Arent men supposed to be horny?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Im sorry to hear that you found out this way blondebikerbabe. Really.... Guys find it exceptionally difficult to explain their sexuality when they do not understand it themselves. There are gay guys who marry because they do not want to accept that they are gay... but then there are bisexual guys who do enjoy getting off on both women and men to varying degrees... your dude.. well it's entirely his sexuality to explore and understand.   I do however have something of a solution.... Invite a handsome 40 something guy around who likes men as much as women... that way consentually you both get a little taste of what you both need and.. who knows.. maybe you'll discover something about yourself.   I'm available Saturdays... and I ride a trumpy.  :)   Hugs Stalky<<< no wait.. I forgot.. .Im a good boy! Anyway the idea was right.

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  HotOzCouple_cc

  15 years ago

  Put it to him, and learn together...Maybe he's just going through a stage where he's hanging so much for another guy, that he's not interested in you at the moment. Maybe he's thinking that now he's married, he can't consensually get if from a guy.Perhaps with your blessing, he'd open up a bit......

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  What was it like before you got married? How was the sex then?   I agree with Stalky too..it could be a great way to really bolster your relationship..and just think how much fun you could have??   Good luck with it.Must have been hard to find him on RHP.Why did you put up a profile?   Cheers

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I was gonna ask the same as singl1, what happened before the marriage. If you were abstaining till afterwards then you obviously didn't know what was going to happen. But if it was good before then there is obviously a larger problem here. Really though if he is on the site chasing some dick, then you may as well get some as well. He can't have a go at you for it since he is already doing it and I guarantee you that you will get more than he will. Might find yourself something better and then you may find yourself not wanting to be with the selfish guy you have now.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I agree with Stalky on the opportunity this would present...   Further to Single1 and Lovenlust ideas, try looking at pre and post married life in general...   Most men's sexual drive can be altered based on exercise and diet, if the other half has stopped regular exercise and his diet has changed then his sex drive will also change. The social aspect of life can also change, do you get out as often as dbefore, what do you do when out etc...   Personally my drive used to be excellent... though this is not the forum to brag about it :) . Then, due to work and relationship changes, I stopped the 2-3hours of execrise a day and the healthy eating and BAM... minimalist sex drive :(   This has now been rectified by walking for at least 30 mins per day plus situps and pushups plus a proper diet of the right meats and fresh vegies/salads etc. Again my fiancee has to stop me before she gets the unhappy pain from over use.   Just food for thought.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Sorry to hear, particularly if you met him through rhp. (how many others of you out there don't like sex?)Some guys just like the thrill of the hunt - Maybe you need to keep him chasing.Or maybe there are other personal issues - work, his family, etc..Good luckRegardsMr. SR.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  What was happening before you where married? If sounds very strange and sad. It may be as Mr SR said he is missing the thrill of the hunt.You need to have a good talk to him as it sounds like it is important to you.CheersHermes

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Stalky the tramp, rides a Trump,Theres a joke there somewhere methinks!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hey babe why don't you try walking around the house with a strapon under your jeans? If he shows no interest means he has past the point of no return, I would say keep looking else were maybe for good. I’m guessing he’s in his late forties so he should be regularly active.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  You could always be upfront and understanding of his obvious like for c_ck and try and give it to him yourself with the appropriate strap on aid...could be stress who knows...went through it myself for a while and now I'm the opposite

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Fair enough... but not everyone invovled in m/m sex likes to be on the recieving end sexyrippedguy. The thought of being shafted by a strap on might not do anything for him. Really,  this is a couple who need to do some more exploring. It's important to realise blondebikerbabe, tht it is more than likely anonymous sex to him and he comes home because he loves you. It need not mean teh end of your relationship is all I am trying to say.   Hugs Stalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Maybe participating in high risk unprotected sex and doesn't want to expose you?Who knows.RegardsMr. SR

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Oh - thank you all so much for your great comments.  I went onto RHP cos I found his profile in the temp files on the computer -that was my shock horror - hence the pretty blunt msg I posted.  I do love hot sex with my man, am open to toys - he actually introduced me (Ive led a pretty sheltered life til recently).  He's the first guy I ever had sex with on a first date - actually before it.  We discussed the sexual tension, then went for it, though we had known each other for quite a while.  I'm soo not into group stuff or sharing.  Ive been so in love, and just want him to come home at night and throw me up against the wall and go wild.  I often try to seduce him, but always get knocked back.  He told me before we married that he had tried "the other side" n didnt like it, I was cool with that.  I do have a high sex drive, would love it every day (or more) but can count our sexual encounters since our April wedding (including our wedding night) on one hand.  He actually lost 20kgs in the last 12 months cos he was well overweight, said he didnt feel sexy.  I just feel lost and would love someone to come home and love me in oh so many ways.  Probably scare everyone off with this long confession, but, I love honesty, and that's me !

