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Are you here looking for love
March 25 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im not here looking for love, but if it happened, then it would only be a good thing. Im enjoying being single right now. If Im honest, I have met a couple of guys who I thought, in a different mindset, I could have fallen for. Down to earth, big hearted sexy guys. I have friends who met on a dating website, they are so in love, it is really uplifting to see. But at the moment, its the last thing on my mind. Im probably rambling a bit, but Im going to watch this post, (nice one Freya,) and see if we get a Happy Ever After or two!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh I would love to find passionate, romantic, can't live without you love!!! I don't have anyone in mind, but if you are at least 6ft, great sense of humour that's a bit left of centre and you want a great sex life, APPLY HERE!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have the love of my life in my hubby. Just here because I love sex. I am here with hubby's permission, lucky me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well for me it would be great to meet a potential partner whom is open minded and looking for the type of relationship I am. Which is to have a solid open honest relationship that allows you too still explore sexually. I believe like all swinging couples you need to have a strong base relationship first before you allow play outside of that. At my age Im not seeking marriage or babies, just a companion to travel with and share some wonderful experiences. Love well who doesnt want to feel it and give it. Thats always a risk to trust and give it a go and who knows I might meet someone one day whom is worth doing just that. Until then Im living life and enjoying it with my family and some great friends.
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inspirit
10 years ago
I LOVE willy. Does that count - You never did sat what kind of love
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RHP User
10 years ago
And I am sure Willy is your true love...😜xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Be nice but can't say I would expect to find it here but always hoping. Just something sweet and ongoing would be nice at the moment. Going to have to become a fully fledged member and make contact with some women to find out. Keep you posted if anything comes of anything. Excellent topic though Freya and like Koko says it will be interesting to see if it does create some happy romances between members.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Love can really hurt at times but so can lust if done right lol... To be honest if I find true love that can build honest companionship on from here I guess deep down I wouldn't say no... But I'll let it find me rather then look for it...
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6exxy
10 years ago
Hard to say anyone here as I have only met a few. I'm patient that some foxy lady will sweep my heart off the floor and drag me away😍
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
I am hopeful, but also realistic. If it happens, it happens! - Posted from rhpmobile
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De0cypher
10 years ago
It found me, off another site. All consuming, intense, can't stop thinking about them kinda love. After all, when they are a 40something, lushly silver haired, Anglo-Irish man with a predilection to finding me irresistible (kissing me raises the hairs on the back of his neck, apparently!)....I could only fight it for so long. It has been, the most inconvenient thing, falling in love. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would like to get into a long term relationship with someone I adore and also plays. so meeting here probably makes the most sense. Dunno not going in with expectations cause that's the route to failure :) But I wouldn't shy away from it occurring if it did!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Looking for myself. 👀
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RHP User
10 years ago
Resistance futile?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whether it happens or not is up to fate I suppose but I am not closed off to finding something more meaningful anywhere.
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usnow
10 years ago
Most single women say they aren't but deep down inside we find many are . Swingnew .
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't know if love can be pursued. In my life the loves that I chased all ended on a sour note, the loves that just happened, though it did not last, did not end badly. So I will wait till I find it and when that little arrow strikes me in the heart I hope that the one I have eyes for is equally struck. Though there is a chance that the many caveats that I have set for the one that I fall for may make the wait some what long.
