nostalgic...a year ago Neptune Drift put up a post about feminism,it was very similar to this one OP.After my very first post here,another poster called me a femi Nazi....I was very proud

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Here's the original forum:   http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Feminism-35758

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Due my father dying when I was very young and being dragged up by my marvelous mother who is a feminist, yes men can see and believe in feminism. My Mum however could not abide people who always wanted to go too far, she believed in firm, standing her ground type of stance with it.   Man she could party hard but she would not put up with anyones bullshit, ever....

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I'm a feminist, and I therefore believe men and women are equally fuckable.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    with a hint of antidisestablishmentarianism ... Don't see what its got to do with swinging but I'm open to try anything. Maybe we could all have an orgy with a ceremonial bonfire of the bras? Men can be feminists if they light the match. We can give them special badges but I'm not sure where I'd pin them.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'paintme' with a hint of antidisestablishmentarianism ... Don't see what its got to do with swinging but I'm open to try anything. Maybe we could all have an orgy with a ceremonial bonfire of the bras? Men can be feminists if they light the match. We can give them special badges but I'm not sure where I'd pin them. I can *almost* do it one-handed...

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'paintme' Maybe we could all have an orgy with a ceremonial bonfire of the bras? Men can be feminists if they light the match. Do you know how much my bras cost!? And I payed for them myself you know.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    work and political   in the sack no, I like my men to be men.   I am not naive, men give us these things, if you think of war then women have no power it can be blown away like dust   especially in some other cultures, were women are nothing.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Paid*

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I just thought it was a typo MsD

  • inspirit

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    12 years ago

    I just believe in equal rights. I don't label it. Is being a chauvinist compatible with swinging?Anyone can be a feminist... it is just a label right. I just like being female and being spoilt.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    The male feminist is the new unicorn?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I believe in equality for all. Men get the short end of the stick sometimes too.Peachy

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    We are total feminists, the Mr even more than me I think.   x Ms Shout.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I believe that woman should .have the right to vote have access to contraception and the right to abortion have equal pay have protection from sexual harassment,domestic violence,and sexual assault have workplace rights,maternity leave,anti discrimation. I also believe that men's liberation is a necessary part of feminism and that men are also harmed by sexism and gender role stereotypes.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'MrsPeachyDares' I believe in equality for all. Men get the short end of the stick sometimes too.Peachy "Equality for all" is the quintessential belief shared by all strands of feminism. That is the fundamental point of feminism, in-fact!There's an interesting article and a debate it spurned recently that I was involved with that's worth a look - search for "We Can Do It" by Emily Maguire on the Sydney Morning Herald. It's about the complicated status of men in feminism as a movement.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I believe in equality.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Believe in equality for men!

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    How to find those emoticons!

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya13' I believe that woman should .have the right to vote have access to contraception and the right to abortion have equal pay have protection from sexual harassment,domestic violence,and sexual assault have workplace rights,maternity leave,anti discrimation. I also believe that men's liberation is a necessary part of feminism and that men are also harmed by sexism and gender role stereotypes.  I second your words Freya. I would also add that I am a feminist because I believe women have the right to: sexual expression without judgement by men AND other women. make choices that work for them and this includes choosing to be a stay at home mother.be safe on the streets and not be blamed if they are sexually assaulted. be judged on their abilities not on their gender. Dear MsPeachy , feminism does not threaten men and as Freya says "men are also harmed by sexism and gender role stereotypes". Feminists have fought for the right to paid parental leave, there is no gender discrimination in that right. As the mother of sons, I want my sons respecting all women as well as respecting themselves. I want my sons to consider the needs of their female lovers, partners, friends and to not buy into the sexism that is promoted through the media. In short, I want to know they are decent human beings who respect people because of their deeds, and every feminist I know wants the same. I am not denying there have been separatist feminists in the past however I think they lost the voice they once had as more and more feminists declared that man bashing is as unproductive and unsupportive of creating a truly equal society as the patriarchal values of the past. I would argue that anyone who believes in true equality espouses feminist values. So YES! I AM A FEMINIST AND WILDLY PROUD TO BE ONE!

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Manly_McHardon' Quoting 'paintme' with a hint of antidisestablishmentarianism ... Don't see what its got to do with swinging but I'm open to try anything. Maybe we could all have an orgy with a ceremonial bonfire of the bras? Men can be feminists if they light the match. We can give them special badges but I'm not sure where I'd pin them. I can *almost* do it one-handed... You need more practise then!

