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Are you for real?
April 05 2015
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Hottie1
10 years ago
I, like you, go well out of my way to be 'meet ready'. My recent disaster, meeting at Brunettis in Lyon street scheduled for coffee, I was returning from a camp and detoured out of my way for a 45 minute drive. I believe he did show but didn't like what he saw even though he had profile face shots as recent as a month ago, of me. I rang his mobile, even left a message but he didn't 'man up'. He did get a vitriolic message from me but really, I'd suggest water off a ducks back for him. I'm seriously becoming quite reticent about meeting 'single men'. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
but you move on - their loss really!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
The really dirty man...he turned up for coffee covered in black bitumen,dressed in his work gear and he hadn't even washed his face or hands...the man who was dressed in a suit in his profile pic but was dressed in dirty miss matched shorts and tee shirt and was a.most completely toothless...a number of men who were clearly 10 to 20 years older than their profile pics...and the saddest was a man who had been a published well travelled botanist but when we met he had sustained a severe brain injury and was living in supported living.. And then there are the myriad excuses..the worst being ,"my best friend was killed in a car accident and I have to look after his family"...months later he contacted me again but had forgotten our previous interaction and denied he had said such a thing...why do people lie,not turn up,misrepresent themselves...It can only ever work when timing meets inclination in my opinion,but if you need to cancel just say I am sorry I just can't make it ,not the equivalent of my budgie died xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
SingleLilly....I can assure you not all guys are the same, I wouldn't dream of a meet up looking like last weeks newspaper and smelling like an over ripe pair of thongs,, You have a point though, everybody hates a no show, I only recently booked a hotel room in the city for a weekend meet up, we'd met a few times prior to that, so not like it was a blind date or something and she no showed.... Great If it's a genuine reason fine, but ring ahead and advise after all it's only manners... Maybe the site should operate some kind of a "strike"section for No Shows, for all the groups, that'll weed out the good from the bad. Now there's a topic for discussion..... Anyway like polys said....move on - their loss !!
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RHP User
10 years ago
No dirty guys here, but maybe's it's because I'm in the middle of a big city? I'd be out the door though if a guy turned up dirty, as I'd find it utterly disrespectful. (Not counting paint residue etc. that's hard to get off.) I don't think anyone's cancelled on me, but when meeting men with a male lover there have been a few no shows. The worst: a guy who stood us up, ten told us (a week later!) he'd suddenly had to fly to Melbourne as he had heard his nan died while he was on his way to meet us. He said he'd been so caught up kin everything he'd been unable to get in touch. Unfortunately for him I continually saw him log in to RHP, and was happy to let him know. Crickets after that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I had a guy who was sending loads of pics of him in a suit. When he showed up he was wearing stubbies and thongs. He resembled Norm from the life be in it adds rather than his Mr grey pics. He thought it was funny. Mmm no!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've only ever had 2 men who have cancelled at short notice with crazy, unbelievable excuses so I let them know how and why I knew their excuses were fake.I figure I can always use the spare time to go for a walk or something else useful if my date doesn't show up.....always have a plan B. As for men arriving at dates looking dirty, dishevelled and not at all like their photos and profiles - yes, there have been 3 or 4 of those and I agree with Meander, it is utterly disrespectful not to mention lazy. I put a great deal of effort into getting ready for dates and expect the same from the gents. Most people take pride in their appearance though and realise that if they don't, they are simply giving themselves a bad name. Credit to my latest date who was cute, clean and arrived with the most beautiful smile on his face.
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RHP User
10 years ago
wow death to get out of a date thats just crazy and who shows up dirty how hard is to shower brush your teeth and smell good. I may not dress up so to speak as it makes me feel awkward as i'm pretty casual guy but i still make sure my jeans and t have been freshly washed and ironed. My shoes don't have dirt all over them / other peoples split drinks over them from the weekend before. there have been a few dates i have gone and the other person did not look like there profile pic i just laughed it of in my mind try to enjoyed the time spent. then to let them know after the date when we both have had time to think that i was not interested really not thats hard. only plus side to this for me is the guy that pull the death card or don't wash are making me look good cheers guys.