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RHP User
10 years ago
when I first joined RHP. After all, I do have my husband. Plus, my husband warned me that this a "Sex Site" so the men on here are looking just for that; Sex !!! He said "This is just so we can have a bit of fun !!! It is not meant to be serious." So I believed him and that's what I did. I had lots of harmless fun meeting men for coffee in the City, having some wonderful conversations and some laughs. I liked a couple of them and took it further and there were still others on my list "To do" List. But at no point did I say to these 2 men "I love you". I did begin to care a lot for the 1st man (though we did not end up having sex) but that "friendship" was so brief, it is hardly worth a mention now. With the 2nd man, it was just sex. We didn't really have anything in common apart from that. He knew it and so did I eventually and so I ended it. In the process of meeting other men, Love just happened. I did not look for it but it, or rather he, found me. He too, did not expect this because all he was looking for was to fulfill a fantasy. But we met and both of us were 100% attracted to each other. So at present, I think that both of us are just going on our "gut feelings". Is it Love ? Well.....it is for me. I am experiencing all of what you have mentioned OP. Does he feel the same way about me ? To be honest, I don't really know. Men aren't like women who are prone to openly admitting their feelings. He knows I love him and so does my husband. How long it will last ? Well...... one can never tell !!! At present, we are just enjoying being "in the moment". Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm looking for men whom I'd love to spend my time and body with. I'm open to the idea though, I do love love.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
We all come here as incomplete puzzles Finding pieces here to fill that in With each piece, emotion is attached Maybe not what we seek, but a risk that is taken My puzzle is not complete But i can see a big piece that might fit The risk is a given But the risk is if it is not taken. Annie
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RHP User
10 years ago
Still looking for myself - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'swingnew' Most single women say they aren't but deep down inside we find many are . Swingnew . Yeah but, no but, yeah but. I think if a person has been hurt by someone as is emotional damaged and not over it yet or someone who has come out of a long term relationship than yes, I would say those people are not open to love or serious relationships. Everybody else, well I think women anyway, of course would love to fall in love and have a fantastic lover. I mean, why the hell wouldn't you? Who wants this endless chasing of mediocre sex!
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CompersionCouple
10 years ago
"I love willy" I couldn't agree more & yes it does count. I would have said I love cock or cocks, but I agree. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
But love found me... And it is the best feeling to be in love and to know he feels the same way about me, if not more 😍💕�� - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like many others - of course the BIG ONE is what we'reall hoping for, but nobody has illusions that just "looking" would bring it... Maybe one day I'll stumble upon the lady that I was meant to be with but for the moment I just want to have good friends and fun.Everyone that is game to meet me knows I will give them respect and as much time as I can to get to know them and find out how compatible we could be. But so far there were only few - it's a journey though, there is no destination I'd say!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I state clearly on my profile that I would ideally love to be in a relationship. I just turned 37 and I feel ready to enter into something more permanent. My career is established, I've finished a whole block of study, I've done a whole heap of travelling and I'm financially secure. I'm not after the white picket fence with 2.2 children but something more than just one nighters or relationships that go for like 3 months and then fritter away due to work commitments, study or them juggling their weekends with their children. ( I get that but its another factor to deal with) I've been on my own for 2 years and I'm ok with that but now I guess 40 is looming in the not to far a distance but no man is on the horizon. I took out a platinum membership thinking Id be doing plenty of messaging here, but very few profiles have appealed to me, let alone rocked my world Warning, generalization coming up but I'm finding (personally) that guys in their 20, 30s incredibly immature, guys in their 40s somewhat bitter cause they have just come out of long term relationships and their feeling somewhat deluded and guys in their 50s although lovely we still seem to have that generation gap thing happening. Not man bashing here but this has been my experience to date I guess its just me, the cat and fate.