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have tried to discuss this with him.  He just gets really angry and says it was all nothing - he was screwing with peoples minds.  But unfortunately the temporary internet files say otherwise, so does the mobile bill which is in my name. I'd love to talk and ask lots of questions and understand a bit more, but every time I try to bring it up he just gets angry.  See, I figure if I could ask questions and understand and get truly honest answers, then it would probably build trust and maybe improve our relationship, but, alas no, 'tis not meant to be.   K

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  You seem like a real swinger even though you dont like to swing. You sound sexually liberated bikebabe. 20 kg... that's a great effort. Nobody likes sex when they do not feel sexy. If it were our individual ambitions to make everyone we meet feel sexy.. then we'd all get more of what we love! hehe     As for talking things through.... guys dont like to be badgered to talk things through .. when it is something that the do not understand. IT could be some physical dysfnunction deterring him also. Guys hate talking about that even less. And dont dare suggest by asking!!   If you can wait blondebikerbabe, he might eventually share what he is thinking.... if you feel you've waited long enough.. then counselling might help you both. What I dislike most about this whole situation is the waste of good fucking that could be had. What a tragic waste of pheremones and stimulation! The root you knock back for now is one you will never have!   Hugs Stalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  You are such a HONEY ! Yeah - we're trying the counselling thing.  I gotta tell you though, I'm just hanging !!!!  And hasn't he knocked em back !! Am keeping Eveready in business at the moment  lol  Just miss the physical touch soo much.  You are so wonderful to chat with, you really seem to put thought into what you write.  I thank you for that !  k

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  if he feels pressured to talk he won't, he will get angry, i put it down to self defence and the more u try to talk to him he will just get more angry.   give him time to sort out whatever he is dealing with. By the sounds of it he has gone into his cave to stop and think. Hate to say it but the more u try and suggest sex the more it will turn him off..instead play the other hand, by showing no sexual interest. Might work might not   till next time   scott

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'blondebikerbabe' You are such a HONEY ! Yeah - we're trying the counselling thing.  I gotta tell you though, I'm just hanging !!!!  And hasn't he knocked em back !! Am keeping Eveready in business at the moment  lol  Just miss the physical touch soo much.  You are so wonderful to chat with, you really seem to put thought into what you write.  I thank you for that !  k Awwwh thanks and good luck with the counselling. I think if he has agreed to that, you really are headed in the right direction.   A honey? A very dear friend told me I was so confident that I must be a narcissist... and since I really value her opinion, she has never been wrong before, :p I figure that she is obviously right. So I am trying to embrace the narcissist within... unfortunately, sometimes a bit of my other characteristics leak through... leading you to believe that "you are such a honey!"... hehe... and the narccisist in me knows that of course I am. hehe. .. and you're welcome.. hehe. Being the control freak that I am, I'm just trying to be the best narccisist that I can possibly be and Im really starting to get the hang of it!   I'd go for the rechargeables... and stock up. :p  You know I actually meet a lot of guys like your man. So many women discover that they are in a relationship with a man who also likes men.. it is common... more so than I suspect women would like to know or accept.... but most women take the news badly. Feeling betrayed. The men involved also feel badly but have an urge to know more about htemselves. You are very refreshing in your positive outlook in this bad situation. He is really a lucky guy.... a lot of the guys I've talked to about it are heart broken shadows of their previous selves because of the pain and grief they have caused and the loss of the person that they love. In reality, we are all capable of loving more than one person at a time, more than one from each gender, even. If we could all freely embrace our sexuality as we explore it, I think there would be much less domestic violence caused by frustration and sexual tension and Ansell shares in would go through the roof. :p   Hugs Stalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I feel for you Bikerbabe  ..but we are not all the same..some of us do share the remote control and open car doors..We also accept that whilst we may wear the pants , it's the woman who tell us what colour pants to wear !!

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