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RHP User
10 years ago
So i just looked over your profile i don't understand why anyone would stand you up. You come across as someone who is confident within yourself and a open mind with a caring nature. i understand the whole 2 hours pre time then having someone stand you up would suck but i would not let it go to waste head out anyways. Im sure there are many of guys who would love to chat to you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
after a few disasters in a row I have been seeing one guy on a regular basis Last weekend he took me to dinner and the theatre, a lovely treat and I felt very lucky and spoilt. Ive really starting to getting into this guy and was very impressed that he took me to see a show which was not a cheap night out. During interval, he went outside to get us both drinks etc and when he came back in and sat down, he went to turn his phone off for the second act, when I noticed his RHP open screen come up on the phone ( I couldn't help but see it in the dark). After the show ended and we were heading for coffee, I did ask him, had he been on here when he went outside and got us drinks. He replied "Yes" he had been replying to his messages. At least he didn't lie. Time and place folks. Sorry but in my book, tacky action. You don't take a lady out on a date (and it was a terrific date) and be messaging others while doing so. Not into me ? fine but guess what ? I'm no longer into you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I hope you had a yummy cake while waiting (how on earth did he spot in you in their notorious crowds ?) And I'm somewhat addicted to the bookshop across the way His loss, tosser
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quite a few call in sick. Left wondering if they had their boss's number mixed up with mine. And wondering if they turned at the boss's house looking for a root....
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Guys who perform manual work get dirty at work. Since they work 40-60hours of their week sometimes their entire lives naturally being in a dirty state becomes normal. Meeting a lady in that state entirly a different circumstance. One can never change a first impression. Sad really majority are probably salt of the earth type guys - unaware though that not everyone wants excess salt for dinner. Proper preparation presentation prevents piss poor performance.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My first two meets I ever arranged on RHP were no shows by the same person and he had my number but did not let me know he wasn't coming. The first reason was "family issues". I didn't give him a chance to explain the second time. I went home, blocked him then moved on. All arranged meets since have been successful and mostly enjoyable.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Tuscan put up an OP some time ago..Do men need help..I tend to think in the case of prepairing to meet women it's a big yes from me..obviously not all men..but if they can't make the effort in terms of their appearance then it kinda says they haven't a clue...xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Showered, nicely dressed and a smile on their face. And Ive said this before, most guys Ive met look far better in real life. I think women are a bit more particular about choosing their profile pics?
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Screening. Most people in here seem soooooo eager to meet someone.... anyone... wight he view that meeting = root.... that they forget to properly screen people to see if theyre properly suitable first. Not directing this at you, OP.....but the messages I've seen... where they propose to meet, or shag you (where typically, you wont be disappointed!), and/or give phone numbers.... without even having as much as a chat first..... makes me shake my head.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry to hear this is happening to you Miss Lilly but if I were given a dollar for all the times female friends have said something similar I would be a very rich man. Therefore I tend to think at times it is the women that need to be more aware of the type of guys they are talking to or hooking up with. And perhaps the men should be sharing experiences to teach some females a bit of awareness. Just thought I'd throw this one in as I get a little sad seeing these kind of posts at times as they do not reflect at all the kind of guy I am. Hope things get better on that front for you Lilly
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Friday afternoon at 2.00 pm, it wasn't too crowded at all. I told him I'd be in sports gear, did travel from a year 7 camp to meet him. Clean, showered, and in my hot as sports gear, highlighting my boobs in a singlet and curvy arse in my sports pants, which he knew I'd be wearing. He had recent photos, he knew exactly what I looked like 😟 And to think I said no to a gentleman who paid for my coffee because apparently ' a beautiful woman sitting on her own shouldn't pay for her coffee'! I think he felt sorry for the loser on her own lol! PS: I have those same panties, but mine are crotchless! Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've never had that experience. I do tend to get a good feel for someone via messaging and phone calls before agreeing to meet though, so I think that helps? I'm also fairly intolerant of bad manners. If someone has discussed meeting with me but can't be bothered to confirm or get back to me about the details until the last minute then I don't go ahead and meet them. I think it's a sad reflection of today's social media/online dating/texting/flakey culture that many people can't commit to anything anymore. I find it significantly worse in people under 30 hence my strict adherence to my age bracket. Personally I'd rather stay home with a good book than meet someone who doesn't show me basic courtesy and respect.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Or just a hypocrite who can't score ? If I wasn't sick in bed I'd get some beer in, nothing like a good man bash. C'mon kick, scratch and eye gauge give us your worst. We're all filthy scum and deserve everything we get. I