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inspirit
10 years ago
He was a real dick. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Was he WeeWillieWinky 😉😉😉xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Didn't come here for it, but if it happens along then would embrace it with open arms
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RHP User
10 years ago
Re: Men comments, yeah, I get that. Meanwhile, biting my tongue till it hurts ! Ok just a little. I think "looking" for love reeks of desperation, but being open to it has nothing to do with where you find it, here or anywhere else, it just turns up when it turns up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Re: Men comments, yeah, I get that. Meanwhile, biting my tongue till it hurts ! Ok just a little. I think "looking" for love reeks of desperation, but being open to it has nothing to do with where you find it, here or anywhere else, it just turns up when it turns up. But isn't that what people are doing on RSVP and EHarmony? Looking for love? Are all those people desperate?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Couldn't agree more with your last comment Ozcool Sad that you interpret my words and hopes as "desperate", but I am far from desperate. What I am is recognising that at this time in my life I am ready to share and commit, as opposed to many who never recognise when not to commit or when they should leave a unhappy liaison. My words in regards to men were MY experience on this site, SO FAR. I have chosen to stay single for the last few years to concentrate on other areas of my life, to set up my future comfortably and financially, to study and secure my job and now I would like to share my life with a partner. I'm 37 and never been married nor had children, I chose other paths to tread, so do these choices and now that I'm getting older make me "desperate" ?. A little bit of stereotyping don't you think ?. Would you have written the same thing if a man had written my words ? How incredibly condescending of you I'm honest and upfront in my profile of exactly what I would like but also realistic about what is out there. I meet who I want to meet and I have met some gorgeous men, who I've had some incredible sex with but that doesn't mean I want to have a relationship with them or share my life with them. If I spent a Saturday night at home alone (with Netflix and the cat) this is my choice and I'm ok with that. What I am saying is that I'm now ready to share my life and build something. I HOPE that I will meet someone who feels the same, be it here or at my local pub. I use RHP as one avenue of meeting people (lovers and friends) and I answered the OP's question I guess the next question is, why are you here ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
He held me and I felt completely safe. For a second my heart did skip a beat. I thought I could get lost in this. But no I do not look for love here, as I hold the heart of another. That's a big responsibility , my aim is not to drop it. So that is why I sleep with unavailable men. It keeps me safe from the power of love. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Not sure who wrote this but it makes sense to me...... Everyone says love hurts, but that's not true. Loneliness hurts, rejection hurts, losing someone hurts, envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in the world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.....💋 No I wasn't here to find love, well not in the traditional sense anyway, but I found it and lost it. Life is full of little surprises that can make your heart flutter, make you go wow what just happened.... I'm still not looking for love, but if it happens it happens, I'm a winger, an explorer, I'm on a journey of self discovery, so if someone wants to join me, then jump on, warning it could be one hell of a bumpy ride, but fuck it will be fun......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
to love. I don't know why. I have been told I am 'high maintenance'. And that I am the best and worst person to be in a relationship with. I am also told I am the best ex ever!!! (As tho that's a compliment, yeah right!) Maybe I love too hard, too much. Maybe I am the smothering type. I have a lot of love to give. Just no one who wants to receive. Or love me back. I met a guy recently, at a swingers club, who says he wants to 'get to know me better'....but I don't trust it, I don't trust love, not any more, been hurt too many times. I would be happy with genuineness, companionship, kindness and acceptance. Hmmm, sounding a bit self piteous, I'll stop there...xx
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Was he WeeWillieWinky 😉😉😉xxFreya He was one of those beer goggle roots. I thought I would give him a go but fuck Freya.....After the deed was done and he was saying goodbye to me in my car.......I said......you are are a fucked root and sped off. Talk about cum in 60 seconds. YEP he was one of those. Shit happens ey lol and yes I know I am a coooooooooont
