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Are you addicted to sex?
July 15 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
All IMO: Is it possible to be addicted to sex? Yes Aren't we all addicted to sex? No. We are driven to have sex, but not addicted. Kind of like food and water, but we can live without What causes this addiction? Reinforcement. Repetition/Habit. Dopamine Are you addicted to sex? No Have you met someone that claims to be a sex addict? No Given the resources would you launch yourself into sex addiction? Absolutely not - kinda takes the fun out of it, when you're driven by things beyond your control.
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RHP User
9 years ago
.... the psych tells me that it is compulsive behaviour, which is reinforced as we are getting 'something' out of it ? ... .... a recent profile here in the west (fake?) .... had a woman claiming to be a nymphomanic, requiring sex 8 - 10 times a day .... I believe that exercising the 'sexy' part of your brain, definitely makes one increasingly hornier ... that in conjunction with RHP's 'instant gratification' ... makes the forums addictive
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RHP User
9 years ago
No, why would we be? Because we like it? Because we do it?Maybe post the definition of addiction here and ask us again. No offence OP, but having worked with sex addicts I'm quite aware it's a real and often devastating affliction, not something to be flippant about. As for guys like Tiger Woods: I sincerely doubt they have an addiction to sex, more like one to continuously keep feeding their massive egos.Sex addiction in my view is far too often used as an excuse for cheating. It's those men ans women who ruin it for the people with an actual problem. My 2cts.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I used to think i was... But I realized it was more that I just loved sex....more than a lot of other women my age. And my ex used to say I was abnormal for how much I wanted sex. But I've learnt that I am just one of the lucky girls who has a body that craves orgasms like some might crave chocolate!! Sex is awesome.. And addiction to sex is a very real affliction that ruins a lot of peoples lives OP. I agree with meander... You're not addicted to sex if you just really really love it. Xo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
No. Do I love and want it? Abso frikken lutely!
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RHP User
9 years ago
My addiction to sex unfortunately effects so many parts of my life... It causes me to do things I would never usually do. Oh.. And this is the male from the couple.... My curse is I can't stop the need to orgasm.. At least 6 times a day... It hinders my work and social life for the indescribable need to have sex.. Even when my head tells me no.. I just can't stop even when I am telling myself not to do it ... Even as I walk up to knock on the door to meet someone for sex, I'm still saying in my head.. What am I doing.. Get back to work or I should be doing this or that.. But I just can't stop - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
and yes
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RHP User
9 years ago
May I ask if you've sought or received help? And how does Mrs Sor react to it? I wish you much support.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mea - I don't know why I'd take offence, my thread was a series of questions - not statements.
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I ask a question it is because I am interested in the response and the discussion that follows. If I ask a racist why another race is inferior to them, it does not mean I share their views - it means I want to know why. Bad example, but the only one I can think of given the 30 seconds available to me. As for addiction - 2 words 'rat park'.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Like most things in life that create a biochemical reaction (a positive one) in our bodies, it tells our little grey cells that this is a good thing. Good things make us smile and feel all warm, safe and rewarded for our actions... so we do it again and again and again. I our body gets negative messages... it tells us to get away from that thing... addicted... it comes down to the person... at times in my life there have been other things that generated more positive... endorphins... in my system... and I pursued them... be it business, children, family... all rewarding things that occupied mind and body... For me... my drive in business has eased... got there... I do not need to be a Murdoch. Children and family... all on their way... doing their own thing. Now I can focus on "ME"! I buy what I want... and largely do what and who I want! Addicted... NO!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Without a doubt - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not addicted to sex, dopamine yes, badly so, will do anything to get that stuff flowing through my brain. Its such a shame it can not be made in a lab, or grown in a vat. It is only made in the body and only released when you are having fun. I will do anything to trigger that release to the determent of all else. I so envy the lucky people that can get through the day without so much as a need to crack a smile or have a laugh. Oh well one day, ill get over my addiction and be content being miserable bastard every day of the week, happy in the knowledge that being happy is no longer ruining my life, and sapping my strength, from the moment I wake to the time I crash exhausted from too much joy.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meowcolm_X' When I ask a question it is because I am interested in the response and the discussion that follows. If I ask a racist why another race is inferior to them, it does not mean I share their views - it means I want to know why. Bad example, but the only one I can think of given the 30 seconds available to me. As for addiction - 2 words 'rat park'. love your work