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Seachange
10 years ago
Sorry to hear that experience. that sucks. But we will have them, if not now, maybe later. But truly sorry to hear. Their f&@xx$g loss I say. I have not been stood up before in terms of them not showing up per se. But I can imagine it is demoralizing and a reason why some women are becoming jaded as we do put in a lot of effort to dress up and 'pretty up' for the date. We only have one chance to a first impression, like in an job interview. There was one young guy, 29yo, earlier on in my tenure here in rhp, when cancelled a couple of hours before meeting me for drinks with a small meet and greet with a few RHPmembers last year. It was just drinks but the Perth gentleman organized it in a hotel room so it made the guy nervous to think it will be an orgy. of course it wasn't going to be and it wasn't. He just chickened out and maybe for the better. It worked for me as I met some nice people from the forums there, and they were lovely. So it all evens out. Positives in a negative situation. I don't think too highly of these men who cancel last minute as it shows their lack of integrity and strength of personality - insecurity. Their loss really as we know we are good people and sexy hot! Lol. NEXT and ONWARDS and FORWARDS we say as we sashay towards the horizon.. Hope to meet you at the Melb Meet and Greet. P.s. the cakes at Brunetti's are to die for. A family friend used to be a patisserie chef there. We always teased his wife as she remained slim.... Must be his 'Cannoli'. hehe
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe they think.."If you can like me at my worst then you will surely love me at my best." Personally on a date, and depending on the what, I would not dream of going as an unwashed dirty clothed bum.. Yet that said as I had more and more dates, when i first joined this site, I started to become less and less enthusiastic about the dates and my presentation and the amount of effort moved from dress to impress to dress to go out. There is a big difference.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' There was one young guy, 29yo, earlier on in my tenure here in rhp, when cancelled a couple of hours before meeting me for drinks with a small meet and greet with a few RHPmembers last year. It was just drinks but the Perth gentleman organized it in a hotel room so it made the guy nervous to think it will be an orgy. of course it wasn't going to be and it wasn't. He just chickened out and maybe for the better. It worked for me as I met some nice people from the forums there, and they were lovely. So it all evens out. Positives in a negative situation. I don't think too highly of these men who cancel last minute as it shows their lack of integrity and strength of personality - insecurity. I wouldn't be turning up to a meet and greet in a hotel room either, if I'd never met any of the attendees previously. Seems a bit of an odd choice of location. Yeah ideally he should've just said no straight out initially but still, I wouldn't be judging that particular guy as lacking integrity or having a weak personality just based on that scenario.
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RHP User
10 years ago
were when four years ago I ventured into Internet "dating"..but sometimes even after all the screening blah blah it doesn't go well..because its not until you actual meet someone you know if there is at least a possibility of connection xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Since being on RHP, I have gone for a coffee date 5 times. Date 1 was waaayyy older than his pic. Date 2 was waaayyy too interested in my 15yr old daughters sex life, just friggin' gross...Date 3 Beautiful :) and has become a good friend Date 4 lovely man but no chemistry Date 5 umm...yeah but no but...half way through a sentence, lurches across table for a fumbled (and unwanted) kiss...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Jaycee. You have all the luck! :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are very welcome to come over and share :)
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6exxy
10 years ago
Yes women are not the only ones this happen to. People may have some insecurities or just simply become uncomfortable. It happened to me this weekend. It does not mean they are a bad person. Obviously you have had some losers but keep the faith. I spoke with my no show and I'm sure we will meet another time. Perhaps a little more screening may be in order? Either way I hope it all works out for you 😘 Good Luck ✌️ Ps love the lace shoe😉 and profile pics!