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'Lovinit28' Not sure who wrote this but it makes sense to me...... Everyone says love hurts, but that's not true. Loneliness hurts, rejection hurts, losing someone hurts, envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in the world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.....💋 Because it is what YOU expect what love is in YOUR own mind. IF you have to find love to mask the pain then I suggest you begin to love yourself first AND you look at potntial partners as - "ARE they worthy of my love"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Annie - your words are perfect.... I thought I would not go there but.... A man I have fancied for 14 years has come back into my life, we have never been single together and he would not play, but now OMG sooo worth the wait - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is mentioning love in RHP suicide? Lol Like many others I came to RHP a year after the end of a long term relationship, frayed around the edges, wary and curious with my heart locked in a box. I was here for a while, I left for longer and then came back. The break was good for me, I decided that I didn't want meaningless connections no matter how good the sex was. Time is the greatest healer. I no longer wanted to be hurt by my past. It was time to let it go. Ive recently realised that I don't want to be by myself forever, I don't want to close my self off to possibilities, I don't want to base my next relationship on the hurt of the past. I'm ready to trust someone again. Will I find it? Yes absolutely! 😊 Will I find it here? Who knows! I could find it buying toilet paper lol 😊 but I have found someone who has started to thaw out this little black heart of mine, it's back on my sleeve, where it belongs. You know who you are, I value your friendship 😊 thank you. RR goes down in flames 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
A muscle , it needs exercise. It might get bruised now and again But if you let it bounce now and then it becomes resilient, Keep it in a box is like keeping a dog chained in your back yard. So bounce your heart and let sime one catch it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Please don't let me be misunderstood. Twinks, I was only commenting on your generalisations about men. Big difference between being open to love and looking for love. Yes Meeks, a lot of them do reek of desperation, that's why we're here ! Starts at the first date interview, "what do you do for a living ? Do you own your own home ?, do you see children in your future"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sammi.... Wonder if you would like to communicate with me .... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are not the only woman to be told that she is "high maintenance". My husband has told me that too !!! I do love "too hard" and can be the "smothering" type. For years, I used to look at my husband with complete adoration in my eyes. So much so that he would squirm in his seat and told me that it was "unnatural". Unnatural for a wife to love her husband so much even after 27 years of marriage. But now things have changed. I still love my husband but I don't look at him with so much adoration anymore and he's glad of it. Maybe him falling in love with another woman had something to do with that. That's also the reason that he is happy that I have found another man to love as well now. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not looking for love (in the emotional sense), just fun and friendship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
single and likes me and wants to turn the play-pal relationship into BF-GF relationship and doesn't agonise over the fact that we met at RHP then I will take LOVE...other than that I am happy being single - enjoying my freedom
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
It was something I seen writen and I liked it and thought I'd share it, plain and simple really..... I haven't had to hide or cover any aspect of myself or my life for a few years now. I also believe in loving ones self before you truly love another. Now after years of self hate, not believing ib as worthy of anything, not being able to look in a mirror, I can honestly say I do love me, all of me, for the inside out and now I don't really give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks about me, because I'm the only one that makes me happy, no one else..... As for love, I hadn't been loved, or been in love for at least 10years. Until recently that is, I wasn't even sure if I was capable of loving, so I had no expectations as to what it would be like, what I did do, was just go with it and see where it went. But it just so happens the universe took a different turn, do I regret it? Fuck no, because it showed me that I could actually trust, share, love and allow myself to be loved back..... So MY Mind and MY expectations are just that MINE......💋
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I don't believe in fairytales either, you know happyeverafters or prince fucking charming coming to save me, I saved myself 17 years ago....but I fucking know of a lot of people who do....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'll take love thank you very much. After all, if I met a guy from this site who was fantastic in bed, had a great personality, charm, intelligence, humour and didn't mind the occasional threesome, why couldn't we make it work? Oh yeah, because at the moment I'm still technically married. :( I did find love on this site, once. He was lovely - still is. Unfortunately he's married too, and for some reason it's harder for him to get out of it than for me - so what's that all about, eh?