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sex addiction is a very real problem. No different to substance addiction, gambling addiction, etc No, not all people are addicted to sex. Sex addicted people effectively use sex to regulate their emotions. To borrow a definition from Jon Marsh, the godfather of sex addiction "a continuing pattern of unwanted compulsive sexual behavior that has had a negative impact on an individual's personal, social and/or economic standing" Most people will say 'i'm not addicted I just love sex more than the next person'. And then that person has a history of compulsive sexual behaviour which negatively impacts their own ability to enter into and maintain relationships, or their own emotional state is dependent on whether they are engaging in sex, then it's not just a love of sex. Sex addiction is not just about the act of having sex.......it also includes fantasy, ruminating, masturbating......any sexual behaviour I have had porn and sex addiction
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RHP User
9 years ago
Rat park .. reminds me of a TedTalk "Johann Hari: Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong" His line "Opposite of addiction isn't sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection."
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RHP User
9 years ago
No.. Wouldn't even know where to go to get help. mrs pleasure_sor enjoys my attention and desire for sex, but also knows that she doesn't have the same drive as me.. So has given her blessing to play with others, as long as it's not with anyone we know personally. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for that,I just watched it..I love his line..we have more floor space and fewer friends than in the 1950s..more Facebook friends,fewer real friends...any kind of addiction it seems to me,is about a disconnect xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meowcolm_X' As for addiction - 2 words 'rat park'. those findings are well known now, at least among people who study addiction and work with addicts. We know now that addiction isn't just a physical / brain chemical issue, there's usually a significant psychological / emotional aspect to it as well. People with lower psycho-emotional wellbeing are much more likely to become addicts, as they try to use the focus of their addiction to replace what's lacking in their life. That's why someone can be physically withdrawn from a drug, but they're very unlikely to stay clean long term if you don't address the root causes of why they are using in the first place.
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RHP User
9 years ago
All we have to do is give the sex addicts some friendship and connection. Who would have thought all you have to do to cure a sex addict is move them to the friends zone. LOL
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madotara69
9 years ago
We also now know that indigenous people are extremely vulnerable to addiction, never had it in the past so the brain is not developed to reckon with it. Mado Mado Tara xx
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madotara69
9 years ago
I'm Mado, have instant posting, I am a sex addict.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I know, and you know I love your posts. I said no offense because I realised my post was rather harsh. I just wanted you to know that wasn't aimed at you in the least. See you on the 29th of August x
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' We also now know that indigenous people are extremely vulnerable to addiction, never had it in the past so the brain is not developed to reckon with it. I don't know what point of mine you're begging to differ with, or what your comment is supposed to be refuting. I didn't say that there is no physical side to addiction. There is. But the psycho-emotional / psychosocial causes of addiction are also well known and need to be addressed if you're trying to treat someone, otherwise 9 times out of 10 you'll be pushing shit uphill. I have no idea if indigenous people are more physically vulnerable to addiction, they may be but I'd be wanting to read some proper research on it. It's not like caucasian people's brains are well developed to cope with it either. It is certain that the psychosocial causes for addiction play a huge role for indigenous people due to things such as poorer access to education, employment, decent housing and health services, intergenerational trauma, loss of important connections to land and family, and poorer physical and mental health. All of these things create psychological, emotional, and social deficits that often cause people to turn to alcohol, drugs, etc as a way of escaping their problems and trying to fill the void.
