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Arrogance - confidence or insecurity?
February 20 2013
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
They are insecure...and if they have an attitude then they don't get near my pussy! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Every man should have one to watch while he's sitting on the couch having a beer :-P........ Is that sexist or arrogant?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I believe arrogance is a way to hide, most people have insecurities but they all have different ways of protecting themselves. Arrogance is an aggressive way to keep others at arms reach.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's a distinctive difference between confidence and arrogance. I've met a couple of guys on here where their behaviour was definitely arrogance rather than confidence, and I'm not really sure if they actually think that sort of behaviour is attractive to the ladies. I've heard that because it's so hard for single guys to meet anyone off the site that when someone does agree to meet with them they think it's going to be an absolute success for them. On the other hand, men who don't naturally have confidence have heard from so many people that women find it alluring and may be putting it on incorrectly to try and make themselves seem more appealing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks everyone for your replied! Greatly appreciated
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Twisted_Mister
12 years ago
Particularly the men under 30 (sorry boys!). For some reason, and this is from reading messages on my other half's profile and her own experience, they seem to confuse arrogance with the 'bad boy' persona that so many women like. It may even be trying too hard to be self-confident. Or insecurity. And in a minority of cases, you might just be a self-entitled, arrogant prick. Tip: Being a 'bad boy' isn't an affectation, it's an aura developed from your life experience and your outlook on that life. You can't fake it - full stop.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...as confidence means you can back it, arrogance means you got nuthin' but attitude and ego. Confidence is self-esteem in motion...arrogance is just insecurity from a wannabe.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Penny, An oldie but an easy one. Its very easy for attractive guys to automatically have confidence because they know they don't have to make an effort. I know a few guys that actually have a good laugh about it and that is when the blend of arrogance comes into it. So these type of guys have confidence and arrogance because its so easy for them they get all the women. Then there is a portion of guys that just come across as arrogant but its more a lack of conscious awareness. So they might do things that just seem dumb but they don't realise it. Then there is the other group of guys that are just in love with themselves fullstop which has a fullon arrogance to it. There probably the three categories you could throw up when talking arrogance/confidence. But again this topic and 90% of them on here are redundant, invalid and irrelevant as the only thing women respond to is physical looks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can also mean they think they are far too hot for the person they are meeting at that time. Some guys think they can pull any woman by just existing in their space, I know I have had this happen to me. I got in first and told him he wasn't what I was looking for and he almost had an apoplectic fit.
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RHP User
12 years ago
may appear to be arrogant if they are nervous and trying to impress you ,but arrogance is mostly the sign of an insecure man,or woman for that matter.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' may appear to be arrogant if they are nervous and trying to impress you ,but arrogance is mostly the sign of an insecure man,or woman for that matter. Spot on Freya13, usually the blokes who are all loud and bluster are just trying to be what there not or a particular man around them intimidates them. Enigmaoflove, mate I have seen guys who are very average looking but intelligent and very funny, punch way above their weight with the women. If a guy is amazing looking but cant string a sentence together, the funny and entertaining guy will more time than most, always go home with the girl!
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Quoting 'Enigmaoflove' But again this topic and 90% of them on here are redundant, invalid and irrelevant as the only thing women respond to is physical looks. Would that statement itself be considered somewhat arrogant.... as it doesnt contain input from the women you're talking about and is therefore a statistical assumption on their behalf?DG
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blond_gypsy
12 years ago
Definitely insecurity 9 times out of 10. Rare is the man truly wealthy boastful about his wealth.That goes for all sorts of wealth. Penis size? You can almost see the inverse correlation between penis size and arrogant behaviour, like a graph hovering over the head of every man who is trying to compensate.Why be arrogant if you already possess confidence? It illustrates a lack of satisfaction. A man who boasts about how much he has seems like he's trying to justify the weight of it himself. I have met some men who wear arrogance well, but isn't it better to be quietly confident than loudly insecure?Apologies for the lofty philosophical one-liners. This topic reminded me of a friend of mine who is so arrogant that he's thrown out of every bar he has more than 3 drinks in, and beneath the bravado he's so fragile you could crack him with a pillow.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Everyone uses Confidence to hide their lack of it . We all have Insecurities . Arrogance is Confidence taken too far ...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Confidence is being self assured, arrogance is overcompensation for real or imagined deficiencies
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sometimes I find a person's arrogance is directly related to a sense of entitlement. It can be that they grew up believing money buys everything, or their looks will get them anywhere. These are the people that are genuinly shocked when the answer is "No". Poor babies.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Sometimes I find a person's arrogance is directly related to a sense of entitlement. It can be that they grew up believing money buys everything, or their looks will get them anywhere. These are the people that are genuinly shocked when the answer is "No". Poor babies. One guy on here was so pissed I said no because he wasn't verified & only had one photo, ("his" photo was absolutely gorgeous) he started abusing me & then threatened to tell everyone about me... lolBLOCK & DOB