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RHP User
10 years ago
For me finding love from RHP would be the cherry on top of the cake......it would be great but I'm not expecting it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been on this site for about 5 years and have been along for the ride and meet lots of playmates and had some awesome and fun times. Never been interested in developing a relationship out of this site and have cast aside many a opportunity but just treated it as a fun site. Meet a lady on here recently and felt a instant connection for some reason. Totally out of the blue and instead of being my usual calm collected self I behaved like a infatuated love struck teenage and probably turned the girl completely off. Funny as I've had the same happen to me and just ignored them. Live by the sword and die by the sword. I'm sure it can happen but it's gotta be a two way thing and it is after all a adult site and not designed as a dating site. But it opened my eyes to the fact that no of us are devoid of emotions despite our sexual appetites. - Posted from rhpmobile
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
This site.. at least i know the girl would be sexually open minded.. i prefer ongoing hook ups and be friends than just one offs.. even with couples.. At the moment though im happy to get anything. Time to play out fantasies and have fun and if a relationship happens then bonus - Posted from rhpmobile
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raunchy_grrr
10 years ago
looking for love i think i am no where near even considering the option yet.Yes love hurts but in my case there has to be enough love for 4 an from what i have seen many barely are able to love 1 never mind 4 lol.i am not closed off to the idea but i do not think i am yet ready to put my past aside to really love another just yet i would love to have all that comes along with it dont get me wrong but i dont want to damage some one else in the process because i myself am not ready, an instead reflect my past in my present.ill wait for now but i woud love the idea sometime soon i hope, if the right man or woman sweeps me of my feet
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think we all some time or another have felt unlovable.... I'm too this...I'm too that... Meh...so much weight on your shoulders it seems... But.... I'd ask....what's there not to love about me?? I'm this or that.... Point is...you only truly need to love the fact that within you lies a broken mould....just turns out that it's all you....and honestly what's there not to love about that?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Those are powerful and valued words at this difficult time for me, I truly appreciate it xx Time for me to lighten up a bit, I think... :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
When I joined this site I'd just come from a 12 year relationship and had no idea how to be single again. I didn't look or feel as good as I did in my late teens early 20s so I wasn't expecting much especially not a relationship. But it happened I'd seen his profile and thought his way to hot for me and bypassed it but he messaged me and he was really great to talk to he asked to meet and honestly I had 2 options that night a hunky 26 year old or this gorgeous 40 year old I don't usually go for older guys but something he said to me about risk taking stuck with me and I chose him boy am I glad I did. We had a wild session that lasted atleast 6 hours then we laid in each others arms and talked for hours about everything he stayed all day got Chinese take out for lunch and went back to bed I slept in his arms well into the night he left at around 11 that night saying I'll call you tomorrow I thought I'd never hear from him again but at 12:05am he rang saying I told you I would ring. We spoke and text everyday and he came back on the Thursday and stayed till Monday I knew I had already fallen for him and after 2 weeks I used the L word it was only days later he did too and we didn't leave each others side after that. We made plans for the future marriage kids house etc I was so happy but my ex wasn't he said that he was jealous that someone other than him was making me happy and just interfered in our relationship causing huge strain and in the end my gorgeous Luke left me. We had a few months of living blissfully in love then it was over I'm sad his gone but I'm happy I met him. I don't really think I'm cut out for the FWB or FB situation I love coming home to someone so I'm hopeful if I found love once I can again - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Does loving life count ?? I think love is best experienced when you least expect it !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
^was my fav answer as I love honesty that's all lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Although I am not out here to purposely look for love if some kind hearted, gentle, honest and truly romantic guy (if they exist) lol lol is out there I would not say no. At this stage of my life I am not looking for another hubby or kids, just want to live my life happily and share it with someone special, travelling and doing what makes us happy. Am I wishful thinking here? Well I hope not 😋....awesome topic by the way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
10 years ago
I really should not of quoted you as my post was just a general statement. Not particularly directed at anyone.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
No worries, just thought I explain and share a little bit more.....👍
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Please don't let me be misunderstood. Twinks, I was only commenting on your generalisations about men. Big difference between being open to love and looking for love. Yes Meeks, a lot of them do reek of desperation, that's why we're here ! Starts at the first date interview, "what do you do for a living ? Do you own your own home ?, do you see children in your future" 50zCool, I went to a speed dating event a few years ago with men in the 40 to 50 age bracket. Some questions I was asked were: - Do you like children (obviously trying to determine if would make a good step mother), do you cook, do you already have children, do you like house work (okay they didn't ask that )
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RHP User
10 years ago
I already have my true love, so no we just love to experiment so that's all we are looking for xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am looking for love these days, whereas I wasn't in my first year on RHP. That said I don't expect to find love here, and I'm still not looking on this site. That's not to say I don't respect the people on RHP. Of course I do, because I'm one of them, and happy about that. It's only that the partner I'm looking to love probably isn't here. I have different things that attract me to one-off sex and friends with benefits than with lifelong relationship. But, if she is here, then more power to her, and I hope I find her after all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hoping to find it on here one day. It's hard finding a girl out there who is as open, secure and willing to explore as much as I am. - Posted from rhpmobile
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