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Are you brave enough?
January 10 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
And usually am not the one who initiates contact but I do empathise with the hundreds of single guys who are here searching. Remember not to take it personally and keep looking. Every rejection is one closer to finding the right one ๐ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mr_MrsAraps
9 years ago
Everyone has the right to date whoever they please and reject anyone for any reason they want. It's not up to you. If your mindset is this is the one I want and then find yourself not being able to get over the rejection then I think you need to have a good hard look at yourself and your mindset .....
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RHP User
9 years ago
From what I've seen she has a fabulous bod, always makes well considered comment and rarely has a bad word or negative thoughts about anyone, I just get this incredible sexy vibe from her and I know she has a beautiful soul. My little heart leaps when I see she has left a comment somewhere.But alas I'm a humble guest and she is on the other side of the country. It may sound like I'm pining in frustration but I'm good with it, actually Im lovinit.Another time and place maybe.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Never happened to me. But I'm thinking you are setting yourself up for a world of "No" and rejections with your profile set up the way it is. Lofs of Ask me's and no photos. I know you weren't asking for a profile review but the question puts it right in the sights and hints that the OP has experienced it......and often
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RHP User
9 years ago
to search through so many profiles and find the one that really interests you and the one that you really want ... then why have you not taken the time to make your own profile interesting enough for "the one that you want" to be interested in you? I know that in your own mind you must be awesome but we mere mortals are not mind readers ... your profile is not completed and says very little about you. Just saying, I can understand why you are receiving rejections. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' The OP isn't new and has had a good profile with great pics before. And where does he say he's talking about himself? He's probably some uni student doing resea... Oh, I kid, I kid! He's real, genuine, polite, and very charming. Why play games about identity? Its only a forum for asking questions and voicing opinions.
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' The OP isn't new and has had a good profile with great pics before. And where does he say he's talking about himself? He's probably some uni student doing resea... Oh, I kid, I kid! He's real, genuine, polite, and very charming. Just lol. Good one SS. And if it is who I think it is, I have always enjoyed his posts... haven't laid eyes or hands on him, but he is always good for a read. To answer the OP, no I haven't been in that position. There are profiles I have read (note - I read to make a decision, not look at pretty pictures) and have been interested to talk to them further, but none that I have had the reaction of 'this is the one I want'.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Why do you feel the need to jump in here and explain OPs situation.... this is his topic and he is capable of speaking for himself, isn't he? Anyway you always like to have the last word so please feel free.... here is your stage! LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't think we've cried any tears over rejection here...if we did we may drown lol. Not much you can do except pick up your lip and keep on moving. Though in saying that it does get disheartening after a while. I don't think we'll be renewing our membership as it quite simply isn't worth the money spent for so little return in my opinion. Until then we'll keep on keeping on. Not much else for it. Mr_3some.
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I have to say this hasn't really happened to me quite like this. There have been a couple of profiles I stumbled across, and found them fascinating and quite attractive. In both cases, we exchanged some messages, and with one of them we managed to organise to meet up for a drink. I still think that, in both of these cases, the guy could have been someone with whom I could have developed a great friendship with, but it didn't go any further than that for a number of reasons. I'm not devastated - I didn't know them well enough to be that emotionally invested.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I then set up multiple accounts with different pics / profile description to see what type of guy she was into, finally made one she responded to, set up a date and met her.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm just here to watch from the peanut gallery :) carry on...
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RHP User
9 years ago
of brain activity, an MRI image would entice
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Pretty much comes down to stalking........ And when she met this made up person was she aghast that it was only you. Clarke Kent and not superman?
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Go get us some beers. I have the chips.......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Surely you jest?
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RHP User
9 years ago
For me the 'want' requires a lil more than a profile. My interest can be piqued by a profile, but the 'one I want' needs much more than that. And that can only be ascertained through conversation, in all it's forms. If nothing of substance has been invested, I'm easily enough distracted by something else or happy to mosey on along in my befuddling manner.