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not too sure about the dating game as I haven't really had that many of those. I tend to notice that the bosses are usually nice people most of the time while middle management are arrogant little s**tes. I guess those with real power are confident about it while those new to it are still insecure. A confident person will put you at easy while an arrogant person is all about me, I and mine. Some people go for that, I personally can't be bothered. I got better things to do or nicer people to meet with my time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...sitting across the table from one of these 'beautiful people' when they are close to inheriting an absolute fortune that their parents and grandparents created from nothing as immigrants to this country, they themselves have never accomplished a thing nor added value to the life of anyone. Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Sometimes I find a person's arrogance is directly related to a sense of entitlement. It can be that they grew up believing money buys everything, or their looks will get them anywhere. They are some of least attractive people I have ever met and many will be in for the surprise of their lives when they find out that the Trustees are still going to say 'no'......just like their parents and grandparents did before them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DontLookDown They are some of least attractive people I have ever met and many will be in for the surprise of their lives when they find out that the Trustees are still going to say 'no'......just like their parents and grandparents did before them. I just don't understand children taking their parent to court regarding inheritance. I am referring to the Gina Reinhart saga. Is money more important than their parent(s)? I guess it must be for some people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
All too often I have noticed that some people that come across as arrogant or aloof are actually quite shy or very reserved. Not everyone finds it easy to be open and friendly right away.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Enigma, In terms of looks, you either have it or you don't. However, I have seen women who have a bearing about them, a type of confidence, in the way they talk, walk and dress that even though they might not be Australia's top model, they make heads turn. There is an elegance about them that I actually fine missing in Australia. Then again, Australians are more relaxed while Europeans and some Asian women are more poised. Quoting 'Enigmaoflove' Hi Penny, An oldie but an easy one. Its very easy for attractive guys to automatically have confidence because they know they don't have to make an effort. I know a few guys that actually have a good laugh about it and that is when the blend of arrogance comes into it. So these type of guys have confidence and arrogance because its so easy for them they get all the women. Then there is a portion of guys that just come across as arrogant but its more a lack of conscious awareness. So they might do things that just seem dumb but they don't realise it. Then there is the other group of guys that are just in love with themselves fullstop which has a fullon arrogance to it. There probably the three categories you could throw up when talking arrogance/confidence. But again this topic and 90% of them on here are redundant, invalid and irrelevant as the only thing women respond to is physical looks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Enigmaoflove' But again this topic and 90% of them on here are redundant, invalid and irrelevant as the only thing women respond to is physical looks. I guess you're entitled to your opinion - we all are - but to say the ONLY THING women respond to is physical looks.... massive sweeping generalisation my friend and a bad one at that..... I'd call that arrogance...but thats just my opinion
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RHP User
12 years ago
MissM, Looks opens the door. It is the other stuff that makes a person stay - personality, confidence, intellect, manners, sense of humour. Good looks will turn heads and most probably will give them a better chance to be noticed by men or women. However, after some messages, the other qualities makes sure they are in the A list or the discard list. Which reminds me, I had better go put up some photos if I want to have any chance on this website.Quoting 'SassyMissM' Quoting 'Enigmaoflove' But again this topic and 90% of them on here are redundant, invalid and irrelevant as the only thing women respond to is physical looks. I guess you're entitled to your opinion - we all are - but to say the ONLY THING women respond to is physical looks.... massive sweeping generalisation my friend and a bad one at that..... I'd call that arrogance...but thats just my opinion
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RHP User
12 years ago
But self esteem, is a major factor in my view. I've come across as arrogant in the past, as the experiences that I've had, have left me questioning nearly every new person that shows an interest in me, why?? Why are you talking to me?? What do you want?? What's the catch?? For some men, they've experienced someone that had constantly built them up, only to knock them down, then turn on the charms again to win them back over. Using the analogy of that of a domestic violence scenario. A partner beats the other physically, then typically after the fact apologises profusely, etc....at some point, you begin to get defensive and "on guard" at the first signs of someone being nice, as you're expecting the back hand(proverbial or physically) at the very onset.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry to hear about your experience. I've been there with the emotional blackmail so know the feeling. In my case, it actually got irritating after sometime. I think the word arrogant needs to be defined here. Someone aloof or hesitant does not mean arrogant. They could just be nervous or like in your case, had some bad experiences. Yes, you get a lot of knock backs, but the ones who stick by you are the real keepers. Quoting 'ThunderBuster' But self esteem, is a major factor in my view. I've come across as arrogant in the past, as the experiences that I've had, have left me questioning nearly every new person that shows an interest in me, why?? Why are you talking to me?? What do you want?? What's the catch?? For some men, they've experienced someone that had constantly built them up, only to knock them down, then turn on the charms again to win them back over. Using the analogy of that of a domestic violence scenario. A partner beats the other physically, then typically after the fact apologises profusely, etc....at some point, you begin to get defensive and "on guard" at the first signs of someone being nice, as you're expecting the back hand(proverbial or physically) at the very onset.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Torturedcliche' Confidence is being self assured, arrogance is overcompensation for real or imagined deficiencies I like your statement.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some guys are just like that i hate that in a person i talk to everyone the way i like to be spoken to but thats me were all diff i guess. i would be happy to get some cas fun there would be no attitude.
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