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are a lot of fake people here, male and female. The amount of well-known instagram girls from USA I see here as a profile are also concerning. However, it is also likely that they didn't have the courage to follow through with it or didn't like what they saw when they arrived there. Some girls look really different on photos than in person :/ Very unlikely. Your profile is awesome tho, and you have very cute feet. I think you just have to choose a little bit better and identify the ones that are just talking shit (and the ones that shower). I know that when we are horny (here), we seem to bypass some red flags that would ultimately warn us of some potential disappointment. I do prepare for a date as I would for a girl I like for ages. It is the same principle, she has to want to eat me, so taste and smell are paramount :p You should't take it personally. It's rarely about you and more about their insecurities. Bu don't give up please. Don't let the jerk team ruin for everyone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't believe someone would let you down i wouldn't and i would be clean when i get there but your all the way in WA and i'm in VIC : ( i hope your luck turns around and you find someone decent on here . - Posted from rhpmobile
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NewHorizons6376
10 years ago
Ah the 6 "P" rule SensualAries - Posted from rhpmobile
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Forus1234
10 years ago
We've only ever had 1 no show, we had a feeling this would happen, so we invited our guest, straight up to our apartment & asked our guest to text 20 mins before arrival, this saved Mrs Forus wasting her time putting on her sexy lingerie for some loser who probably had already got off on our photos. If they were keen they would turn up & it also solves the problem if they didn't want to be seen in public view, then there is no excuses. Some say it's risky, but between the both of us, I'm sure we could show the person the door if they were a bit dodgy. We now release pics once an interest is sparked, once viewed we retract them until after the meet up. If there is alot of filthy texting prior to the meet up, they probably have already had their excitement from the texting, it's a pretty good sign. A person with manners won't go on with all the filth. We like the sexy texting once we have met & played!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you just kidding or is it true that they aren't take effort in being healthy and hygienic... Should be normal for both, doesn't matter if male or female! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Naaaaa not me aperance is everything if you don't respect your self in how you look or feel how do you expect that person to ever respect you ?? You clearly shooting for the wrong men maybe go for younger 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Most sound justified.....But the merry goes round - was on a vanilla site.... Date 1 stunning Body long brunette hair - financially inept and liked to pick ear wax at the dinner table! Date 2. Again lovely Bod short bobbed stylish hair well presented - kept referring to her Ex over and again, RHP Date 1 - bingo - nice lady well spoken - down to earth - and a great bed buddy still.., Date 2 - again jackpot - a nice lady tall brunette swinger with hubby - loads of fun 😇... Can't be all screening.......face to face mannerisms impossible to quantify via a website. And it's not just the Gents.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its a two way street ladies... While i and id say many men on here make sure we look the part and try to impress (as they say first impressions count) there seems to be a few who drop the ball. We all know there's women who do the same thing. And that counts for the ones who go to a little effort, or a lot (and believe me, its appreciated, thanks) and those who do not. I've met a couple who have looked, well lets just say not quite like their profile and had last minute cancels. What can you do? Im sure we all deal with it...male and female.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Or just a hypocrite who can't score ? If I wasn't sick in bed I'd get some beer in, nothing like a good man bash. C'mon kick, scratch and eye gauge give us your worst. We're all filthy scum and deserve everything we get. I Come on 50zcool. I do remember a man who started a thread a few years ago about women turning up in trackies and thongs, dirty hair and smoked and swore alot. Women that turn up late, women who have used their daughter's photo as their profile picture, etc, etc, So it goes both ways.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Or just a hypocrite who can't score ? If I wasn't sick in bed I'd get some beer in, nothing like a good man bash. C'mon kick, scratch and eye gauge give us your worst. We're all filthy scum and deserve everything we get. I Come on 50zcool. I do remember a man who started a thread a few years ago about women turning up in trackies and thongs, dirty hair and smoked and swore alot. Women that turn up late, women who have used their daughter's photo as their profile picture, etc, etc, So it goes both ways.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Feel better soon 50z.And get your happy on xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have to say that we have never had a guy turn up scruffy or dirty But..... It is really hard getting guys to commit to a meeting first before we play !!!!!! They are all full on and set dates then the day before make excuses How do you get a guy to commit and actually turn up to that first drink ?????
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yeah we have been stood up a number of times. It is quite irritating, especially when there is no contact at all to advise or explain. Apparently it isn't just the guys who do it, ladies and couple do also, but we haven't personally experienced this.