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RHP User
9 years ago
That's hilarious ๐ so what happened, you can't leave us hanging ๐
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RHP User
9 years ago
In my view "the one" wont say no! I very rarely contact any profile and certainly don't think I could decide that someone is "the one" without meeting at a minimum. And to fixate on attracting someone with a variety of profiles and wording changes is bordering on stalking and I would not do it. But that said I also would like to hear the result from Deepest Purple and his attracting process. I have had several profiles contact me on another site that turned out to be stalking by an X and don't like it. Honesty is a must for me and only change my profile if I feel it is more accurate by doing so. As for those that do get hurt by over building expectations, build a bridge and get over it. Cant always have what you want in life, or I would have Uluru in the back yard rockery beside the Taj Mahal to complement gnomes (there understated atm).Just my view.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' That's hilarious ๐ so what happened, you can't leave us hanging ๐ When I got there I saw that all her pics were taken from her good angles so I gave her a lecture about wasting people's time and left.
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LittleGiant
9 years ago
Quoting 'deepestpurple' I then set up multiple accounts with different pics / profile description to see what type of guy she was into, finally made one she responded to, set up a date and met her. Really? I find this a little creepy to be honest, and if someone I'd met had admitted to doing this, I would seriously second guess whether I wanted to catch up again. That's a bit borderline obsessive. Back to the topic though, I've seen people that seemed perfect on paper besides location issues. There was only one female that I was super keen to meet when previously on here with an ex and she replied with a no. I was very disappointed but what can you do besides move on? Well, I guess you could do what DeepestPurple did, but I know I certainly wouldn't.... Miss Littlexx
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inspirit
9 years ago
Overthinking? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hello Yes this happens to me regularly- and it hurts. Every time a little bit of your self esteem gets eaten away. When it happens too many times you take a break and return when you rebuild yourself ready to be rejected again. Best regards, Betty
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RHP User
9 years ago
Shit, wasn't me was it? ๐๐๐ Nah never got that reaction ๐ so have I hit on you? If not, why not? Haha no don't answer that if I was a dud root, only if I was the best you've ever had ๐๐
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sweetgem
9 years ago
I do not need to be brave for taking a "no" as an answer/reply because, I do not think that I am everyone's cup of tea as I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Therefore, I only need to be realistic and expect nothing in return when I make a contact with a man. Hence, I can take "no" for an answer and always move on after I got the message. But I have zero tolerance for offensive reply where the other party has not only said no, but has also insulted me that I look like a panda, as his reason! That kind of behaviour is absolutely rude and an uneducated manners! So, to answer your question OP.......no, there haven't any profiles that screamed at me like the way you described. And as a realistic person, it is never difficult for me to receive a rejection from the other party. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I saw that ๐๐ That's so beautiful โบ Does she know you feel this way, do I hear wedding bells ๐
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' Going by your previous posts I'm gonna say you're trolling us. At least I hope so. I was trolling, I never did that. I have considered it but have yet to find a profile that I wanted so bad that it triggered me into deranged stalker mode. Little Miss Rabbit probably had me close though ;) For the record this is my true and correct answer to the OP, as posted in a earlier thread last year (person involved is not Little Miss Rabbit btw): I saw someone who I have interacted with online in the past and it always peters out I assume due to lack of interest on her behalf. I should just take the hint but I am blinded by the massive crush that I have on her so I try again lol. She replies to my one line, copy/paste joke approach that I use sometimes with a response that heavily implied that I am a "big dick" which could have actually been her sense of humour (it was funny) and not an attack on me personally. I took it personally, replied that I have only ever been polite and respectful to her and heavily implied myself that I think she is a "massive bitch". Then I blocked her. It was a heat of the moment post rejection dummy spit that I regret and wouldn't repeat if I could do over again. But I can still find it funny and laugh at myself about it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Shit, wasn't me was it? ๐๐๐ Nah never got that reaction ๐ so have I hit on you? If not, why not? Haha no don't answer that if I was a dud root, only if I was the best you've ever had ๐๐ I have hit on you in the past but it was during your cautious phase so I didn't push things and it went nowhere. We have never met although I suspect I have seen you at the beach once or twice.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I saw that ๐๐ That's so beautiful โบ Does she know you feel this way, do I hear wedding bells ๐ maybe but probably not, and NO.