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madotara69
9 years ago
You'd probably be board out of your noggin :p So that's just life and the way the world has become, wealth, ownership, title and fame, all addictive traits. What about tobacco? people become addicted because of psychobable-able-dable? Dogs licking the backs of cane toads? Apparently anyone who spends more than an hour a day with online entertainment are screen addicts? Sherlock Homes? And while we are shouting. "I'm gonna trade this lifeFor fortune and fame I'd even cut my hair And change my name'Cause we all just wanna be big rockstars And live in hilltop houses, drivin' fifteen cars The girls come easy and the drugs come cheap We'll all stay skinny 'cause we just won't eatAnd we'll hang out in the coolest bars In the VIP with the movie stars Every good gold digger's gonna wind up there Every Playboy bunny with her bleach blond hairAnd well, hey, hey, I wanna be a rockstar Hey, hey, I wanna be a rockstar
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think I am addicted I can't stop thinking about it all day and it runs my life I want it all day - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We have a proneness to pathologise everything in the western world. We need to formulate more accepted/wholesome models of healthy promiscuity rather than say this or that person has a compulsion or issue. It is interesting to note that those that often claim to be, 'Sex Addicts' are simply dishonest cheaters...they need a defense to justify their behaviour.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Seeing a British Doco about two guys addicted to wanking. One couldnt even go to the shops without having one in the public toilets. I think one of the guys was having 15 a day. Youtube....I Cant Stop Masturbating (2007). Its a real problem, and it was quite sad watching the younger guy getting desperate for help.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' We also now know that indigenous people are extremely vulnerable to addiction, never had it in the past MadoMado Tara xx I wonder when the penny will drop
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' You'd probably be board out of your noggin :p I have plenty of other things to do, and it's these conversations that tend to bore me. I'm still not really sure what point/s of mine you're disagreeing with. But whatever it is it's probably safe to assume that we are going to continue to disagree and we can just leave it at that.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'pleasure_sor' No.. Wouldn't even know where to go to get help. Quoting 'I_touch_myself' and yes Quoting 'tj7777'I think I am addicted I can't stop thinking about it all day and it runs my life I want it all day I'm finding it a lot trickier to find help in WA than I thought, which is disappointing. In WA I see there are counselors in Cottesloe and Perth, not too far away from you? There is a national sex addiction helpline, check out the website sexualhealthaustralia dot com. Not cheap though unfortunately. ITM and tj7777, don't know if you're looking for help or you were being facetious (can't really tell), but I saw you're both in WA, so I hope this is of help if you were serious. Lifeline doesn't mention sex addiction specifically, though they do deal with addictions in general. At the least they might be able to refer you to the right service. Hope this helps.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'veganman2015' We have a proneness to pathologise everything in the western world. We need to formulate more accepted/wholesome models of healthy promiscuity rather than say this or that person has a compulsion or issue. It is interesting to note that those that often claim to be, 'Sex Addicts' are simply dishonest cheaters...they need a defense to justify their behaviour. Though sex addiction is often used as an excuse for bad behaviour, let's please remember that it's much more than a compulsion to have sex all day.Making promiscuity more acceptable may result in less people misusing the diagnoses of being a sex addict, though I don't believe it will reduce the number of actual addicts. That's like saying someone addicted to gambling has a compulsion, rather than viewing gambling dependence as the serious condition (and illness in the view of many) it really is.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'pleasure_sor' My addiction to sex unfortunately effects so many parts of my life... It causes me to do things I would never usually do. - Posted from rhpmobile Have a look at a great online resource and community called Recovery Nation - It's devoted to recovery from Sex, porn and love addiction. There is also a comprehensive workshop to help you recover but it's a tough program. Even if you don't do the workshop you will find the best information anywhere on sex addiction.recoverynation.com
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madotara69
9 years ago
If I said I disagree, I would have said so LD, beg to differ is a different thing. If you are planning to become an addiction councillor then one would imagine this would have you intrigued. A live case fruit loop with an addictive nature. So I was advised as to addiction by a Professional. "If you are going to a party at the end of the week, just don't think about 'it' until the night of the party". There, I'll pass that on for free.
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