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wetrynplease
10 years ago
We have been stood up seven times. It is so frustrating as we live in the Pilbara WA and only make it to the major cities a handful of times a year. We provide recent pics, we are not butt ugly, we show our itineries and schedule rendezvous, then you guessed it, no show. After close to five years on this site we have only ever met one couple and thy were nothing like their profile. Our experience has been a hoax but luckily for our regulars ;) mmmwah - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I been stood up more times than i care to remember. From this and other site's I just take it with a grain of salt. No im excited to get a view on my profile. Im self employed so time can be a bit crazy. I did get a coffee request out of the blue i was free and in the area. I did tell her i was in my work gear. Still clean and tidy. And apologized for that and gave her a dozen colouring in pencils. She was a primary school teacher . But youre right a little effort is nice from both parties. I feel most people now are just wondow shopping and want to feel wanted still. But then again . What would i know . :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been let down a few times by a couple of women wanting to meet the having excuses at last minute, reschedule and then do it again - politely tell them to go waste someone else's time. Couple I've met I didn't recognise them their photos were completely different. It makes me wonder why some are here they don't seem to have any intention of meeting just like to play games I suppose.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have a theory that people, male and female, become a little addicted to sites such as this. It may seem to some like Willy Wonka's Phasmagorical Chocky Factory with succulent wares on display and all free!! People are always searching for the "next good thing". It is why I am particular about details...if a lovely lad is not adding up (and I understand and respect privacy and discretion), then I will walk away. There is no need to waste anyone's time. And a no-show? Well, that is a dog act.
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Hottie1
10 years ago
I'd consider myself an astute woman. With my failed date I'd did everything I considered right. Email chat, phone chat, planned time and date, continued communication. I'm not sure I could have done anything else to safeguard myself against a 'no show'. How could freya or the others on here safeguard against people turning up like slobs? This isn't an attack on men from me, I've met incredible men and women on here. What astounds me for both sexes is the belief that you don't have to put in effort for a date or that they treat people with such disregard! I love dressing up for dates because in my day to day job I can't dress that sexy but I'd don't expect people to dress up like I do: I do however expect clean, neat casual and that is all I have ever received. If they turned up looking like slobs, I would leave! The pity here is there are such common sense suggestions here on this forum but the people who need to read them probably aren't even on the forums ;) Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is not only men...I know...I have cancelled at last minute too. I did phone to let him know, but still...And just because it was for a chat about photos and not a date, doesn't make me feel better for having to do it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ive not had anyone cancel on me before but I have cancelled on them. Sometimes it just doesn't feel right, or they say something that puts me off. I screen them all thoroughly before meeting. I have a set checklist of questions I ask, if they won't give their number then there's something clearly wrong. I'm extremely cautious as I've had 3 stalkers from this site which had put me off for a little while. In saying that, I do love a man in dirty work clothes....but only after we have already met. My FWB comes over after work and has to shower at mine because he doesn't have time after work/catching the boat back. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Great post. As a guy I really appreciate when a woman goes to a bit of trouble prior to meeting. I work in a trade and often coffee meets are during work days. Before I meet, I do say to the person "Hey I will be in my work clothes" It's the least that I can do. I try to smell nice, have clean teeth etc. As for standing people up, I really just don't get that. Do people get off on knowing that another person is going to a lot of effort to meet you then not showing. To me that's rude, cowardly and well just so wrong...... Of course I've been late, (got lost once) but I always try to let the other person know, it's just good manners......
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RHP User
10 years ago
That guys would feel that it's ok to show up like that. I mean, not to try and pull some sort of backhand compliment here - I dress casually, and am fortunate enough to have a workplace where I get to dress how I like (In summer - shorts, basketball singlet and bare feet is my standard), but for any situation where you're meeting someone new - be it for business or personal, have some goddamn respect for the other party and take even just 20 minutes of effort to shower, brush teeth and perform basic human hygiene. And AT LEAST a not-terrible t-shirt and jeans. For those dudes that do turn up looking like shit - I mean guys: at the VERY least it's in your best interest... you've gotten the woman to meet you, the least you can do for your potential sexy-time chances is to polish up just a little bit? Isn't that largely the point of this particular site?
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abcplus1
10 years ago
But we simply enjoyed dinner on our own and moved on with life. We have met auite a few ladies that really could have used a mirror before leaving the house.........
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RHP User
10 years ago
1st if all please don't paint us all with that same brush? I'm 46 but have 45 on my profile? I'm little ruff around the edges but I am the very person in the pics on my profile... Always attempt to dress nice yet natural to my style (NO false advertising here lol) I do use the f word if I hit my self with a hammer (bloody hurts) but never in normal conversations :) never use the c word (just don't use it) respect is my key and if I arrange a meet up I show up :) if things change just before hand I always make contact as soon as possible :) So please don't paint us all with that same brush...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do feel for ladies who have been stood up or guys rock up dirty..lack of respect all round. Punctuality is a must for me..never late..and always showered and dressed for the occasion. Having said that I recently booked a motel 70s ks away to meet a lady...drove there..only to wait then... she then rang and said she changed her mind !!!!!