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RHP User
9 years ago
There are plenty of women I have approached on here that I have liked to get with and many have rejected me. I just don't take it personally and I move on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You have a great profile..profile name is a bit scary๐จ๐จ๐จ๐จxxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' You have a great profile..profile name is a bit scary๐จ๐จ๐จ๐จxxFreya Googling what the major and minor products are when 1-bromo-2-propene reacts with potassium tert-butoxide?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Er..Why? XxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' Er..Why? XxFreya Apparently it's quite a popular thing to do on Friday nights.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'deepestpurple' Quoting 'Freya70' You have a great profile..profile name is a bit scary๐จ๐จ๐จ๐จxxFreya Googling what the major and minor products are when 1-bromo-2-propene reacts with potassium tert-butoxide? The hoffman product? I prefer partying like a rock star while wearing my special cologne that ladies can't resist. It's called Sex Panther by Odeon. It's illegal in nine countries, and it's made with bits of real panther, so you know it's good.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Now I am just gonna have to find something else to do tomorrow night. ๐XxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Once or twice you saw me at the beach? God, hope I wasn't having a fat day lol i'm a big perv, was I perving at you? ๐๐๐ and I said not to answer unless I was the best you'd had ๐ if you'd spoken to me at the beach, I might have been the best you'd had, in the dunes at least ๐
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha dammit I was hoping you'd ask me to be best man ๐ shit now they'll all be rushing to check my profile to check gender lol i'm a girl, last time I checked I had a pussy. Hang on, i'll just check again, I might be a while, and if I were a guy, i'd be a lot longer. Imagine the fun I could have there ๐ I'd be sucking myself off all day ๐๐
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RHP User
9 years ago
Definitely a scratch and sniff candidate๐xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' Google: "10 Top Online Dating Profile Examples & Why Theyโre Successfull". There are a lot of panthers made into cologne out there. :'( I recognised quite a few lines used in profiles on here. Using the whole thing is really the epitome of lazy. Plus, all of those profiles sound like they're made by pretentious twits
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was a bit harsh. Using the template profiles is the epitome of lazy. At least taking a profile off the web requires some googling, reading, cutting and pasting
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LittleGiant
9 years ago
Quoting 'deepestpurple' Quoting 'Summer_solstice' Going by your previous posts I'm gonna say you're trolling us. At least I hope so. I was trolling, I never did that. I have considered it but have yet to find a profile that I wanted so bad that it triggered me into deranged stalker mode. Little Miss Rabbit probably had me close though ;) Subtle. The sad thing is, while you might have been trolling, I know others have done the whole multiple profile thing for similar reasons before and been caught out.
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RHP User
9 years ago
my hand rejected me once
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' I was a bit harsh. Using the template profiles is the epitome of lazy. At least taking a profile off the web requires some googling, reading, cutting and pasting given the username, I was really disappointed it was just copied off the web and wasn't a real reaction to create Condy's crystals, or some other purple precipitate.
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RHP User
9 years ago
to respond to the OP's original question - I've had plenty of 'wowser!' moments as I've flicked through profile pics. It was in the early days of using the site, that I thought it would be easy then to 'hook up', and got a bit downhearted when it wasn't easy. Time and experience shows it's just as challenging to find someone who responds well to you as it would be in any face-to-face situation... and I reckon that's as it should be. There are plenty of people who's profiles don't attract me, why shouldn't that be the same for anyone I might approach? I'm happy that I've met enough wonderful people from the site to keep getting in touch with new ones too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I, like everyone i am sure, have particular physical attributes that i am attracted to more than others. The first week i was on Rhp I saw a profile, and it ticked every box..... Body shape....tick, Eyes......tick Height.......tick Hair colour and style......tick Complection........tick Smile.......tick Age........tick Even her 'about me' blurb looked good Unfortunately, on reading what she was looking for, it just wasn't me. That said, i still sent her a message letting her know that in my opinion at least. ..she was bordering on being a goddess....and although i didnt meet her profile criteria if she ever wanted to, I would love to go for a coffee sometime. Obviously she never responded. But i am content in knowing that she exists and hope that she gets everything her heart desires. Now...all of that said. ...i am not shallow enough to believe that she was the girl of my dreams.....i need to actually know someone before i can answer that question. But in relation to what this topic is asking, she was it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
So interesting reading things that normally go unsaid x
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