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Are you ok?
September 10 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
To add to what Pink_Lotus posted, sometimes people just need someone to listen to them. Stop what you're doing and give them your full attention. Be someone's ear today. You could learn something new yourself, change someone's life, if not save a life. I will also randomly choose someone from the forums. @snappyfishgirl - Are you OK? I'm all ears (even if that doesn't paint a very good picture) :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
But.... Who exactly in their right mind is going to pour their heart out to someone that they don't talk to much??? Of course they're going to reiterate "I'm fine...really I am!!" As it's no one else's burden or problem to have that dumped upon them.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like the new pic
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RHP User
10 years ago
Virgin mobile is offering free calls to subscribers today on behalf of R u OK? day... What better excuse to get in touch with old friends.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sent texts to people I know asking them. A couple I know suffer from depression, so it is always good to ask and follow up. Also thanked those that have helped me.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
10 years ago
Lotus... Are you ok? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' But.... Who exactly in their right mind is going to pour their heart out to someone that they don't talk to much??? Of course they're going to reiterate "I'm fine...really I am!!" As it's no one else's burden or problem to have that dumped upon them.... - Posted from rhpmobile You can't make anyone talk but it's the thought that counts and letting them know you are willing to listen should they feel a need to pour their heart out
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' But.... Who exactly in their right mind is going to pour their heart out to someone that they don't talk to much??? It's people who aren't in their right mind that the spirit of "R u OK?" is based on Sir.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You'd be surprised who might talk, if someone shows them enough genuine interest and attention. People tend to talk when they feel safe to do so. Feeling safe is in part about them but also very much about the listener. Sincerity, body language, open-ended questions, giving time and not hurrying them, resisting the often overwhelming urge to give advice or comment on what they're saying etc all contribute to offering the speaker a safe environment. Listening is a real art form that can transform relationships. Like many aspects to communication there are specific listening skills that are well worth learning, practicing and perfecting. Most of us could do to significantly improve the way we hear others.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you OK?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' But.... Who exactly in their right mind is going to pour their heart out to someone that they don't talk to much??? It can be enough to make someone feel they are important enough to be asked and for them to know that someone is paying attention. A lot of people suffer alone. Yesterday it was Suicide Awareness Day. So often have I heard (regrettably) people say: "Them? They always seemed fine when I passed them in the hallway." Just that one simple question can let the mask slip a little. Yes, people might not spill their guts to stranger, but some might. Sometimes it's even just the thought that counts. I'm suddenly reminded of the man who lives by The Gap, and who over the years has prevented many people from jumping of the cliff.Knowing that someone sincerely cares can sometimes be that glimmer of light in a sea of darkness. Missb, I am doing well. It's been one hell of a year, but I just keep swimming. I'm very grateful for the most important things in my life that have been left untouched. Thank you for asking.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you ok? = "You matter to me."
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RHP User
10 years ago
Since we are not strangers, how are you? Are you ok? Feel free to answer via PM.