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mexicans
10 years ago
I love people but , when men get bashed with bad manners , dress, conduct etc , especially from some ;ladies on this site , then i get pissed off cause they really think they the best thing after sliced bread . Guys and girls need to respect each other as equals . We experienced a couple with creased clothes and messy hair at the blue duck .They were late and we ordered lunch for us . They arrived so we cut lunch short as they did not order anything . When they saw we stopped eating , they asked if they could finish our lunch . So fair is fair and disappointment goes both ways . Like i said , i have seen some super opinionated ladies on this site posting forums and thinking they goddesses .People , lets show a bit more respect for each other ,this year.
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ajaussie
10 years ago
i would always like to meet the lady when I am well dressed and clean....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Both women and men are speaking from their experiences..nobody is man bashing we are just concurring with the OP..And some men have said their experiences with women have been similar xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have been stood up several times, suck is life. But the worst meet was a man from a vanilla site who arrived dressed in work gear plumbers crack and all, unkempt heair and smelling of diesel as he walked passed me, looked at me waiting outside the coffee shop, walked into the shop, ordered his coffee and sat down pulled out his phone and went to the site to check his messages. I had a plain view from where I was standing. Sad/glad to say, I was the one who walked away this time.
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Seachange
10 years ago
That is horrible for that woman not to show up considering the expense, time and effort you have invested in organising a hotel room you both agreed to. If there was a changed of mind maybe an early advice, if possible, would be good so you can get a refund on your hotel room. But then again if she showed up and changed her mind about playing, for whatever reason, and left on your own, you are in the same state of disappointment. Yes it happens to both sexes. I try to avoid that situation where hotel rooms are involved. I pick men who are able to host as I can as well. I don't rush to meet men as well. I screen them better now and always meet first before a play. Of course, sometimes despite extensive screening, due diligence, as you and Mary seem to have done, these things happen. Such is life. That just plain disappointing. . Their loss I say. Good luck to you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Fool I was, I should have seen the writing on the wall the first time, alas, I didn't. After the second time though I blocked her. And still she looks at my profile, or tries to, lmao. So that's my gripe for the day. Gee SingleLilly, you look delicious. I cannot believe that guys a) stand you up and b) turn up dressed as shit. I guess it goes to show that they had absolutely no respect for you and thought you just wanted to fuck them, no matter what they wore. You were saved girl, and it looks like quite a few times as well. There are good men on here, you just need to fine tune your bullshit filter a bit better. May I say that skyping before meeting would be an excellent way to screen a potential date. And here's the tip, if they won't skype, then they are only seeing you as someone to fuck once, if at all, if you get my drift. Any serious guy would only be to happy to skype with you. Btw, hot pics Spicy
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Seachange
10 years ago
I agree with freya. Both sexes have relayed their experiences so please read the the posts fr both women and Men. I am gkad the men have posted their experiences. Both se es are capable of good and bad deeds as in real life. No man bashing Here. We are equal opportunity bashers. ;-)
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mexicans
10 years ago
OP does state MEN in first and second paragraph . I do and did read from start to finish and am very impartial and non sexiest to most of my comments on here even if this is my first for the year . It is horrible when people dont make the effort . I am not implying that this is man bashing at all as i explain our disappointment was both male and female . Posts are great . Keeps mind boggling .
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
The same from women and couples in here.. hardly ever meet and if we do they end up being an older off their face dirty thing that cant put 2 words together. Even just recently i was told my local pub was too formal. . Its just a pub. . Its not out west where people get stabbed where im always asked to travel. Sorry but i have a bit of class. And also hygene goes a long way!! At least wash!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is music to my ears. I arrive showered, teeth brushed, moisturised, nails clipped and dressed in a collar at the very least. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been lucky with women I've actually met up with from here, they've been great people whose profiles and subsequent chats have been a good indicator of what they'd be like. The thing I find bizarre is the people who just vanish. You exchange a few messages, everything's going well, then suddenly radio silence. No response, no explanation. They're still constantly online, but are keeping their back turned. I recognise it's possible I'm just exceptionally boring, but a quick note to that effect isn't going to kill anyone. "Sorry Rick, you're exceptionally boring." See. That's not so hard, is it?