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I think I just dislike the connotations the word feminist conjures up for me. I agree with both what you and Freya have said in your posts. So I've googled masculinist to clarify my thoughts. One of the definitions tells me that a masculinist is an advocate of male superiorority or dominance (spare me). Another definition tells me that a masculinist is an advocate of rights for men (that makes more sense to me compared to the definition for feminism). The most interesting thing I came across (on Tumblr) is that; Quote: masculinism and feminism are both sexist. Why would you want to superiorize (I’m not sure if that’s even a word) one side (gender) when both genders can be equal? The whole idea of either word, as I understand it, is about equality and respect for either gender but when looked at separately suggests one gender is superior to the other. It is the terms of what equality means for each gender that really differs. I hope that explains my thoughts more clearly, thanks for explaining your thoughts! So, I guess I could say that I am a feministical, (yes it's a word, I googled it ;-D) masculinist? A humanist! Hugs... Peachy xxx

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Love the word MsPeachy and thank you for sharing your deeper thoughts about the issue. On the 100th anniversary of International Women's Day there was a series of videos produced called "This is what a feminist looks like" and there were many contributions from men. That same year we hosted a forum "The F Word: Is feminism a dirty word?" It seems that many of us have forgotten the struggles of the suffragettes who fought for the right for women to vote, to attend university, to retain their children and their property in the face of a divorce and I am saddened that this is so. There is also a lack of memory about the time when women could not get safe contraception and we still have abortion legislation in some states that implies women are not capable of making up their own minds about what is best for them and that they need 2 doctors to verify their decision to have a termination. Women have face institutionalised disadvantage merely because of their gender for centuries and feminism is the vehicle that has driven change to build equality of the sexes. In Australia, we are closer than many other nations in achieving that equality, though we are still not there, as evidenced the levels of domestic violence, sexual assault, the pay disparity. The recent landmark case fought in the Industrial courts for human service workers highlighted that women's work is still not valued though it was 1972 and the Whitlam Labor government that first made amendments to legislation to bring equality to pay rates.If we look on a global scale,as I like to do, we see the situation for women in many other countries is indeed dire with women being denied a right to basic education. The young Afghani woman who was shot for attending school has become a heroine of the feminist movement both here and abroad as she states she will continue to fight for the right for girls in her homeland to receive a decent education. There are other feminists, both young and old across the globe stating clearly that will not tolerate the senseless violence perpetrated against women in the name of war and unrest The indomitable spirit of the women who have fought for women's rights should be celebrated and regardless of whether or not we want categorise ourselves, being categorised as a feminist does indeed mean that you give a damn, about women and girls, here, there and everywhere and their rights and it means that you care about equality for all. So I am suggesting we claim the positivity and the endless possibilities of feminism and argue that it is not a dirty word. Hugs back at you my friend MsPeachy

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    a common misconception that feminism is about the superiority of women,that is not the case EQUALITY,means just that,equal to ,not supierior too. Great post Ms Wildreturns. ''Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it''...George Santanyana

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I appreciate your comments and your quote. CheersWild

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I agree with inspirit, feminism, masculinism is just a label. I believe in equality, but I also believe that people need to behave equally in order to be treated as such. There are a lot of complexities involved in this topic but that's my take on it in a nutshell

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    This might be a little controversial, but I've noticed a pattern in feminist women who like to be subs and slaves in hardcore submission fantasy scenarios. "Slave, slut, whore", etc. I guess sexual fantasy often contradicts the social constructs we maintain rigidly in every day life?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Paid up and proud! I always have been and until we live in a culture where women have value in and of themselves, I always will be. It annoys me that women don't want to align themselves with and support a movement that exists for their benefit. But it has been like this since the suffragettes, you know some women didn't want the vote back then and some women think dv victims deserve all they get now. I'm a feminist for all of the reasons Freya listed above. As to the swinging thing... I see my own (non swinging) situation as pro feminist. I have power over my sexuality, I'm in charge of it and have control over it. I am not being objectified, I invite your gaze rather than being subjected to it, fine line... But in the end I own my sexuality and I'm living outside of the repressive norms of female sexuality.