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RHP User
10 years ago
called up a few today, and one is i got fired up in a new art project. Its just a small window and who knows if it helps one person then it works. Dealing with mental health is trying to get a bit of the village mentality back where people looked out for each other. Now its out of site out of mind. Often people think others do not care so they stop calling, all you can to is keep listening till the find their way out of the hole.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I often feel as though the squeaky wheels aren't always the most deserving. The homeless are a classic example. While the vast majority are concerning themselves with joe blow' slack of sex and he's suicidal....there's a person seeking shelter from the elements of Mother Nature. While we sit on our iPhones and complain about the price of coffee.....a homeless person may be digging through the bins at the supermarket for a bread stick... Anyway I can exaggerate my point more but I think you get where I'm coming from. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' But I often feel as though the squeaky wheels aren't always the most deserving. The homeless are a classic example. While the vast majority are concerning themselves with joe blow' slack of sex and he's suicidal....there's a person seeking shelter from the elements of Mother Nature. While we sit on our iPhones and complain about the price of coffee.....a homeless person may be digging through the bins at the supermarket for a bread stick... Anyway I can exaggerate my point more but I think you get where I'm coming from. - Posted from rhpmobile I don't get where you're coming from at all. The idea that we shouldn't give kindness here because it's needed more there is illogical to me. Everyone needs kindness. Everyone needs compassion. Everyone needs to be heard. I reckon g ive it where it's needed, wherever that is. So whether you do that for people who are homeless, or the guy who laments his lack of sex life, it's worthwhile if it lifts someone's spirits and gives them a sense of comfort and strength. Happy, peaceful people make for a happier, more peaceful world, after all. Instead of splitting hairs about where and how kindness and compassion should be distributed, my suggestion (take it or leave it) is that you just do your bit and encourage others to do their bit, however that looks. That's the point of RUOK Day, to get people to think about how they can do their bit to reach out to their fellow humans.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ask that homeless person if they are ok.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A quote that popped up on my FB page today “When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” ― Henri J.M. Nouwen
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you ok? x
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Circe
10 years ago
We get to catch up again soon I think MissB, how exciting!! Are you ok? Xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Epondog' Sent texts to people I know asking them. A couple I know suffer from depression, so it is always good to ask and follow up. Also thanked those that have helped me.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you for asking! I'm very OK. I'm very conscious though that I have some close friends who really struggle with depression and anxiety. One is having a particularly hard time right now and my thoughts are with him and on how to be a good friend. This thread has certainly helped me with that, so thanks :) Are you OK? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's a great idea. Most people may just say they are ok regardless but if it opens up one opportunity to one person to say "heck im going to be honest and say, "actually, no, I'm not now you mention it" it's going to be worth it. And alternatively if being able to say I feel ok reinforces how great you are feeling then that is also a very cool thing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
10 years ago
thanks for asking! I'm doing ok, it's been a rough year for sure but things are back on track now, baby steps and getting there. I am hoping I'll make Melbourne m&g would love to see you again, I think we have an outstanding date with lily and kissk and some footballers???? 😃😜
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RHP User
10 years ago
Never heard of an R U Ok day before, I'm all for creating awareness and caring community support for the less unfortunate, but not quite sure how asking everyone around you is going to achieve much, unless you already know they are not coping. But good point, most will give the automatic response to stranger or someone they don’t know well. Depending on my mood, sometimes I throw strangers a curve ball, well I can only recall one case recently, a marketing person in a mall. Stops me and asks, how are you going sir, well now that you ask, and I launch into my own spiel. Lol end result no sale. Gosh, I should stop being a ratbag at times, as I do sympathises with them, not one of the easiest jobs to do.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not OK, can I have a hug?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'spacemonkey1983' I'm not OK, can I have a hug? A big virtual bear hug for you x
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RHP User
10 years ago
Missed the fact that it was Are You OK Day but strangely on that day I felt compelled to put togethet some small gifts and cardsfor ttwo friends/colleagues who I knew were having a tough time...Just recently a group of women in my workplace initiated a Secret Angel scheme...kind of like secret Santa....each staff person has been given the name of a colleague who they will "look out" for...it could be giving them small gifts,writing notes,saying prayers, etc...I think it is such a great idea..and an opportunity to connect with someone who we perhaps would never have even thought about before...Qxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
You know that Buddhas are said to be lotus born....Hail to the Jewel in the Lotus :-) Qxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
do we need a R U OK day? I will hug people any day or say something nice, for me its just a natural thing to do. Are we getting really this cold to each other we need reminding with a special DAY???? This makes me sad
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RHP User
10 years ago
Especially in this day and age, when technology is at its most advanced, and keeping in touch is just a call, a text, or a Skype away, people do need a reminder. But like you, Litonya, I think we should all be doing something nice for someone everyday, even if it's just giving someone one of your smiles :) On a side note, good to see you back Q. I hope you are OK :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wasn't but I am now..hugs to you too Qxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been told my jewel is spectacular. ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' Are we getting really this cold to each other we need reminding with a special DAY???? Luckily there are many people like you! I don't think this is a special day to ask people if they are ok though, just a reminder of how easy it easy it can be for troubled people (especially the quiet ones) to go unnoticed. Sometimes we all need to be reminded of the things that are really important in life.
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