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Seachange
10 years ago
Now that is so nice to hear. Most men I have met are actually clean and showered. And uf.they are not I will tell them si snd walk iff. Like you, i make an effort to appear clean and attractive. Just a sign of respect to those I choose to meet. Makes me look more delectable and irresistible to them. While they are taking in all my beauty and bathing in my glory i shall bamboozle them with my wit and charming anecdotes. Then they are ready for the taking. My Modus operandi in world domination. . Wink wink.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I feel like I should shower before I go to the shops, admittedly it's in case I bump into someone sexy in the fruit and veg section but you'd have to have a pretty high opinion of your own b.o. to go on a date un-showered.
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RHP User
10 years ago
your profile looks great. You have it all goin on! His loss! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
...you obviously haven't messaged me or such things wouldn't happen. ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey Lilly...completely agree on the Brinettis call...amazing,....and superb coffee too...all meets should be there so at least there is the upside of some amazing pastries...:-)
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madotara69
10 years ago
Start off clean as a whistle. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences. It can be a hard thing to do. I am grateful for everything people have shared. I am fairly new to this site and appreciate learning from the experience of others here. Lilly.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Choose nice clothes, shower, shave and clean my teeth before I log on !
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nytewyng
10 years ago
SingleLilly, I can say that it's a shame there are 'men' out there like that. It's probably why they're single in the first place? There are some of us that were brought up the right way and know how to treat a lady and wouldn't leave you high n dry. Yeah, this is primarily a 'hookup' site, but guys should get with the program and show the ladies a bit more respect for their time and energy! Good luck with future meets! xox - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
10 years ago
You have pointed out something that made me think about 'these' men. And you have pointed out this is the reason they are single. So dear man, are you single? Your profile say you are.. so...does that mean.... ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Choose nice clothes, shower, shave and clean my teeth before I log on ! What? No anal douche! Come on your standards are slipping!
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nytewyng
10 years ago
cheeky!! :-P I am single, so in my profile i put single as opposed to .....? 😉 Sometimes life throws curveballs and perhaps I shouldn't have been so general. I haven't yet missed a coffee date, take pride in my appearance (without being vain) and am always 15min early. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I always believe you should dress and present how you want to see your date look. I like to take the time to dress to impress as I hope the woman does the same. I think it also shows how much respect the person has towards the other person and the meeting itself. The person shows no respect to the value of the meeting that's what your going to get from the experience. And folks don't think it's only a Male thing, I had a meeting with a young lady from Cabulture, when I meet her for an evening drink after work she turned up in old black leggings and a single top with her old bra hanging out the arm holes, did nothing for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We had arranged to meet out front of a well known café in Leederville. He said he was running a bit late. OK no problem I thought. Next txt I received was "sorry. I saw you standing there and as I was about to park when my daughter called that her car had broken down so I am off to rescue her".Huh! Not knowing how long he would be delayed I decided to avoid the cold by sitting in my car parked out back of the cafe, waiting for him to let me know he had arrived. When I replied that I was still in my car, his daughter had miraculously found her RAC membership and he could be back there in 5 mins! I think he's still waiting ... lolLG
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compressor
10 years ago
it is a real shame that men are doing that to ladies. I myself would feel lucky that I could meet a lady so would put the effort in and would not stand her up. not good enough
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well you must be meeting the wrong guys Singlelilly. But don't worry it's not just the guys, I wish I had a dollar for every couple that didn't turn up, weren't what they said they were or had photos of what they looked like 20 years ago. Shit we even met one couple who used someone else's photos on their profile.
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Warrior66
10 years ago
Some people think that just because you are on a site like this that sex is a forgone conclusion to a meet ( which as we know is not always the case) so they wrongly assume that all they have to do is show up. At the end of the day its their loss and a bullet dodged for you
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RHP User
10 years ago
We r all here to spend our portion of life without wasting on some1 disrespectful or a liar. U guys have to appreciate the experience u've got which Help newbies like me a lot to have plan B or not getting hurt by strangers after putting too much effort In reality we all try our best
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GalahadandGuin
10 years ago
We haven't experienced it much but in our opinion an alleged single man turning up in work gear or dishevelled is likely stepping outside his relationship and can't be seen dressing up for a date without giving the game away. It's not a long leap then to find he doesn't turn up for a date even when there's been reasonable interaction on line. A lot of cheaters like to think they can get away with it but come game time can't risk their primary secret relationship. Honesty with the proposed play date would go a long way to avoiding the animosity and time wasting.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd just like to take it further than the old 'thats terrible, how dare they do that to you.' Not that it's acceptable in any sense but let's remember that men, generally speaking, can and would go for goal whenever the oppurtunity arises, it's how we're wired. Whereas women, generally speaking, are more likely to turn it on if they are comfortable with the bloke, their own appearance, are emotionally content etc. So to an extent, I'd find it normal for a huge gap in self presentation standards between the genders, although physically clean goes without saying. As for the no shows, I'm thinking that lying about being single could play a role with everything backfiring on their sneakout plan, and ofcourse we now have the wired generation all across the board who are soooo keen until they just get themselves off and then the interest is gone lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I could get to meet people from this site I would be showered shaved teeth cleaned dressed nice smell nice it's a no brainer really if you make arrangements to meet first impressions last be on time be honest be respectful that's how I roll - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Last August was the last time I met for a one on one. Ive lost all interest in doing that now and prefer to meet people at a social event instead. But even still you invite them to come along and they dont show. Its because so many still think that even if an event is listed as a social in a public venue. They dont turn up because they think its just code for organised orgy. Wake up people this isnt just a sex site to hook with random unknowns for sex. Yes it is for some but not for me and before I hear someone say well you should be on a vanilla site. Im not vanilla and I dont think men on those sites would appreciate my thoughts on open relationships.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I read in profiles (couples and lady's) heaps about how they will always respond, attend if arranged, looks not important, age is just a number and so on. I look at these now as small sign?? That with there friends list (most haven't been on in over a month) but I send them a message simple honest but never overly dirty? I find the statement "we are not judgmental" a little wtf as we all judge to a degree. Anyway at least you gave it a go so don't let those that don't show make you give up... Also it's like the photos in different profiles ? Some are very we'll taken some are average and there are some that need to redo there pics. I found couple today that where 15 years old wtf the dates on pics???
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RHP User
10 years ago
I only go on date and dated man certain age and seems like they definitely made more effort to look nice , smell nice and treated me well with respect , only ever had one dissapointing man who came looks like straight from work with his work clothes on, i was shocked at how disrespectful he was and told him thats not exceptable, and he is dreaming if he think i am going to walk with him anywhere in public , his excused was accidently left his clothes behind , i mean really ?!! BS !!.. so what i did was , gave him water and showed him the door and Sayonara !..he said sorry still wants to go out for another date with me , but i said No ! (Funny , he didnt forget the Date but forgot the clothes Hmm ! how strange ! he was probably trying to tricked me to stay around my house )...first imppression is everything in my Book, i would always make my best effort with whoever i am going out with thats for sure , btw he wasnt from this site but from another dating site ...Boyz from this site RHP been nothng but looking good with pride when they turned up at my Door , so far thats my experienced anyway. Lucky me !
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RHP User
10 years ago
Arranged to meet someone the other day. He texted me to tell me he was leaving work to meet me. I turned up, waited...and waited...and waited. I texted him, no answer. My guess is that he saw me and bailed (i'm a bigger woman, although he knew this). This was my first RHP experience.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just looked at your profile and wow girl your smokin hot. I'd crawl over broken glass given the chance at you ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
It could have been for a myriad of reasons. Maybe his wife called to remind him of their kid's schoolplay. ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow singlelilly, I am surprised that a man would rock up dirty and not wash , you look amazingly beautiful , Every time I meet a women or couple even for a cafe ! Shower, shave , perfum, dress up smart , I would never show up dirty that is a mark of no respect at all for a person , I guess they are not coming to please you but only to offload and go back to work Maybe meet those man for a drink or cafe first then make your own judgement before you let them come to your place
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RHP User
8 years ago
WEBCAM or SNAP CHAT! It maybe a fuss in asking them to do this, but if he's really keen he'll do anything, but make sure you return the courtesy back even if he's not your type, sorry n thank u is nice. This had saved me so much hassle n time, believe me, it filters the dudes and the duds! If they're not responsive or beat around the bush, they must be hiding something or just one of those cocky guys with jock's brain that u don't need, he doesn't understand the word female n princess so won't treat u like one.So guys, your profile is just like any sales ads, whatever you sell make sure the goods is exactly described, or even better ;p
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